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He was mean, crude and evil..
He locked up and killed human right activists, just to mention a few..

The grass always looks greener on the other side.
I was once like you, got my first job in a multinational 3 months after NYSC as an electrical engineer when I was barely 26, pay was good, but I just wasn't happy after a while. I grew tired of doing routine stuff, I wanted excitement so I left after 2 years... To cut the long story short, I have worked in 2 other companies, but they are basically the same thing. Some of the things we see in movies or read in novels are not real.

My sister is a Medical Doctor, its not easy qualifying as a Doctor. You would have invested a lot of time, money and sufferings to get that degree. So please forget any idea that you can pick up another first degree in petroleum engineering, besides who is going to fund it, you are getting older, in a few years from now your classmates will start getting married and having babies.. what will you then be doing?

jntyjnty007: My version of good looking can be very different to the next. My answer is I have no idea, I have dated good looking men before, but I married a stunning man, inside and out.

In the event of a moment of madness occurring and I happened to date a person who was useless in bed and not good looking, I would take myself to see a psychiatrist, just in case I suffered from some kind of trauma, then take a trip to the Dead Sea and cover myself in Mud and float in the salt water, purely to be rid of the most shameful and disgraceful experience that I put myself through.

Isn't that too harsh...

^^ more like the other guy.

OP, go and buy a car na, so that you can also give them a ride like your colleagues did and you can get to do-the-do.
Make sure you post your own self explanatory pix on NL sha.

OP, you and your friend have no single sense of humor, you both sound like gold diggers to me.
yeye elebi girls like you.

Abi o! the thing tire me sha.
sometimes no beauty, no good character also.

OP sounds to me like a complete Gbeborun aka Amebo aka local gossip.
Did you by any chance visit his house in Delta state to ascertain for yourself that he has three kids?
If you don't learn how to mind your business, somebody is gonna teach you.

ogugua88: [size=13pt]Clothing doesn't always define a woman (or man). There are some women who dress sexily and are very reversed and shy. There are people who dress in a classy manner and look well-polished but are actually harlots. Is it not the same Beyonce who shakes and gyrates and revealing costumes for a living that implied that she was a virgin until she met Jay-Z? Don't judge a book by its cover.[/size]

Even if such girls exist, I can guarantee you that they don't account for up to 1%.

Beyonce meeting Jay-Z is is very much diferent from marrying Jay-Z. If truely Bayonce was saying the truth, at what time in her life did she meet Jay-Z and when did she marry him.

OP, Haba! You got introduced just this year march and she's already pregnant for another dude, two months is too short for her to be pregnant already for someone else. thank your stars that she's isnt yours, cos i find it dificult to trust the girl.

9. The man doesn't dish out money as much as before.

This our naija girls and their wapped mentality. The only time most of them see love is when guys are doing stuffs for girls. when will these girls learn to show love also

tellwisdom: LMAO @ scratch card for him

Sounds like 100naira card

GBAM!

Very stingy girl

tobezekiel: 4rm osun state buh am based in kano

Cool.. though I'm yoruba but based in kaduna. kina lafiya? yaya kano?

7. Always coming to NLand like mummu Babz_temmy to talk about her husband and soliciting for marital advice from total strangers, some of whom have never been married.

Fine. I'm not gonna say anything.
** goes to sit in a corner **

OP, 25 year old Phd students are not very plenty in Nigeria. this one even buys for herself a house and a porsche car, with good and humble character thrown in.. I doubt the authenticity of this your post, any girl with such beautiful attributes should have no qualms getting a good man for herself..
Abi the girl na cripple ni.

How did you know her unborn baby is a girl? when you didnt even know specifically how far the pregnancy had gone.

jamp: Nigeria was better under these men

Two evil men to ever been born in Nigeria.

iebanehita: Read d OP's post again. She stated dt she was grateful 2her hubby, 2d extent dt d hubby still spends on her b4 she evn ask, evn when HIS accts is in d RED.
Would a Man stil kips on spending on a nagging wife?
You r very good @cramming,,dts y ur brain is too weak 2reason it out.

