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Justice258:
A yet to be identified young boy has landed in a hospital after he was allegedly injured by his teacher in an Islamic school in Gombe state.
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It was reported that the boy was brutally flogged on both hands – which got him seriously injured in the process.

The boy’s hand which was badly infected had to be amputated by doctors.

It was also gathered that the teacher who allegedly committed the act has been arrested.


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This is coming after a video which went viral earlier this year, showed students of Government Science Secondary School, Nassarawa-Eggon being flogged mercilessly by the school teachers.

The video reportedly led to suspension of the school teachers and the Continue Read From Here And Watch Full Video

Walexdubia:
Lol Nairaland guys self too dey fall my hand, this thread na for girls to comment but u guys don jump in to dey comment. Later u guys go dey claim Alpha male shit but unfortunately u all are just simps...

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smlafolabi:
How to Stop Being Jealous



Jealousy is when you react negatively towards someone else having what you want, whether it's money, love, success, or the attention of someone you care about. It's an unhealthy habit that can make any kind of relationship crumble; if you're a jealous person, you've probably already seen how much damage it can do. But at the core of jealousy are some fears and expectations that are hard to shake, unless you make a conscious effort to cast them away.
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1. Observe what triggers your jealousy. Certain situations will trigger an image or possibility in your mind that you dread. What are the images and possibilities that pop into your head when jealousy strikes?
o romantic partner interacting with others (co-worker, ex, friend, etc.) - fear of partner cheating with someone who is "better" than you in some way
o child seeming to prefer the company of another adult - insecurity about whether you're doing a good job as a parent
o parent paying attention to their new partner - fear that the parent will not spend any time with you anymore
o friend spending time with other people - fear that the friend will prefer the other people and will not want to spend time with you anymore
o someone else (stranger, co-worker, friend) having good fortune (winning the lottery, getting married, getting pregnant, getting a promotion) - insecurity over unmet expectations
2. Bite your tongue. When you feel jealousy taking over, don't react in a destructive way. Don't accuse, don't give the silent treatment, don't roll your eyes, and don't show any signs of displeasure. Try to do the opposite of what a jealous person would do. If a friend is going to spend time with someone else, for example, recommend a good movie or restaurant. If your partner is talking to someone else, leave them be. Do what a completely trusting person would do in your shoes, even if it makes you feel crazy. Jealous behavior can bring any kind of relationship to its knees, so nip it in the bud.
3.
Jealousy builds walls--literally. This wall was built by a man to block view of his brother's home, who he believed was having in affair with his wife, who he imprisoned for 30 years.[1]
Recognize that jealousy is a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you behave jealously, you don't respond to someone's behavior--you respond to what you believe someone's behavior implies. In other words, you're reacting to a scenario in your mind that you fear, but that hasn't happened yet, and might not happen at all. By playing with another adult, for example, your child isn't doing something inherently wrong. Neither is your friend who's marrying the person they love, or your partner who calls to offer condolences to their ex whose mother just died. But your negative reaction to what you believe their behavior implies (that someone else is somehow better than you) will make the person feel defensive and paranoid, because they're being accused of doing something bad. The more defensive and paranoid they get, the more suspicious and jealous you get. It's a vicious cycles that's difficult to reverse.
4. Build self confidence. Jealousy is usually a by-product of insecurity and low self-esteem. Whether you feel bad about yourself because others have something you don't, or you have a deep-rooted fear of abandonment that someone will leave you because you're "not good enough," you need to learn that other people's behavior and lives are not a reflection on you. Confident people know that even when they are rejected or ridiculed, it's not always because they failed; sometimes people are just short-sighted. And even if they do fail, it doesn't reduce their worth; it simply means they need to learn something new.
5. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Some people seem to have it all, but be realistic--does anyone really lead a problem-free life? They might seem to lead a comfortable life (as many wealthy people do) but it's not always a fulfilling life. And even beautiful, successful celebrities have emotional breakdowns, get cheated on, struggle with addictions, get arrested, and lose their fortunes. Make friends with someone who you think has it all--sincerely take an interest in their lives--and you'll eventually discover that they have their hidden struggles. And if you do find someone who really does seem to have it all together, don't feel threatened by them. Learn from them. Be happy for them.
6. Stop feeling entitled to all of a person's time. If you get jealous when you see someone you care about interacting with or spending time with someone other than you, then you need to consider "How much of this person's time do I really want?" It's understandable if you want to spend a certain amount of quality time with your partner, child, parent, or friend. If they're not spending any time with you, then your concerns are valid. But if they spend a good deal of time with you but you never feel like it's enough, and deep down you'd prefer it if you were together all the time, then it's not healthy. Find other activities, and other people to do them with, to fill your time.
7. Trust. If you get jealous easily, you've probably had your trust broken. Most of the time, the trust was broken in the past, and you inadvertently project your fear of being hurt again onto someone else. The question you need to ask yourself is whether this person (the person who you worry will hurt you) has ever done anything to break your trust in the past. If the answer is no, then it's important to give them credit for that, and not treat him or her like a criminal. If the person has broken your trust in the past, then it's time to forgive, or else jealousy will ruin the relationship. Period.
o In a relationship, boundaries need to be set so you both know what's appropriate and what's not in terms of interacting with other people. This is a difficult subject for many couples, but addressing it will prevent arguments down the line. Ask your partner where they draw the line (flirting? kiss on the cheek? peck on the lips? shoulder massage? dancing?) and see if it matches up with yours. If not, talk it over until you can find common ground.
8. Be positive. Ultimately, jealousy is a fear-based behavior. You're spending a lot of time worrying about something bad that hasn't happened yet, and might not happen at all. In doing so, you're increasing the likelihood of bad things happening by fostering suspicion and distrust. Try to focus on the positive, instead. Be thankful for what you have. And remember that if someone is going to hurt you, there's nothing you can do to stop it anyway. No amount of nagging, monitoring, accusation, snooping, or guarding will prevent you from being hurt. If you believe in someone, believe in them completely; give them all your trust. The benefit of the doubt is essential for any relationship to work. And if you really don't trust them, if you really feel that the person is weak, deceptive, or otherwise untrustworthy, then don't associate with them. You deserve better.

