₦airaland Forum

xandy84:
@Op.. It is not the duty if federal government to provide water.. You need to educate yourself on the item of exclusive list of the constitution.

Thanks for the info.

However, lack of [regular ]water supply is a huge problem regardless of under whose jurisdiction it has fallen.

Now that the elections are over, I am sure everybody has in mind the problem areas they would like the new administration to give more attention.

Our problems are many; one can only just mention those that have been there for ages and become embarrassing.

First, I would like the president to tackle the chronic problem of very poor power supply. Industries and other activities depend on it. The technology is no secret.
It is there for the asking.

Second, I don't know if I should place water supply above roads but we do need good roads and regular water supply.

Third, the syndrome of abandoned projects has to stop. It wastes our money. This actually comes under corruption.

Fourth, our national pride , now defunct, the Nigeria Airways has to come alive again. Nigerians are among the most travelled people.
To think we do not have our own airline is embarrassing.

On a last note, it would be worthwhile if the administration would set up an online forum - you can call it "The People's Forum" - where it would gauge
the opinions of Nigerians on a wide range of issues.

What do you think, my people?

SisiNini:
Cooking is like carrying out an experiment with which you will definitely come out with a result (either good or bad). As a good cook, you would have paid your dues to 'burnt offerings', salty/peppery food e.t.c before becoming the Master Chef you are today...

Growing up, I remembered preparing Moi-moi as a surprise dinner for my parents... I peeled like 2 congos of beans and packaged it in just 4 nylons...#LOL... Dem no born two people well make dem finish one wrap... When I served my Dad, he was surprised cos the moi-moi was so hard and it was looking like a very big stone in the plate...

I also remembered when av not mastered how to prepare semo; OMG! I always boil plenty water and later divide it into two pots (as a quick alternative)... I do this in case there are big lumps in the semo... Na to quickly pour the whole content in the pot inside a black nylon and throw it in the dustbin before anyone comes... These are the period I always volunteer to empty the dustbin... #LMAO

My cousin told me about an incident whereby she prepared one nice vegetable and egusi soup... While waiting to serve her parents, she just discovered the pepper where she kept it... Cos her parents were already at the dinning table and to avoid reprimands, she quickly pour the raw pepper in the stew and serve her parents like that... She said I need to see the way they were drinking water that day... #LMAO

All these experiences make us the better cook we are today... Please, you are free to add yours... #Cheers

One day I decided to cook beans.

I threw all the condiments, including oil, salt, pepper and crayfish, into the pot.

I boiled and boiled and boiled.

The beans kept bouncing around in the pot without getting soft.

The initial water dried up; I added more water and piled more heat but nothing changed.

After about 2 hours, I threw away the still hard beans.

I realised later that I shouldn't have added oil in the beginning.

The oil coated the beans and made it impossible to absorb water necessary to soften the beans.

I never forget the experience.

Nyceguy92:
[/quote][quote author=sisisioge post=31431547]His people shall be your people, his church shall be your church, his God shall be your God( hopefully, you already serve the same God), etc...

End of discussion.

My people say a woman has no church until she is married.

It is very odd ,for whatever reason, for the wife to attend a different church on a Sunday.

It creates the impression that the husband lacks control in the family and portrays the woman in bad light.

How will they explain the division to their children?

Some women are attracted to the party atmosphere of some churches, where it is preached that without working for it,
you can become rich tomorrow and live in the best houses as long as you believe.

They give the excuse that they no longer get spiritual growth in their current church.

It does not matter if the follows the woman to her church or the woman follows the man,
the point here is that they should attend religious services as a family.

emusmith:
Sometimes we forget to check up on my parents because we are "too busy". Take a few minutes today and call your parents.
Perhaps, do it now!
No more procrastination!

When I lost my dad, I wished I had spent more time chatting with him like we did whenever I came back from the city.

Call and/or spend more time with your parents if you still have them for when they are gone , the quality time spent together
is like a healing balm.

[quote author=pumacy post=30327295]This lady is not the only one with this problem.
Many marriages suffer from sexual non-satisfaction mostly due to the male factor.
Many who commented here mere ly made remarks that do not pass for solutions - the lady wants solutions.
By not lasting beyond 3 minutes could mean early physical exhaustion or ejaculating too early.
I tend to think it is early ejaculation.
If your husband is not on any medication that reduces libido or physical strength and eats regular food like any other person, he should be fine.

