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We all were expecting this..cos u once said u wanted to explore after ur hubby had given you good life and platform to achieve..good luck in ur newfound life to fame.
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I don't see one significant reason to blame him, his going abroad was not a big deal, every man wants money. You knew all this before marriage, but u enjoyed the Money, only to come out wanting more than the man can give....
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.Good luck in your new life. That's all. Abi You are having guilty conscience

LadyRosa:
This can only happen to women who don't truly come from strong willed families. Try that with some wives and have her people beat you up blue black and yellow before stuffing the 500 naira bride price you paid for her in your bloodied mouth

You must think the discipline I refer to here is "beating" her. No that's not why I implied. The discipline is putting her in her place making her know she fuuccks and apologise for it....Unless u feel a man don't have to set boundaries and discipline his woman when she errs

Thereddevil:
Well, I wasn't expecting any sensible words from you.. Like I said, Kanu isn't fit to lead and he did it the wrong way.. But trust me, one day, the plague brought upon this country wouldn't come knocking at your door, cos it'd force itself in.. You're blessed right? You have money right? You eat nutritional meals everyday right? You blame the poor for being poor right? Well, enjoy it while it lasts..

You are still living in a bubble thinking u are making sense.....Anyone who will mock Kanu and side with this evil government is already a fool and part of the problem...just like u are doing in a faux intelligent posturing...na same thing...u are not better than the people u are slamming

Thereddevil:
There's a thing I see about the way Nigeria is going, it's just the way to destruction.. Like the yoruba elders would say "bamu bamu ni mo you, n o mo b'ebi n pa omo enikankan".. This is the drum everyone in this country beats, the drum of selfishness... I have no support for Nnamdi Kanu, but when I see people's views online, I wonder if there's any way we can be free or safe from the destruction that lies ahead.. I don't even know w what to say, but you all have to know this.. Prayers won't save us, angels won't fight for us, all they can do is fight with us..

You have no support for Kanu.. everything u said carries no weight..utter bullshit..cos u are not different from the people u are slamming.

In case you decide to eat it, Sha don't eat the head... anything can still happen

Obakashdee:
It’s easy to just relocate na, just wake up early morning and relocate
And what’s the meaning of you are part of them? Na wa o

It's not always easy to relocate.. sometimes u might have to plan for about six months before you get enough money and the right house u want. That's why in eviction notice, 3 to 6 months grace is always given for the inconvenience.
In that case even if it's 3 months. She still has to live in the area, and has the right to be safe

purples25:
I'll look into that. Thanks.

Making friends with one of them will be a big mistake that can be used to get more info about you....they all have same impression abt her...
Asking why they hate her won't change anything.. she shouldbt be bother abt their stinking opinion. They are simply goats

You can't be blamed for their hatred. They are only tribal religious bigots who think like cow and primitive fools.
Even if you are a runs gal who different guys drop everyday..it's still not their problem to the extent of harassing you...You can call the police on anyone that tries to harass u. It's battery and assault.
And be vigilant. Don't go out in night alone..And if there's going to be something funny, stylishly record it with ur phone for evidence....
Henceforth, don't greet or return their greetings, don't look their way..Dem dey crase...even if Aboki go schl their cow behavior can not be cured.
Funny enough they are the most sexually depraved tribe in Nigeria, fuccking under aged gals...engaging in homosexuality....
Please at this point...You need to make a statement/report at the police station that you are being harassed and ur life is being threatened in your neighborhood to the point that u are scared for ur life...
With 1000k u can do that... Any subsequent issue, police can quickly believe ur case..But be careful

AfricanGiant91:
his not matured to marry?
so nah maturity to marry a coded run girl abi? issokay
anoda olosho spotted

Those gals are unrepentant cold-hearted cheat...u take them serious at ur peril

HRHQueenPhil:
U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Same floppy advice as usual. You forgive a hoe, she will only postpone the time to disgrace you.
Forget about her. She's not ready to marry you. Infact u engaged the wrong person....
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JovialJune:
So many damaged kids on rampage here lately.

