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@topic/@poster, welldone jare, (i was also once in the oil industry briefly for about 1/2 a year) hence i can partly confirm what you said about the kind of nonsense that goes on there. It felt wrong then, it still feels wrong now.

Keep up the good work jare, let's hope the sensible ones amongst the ladies would realise that most men would do or say anything to have sex, hence its the duty of those ladies to dignify themselves by at least either leaving a "tear rubber" or "a clean tokunbo" for their husbands. 

If you uphold urself, then other ppl should be on the same level as you are, I can never sell myself out for a benz. In all my relationships, I never asked for a dime, like it said before,  it feels much better when you make your own.

How is a lady upholding herself ,  can you please give us some better tutorial in the context of sex and money.

Tranngirls:
@No2Atheism
THAT IS MARRIAGE NOT A RELATIONSHIP, YOU DO HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO BUT IT IS OK, IT IS A LEARN CURVE. AND THIS IS WHERE I STOP

if u are in relationship for fun and sex then good luck to u with the loud guys, otherwise all that i have said is extremely valid for a serious relationship,

spikedcylinder:
Do what same?

He means you would do the same thing that he did , assuming you were a guy.

Tranngirls:
@No2Atheism
SERIOUS YOU SHOULD STOP WATCH DISNEY, REALITY ISNT A FAIRY TALE AND YOU KNOW WHAT MORE THAN HALF OF THE GIRLS HERE ARE LYING GO TO SOSUAVE.COM YOU WILL SEE WHAT I MEAN

No you didn't,    ,


Seriously can you please do me a favour and point out the fairy tale in the things that i have stated.


Anyway,

- reality is that man and woman can never have a loving relationship unless they are best of friends, otherwise they would always be strangers sleeping with each other, hence once the sex drys up, men that relationship is most probably bound to collapse.

- reality is that a man growing up in a relationship becomes more and more reserved over time (meaning that those guys who are already reserved from the word go have an advantage in that respect) , evidences of this is easily seen in our daily lifes.

- reality is that there is bound to come a time in a relationship when sex would no longer be exciting, material things would no longer be exciting , what sustains such a relationship then becomes love (of which being close friends is an evidence of and of which a man being reserved greatly helps in being close friends with a woman).

- reality is that being reserved is an evidence of maturity, (something beneficial to a loving relationship with a woman)

Tranngirls:
@No2Atheism
YES YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THAT BUT THAT IS ALL THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD FRIEND NOT A LOVER OR A BOYFRIEND

Yes you are also correct, nevertheless please note that:

A lover or boyfriend must first and foremost be a very good friend, otherwise that relationship is bound to be strained and without trust later on,

All am just saying is that:

Reserved guys are usually quite intelligent (cus they tend to use their brains more than their mouth) and as a result such reserved guys tend to make better lovers because:


- they are better at observing the lady.
- they are better at knowing her wants, desires and irritants.
- they are better at knowing what to touch, when to touch and how to touch, (_{come on wash your mind, or why did you think i was talking about that}  ).
- they are better at listening wen you ladies start to go on your talking marathon.

, the reserved intelligent ones:

- are good at observing the lady.
- good at knowing her wants, desires and irritants.
- good at knowing what to touch, when to touch and how to touch, (_{come on wash your mind, or why did you think i was talking about that} ).
- good at listening wen you ladies start to go on your talking marathon.

spikedcylinder:
Aswerigawd, there's nothing as sexy as a reserved guy. How can two big mouths be in the same relationship?

@spikedcylinder,

cough, pinch, ich, hmmm hmmm, are you saying that you are a *** mouth, (_{ducks in anticipation of being battered})

SeXYhOTmOM:
I cant give myself BP becos of one man o!!
shld'nt i be happy dat he practices safe sex

BTW
knowing myself my man dosent need all dat
cos d action he is getting at home is enuf 4 him
he wld be 2 tired 2 give anoda gurl attention
dats why tins like dis don't bother me

@sexyhotmom, i like your policy jare ( _{dude starts imagining things} ). Infact what you said is similar to what I usually try to tell ladies  (talking to married ones alone, pls no fornication) to do because it can help them keep their men from being tempted to cheat:

@sexyhotmom, what you said that is similar to what i am saying is that:

1. Ladies should learn to be freaks in bed.

2. Ladies should make sure that once in a while, they shag their husbands so much and so extreme ( _{something almost equivalent to raping him} ) that he's probably too tired to even get dressed by himself talkless of going out to think of another woman.