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• Always examine your jealous thoughts for a sense of entitlement. Whatever it is that someone is getting and you're not (thus sparking jealousy) is something that you feel entitled to; something that you feel is rightfully yours. Instead of trying to convince someone (through jealous behavior) that they should give you what you want, think of ways you can earn it. Focus on being a good person

Zzor:
You are somehow right, a man's money doesn't really move me,if you like buy me the most expensive gifts,if I don't like you,i won't still like you

Poseidon000:
Come up with another line, bitch!

conversely; if I have ozo for a son, I'll drive him down to an orphanage home and abandon him at the gate for being the weakest link to my gene.

Alexgman1:
Its up to two years since i broke up with my ex (ALEX MARVEY). But uptil now I haven't gotten over her. She has moved on & deeply in love with someone new who she profess to be engaged to.
She has blocked me on every social media platforms but yet i still find a way to stalk her. Following her updates & uploads using a different and fake id.

Whenever we cross paths on the road she ignores me like we never knew before.
Despite the fact that it was her that messed up and did all the lies & cheating, yet i still forgave her for everything she did.

How can i move on and let go of her totally & for good because anytime i and my new girl are eating, walking, bathing & romancing i do imagine my ex.

SmartProf:
FFK should allow us to experience how 'progressives' fight. The respect for Buhari is what is truely uniting them for now. Just before 2023 they will all scatter like crackers buscuit.

Iamdemola:
The popular Allen Roundabout in Ikeja which is one of the traffic prone areas in Lagos, connecting Aromire Avenue, Allen Avenue and Awolowo Way leading to the Alausa secretariat has been demolished to ease traffic.