How does this relate to the topic

Maybe her crush just bange.d someone else instead of giving her attention....and she's now expressing her painment....cos she doesn't look saint to me

Living in Nigeria is the worst mistake you can make towards success

Confirm daylight yahooyahoo

Bowman45:
Thanks for sharing.I found a lot of interesting information here. A really good post, very thankful and hopeful that you will write many more posts like this one.

I hope more people rejoicing over the death of this man will grow some empathy

Techguy96:
Most of u see women as properties, that's why we have so many failed marriage today, because women are wising up.

You failed to realize women are humans too, people like u can only marry timid church village girls with no say, pretty much a dummy. Is that's what u want for a wife.

By the time u grow up to be a man . Ur brain will have a reset.....Shebi u are just 24 ...ride on in ur juvenile ignorance. Dem no dey teach person to geh sense with woman....e go soon reach u

Maybe at 40 you will stop your Nairaland attention whoring.
PS......it's better you stop posting your pics every month. It's childish.

PacAmaru:
society or not I don't joke with my personal space,there are times I hate everything and everyone and I just want to stay alone and cool my mind

I will let every one that comes into my life to know that

This is the point

donbachi:
if a man should give ur sister such ill treatment.will u take It from him?
If ur wife is raped or killed cos u locked her outside.wat will u tell ur kids?

My sister's marriage is her cup of tea....It will be in her best interest if she respects her husband..cos she stays with him and he's responsible for her.

....I won't encourage her to be disrespectful to her husband to the point the man may be angry enough to lock her out...
.. There are instances where a woman can be so violent or daring that the man might have to lock her out just to defend himself or to have peace for that moment.

That's one of the contexts I'm talking abt..
.If my wife is raped for being locked out? That's an hypothetical fantastical situation...how many people got raped for being locked out...
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.I'm not saying men Should go out locking their wife out as a norm....at certain point even a gentle man would have to take drastic measures against certain behavior..or else... he will lose the marriage...A man shd act when necessary and the success of the marriage is in the man's hand not the woman's

donbachi:
Not to lock her outside all night.

Well, It depends on the context of her bad behavior, if locking her outside fits the context of her bad behavior then it may be necessary to prevent a worse future misbehavior..

Women are experts at employing this tactics but many men who are supposed to understand the import of this tactics to their relationship usually fail to discipline their woman when necessary.
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If a woman is offended or in a situation where she wants to manipulate you to do her bidding, she withdraws her attention, give u silence treatment, she refuses to smile or look at you, she fails to cook and denies u sex....All of this is her attempt to discipline you and make you fall in place
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The response of most men to this is to increase their effort to please this woman just to get back her attention. That's your woman disciplining you.
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Many men who don't understand this will eventually start apologizing, buying gifts, doing extra work at home, acting like a gentleman, and in the event she finally allows sex, the man will go extra mile to give her good sex just to please her and get back her goodwill..
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In same way, if ur woman fuckz up, you must discipline her to the extent that she's ready to please u and obtain ur favor. If u can't pull this off, then u are a weak man. Worse is if after her bad behavior she still manipulates you to apologise..lol.
Here are the benefit of disciplining your woman when she goes wrong.

1. A woman respects a man who disciplines her. You can not change this fact...It's same reason a pretty gal fears and respect her boyfriend who is a bad boy cos he doesn't take nonsense.
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2. A woman will deliberately test ur gut by misbehaving just to see ur reaction...If u fail at putting her in her place, she will dare to do worse next time, and cause more trouble
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3. Women easily open their legs to men they respect, or men who will easily put them in their place. This is so cos women want men who are assertive who exudes authority. It's a primal response their pvssy can't control. Ever wondered why a woman easily fantasize fvcking an army or soldiers? U get...it's the stamp of authority...
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4 Lastly: When u discipline a woman, it registers in her psyche that u are the head, she will be ready to do things to please u. But when u don't, it registers in her psyche that u guys are equal or partners..over time she will never listen to what you say, and will easily fall for men out there who show strong manly qualities because the man at home has lost that masculine aura women get wet for.

