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Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they[center][/center][quote author=Noblepreneur post=59156910]And to think you are someone's wife is appalling. You should learn to respect people both offline and online.

Note,before you start blabbing,I am a Successful Millionaire and have helped others become millionaires.

act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala[/quote]Spot on. When my Fiancee started dating me,I wasn't financially comfortable, as a matter of fact I just resigned from my job and wanted to follow my passion (Entrepreneurship). It was so bad that 10,000naira was an issue but this babe didn't leave me,she never for one day compared me with others even though she was schooling abroad as a Medical Student. Today,by God's Grace I am a Comfortable millionaire and have helped in raising more millionaires, do you think I will ever leave my babe?

Never ever.... That is what we define as being faithful and being patient. Slay Queens continue looking for G Boys.

Amarabae:
what a dry emotional ranting of a nerve breaking drowing man.
Hello? Are you for real?
Just thank social media, that ants can have an opinion.
You are just a small boy who should learn manners and how to talk in public.
A bit of advice.

And to think you are someone's wife is appalling. You should learn to respect people both offline and online.

Note,before you start blabbing,I am a Successful Millionaire and have helped others become millionaires.

I want to believe at some point the lady didn't develop herself while the guy was developing himself. When the dude started making money,the Lady should have asked him to teach her too how to fish and not give her fish. The dude is now seeing her as no good hence the reason he could dump her. I like light skin babes so much but I will get married to my dark skin babe who was there when I couldn't afford 10k and she rendered all the support she could (both financial,prayers,motivation etc)until I made my first million.

Nothing on earth can make me let her go cos she is an asset(a big asset for that matter).

Team light skin babe but I will settle with a dark skin babe(of course I won't cheat on her once we walk down the aisle).

Lol,first of all how much did you pay him?

Just download US VPN and you will be fine.

Okay.Thanks much.Is there any forum or thread you think might be beneficial to me why doing my research?Kindly drop it.

stephenmorris:
I'm not schooling there but almost applied to Strasbourg university in France,I went through their fees and saw how cheap they are ..u can do more research online

hustla:
For a year sch fees msc , it should be sufficient

How about SOA? How does the person handle that issue?

Guess you know the least amount a prospective student is required to show in his/her SOA?

stephenmorris:
France,education in France is cheap as cheap as 185 Euro per year,you can check out their univerities,like wise Spain

Are you schooling in France? When is their application window open?

crowley:
just 8 university is affected by this, and they are small state universities because of the states debt.
1. university of freiburg
2. university of stuttgart
3. KIT(Karlsruher institute of technology)
4. university of mannheim
5. Ruprecht karls university, Heidelberg
6. university of konstanz
7. university of ULM
8. Eberhard Karls university, Tubingen.

and the max tution fees for these schools is €1,500 unlike US where you pay as much as $40,000 in some school. every other university in germany are free.

Really detailed.

HLion:
Try canada..Simon Fraser Universityl..school fees is about 2.7m....also check Memorial University of Newfoundland their fees is about 2.4m.....Goodluck....you can also check other schools

Are you schooling in Canada?

LoJ:
Hello there,

Germany does have free tuition. Only in one particular State, is the tuition no more free. And even at that, the fees are not expensive in comparison to UK or the US.

Back to your question, if you truly make that amount of money from blogging alone, forget about travelling. Stay in Nigeria and be your own Boss. Certificates are of no use in the modern world. Some people don't know what it means to live in a foreign Land. With 2.5 million and 200k monthly cash flow, and a decent brain, you have enough to be very rich in 5 - 10 years. Forget about travelling.

I wish you the best.

Spot On

nevilbot:
Germany is fine. If you can survive in Nigeria, you will survive in Germany so far u are not dull. And Germany gives students work permit that allows you to work 20 hrs per week with a minimum wage of 8.5€ ( most companies pay more than that).

Bravo

hustla:
Sweden, Finland, Norway, Estonia, South Korea probably Germany and if you can make it around 4m, australia if you can make like 7m

GL

Lol,which Australia is 7million?I disagree with you Sir.

cosy101:
We want suppliers of good quality of ogbono seeds, kolanut and scent leaf for our US buyer.
Interested suppliers should reach us on 08067748962,

Where are you based and what specie of Ogbono do you want?