See pictures of the old and new round about below

vanida6:
Whattt kind of hell proposing is dis aint take dat anymore if u gonna proposed to me make it in a good way not like dis hell one dammm

PowerOfLove:
Thought it's in nollywood we watch stuff like this? Didn't know it happens in real life.

Brothers and sisters of Nigerian descent, please help your brother.
At home, we can't boast of what will be our next meal all attributed to school closure and non-receiving of salary. Serious starving in the house (myself, wife, 3 children which the last one is just 5 months old and then an in-law). If not that I am strong and resilient, some people would have contemplated something else being in my condition. Please any help you can offer would give a new hope...hope to be strong and conquer the situation. Nothing is too small please. Thanks a million.

200-7443-321
Zenith Bank
O. U.

Possiblegee:
You just signed up for nairaland account and the two first stuff you post on nairaland are sexual contents may God help you

satelliteDISH:
Another glorified city. What is so special about the pictures you put up there?

linearity:
Bros take a chill pile....

About 150,000 people died today world wide....more 90% of them were positive in their confessions and never wished to died.

The words from their mouth, their thoughts, etc was to live, but they still end up dead!

Now, if 90% who were positive end up dying, and only 10% who were negative died....by every scientific measures....it means, one stands the chance of survival if they are negative.

Am not in anyway saying that, been negative somehow makes one not to suddenly pass...am only bringing in stats to let you know that, the data did not back your conclusion....they even appear to contradict them.

phemmyfour:
buy TV, you no gree. Reunion show

okafor200:
Please do watch out for part 7

360clips:
Some years back there's was one stupid girl I met on badoo dating site. We discussed a bit and decided to hook up. The next day, I told her to come over to my place. She came without any stress. When I saw her, yellow girl with very smooth skin that's not bleached, her face wasn't to fine but she had bumbum. She looked a bit different than her pics but still manageable. After a few talks we went into my place. I went into the bathroom to shower, after a few minutes she striped and joined me in the showers. She came in the showers and came in front of me with her fresh yellow ass on my dick! Her pussy was looking very clean! My dick rose quickly. I told her I don't wanna fvuck with condom and she was hesitant was a few seconds then agreed. I grabbed her up to the wall and started fucking her raw. That's how we started knacking almost all day! From the showers,we entered my main room and continued. This hook up lasted for about 2week then we stopped. Let me get straight to the point. This girl started Stealing my valuables. After she stole my favorite sunglasses. I warned her! then that's when I saw the true nature of this bastard. This girl is from poor home o! She just started raising her voice at me! I was shocked! And the place I stay, they're like apartment flat with people in them so they can easily hear when they're fight and quarrells. This bastard telling me I'm broke and all and I have nothing. That what's the value of all these small small things she carrying that I'm warning her about. I just laughed, over my own stuff I bought with my money! I just told her one time to get the hell out of my place! If you see how this born bastard was feeling entitled to my things in such short period of time. That's when I knew how dangerous this females are. And me, I don't take shit from anybody. I dealt with her and threw her out of my place. What rubbish! This happened like 3years back. I just wanna share it so you people can learn. Especially you simps.

wow... really?

PoliteActivist:
Signs of Soulmate Connection: 37 signs you’ve found yours
Positive Life Tips Jun 29, 2020 0 9 Add to Reading List
Finding your long-lost soulmate isn’t easy, especially when there are 7 billion people on the Earth who could potentially be your other half. But meeting your soulmate isn’t exactly hard either. I believe that there is more than one soulmate out there for all of us that can make us happy in a healthy relationship.
Signs of Soulmate Connection: 37 signs you’ve found yours


By

Lachlan Brown

According to Greek mythology, Zeus split the human body into two because he feared it was too powerful. Out of the one being came man and woman, separated by Zeus in order to prevent it from rising against the gods. Legend says these two now separate beings are destined to roam the world until they find their other half. When they find each other, they will unite and their spirits will join and become that one being separated by gods.