Sometimes when ur woman is not giving u sex, it's because, ur aura dont exude that masculine sexiness. You lost it from being too agreeable to her whims and bad behavior over time.
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So it's true u get better sex from your woman when you discipline her bad behavior than when u leave her to dictate and get away with bad behavior, over time she will start taking your needs for granted, including ur sexual needs. Before u know it, another man is sleeping with her.

Magnoliaa:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2021/03/05/leemon-ikpea-how-a-husband-made-peace-with-an-acrimonious-wife/amp/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/theinfong.com/2021/03/nigerian-billionaire-sends-wife-of-39-years-packing-after-mistress-tells-him-to-do-so-photos/amp/

Yes. I finally found this story. And I think it'll interest some particular users here.

cc: Twoclans - look at the side chick angle.
Mr. NiRFreak - you say you wanna marry an uneducated woman? Well that's one for you. Good luck in the compatibility.
And my dear Omolola100 - that's a woman that started from the bottom with a man, only to end up being thrown out of her matrimonial home after 39 years of marriage. With nothing to show for it. Stories like that abound.

After reading this, do whatever you feel is good for you.

Just seeing this.
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Well I read every link you provided.
And obviously, it's clear the woman was the genesis of her own problem, which I feel has to do with her: wanton greed, laziness to work when opportunity were presented on a platter, quarelsome attitude, nagging, and all manners of vices particular to many bad wives which of course can be seen in both educated or non educated women....
There are many not well educated ladies who are reasonable, hardworking and peaceful.
...And that a woman starts from the scratch with a man does not give her leeway to frustrate her man's life. Everyone deserves happiness...
The onus is on the person being frustrated and robbed of peace, either husband or wife, to do away with the source of his/her stress and unhappiness or otherwise endure it. It's a choice to make which the man shouldnt be blamed for...He has a right to peace....
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Now to the lady adviced by her mom, I think she's lacks understanding and good mindset...May God open her mind...
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Meanwhile, what's ur stand

I think she saw what u couldnt see.
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Please don't blame her. Move on.
She has the right to be loved. Who knows maybe she had been hoping to meet a guy who will even show interest in her...unlike you who have the luxury of turning different men down.
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Many times men don't approach ladies with the intent of love, but over time, love and feelings may grow if they become compatible.
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I have fallen for gals who I initially only wanted to fvck, but I was glued when I got to know their personality. So it's possible the guy may fall for her later on.
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Fine, you are hurt....but she has the right to be happy, at least the guy wasn't yours and she dint snatch him from you.

OtemAtum:
The revelation is from Atum and thousands of past beings who are in support of science over religion and so they encaged many gods of religion who want the world to remain blind to the truth of reality.

Alright. Thanks.
Who was the revelation given to? Is it to you? And who is Atum?
Kindly share PDF link to the book.

So Northern student don dey learn how to protest..lol. ..Most of them were against Endsars protest o..
Shebi u all believe ur Malam politicians can't do wrong...shebi u all believe it's haram to go against ur mumu leaders..lol..So who's now teaching u people how to press for demands against the Islamic tenet.
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Cowbrain people. Una suffer never reach..

Sisterhot:
...Ur brain is expecting favour from them ,if not now ...but in d future , when you have and want nothing from them , u will be confident...very simple ...
You are nervous like a constentant in MTN project fame, ur Target the prize or something tangible, Fear of falling ur own hand is ringing in ur brain , it is difficult to conquer until u become very successful then u see ur King like a class prefect !
Remedy to this make money , n see the magic
...maka Igbo Sina aku na esi obi Ike

Fact...that's why most people in Nigerians worship their foolish politicians

Curious345:
Attack on Ortom: FUNAM, Oduduwa, IPOB, others, championing Nigeria's breakup - Daily Post Nigeria

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The attack on the convoy of Benue State Governor, Samuel Ortom has continued to generate discussions, reactions and anger in some quarters, with accusing fingers being pointed and denials being made by those so accused.