Here are my recipes:

1. It is all in the mind - do not be carried away by the pleasure, control it. Your man should learn to take his mind off the pleasure
when it starts to build up towards orgasm. How, you may ask? Do simple arithmetic, think of a problem you need to solve and try solving it.
This will reduce the drive in the direction of ejaculation.
Take your mind back to the `business` when the sensation requires boosting.

2. Materials, materials, materials.....
Incidentally, parents do not teach how to sleep with a woman or man to their kids. They pick up the art along the line.
Resource materials abound in magazines, novels, videos, etc. Explore them.

3. pre-intimacy and the female body....
Many women attain the height of pleasure through pre-intimacy.
Although you may discuss or suggest to your husband how to satisfy you, much of the discoveries are for the man to make by himself.

4. Timing....
Lovemaking requires energy and physical exertion. One will not get the best from a tired individual.
The setting also counts. The atmosphere needs to be relaxed and enough time available. The more festive, the better.


Here are some of the things that turn women on:

*Playing with their clitoris - easy guys, don't be rough - with the fingers or tongue.
*Massaging their back and neck down toward the - you know what I mean?
*Stroking the thighs - if you grab and pinch, it will be painful.
*The ear is very sensitive. You can use your tongue on it.
*Don't forget the toes. Tickle them with your mouth/tongue.
*Notice that I did not mention the nipples in the beginning. Nipple stimulation alone hardly elicits responses in the beginning.

Many women are afraid to bring up issues like this for discussion with their men because they are afraid it may backfire.
Your husband may be happy to listen to your concerns and be willing to learn/improve.

Guys, this is my humble submission.
In this matter, one cannot know it all. What works for you?

MadCow1: 1. Read alot of Best Seller Novels.

2. Stop watching Nigerian Movies. #StopIt!

3. Watch more American Movies, preferably British movies (cos the Americans speak horrible english especially the Blacks).

4. Stop writing in short texts.. E.g: hw r u? It affects your spelling ability. [right][/right][s][/s][b][i][/i]

5. STop speaking Pidgin English entirely. [/b]

I quite agree with the writer. You need to read materials written in formal English. My preference would be best seller novels, newspapers and magazines.

It also helps to listen to radio dramas and radio panel discussion programmes.

It also helps if you are in an environment where English is used to communicate more often. You have to practise it.

The majority of the responses to this man`s predicament have refused to be realistic and only glossed over the issue. This man did not say he never loved his wife or derives pleasure in unfaithfulness.

The issue is that his wife, out of some new found religious convictions, is making herself no longer attractive. Please, let`s face the truth here, I know very well that even in those christian Women Fora, part of what they teach is for women to make sure they look good to their husbands otherwise the more attractive younger ones will take over. Now, if a man says his wife is making herself unattractive to him, who are we to dispute it? Take note that I am not talking of unattractiveness due to aging.

The issue of jewelries, makeup, trousers, etc, is one in which there are differences in opinion. For me, the application of a moderate dose of makeup and a sprinkling of jewelries in the conventional places enhance the female look. As for the trousers, go to the Western World and see for yourselves how the women dress up in trousers. Is Christianity not universal and the Bible the same?

Many women confess that they feel more secure in trousers. In any case, where in the scripture was trousers allocated to men? Do men in some cultures in Nigeria not tie wrapper, wear beads and bangles?

There is absolutely no need to ask the man to try and find a way to continue to love his wife or accommodate her as in joining her in Bible studies. These advice are at best myopic, easier said than done. This is my advice to my friend:

1. Tell your wife how you feel about her appearance. Convince her that you like the way she used to dress. You are her husband and have the final approval regarding what she wears and how she appears. Attractiveness is an important factor in marriage and being religious or spiritual is not synonymous with a dishevelled appearance.

2. If she does it change, get some of her friends to talk to her. If you have marriage sponsors, let them know also.

3. If still no headway, report her to her parents. They should be able to talk sense into her.

Please be candid, if your sister, brother, daughter or son is involved, what would you do?