Finding your long-lost soulmate isn’t easy, especially when there are 7 billion people on the Earth who could potentially be your other half. But meeting your soulmate isn’t exactly hard either. I believe that there is more than one soulmate out there for all of us that can make us happy in a healthy relationship.

According to Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. in Psychology Today, “the term “soulmate” implies a special affinity, understanding, or powerful bond that exists between one person and another.

Here are 37 signs I believe signify that you’ve found your soulmate; someone you can create a healthy relationship with.

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Signs of soulmate connection: 37 signs you’ve found yours

1) You Feel Safe Around Them

At the end of a busy day, there’s no other place you would rather be than with this person.

For some reason, a part of you just relaxes when you are around him or her.

All the anxieties, worries, and fear that you feel wash away when you are in their presence. When you feel like you’re having a bad day, you always know that going to them is going to pick up your mood. You don’t even have to think twice: just thinking about being with them already gives you relief.



2) They Make You Feel Complete

There are parts of you that you never understood. Maybe it’s your hot temper or your awkward jokes or your horrible cooking. Somehow, this person is able to do the things that you can’t, can feel things that you don’t precisely because you are made to complete each other.

You might be an extrovert and the other person might be an introvert. The point is, you have individual differences that, when combined, creates a complete person.

These differences don’t tear you apart. Instead, it brings you closer to each other. You make each other a better person by balancing each other’s strengths and weaknesses.



3) You Forgive Each Other

Being soulmates doesn’t save you from fights. In fact, you might be more susceptible to fights because of your opposite nature.

Despite this, you are able to fight calmly and talk through every problem that you have. And when it comes down to forgiveness, you would rather come to terms with a problem rather than hold each other guilty.



4) Their Happiness Is More Important

This is one of the important signs of a soulmate connection. Their happiness is your own. It doesn’t matter how many things you give up for the other person.

You feel incredibly compelled to make sure that their comforts come before yours. After all, loving someone is the most selfless act of all.



5) You Respect Each Other’s Differences

You might be soulmates but it doesn’t mean you’re going to agree on everything. The important thing is that your disputes on religion, culture, and ethics don’t affect the way you see each other.

You create an open environment for discussion. You allow each other to voice out their opinions without judgment.



6) You Respect Each Other’s Alone Time

Having time for yourselves is one of the most underrated elements in a relationship. Once in a while, the soul needs to be alone again without any stimulation.

When you tell your significant other that you would like to be alone, he or she respects it without any complaints.

It’s the same for you. Whenever your soulmate asks for alone time, you don’t feel the need to constantly check up on them. You trust this person with your whole heart and respect them enough to give them space.



7) You Share The Same Goals

Although having differences is healthy for any relationship, your fundamental attributes should still be the same.

You may not have the same belief about every single thing, but the tangible aspects of your lives should be quite similar.

Having similar goals connects the two of you together on a deeper level. You feel profound respect for the other person because you empathize with their goals in life.

Through this, you create a strong web of connection and support for each other.



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You Complement Each Other’s Flaws

Honoring your differences is one thing, complementing them is another. You can honor the views of your friends and family, but you can’t really change who they are. Both of you recognize individual flaws, and work together to make each other better.



Your attitude is inclusive rather than accusing. When you fight, you identify weak points in their character and find ways to help them become a better person.



9) You Know What They’re Thinking

Do you ever get those moments when you’re almost telepathic? Like when someone says something odd and you already know that they’re looking at you.

Aside from inside jokes, telepathy refers to your ability to understand what they’re thinking. They don’t have to tell you what they think because you already know.

More often than not, you complete each other’s sentences because you just know how their brain thinks.



10) You Deeply Empathize With Each Other

You feel everything that they feel on a personal level. If they tell you about a job promotion, you feel equally excited as them. This is the beauty of a soulmate connection. When they say they’re afraid, you find yourself watching out after them, wanting to protect them from the world.