It is understandable that such a brazen attempt will solicit different reactions, especially anger propelled by fear, with many Nigerians believing that if a sitting governor, with a retinue of security details could narrowly escape being killed in broad daylight, no one then is safe in the country.

However, a Fulani group, hitherto unknown, the Fulani Nationality Movement (FUNAM) has reportedly claimed responsibility for the attack.

The group, in a report by an online news platform, said in a statement signed by one Umar Amir Shehu that they attacked Ortom in an action carried out on behalf of millions of Fulani people in 15 countries.

“Our attention has been drawn to media reports today speculating about who attacked the Governor of Benue State, Samuel Ortom.

“Yes. Yes We did. The Fulani Nationality Movement, ( FUNAM) carried out the attack. We have genuine reasons. We acted on behalf of Millions of Fulani people in 15 countries.

“It’s a case of vengeance against an infidel who has used his time and money, deployed in destroying the Fulani values and inheritance.

“Our courageous fighters carried out this historic attack to send a great message to Ortom and his collaborators: Wherever you are, once you are against Fulani long term interest, we shall get you down. This is a clear warning. We hope those who take us for granted will get the indisputable message.

“Our intention is unequivocal: TO KILL HIM. That mission will one day be fulfilled and very soon too.

“Eleven of FUNAM operatives were involved in the attack. Orton escaped today because of a slight technical communication error. Next time, he will not be lucky. We can assure him and his supporters.

“Ortom has been leading the campaign against Fulani interests in the North. We have our operatives in all Southern States. Each will face our sword soon.

“We warn collaborators working against Fulani people across Nigeria: WE SHALL GET YOU irrespective of your hidden place.

“We state clearly, any state or individual that opposes RUGA will be confronted. Any State or individual that opposes ranching, we shall get you. Speak against ranching and RUGA even on the internet: Our Noiseless fighters shall find and fix you.

“In the next few months, FUNAM will carry out attacks on strategic human and material assets of States and Non State groups or individuals known for their anti-Fulani campaigns.

“We shall hunt you down in your houses, in your work places, in your car, in your streets. It’s a matter of time.”

With this statement, a new chapter of agitations and contradictions the nation has not witnessed in time past was opened, albeit in a more scary way. Though many are tempted to wave off FUNAM as a faceless group that is merely looking for attention, analysts are quick to say that the groups that are today making things difficult for the country in different parts started the same way from obscurity, with people writing them off as attention seekers.

Though it is yet uncertain if FUNAM actually exists, it is worthy of note that the group is not speaking for the first time, as it triggered national outrage in 2018 when it claimed that Fulani are the owners of Nigeria.

The Sultan of Sokoto, Sa’ad Abubakar, who at that time doubted the existence of the group, disowned the statement, labeling it as reckless.

Also in February 2020, the President of the group, one Badu Salisu Ahmadu claimed that a special Fulani strike force was behind the killing of 23 people in Plateau State in late January, 2020.

Mr. Adekoya Samuel, a public affairs commentator, believes that FUNAM is not really a new group but one that may be described as shadowy, lurking in the corner to take advantage of situations and dance momentarily in the sun before withdrawing into a corner.

“I will not say the group does not exist, I will rather ask, how does it exist? On paper and in press releases? FUNAM, to me, is just another faceless group that exists in the mind of an individual who mischievously comes in occasionally, throws in a press release to rock the boat and cause some apprehension. That’s what I believe is happening here.

“I see no reason for apprehension over the sweeping threats in the supposed group’s statement. What is the capacity of a group that has not proven in the past that it truly exists? I think the writer of the press statement was only bluffing and nothing more. No one should lose sleep over it”, Samuel said.

