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It's an illusion, and you have been swept away by it.

First of all, we often get to hear more about serious stuff than the flimsy. When things don't work out in a bf/gf relationship, only a few persons would come to NL to ask for directions. They simply breakup without much ado.

Marriage is different from the regular relationship. You both have a covenant written on paper. It's a sacred arrangement, not the trial and error of relationships. What you mentioned is advice, not the action taken by the said mate. Since when advice (which is by no means unanimous) become the same as the divorce itself?

Some persons date as many as 3-5 persons in a year. Can you say the same about marriage?

Mtscheeeeew...

Ishilove:
Royver, this is what I call Satanic gentleness. If I were the lady I'd be very very afraid, because if I act like that when I catch my husband in a 'compromising position', then it means I'm up to no good. I'm planning evil.

She should better broach the subject and clear the air before he goes all Jack the Ripper on her cheating heinie.

not everyone is into violence though...

Lmao! Love this. Deafening silence when she's expecting thunder.

I think it's either he is too disappointed with her and such detachment from reality is his own wall of defence, or he has been suspecting all along and has filed it away for future use.

The woman sef. She was caught in a compromising situation, he postponed the talk and she just rested. She's very unwise sha. Trust me, he hasn't forgotten. He probably is giving her time to make amends on her own.

I cannot say what he'd do, but he'd do something if she doesn't. She better act fact for her own good.

Shugaryme:
You know na

*shy*
We need our own personal tree for this NL o. Biiiiig tree with biiiiig shade, and birds singing us tunes of love from within its boughs

Shugaryme:
Lol... Natural

hehehe...

Shugaryme:
Hmmm...*thinking*
Em...I would like to...

Sit under an e-tree and grab a drink

natural drink or processed

Shugaryme:

nice 74 sparkling teeth

Where would you like to go out to? NL movies? Sit under an e-tree, or remain here and grab a drink?

Shugaryme:
I'm here sugar

Good morning, how was your ⓝⓘⓖⓗⓣ?

lol. It was ⓝⓘⓒⓔ. You know na

Zeemoor:
Whoever liked the quoted post is a genius
Mamcita on fire!!!
~
Men are sadistic because the world expects so much from them?
Hian

Lmao! Be nice

Na wa o.

They both were wrong. The dude should have just helped her, though I have this feeling the woman may have actually been the one that wasn't too clear initially about her destination. Pregnant women can be very difficult to handle.

That said, he was a total animal punching a pregnant woman. Animals lack restraint.

A woman with a husband has no business with another man's organ. If a random man grabs her bosom in public, would she smile at him and walk away? She deserves what she got, for her lack of discernment. Should be glad she's alive to learn her lesson.

^^ Lol! Some guys would never miss an opportunity to chyke babe. Na wa o

Good morning all...

Now where is my sweetie? Shugaryme where are you?

Jnrbayerno:
But he brought the money for the food and moreover why will you quarrel with your wife and allow it to last for hours

bringing the money for the food means nothing. Do you have to eat everything your money buys?

If a couple have an angry disagreement, they shouldn't pretend about it because of food. It doesn't make any sense to eat and then resume the folly of quarrelling. They ought to leave food first and work on their differences. Afterwards they can even feed each other if they like.

Unless of course you didn't mean quarrels, maybe just minor slights, or the silent treatment without an apparent cause.

bestdeals0 how far?

Oluwarantiwa:
Fwend asin friend

write it well then. Such spellings take away any seriousness your post might have had.

mhyra:
Itx obvious..itx de Men.
They've gat plenty things to think about..
How to please their families.
How to please their girlfriends\wives{number one of man headache} ..
they've gat to become someone great in life. If not, they would be looked down on..
They've to hustle and hustle and hustle.. Why? The world expects so much from them..

But the average woman is only worried about her face and curves.. They believe if they've got that, a 'potential' man would just come to marry them off.. And they'll live happy n eva after!

awww... Don't you just love girls who give 'obvious' answers to questions they don't understand?

Sadism isn't a gender thing. Is a human disorder.

How come I missed the survey that formed the basis for this 'fact'?

On point except...

Jnrbayerno:
•Not eating their meal because they had a quarrel with their wives.

how can you have a quarrel (not just misunderstanding o, quarrel!) with someone and then settle down to eat her food? Quarrels are angry and heated disagreements.

No vex, I'd rather settle the matter first before eating. Hunger doesn't control me.