Op,have you asked her before if she doesn't like hearing that phrase? I am wondering if most of the threads on Nairaland are created cos some peeps just want to be noticed.

Go ask her first before coming here. Bye

NwaAmaikpe:


My state university gotten 2.1 is a million times better than


All these people's 1st class from easy foreign schools where you don't need to read much to pass.


In my school, you will buy handouts, experience ASUU strike, school strike, run from cult strikes. So if you graduated well under such a hostile academic environment, then you truly are a scholar.

Learn to celebrate people,if you had the opportunity to travel abroad for studies you won't be here spewing thrash.

Hustle had so you can send your children to good schools. Cheers

Smh. You met a girl at the bank,she visited you and you guys started talking about marriage. Tomorrow you will start visiting churches for deliverance. Keep it up op.

ifenuwon:
Good day pple,

I need your advice on some issues bothering me now
My girlfriend (dating for 2 years now with pastor and parents consent) has been behaving very funny these days.

She suddenly starts flirting with other guys openly and anytime I ask her who those guys are, she gets angry and tells me I have no right to ask her who they are even after I discovered she is having hidden chats and dates with them.

The first instance happens to be on her birthday, I planned to take her out and on getting to her shop I met this man there, though I didn't ask her who he was but on getting to the eatery she became very cold and didn't eat any of the things I bought for her...On asking her who the guy was she started telling me I shouldn't ask her but I later got to know the man cos his wife happens to be a patient of mine (I am a male nurse)

Second instance happens to be with a street guy I know
Though I recently started seeing the guy in her shop every day but didn't ask her anything. My suspicion arose wen the few times I actually met the guy in her shop. She starts acting strange and both of them get very quite In one instance the guy was just in front of her and she texted him not knowing I saw what she was doing...

And the following day, I met them together on the way and immediately the guy saw me...he pretended like he wasn't with her and stylishly walked away.
When I asked her who he was, she started over reacting and telling me I shouldn't ask her and if I don't trust her that is my problem.

Now I don't know what to do about her cos our families are close and we go to the same church...pls I need your opinion.

No insults

Op,abort mission if not you might commit suicide or murder. When a girl suddenly start forming bold and daring,just know that another dude is in the picture.

Spell it correctly "Live" and I will give you his house address.

Towncrier007:
But where does Buhari parents leave?

marvin902:
30 and still counting..
next destination nysc can't wait body count must increase

Just be careful sha. A corp member just lost his life of recent to cultist because of free kitten in his PPA. I guess he also had the same mindset but it didn't favour him.

He was collecting from a babe who had a cultist boyfriend (although she had issue with him).The dude went with his squad,brought the Corp member out and butchered him.

Nice one Joe Praiz,I love your inspired songs.

demo4ril97:
I had this girl I was dating few years back, was so much in love with her. I could remember her mum sitting me down and wanting to know my intentions, in fact the worst scenario was, she told me directly that she do observe when ever I check on her daughter I don't bother to get her(the daughter) female stuffs. After all I am aware she is still in high school and if she is shy to ask I should make it a surprise.

Voila! I concurred to her views, and started doing as the mum advised to the extent of paying her fee at school which is affordable since she attends a government school. I eventually seized after i got to know my supposed ex girlfriend was a Lier and a big cheat even though I was encourage by the attitude she portrays during my presence and her mum's commendation about my ex, despite being faithful to her.

Just like the thread's subject, do you think it is right or wrong of the mother base on your views, and do you think I was just being foolish or brainwashed (casted a spell) by the mother during the discussion we had because I sometimes feel that wasn't ordinary a talk.

Whenever I refrain this case I am usually confused. I find it very hard to trust ladies talk more of falling in love again, I am now into friend zoning ladies I am afraid not to lose a woman of every guy's dream all because of what has happened in my past.

Few days ago she chatted me up on Facebook that she needs my help but I don't think helping her out is something to do, I feel like where are those lovers of hers.