More importantly, your empathy is limitless. Let’s face it, we get tired of people. We get tired of being understanding and friendly.

Compassion just runs out from time to time. With your special someone, you never have to force out empathy. It comes naturally to you, and vice-versa.



11) You Feel it in Your Gut

Without question, you know that this is the person for you. You don’t look at anyone else, and you don’t want to. They are enough. You know it’s meant to be, like a red string of fate.

No matter where you are or what you are doing, you both agree that things are just better when the two of you are together. You don’t exactly know why. It’s just a feeling.

So if you find that things suddenly seem intuivetely “right” when they are around, you might be in the presence of your soulmate.



12) You Keep Bumping into This Person

If you aren’t already together, you keep finding yourself at the same parties, events, and even coffee shops.

Conversation is electric and you feel amazing when you walk away from one another.



13) The Timing Feels Right

Whether you are already together or not, you feel it in your bones that this is the time in your life when you are going to find your soulmate.

The stars feel like they are aligning in your favour and you are ready to receive your gift!



14) Everything Feels Right With the World

You don’t question the good or the bad and you are content with how things are.

That’s how you know that you have found your soulmate: when you don’t want them to be anyone else other than who they were meant to be.



15) You Feel Like They Get You.

Regardless of your mental state, you feel like this person really understands what you are about and what you value the most.

They support you through thick and thin and know that what you are doing is important to you.



16) You Get the Feeling They Have Been Around a lot Longer Than They Have.

An interesting thing that happens to soulmates is that they always get the feeling that they have been around each other before.

One or both of you will comment that you feel like you’ve known each other forever.

You’ll laugh at how you didn’t know what to do without them and you might even have some flashbacks of lives you entered into together previously.



17) You Are There to Help Each Other

You cannot only see yourself in one another’s shoes, but you feel like you’ve been there yourself.

You get one another and understand that there are going to be hard times, but you are there to help each other through it.



18) You Accept Their Flaws Without Question

Everyone has flaws, but not everyone accepts or acknowledges those flaws. You are very aware of your own flaws, as well as your soulmate’s, and you love them just the same.

Maybe you love them even more because it is the flaws that make us unique and truly human.



19) You Support Their Goals

Whether they want to be an Olympic runner or carpenter, you are there cheering them on and they do the same for you.

Not every person grows up dreaming of marrying a doctor or a lawyer – there are plenty of gifts people have to share with the world and you want your soulmate to do just that.



20) They Understand Where You’re at in Life

Whether you are flying high or riding low, your soulmate gets where you are in life.

They never try to get you out of a funk because they know how important it is to just support you at whatever point you are in life.

They never try to steal your thunder when you are riding high because they know that you deserve to feel like that and they share in that joy with you.

Whether you are near or far, your soulmate gets what you are about and doesn’t try to change that about you.



21) You Love Them as a Whole Person.

You’ll know you’ve found your soulmate when you accept a person as who they really are and don’t try to change anything about them.

Loving someone, or even liking them a lot is about giving them the space to be themselves.

If you are perfectly happy with their flaws and their awesomeness, you have found your soulmate.



22) You Don’t Feel Threatened by Tough Conversations

Even when the going gets tough, you don’t worry that it signifies a breakdown in the relationship.

Because you are comfortable with one another, you trust that everything being said is important and necessary.



23) You Can Be Intense With Each Other

Whether you are agreeing on a hot topic or are fighting to the bitter end about something that you believe in, you’ll find that conversations and even interactions with your soulmate are intense all of the time.

This can be intimidating and exhausting for a lot of people who are not used to that kind of interaction.

If you find yourself becoming flabbergasted with someone, it might not be because you dislike them, but because you are intensely connected to them and they could be your soulmate.



24) You Respect One Another’s Need for Alone Time

It can be hard to tell someone you love that you want time away, but if you are soulmates, they’ll get it. They’ll even be glad to have some alone time for themselves, as well.