Now that you mentioned it, I think it's well deserved. If you are addressed as a LovePeddler, it likely is because you are dressed as one.

Now stop whining and earn the respect you desire.

One cat between two mirrors.

Butt isn't even the problem. She looks manly. No hips at all.

Lol... You dey open your eyes? Na wa o.

It's not awkward that a guy spends so much time peeping into girls' profiles, but it's awkward that most girls spend so much time on romance section. Smh... Were you thinking of physics while doing that?

Couldn't you have spent that time making meaningful contributions to meaningful threads on sections you deem meaningful?

Una hypocrisy ehn...

Wtf is 'fwend'?

All these 2go children don enter NL

Zeemoor:
May God direct your steps and help you in your 'ultimate search' for the right one

I've found her

Vivly:
No. I think they want a humble, loyal and submissive woman that is independent and does not depend on them financially.

hmmm...

Zeemoor:
"They manage to never stay single for long : a month or two passes and… poof! – they’re in a new relationship "

well, I think such persons haven't made up their minds what they want, so they would rather taste from as many pots as possible to increase their chances of finding and recognising it.

Is this because you only dive into meaningful relationships that lasts for along period of time, or you avoid dating like the plague so as not to get hurt or because you wanted your undivided attention on something other than a relationship?

lol. Hurt? Nah... I just see relationships as serious business, so I try to give it my all. But she has to be special enough, not just any girl with a pretty face and nice figure. There are many of those around, but there isn't enough energy to go round many girls

There's a certain sort of connection that has to be there. It takes a while for it to become very evident, and it takes even longer to severe. For that reason it's just not possible for me to move from one relationship right into another.

Your patience is amazing

what is worth doing is worth doing well.

DEagle1:
My question is actually 'does the name that people bear affect them in life or determine their destiny, fortunes, or progress or in life?'

In the bible we can see several people whose 'name' could not allow/permit them to experience blessing or make progress in life; Abram, Jacob, Jabez, Simon, Saul to name a few. What's your take on this?

out of your list, only Abram had a name change, and this was simply to reflect God's promise, not because it had the power to limit God's blessings.

Jacob simply had an alias, for several years later, God called himself the God of Abraham, Isaac and JACOB. Jabez' name wasn't changed but he got blessed anyway. Simon Peter was still called Simon by Jesus after his resurrection. Saul simply started using his Roman name, Paul, more often.

Names are simply names, and most times our life and actions define our 'names', and not the other way round. Some persons named Goodluck have died in accidents. Some named Elijah have proved by their actions that they do not truly acknowledge God.

I don't think there's anything 'lucky' about bumping into one relationship after another in supersonic succession. But then, probably I'm the one assuming wrongly that you mean 'serious relationships'.

If a person spends a year or more after the end of a relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean she (or he. I'd use she here because girls often get to choose from a ready-made willing list unlike guys) ...is being choosy. Every issue has more than one side. She may not even be ready for another relationship yet, and is wise enough to realize it.

There's also the issue of vulnerability shortly after the end of a serious relationship, especially if it ended in hurt. It's not very wise to begin another immediately, as it would eventually crumble when the neediness fades.


Okay I'm talking too much. Now your questions...

1) Of course how long it takes to find what you are looking for, depends both on how readily it can be found and how much of it you are looking for. Ultimately, a person looking for one rare but important trait would likely search longer than one looking for a torrent of common traits.

High standards are not necessarily unrealistic, and the absence of a romantic relationship doesn't spell 'ill-luck', unless a relationship is all there is to being alive.


2) I do not have a wealth of past relationships to fall back on, so your 'average time' is a bit scary, .

I think it depends on many factors, each of which is very much personal.... What kind of relationship you are looking for, what you truly want out of a relationship, how deeply involved you were in the last one, how deeply involved you want to be in the next... The list goes on.

I look out for depth in relationships. If a relationship doesn't work out, it would take some time to crawl out of that depth... some time to thoroughly determine what went wrong... time to modify my list of expectations... time to pick out the next person and plan my strategy while observing her from a comfy distance till I'm sure she's the one... Till it's time to move in for the kill.

For me, 6 months is not even enough.

pretydiva:
A woman's pride is her virginity.dats d best gift she can eva gve 2 her husband

best gift? I disagree. Loyalty is much more important, and so is respect.

Ladies, please your pride shouldn't be between your legs. Be proud of your head and your heart, and probably hands.