Inasmuch as her request is genuine, I will advice you oblige her. You might not do it cos of what you shared before but because you want to help a buddy who is in need.

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megrimor:
But I'm not yet ready for marriage now

I'm currently studying for my Masters degree in UNILAG and there's no viable source of income yet

Why not start businesses that you can combine with studies? We have lots of them in business section so you can take advantage of them.

As regard your story, is the girl an Igbo babe? Tell her to introduce you to her parents(kindly note, you don't need to be super rich to do introduction).

Op,calm down,she won't break up with you(but she won't trust you like before).

When she comes, just apologise and let her know that the babe is in your past(like far past). Your babe will forgive you but she will definitely do small shakara cos of heartbreak.

All this dudes buying cars for babes upandan,you guys should chill joor.

Haba,na only wunna waka come.

Anyways,having looked at the yardstick from the two dudes who bought their babes car,If you want a car from me,you should fulfill this two options:

Number 1:
Date me when I was broke(which is no longer possible)

Number 2:
Date me for minimum of 4years(when I am broke)

If you cant fulfil this,OYO

Op Op. I love this your method of getting attention(Bravo bro,you nailed it). Nairaland gold diggers,Maga don show ooo.

What is the essence of creating this thread if you have decided to move on?

You are a multi-millionaire,so what? Should we fry akamu?

Go and up your game Op and stop this immature joke.

obowunmi:
Hi everyone,

My name is Obowunmi. I've been a Nairaland member for many years now under different monikers.

I started dating this girl early January of this year however we have had too many ups and downs because I have not shown or told her that I have money. She thinks I am just a loser.

When I first met her, she was very nice but not anymore.

Once in a while, I buy her expensive gifts but I haven't divulged to her what I do, the type of job I have or any of that stuff. Maybe this is her reason for being so heartless.

Over the months, we have had one altercation where we didnt talk throughout the month of May. Today, I've had to block her on WhatsApp and other channels because she is just mean, doesn't communicate, would rather spend time on twitter than talk with me.

We have kept our relationship secret so far and my heart is heavy and I think at this point, I'm tired and ready to move on.


I like her. I really do like her. But I dont know what else to do. I dont want anyone to date me for my money so I will not tell her that I am a multimillionaire.

Pls I need your help. I am tired of it all. My heart is heavy. I am ready to settle down.

And this is somebody's boyfriend...Smh4u

MaestroZeus:
please I need 10k for d collection of ma ND result u can do a broda good by jst giving me small out of ur millions...3025888573 Skye Bank Ajibose Timilehin...God bless u

He isn't proud of her,like showing her to people. He just want you for sex(guess you are good at it).

Check yourself and see if you are defaulting in the following areas:

Are you a dirty babe(like you pick your nose in front of people and do all manner of not so cool things)?

Do you package yourself very well?(Your nails,your perfume,your hair)

Are you the clingy type?

lastly,are you an asset or a liability?

Oh cool.Sweet dreams.

Time to hustle in Naija

VickyRotex:
Oh, No worries.
I tell you! Humanity has really lost it. But trolls like him wont make me give up on Humanity.

Oh, It's almost bedtime here, it's a different time zone.

VickyRotex:
I guess you dint mean to quote me, but rather the troll up there!

Here's the troll you meant to quote.

Yea,so sorry about that. Just wondering how some humans have lost the very essence why they are called "Humans".

BTW, you are awake by 4am?

VickyRotex:
What!!!! Why are you guys this heartless? Why has Humanity lost it?

How can you advise your fellow human to go and die? Is that how frustrating things have gotten? Do you know what depression is?

I dont know if the Op is sincere or not, but you went too far! You really went too far!!!

You are very heartless and insensitive being. I feel sorry for your generation. Must you type?

amokeme:
Well said.. one thing is to have an idea, another is to have the capital (or equipment) to start. Though the capital can be gotten( without any physical dime) when you engage your possibility mentality.
All in all, is still not easy.... But is doable.

Lol,CU graduate(Eagle)spotted.