25) You Don’t Care if Others Want Them

You don’t get jealous because you know that soulmates are meant to be together. While others may come around, your guy or gal is true to you no matter what.



26) You Can Voice Your Opinion

You can tell them that shirt is ugly and they won’t get offended. And they can tell you the same. That’s pretty powerful.

Perhaps you can spend the afternoon buying not-ugly shirts together!



27) It Always Feels Like You Against the World

No matter what the two of you are up to, you feel comfortable going forward because you know that you have each other’s backs.

Whether you are applying for a job or you are paying down debt, your soulmate will get all of it and be there to support you.

You’ll never feel alone again when you have your soulmate by your side.



28) You Don’t Threaten One Another

You never make them feel small or insignificant in your life. You never talk about breaking up or divorce.

There’s no need to belittle the relationship that way when you are soulmates.



29) Making Each Other Happy is Enough

You don’t need anything from them except to let them love you. You are happy to love them up close or far away.



30) You Never Question Your Security.

You know that no matter where you are and what you are doing your soulmate will be with you.

A phone call from afar or standing by your side, your soulmate will go to great lengths to remind you that you are worth whatever it is you desire and will help you find your way to it and protect you all along the way.



31) You Don’t Remember What Things Were Like Before

It’s hard for soulmates to tell stories from “before” they found each other. In your mind, you’ve always been together.

It’s like parents who have children remembering events before children were born: “who had the kids that night we drank so much and passed out on the floor?”

Oh, nobody. The kids weren’t born. It’s like that with soulmates, too. There is no before.



32) You Listen and So Do They.

You’ll know you found your soulmate when the person in front of you listens with all their heart and all their head and knows just the right thing to say and do.

A kind word, or no words at all, your soulmate will know when and how to fill the void to make you feel safe and loved.



33) You Think About Each Other A Lot

Soulmates often recount that they knew this relationship was special because they constantly thought about one another and wanted to be together even when they were angry or upset.



34) You Know When it’s Time to Pull Out the Apology

You don’t let pride get in the way of moving the relationship forward. You know when it’s time to say you are sorry and they do too.



35) You Do it All Over Again

If you had to do it all over again the same way, you would make the journey together.



36) You Feel Like You Were Meant to Share Your Life With One Another

You don’t doubt that this is the person for you.



37) Your Partner Takes All Your Stress Away

At the end of the day, no matter how bad it was, you can always come home to a safe and loving partner who is going to support you in whatever you need.

XXLMANDIGO:
Anus



Bros Na Onus....





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[ author=lawalosky post=91184022]If you want to shoot, shoot don't talk..
Is better for you all to breakaway as soon as possible and start thinking of next plan ahead, than waiting. The outcome of the NEC meeting has clearly shown you all where you people belong, it is now left for you to break and start putting further plans in place or stick on leaking buharist a$$ until y'all want be allowed to visit or come anywhere near villa.
It has always been buharist plan to deal with you (tinubuist) right from unset... the anus is on you now...
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Rest my case

Ladylite:
Your lack of sense is hurting my laptop.

So that's how easy it is to take the baby, bah?
You will breast the baby and change diapers right?
U will take the baby to hospital for all necessary vaccination and treatment right?

Why do you use your short term memory to think about long term decisions?


Grow da fvck up and stop deceiving yaself by thinking with ya deek

Vickho6:
U deserves an accolades OP... thumb up for u

Nice write up....

If u don't have money,,, forget all this.........

iLegendd:
@Henry22, there is no lockdown here. To me, lockdown is something I have been practicing for many years now.

I hardly mingle or go out because most Nigerians are untrustworthy. Too evil for my liking. Though, I do go out sha or travel, but that is if it's worth it.

I find peace and joy being alone 98% of the time.

So, it's not about lockdown. Even if Corona stops today, I'll still be indoors and enjoying my life because I don't have a job and I'll never have a job. I prefer creating them for those who love jobs while I enjoy my time.

Time is precious. Happiness is divine.