Why should I barter words with an eediot like you. Loving wife is not the same as grateful, but how will you know that? when you have a pit latrinne for a brain.
Ode. mcheeeew

SISIJ2: SHE is taking her time

yeah, sure.. and when she's 39 she starts visiting dating sites.

Babz temmy: Thank u very much guys. @ numerical guys i doubt u went to school,, and if u did u must av problem comphrending.

You can say that if it pleases you. People dont always like to hear the truth. Would your husband have had to come to Nairaland before he did all those stuff for you? taking you to the US for your newborn? Ask yourself that.

iebanehita: It seems you lack comprehension and verbal reasoning.
The OP has bn a loving wife n wants 2giv her hubby a SPECIAL TREAT,,as stated in d post.
What happened 2bringin dt spark u both had,,when dating?
Re-ignitin d marriage n njoyin moments 2b treasure forever in dier hearts?

LIAR!
how come only you saw the bolded part.

See who’s talking about somebody not comprehending, not only do you have coconut head you are also a steewpid liarr. Read OP’s post again and show me where she said she has been a loving wife. All the OP said in her post was that her husband is loving and caring. And as far as am concerned all she does is sit on her bottom and lap all the love and attention without giving back anything in return.
Some people may not like what I’m saying because love to them is when a man is slaving for his wife. When love is not reciprocal, then its no longer love. OP has not been reciprocating her husband’s love which is why she has to come to nairaland to ask what to do in return for a loving husband.
My point is, what has the OP been doing to reciprocate the love and care she has gotten from a loving husband.

dstiva99: Just wanted to update and say I did talk with my boyfriend, I asked him directly whether he sees a future with me and whether he has plans for us to be together long-term and what those plans are. He replied, "of course, I see you in my future, as my wife." He also apologized for not seeing my mom while she was in town, noted that he does think meeting parents is a very serious thing and he just wants to be fully ready/it be the right time to do so. He also acknowledged that he knows he's been super-busy with his PHD program and he thanked me for being understanding because he knows it hasn't been easy for me. He said I should try to remember that he just is trying to stay focused and get through his first year (without being kicked out of the program) so that he can have a firm career like I already have. Thanks to everyone who suggested that I talk to him about how I was feeling, it really helped and I am able to relax about the situation, for now at least.

OP, if you go back to the previous page you'll have realized I was correct regarding the bolded part. I can relate with the accademic part of your man because I'm also a postgraduate student. The first year is very crucial, its like walking on a tight rope, tilting him over with a lot of marraige issues might not be in the best interest of both of you.
I have a very understanding girl. Even though we are going to tie the knot soon, we are still holding off till when I've got my footing.

I cant believe this. Like sirously OP you are here asking us for what to do for your loving husband who has done so much for you. Does it mean you have been doing nothing for him all this while?
You truely dont deserve him. Some relationships can be as bad as 95:05, but yours is worse than that.
Sha.me on U.



And yet some people are telling her to give him sex.x. Is sex.x the only thing a woman can give in a marriage?

The physical looks, money, fame, power, height, age, of course they do catch women's attention but they are not nearly as important as men think they are.

OP must be from another planet.

angel TI: IMO, she looks lyk a girl brought to d city from d village. she is endowed n shapely; she is razz, not classy n looks unrefined!
#No baga shud yab me o

you said it all.

I cannot categorically tell you one now, THATZ ALL.

Ayee Idris: First of all, my initial opinion was that it was a bit of both. Like I said I did interview 25,not 1,000 guys and I stated that there were a few dissenters but even the dissenters agreed that it was a 50 50 scenario. No one said It was true all the time. Again, It is my opinion at the end of the day

Why conduct a survey only for you to turn around and give us your own personal opinion. If you interviewed more than 25 people and then gave us only 3 of the samples that are aligned with your own opinion, that your survey na ORIGINAL WASH!

Your "research" seems to me like a poor attempt to justify your own personal opinion on the issue, if not why else would you decide to pick only three of more than 25 samples. Hence, the integrity of your "research" is suspect, abi na WASH!
Most girls hate to admit that heart breaks are the biggest reason why players are born.

will try and read d post sometime