Speaking further, Samuel noted that though it is becoming alarming the rate at which sectional and ethnic based groups are springing up from different parts of the country, the existence of Nigeria is not under threat.

“Nigeria is not about to break and it will not despite the threat posed by ethnic based groups threatening secession. Neither IPOB, MASSOB or Oduduwa Republic proponents have the capacity to carry out their threats. Those threats have always been there and nothing has happened. FUNAM cannot make any difference”, he submitted.

Chigozie Ibe, a Lagos babes businessman, however, thinks differently, warning that Nigerians should not dismiss the claim of responsibility by the Fulani or their threats of further attacks lightly. According to him, FUNAM may just be the face of a larger Fulani organisation with sinister plans.

“To start with, Governor Ortom said those who attacked him were herdsmen, dressed in black, while Miyetti Allah has come out to deny any involvement in the attack. Then this Fulani group came out to say its operatives were responsible. For me, until security agencies conclude their investigation and come out with a different conclusion, I take it that FUNAM was behind the attack.

“A major problem Nigeria has is that we are quick to dismiss things even before we dig into them. What if the group is real and they actually carried out the attack on Ortom and do have the capacity to make good their threat? We would have succeeded in looking the other way carelessly while they go about hitting their targets without resistance”, Ibe said.

On whether the ethnic-based group posed any threat to Nigeria, Ibe said they do and that Nigeria may just be heading for the rocks if issues of concern being raised were ignored.

“The Nigerian government and critical stakeholders and leaders must not ignore what is currently happening in the country. Doing so will be at the nation’s peril. Most times, government tend to look at these agitators as irritants it cannot be bordered with, but they have forgotten the possibility of propelling them from behind the scene. Many of these groups have their backers, people who are the main drivers of the ideas these groups are pushing.

“Events of the last couple of days have shown that clearly, first with a group of Yoruba elders saying they can no longer hold back Yoruba youths on self determination. Also just at the weekend, the Yoruba Sociocultural group, Afenifere was emphatic when they said Nigeria’s disintegration is inevitable if the government fails to agree to restructuring. So it would be foolhardy to treat the threats of disintegration with levity, except the government has accepted that everyone go his way,” he noted.

Another respondent, who wants to remain anonymous, blamed the Nigerian government and the nation’s security and intelligence agencies for the level the agitations and threats have gotten to in the country. According to him, the government and its security and intelligence agencies have given these people the opportunity to fester their ideas to the point that many Nigerians now reason in line with Biafra and Oduduwa Republic.

“To start with, Asari Dokubo came out to declare the establishment of a government within Nigeria and nothing has been done about it till now. The only response that has come from the government was that from Lai Mohammed, the Minister of Information and Culture. Even at that, he failed to accord the obvious breach the seriousness it deserves.

“What Asari did is obviously treasonable, and not a joke or publicity stunt as labelled by Lai Mohammed. Also, the declaration by Sunday Igboho is another sour point that has not been attended to. Both Igboho, who declared that the Yoruba are no longer part of Nigeria and Asari should be undergoing serious interrogation at the moment. It does not matter if they were merely bluffing, letting them roam around freely is dangerous, as the more they propagate their divisive ideas, the more ground it gains and the more chances of them becoming real.

“So, I will call on the government and its agencies saddled with intelligence and security to look more closely into the activities of the groups, including the Fulani Nationalist Movement. Failure to do so will obviously be catastrophic. We must nip the growing agitations in the bud and control the upsurge in ethnic based groups that may with time become ethnic militia groups”, he said.

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It's only a Foolish Yoruba slave will write this seemingly good write up just to make an idiotic conclusion supporting one Nigeria and thinking govt will ever come after the Fulani movement that claimed responsibility for attack on Ortom. Even more dishearteningly ridiculous advising the govt to crack down on Igboho.
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Yoruba intellectuals are a big problem, they are so stupid thinking Nigeria is salvageable for any benefit

BB

Where did he say ManUtd are scary?