3. Make sure that everytime they think he's getting bored, they make sure they sleep with him like freaks in a way that he starts begging you to spare his life, cus he can't take it anymore,

Hope yu'all get my drift, that most men that are getting overdose of freakish sex of extreme varieties from their wives would be too tired and too satisfied to even consider cheating.

Sexyhotmom i bow for you jare,

stillwater:
We would silently kill ourselves together. *joking*
Quiet people do not have to be loud to say what's on their mind. It's a subtle art that will take eternity for loud people to grasp.

Am feeling you sister, loud people do not know what they are missing,

tope2000:
I agree not all quiet guys r boring but 80% of them are
To me a quiet guy is like a nerd who is still a virgin

True talk. . . . i completely agree here

You are watching the wrong films,

cus, , the nerdy ones are usually the ones with good overall package biological, emotional, financial.

The loud ones are just over compensating,

SeXYhOTmOM:
not too quiet and not 2 loud

i just cant stand guys dat are 2 quiet
they bore me quickly
u go out on dates and u have so many awkward moments waiting 4 who wld be d next to talk

Loud guys are even worse especially d money miss road illiterate kinda guys
God help u if u go out on a date with that kind of man

@sexuhotmom

Ooops , ouch, ich, o ma se o,  that means you and I can't hit it off be that (_{assuming your husband does not kill me first}) ,  ,  how sad (, _{dude talking to himself saying: why have you wasted your time scheming knowing that people say you can bore a corpse to death again})

tope2000:
Sharap dia . . . . .i dont mean cheating
Just because he carrys condom doesnt mean he is cheating . . .does it?

, maybe he's using the condom as computer screen dustcover ,   


Moreover sef, If he's using the condom for you, then it should be at home (or where ever you do your thing), hence for a man to carrying condoms around, it means he eats a lot of fast food.

@Hauwa, if you are really a friend of your female friend as you want to believe, then it is your responsibility to do something that would make sure she is not hurt at the end of the day,

1. Its not wise to go to the girl anyhow, cause she might naively thinkg you are just trying to break them up for no just reason.

2. Try and sit your Nigerian guy friend down and talk to him, let him see reason that its wise for him to start breaking up the relationship "slowly". If he refuses to do so, warn him that you are bound by friendship rules to at least protect the girl from being hurt, hence that you are bound to hint her one way or another. Hence let him realise that its better he does it himself (less shameful) or that you do it for him (more shameful) ,  cus when and if the relationship finally breaks up and your female friend finds out that you knew and still did not hint her she would not like it.

3. @Hauwa you are not putting water for anyones gari, protecting your player friend is not in your own best interest also cus what goes around comes around.

@davidylan, how far (guess you are not seeing me at the religion thead cus its kinda boring over there now)

@topic,

1. Yes some naija guys go back to get wives,  does that mean ladies back home are better than those not at home, ABSOLUTELY NOT.

2. Guys that expect naija based babes to go gaga over them are either naive or mere players profiting from the insecurity and naiveness of some nigeria based babes,

3. Naija guys going back home depends on personal preferences and choices, I used to think like that before too, but now i no longer do, cus i now realise that for someone of my own mentality, taste in women, personal plans and character, naija babes back in nigeria are not IT for me.

4. As per some people back home  drolling over both low quality and high quality items brought back to Nigeria by those outside of the country, well i have to say that it has to boil down to either inferiority complex or lack of mental maturity or desire to feel among.

   
    Inferiority complex in the sense that there is a sense that what obtains in nigeria is inferior to what obtains in the West. Hence by getting, using and owning an item brought from the west, people tend to get a false sense of security about the quality, beauty or asthetics of the item in question.
   
    Lack of Mental maturity in the sense that some people also long for things brought back from the west because they have been brought up to value those things as such, however in some cases, such people usually eventually grow out of it and even turn around to value naija things better than so called "foreign items".

    Desire to fell among is inherent in people with inferiority complex, hence they seek foreign items or men so as to enhance their self image.



5. As concerns the naija babes that droll all over so called "foreign guys", well it has to be said that such girls are either greedy or lack self confidence or simply prefer foreign guys to the local guys.


  Greediness makes such girls falsely think that foreign based naija guys are better off financially (which is not always the case)

  Lack of self confidence causes such girls to easily fall for foreign based naija guys because such girls feel a false sense of importance and fufillment by being courted by foreign based naija guys.

