[size=13pt]<sup>Yeah Cuddlemii  dear dude i notice the same thing too. . . .Well , dunno blame them  , most people aren't that serious in most cases ~ mostly on-line stuffs like this one not everyone really mean , so many are jokers and just here to seek attention of serious minded ones.

Another reason these kind of set of people may be so busy with work or another other things of life outside the internet .</sup> [/size]

i have read my quote i still insist on that i need to know i need a relationship that will last and lead to marriage and also i hope u are a God fearing person and a real christian not by name but by deeds

Cuddlemii:

@everyone

Look closely, the babes writing that they are in the same shoes as Op all have 2 or 3 posts, hmmm something fishy. Did a group of 30 something women come to look for hubbies here. They also don't comment more than once. Where is the op since she started this thread. Please observe.

please man don't be cynical. I posted mine because majority of the advise here says go out, change ur friends and all that and am wondering if there is any other thing in going out apart from attending events. I must say that to me it is absurd for someone to wake up, dress up and start roaming around events or street as the advises are suggesting for the sole purpose of meeting a guy.

Hope you understand that.

Udokaph:

please man don't be cynical. I posted mine because majority of the advise here says go out, change your friends and all that and am wondering if there is any other thing in going out apart from attending events. I must say that to me it is absurd for someone to wake up, dress up and start roaming around events or street as the advises are suggesting for the sole purpose of meeting a guy.

Hope you understand that.

You will have younger cousins, school juniors, work mates etc. Move with them, get to know them. Go to their events.

Nothing absurd about that as long as you don't look way over your age and they are not more than 10 years younger than you.

But since you are looking for a "man of God" and who "lives by the tenets" (whatever that is), you should be aware your pool is lower than others. As you seem to love your faith, then accept the "faith" of your preference.

Kalokalo speaks the truth in spite of his user name.

In addition, some women only go for married men. Cant really understand why but i guess there's a psychological reason somewhere.

I have a theory too

Children born without their fathers/male figures around tend to go for older men or marry older men.

I don't know if it is out already but yeah.

Havent noticed that but its possible i guess.

However, many of the women who date married men, are actually from monogamous homes.

In nigeria especially.

Quite weird.

I have noticed it here quite a lot and I can say so for myself too(not old to be fathers age).

tpia@:

However, Many of the women who date married men, are actually from monogamous homes.

In nigeria especially.

Quite weird.

thought you meant polygamous

No, i meant monogamous.

Yeah, I wrote something in response to "women from monogamous homes tend to date married men" thinking of polygamy thought you saw it. .

Yes, i meant some women who were raised in monogamous families, become polygamic wives themselves, many by choice and/or greed/ojowu.

Or, some women from monogamous homes, still date only married men.

Right. . Where I am from majority of the people are polygamous or from a polygamous family. Rare, to find someone who is not from a polygamous family(now that I think of it).

^oh, that's interesting.

in parts of nigeria, polygamy is also the norm.

My grandmother was a first wife to my mother's father, divorced him in early 90s and became a second wife to the one I usually call grandfather. .


Lool, oh wow never even realised how polygamous my family is. .

in polygamous societies, a woman has no societal support in the event of a divorce, and as such, may go on to other polygamous marriages.


because her position is very precarious without a man.

though your grandma's story is very recent, if it was the 90s.

was she not old because my own grandmas would have been >75 at that time.

in my posts, i was referring to younger, unmarried single women who have never experienced polygamy personally or directly when growing up.

Well, she divorced when my grandfather took her two children to Nigeria and left them there. .She had help from a friend who was a lawyer. .


My grandmother married when she was 13 and she is now going to be 55 this year. .So she was about 34(just saw my mistake) when she divorced. .
Do not watch the age my mother had me young too. .lol

^^she's still young if she's only 55 and has grandkids in their 20s. . . . . . .

good gracious.

heh

55 with teenage grandkids- still young.

@ poster
y r married men attracted to u? there gat to b reason 4 dt probably dts y u specifically said u were nt posting your pics @ first.
your attraction to married men culd be as a result of need (ego, security or mayb kudi), you need to loose some ends to attract young bachelor guys like us.

Talking from experience MARRIED MEN are more CARING.

hi all,
i have read all the comments (excerpt those that derailed the topic).
thanks all, for ur responses.
i chose not to comment when some people started insulting and insinuating things. some went as far as cursing and swearing, for some1 they dont even know.
i'm not desperate, just want to get opinions, hoping it ll help me to forge ahead. i got them plenty, thanks all

@cuddlemii n co., if i reply to every poster on this thread, desperation n frustration ll definitely set in. besides i work and also in school (postgraduate), so wont have time to reply to all.

look at some responses, u ll know d person only read the caption, and went ahead to say rubbish or curse.

good day

in all sincerity we maybe in different in terms of sex but i also have the same problem so its normal

more advice pls

contact @ dis email:dilicioux@ yahoo.com

well the forum is a public site i would have loved to talk to you more but i would only give you this riddle to solve it would lead to a specific place it, is a hint backwards both in numbers which would be converted to letters then search for it on facebook

;d :d

@ olajide, i got it
i just sent a request

olajide_07:

well the forum is a public site i would have loved to talk to you more but i would only give you this riddle to solve it would lead to a specific place it, is a hint backwards both in numbers which would be converted to letters then search for it on facebook

@ Olajide,
where is the riddle?