 Finally there are those girls who due to personal preferences and taste simply would not date a local naija guy whether poor or rich or good looking or not,


i rest my case,

@ThiefofHearts, guess what. i never watch the movie yet, , _{she gets ready to shoot, gast to dodge}

@Toyinrayo tomato, am still waiting for the ID, or else. , [size=5pt]_{you have to endure whats coming ur way}[/size]

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Body piercing - Hell No (both for men and women)

Ear rings - Hell No (for men)

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Long Hair - Maybe Yes (for men if natural)

Badriyyah:
How am I confusing you? Like I stated before, THIS IS A FORUM. I never said Badriyyah is my REAL name. You just made an assumption. And I don't think I owe you or any other person an explanation for having "badriyyah" as my username.

1. Okay no need to go all feisty on me, i was just asking a simple question.

2. My bad, to think Badriyyah had something to do with your name,

3. Okay i leave you in peace,

Lagosboy:
Been arabic doesnt mean been muslim.

arab is different from muslim.

Arab is a race and islam is a faith that transcends race.

Severel arab christians have arabic names cos that is their language and cultutre. Tariq Azeez Saddams deputy is a christain and that is his name. Ignorance is not a good thing in the least if we read wide and get exposed beyond our bias and sentiments we would realise this big difference. There are millions of Arab christians and i am wondering if you nigerian christians will descriminate against them due to your hatred for islam.

Arab is a race

Correct,

islam is a faith that transcends race.

Tell that to the black sudanese muslims, black people in arab dominated countries and generation of black african slaves in arab countries 

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@Lagosboy, let Badriyyah answer the question herself,

@Lagosboy , Nigerians Christians are even the ones willing and able to welcome Arab Christians with open arms, talk about missing the bloody obvious, wonder why Arab Christians are discriminated against by their fellow Arabs who in this case are muslims.

@Lagosboy, as it ever occured to you that:

- Christians still care for muslims even when muslims are killing them by the thousands over the history.
- As it ever occured to you that most poor muslim countries still get aids through organisations funded by christian groups, despite all the killing that muslims have done and are still doing.
- As it ever occurred to you to just pause, wait and think about why it is so weird that it is easy for a muslim to kill his christian neighbour irrespective of the help that neighbour might have done for such a muslim in the past
- As it ever occured to you that you have just one life to live hence it would do you a lot of good to try and think for yourself instead of merely believing everything you are told, considering that there is no opportunity to reboot.

Badriyyah:
Yeah, and you were wrong. I have no "muslim" background.

Now you are confusing me, so how come you came to bear such a name, enlighten me and others in case of next time.

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1 - Don't ever try to force him to do everything listed above, but compliment him when he does, _{because men are silent doers, hence may not necessarily show his love and affection for you the way you expect it}

2 - Learn to cook _{damn it}  , and learn about his favourite foods.

3 - Treat him like a King ,  _{hence Stop comparing him to your friends baby daddy or your friends boyfriend,}

4 - Cuddle him like a bigger baby ,  _{infact give him your breast and your breast milk if he so desires,}

5 - Stop trying to win arguments against him _{damn it  ,}

6 - Please please stop all the nagging, _{you are slowly pushing him away by doing that,}

7 - Be a good companion/comforter both when things are good and very bad for him, _{men are too proud to ask for your help, damn it  ,}

8 - Stop putting on weight , _{just because he's not yet complaining, doesn't mean he likes it}.

9 - Learn how to be a freak in bed, and a mild manner one outside of the bed (_{only for married couples please  no fornication}).

10 - Stop faking the orgasms, so pls teach him how to make you climax, most are not born with the know-how so teach him(_{only for married couples please  no fornication}).

11 - Don't ever punish him by denying him Sex, doing that amounts to asking for trouble, (_{only for married couples please  no fornication})

12 - Never ever keep secrets from him (_{even embarrassing ones}), he can always find out if he wants to ,  and by then you would have lost his trust.

_{, smiles and congratulates himself for job welldone,}

@Toyinrayo, @ThiefofHearts, @Spikedcylinder oya report here for proper debriefing,

lady bam, come back here, _{or else i would print the page and show daddy}

if you like  you people can go and use "supercomputer" from Nasa to google search my identity, you go find nada, you are on your own 

Awo ,   
Faj Annex , 

Oh let me guess you checked my post and because i said i once attended OAU, you decided to start making wild guesses, wa pee nibe.

Badriyyah:
So me using an ARABIC name on a forum makes me Arabic?? Hmmmm, that's like saying anyone using the name "John or Leonardo" is white. . I'm not arabic so I don't know why.

1. Notice i never said you were Arabic,

2. I only asked you to answer the question because i believe from experience that someone needs to have a little bit of "muslim" background in other to bear such a name as "Badriyyah"

alagolo, gast to go abeg, since you have decided not to send me you YIM the second night in a row,

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