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alfa njona e nbere irugbon (alfa dey burn, you dey ask 'wey him beard?')

With a sick country and a sick president, you are asking for vision 2020.

OP

Kosovo is entitled to his opinion, that changes nothing. The fact that you, I or anyone disagree with him, should not rob him of his right to have an opinion.

Instead of opening this thread calling on Seun to remove him for having an opinion, you should have argued your different opinion with him on the other thread.

BTW, How are you sure majority of Nairalanders including Seun do not share same opinion with him, not saying they do, & even if they do, they are all entitled to their opinion.

Can you imagine that?

Nonsense!!!

na today?

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=373335.msg5236109#msg5236109 date=1262458989]In the other side resting with his ancestors. [/quote]Happy New Year mama-gee.

only mama-gee can give such a cool answer.

. . . And the thread derailed  as usual

Wonder why we can not use this thread to discuss meaningfully on different possible sources of income from the states of Nigeria.

There are more than enough threads on this forum discussing ethnicity and divisions. Why cant we just focus on the subject of this particular thread?

Its just plain rubbish.

So we have no right to know where he is and what exactly is wrong with him

but Nigeria foot the medical bills of this missing man. NONSENSE!

kosovo:
No Comment!

No comment too

Happy New year All.

@Ayinba1

Good work well done.

After the death of Abacha, I taught we have seen the end of the tunnel light. How did we get here again?

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HAPPY NEW YEAR NIGERIANS. !!!

Welcome to 2010.






I will join you in the new year in 6hrs.

Kilonso:
@0AM4J, what on God's green earth are you talking about?

You people should understand the subject. It is not about whether people should marry or nor. It's asking if marriage is overrated. I have no problem with people getting married. Personally I believe in marriage too.

But I think it is overated, because, a lot of people approach it as if it is a mater of life and death, especially many African women (no insult intended)

Many people are getting married because they believe after certain age, whether you can afford it or not, whether you have all it takes or not, you just have to get married.

This is wrong. Anyone going into marriage should be ready, and be very sure he /she knows exactly why he/she is getting married and can afford all it takes. And not just get married for marriage sake.

We must accept the fact that, not everybody has what it takes to get married. Some are born eunuchs, some were made eunuchs and some other made themselves eunuchs. Mat.19:12

If you do not have all it takes (love, finance, emotions, commitment, sacrifice, faithfulness etc) for marriage to work, dont do it. Your life can be beautiful and fulfilling without it.

28Schweet:
Thank u nairalanders 4 your bluntness,its appreciated.may be I dont want 2 let the nigger go. But pray tell how do i let go of sum1 i still love,even when he does me wrong i love him.2010 is almost here,time enough 4 me 2 face reality.2nite Im getting mine,if it makes me cheap so be it,he's the only man ive bin wit,& my kids deserve 2 c in the new year with their father,as wrong as he is.

1st the subject of your thread should have been 'I dont know how to let go' The problem is with you not with him.

Well, if you want to continue like this, its your choice, but be ready to carry the cross for the rest of your life - cos he is not likely to change.

If you truly want to let go. Simply stop him, move on with your life, and get into a new relationship.


@!amebo,
you sure you still dey yaba left so? that your advice na made in Vatican o .



HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERY ONE.

[quote author=becomrich; link=topic=373829.msg5224755#msg5224755 date=1262274134]it is possible. but see map[/quote]Even our Becomerich believes it. Its looking good already.

Emperorolu, what do you think about the idea on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-373829.0.html

I think I like the idea. can you tailor you coup in favour/support of the idea?

Interesting. At least let the dream start. Reality might set in later. Who knows.

Quick suggestions:

The name Nigeria should not reflect at all, I suggest UNITED STATES OF GREENLAND, or just GREENLAND, or  OCEANLAND  (after the atlantic ocean)

The green color is ok but should be married with another colour  like black, or blue (blue for the ocean, black for black people / the black crudel, green for vegetatation and white for peace )

The people of Kwara, Kogi and Benue will decide on their own if they want to join the south or go with the north

Our first official language will be pidgin english, follow by the Standard english

Let the dream begin.  

Arizona1:
hadexman and justfool not justwise, people like you guys must be banned from making post here because you don't have manners. If your parents did not give you home training, go and get it somewhere else and stop insulting people you don't know on this site.
This is not an avenue for child's play.

Be Warned!

Will you keep off. You have no idea what these scammers were doing in this forum, we know them and their tricks, or are you related to the scammer?

Pls keep to your auto section. Travel forum has 0 tolerance to scamming.

[quote author=becomrich; link=topic=373184.msg5221724#msg5221724 date=1262231844]Here is it. I am not a church goer, I not a church worker , I am born again. The real issue is greed and foolishness. 
And when one partner is proud and arrogant. It kills a marriage.
You cant only have a good marriage if you have two humble and honest people. If the other people is a liar and a cheat, you can have a good marriage.
If a person is arrogant and proud. How can they have good marriage.

If your marriage depend on your pastor or church or parent. You would never have a good marriage. Look I have an aunty whose whole life was destroyed by a pastor. I am telling you the truth. if i am telling a lie her cousin use to be with the NTA, you know her. The pastor was a 419 pastor. He was a pastor because he was collecting thier money and telling them lies.  That why you find me, critic pastor alot. Till this moment I am talking this aunty of mine, never had a baby. She should be about 60 years now. Her married got destroyed because she assume that all pastors are men of God. That not truth. If a pastors is looking for the down fall of your marriage. How can that man be a pastors.

You see let me put it this way have you seen Pastor Adeboye wife going to Bishop Oyedepo church every sunday?  No. If Pastor Adeboye start going to Bishop Oyedepo church , Do you think Bishop Oyedepo would question it. If he is a man of God? But if he does not question it. He is a false pastor. It means , he is more interested in the tithe and offering you offer him than your life.

What Am I saying is that God has a principle. I dont care if you are in North america. There is a principle God as laid in the bible if one person in a relationship does not follow it. The marriage is over.

Take your external family out of your marriage. If your sister, mother , father , pastor and brother are now the people, who determine your life  is finished. Look your brother only care for his children, so is your sister. When they say kill one person. They would shoot your child and let thier only child live. This is wisdom. It is like a story of a witch, they say bring your husband let us eat today, why dont you ask them, why they have not brought thier own husband, so that you can eat him first.??

Look, if you give pastor adeboye a gun and in a boat one person need to live. Your child or pastor adeboye child. 1 second history is made. Why, the yorubas says ti eni te ni, te to te to.  Well I dont  know how to explain this in english. But its means what is your is your and what is others is others.


If you give an igboman the chance to kill an igboman or kill a yorubaman to save one. The igbo man would shoot down the yoruba man several times. Why? They igbos would call it "Nkem". That how life and marriage is. If you take your partner like your, it would work. If your put other thing above your partner like mother, sister, brother, pastor , church and others. Your marriage would never work.

I say it again. The igbos call it   " Nkem"[/quote]lol. Preach it.    Its ok to use use some maps for further illustration and clarity  

Edited

^^^He will be 70 by Dec. 31st. The mandatory age for retirement

Sammy are you still in Barbados? edited

bidemi12:
I do not know which planet you are from but i do not know anybody in my circle who is of marriage age and is single and happy about it. You are talking as if you are 10 years old. Even Nigerians wey don tey die for abroad no get that messed up mentality. like i said i sympathize with you. I sense you are posting for the gallery.

Now I see see your shallowness and I regret wasting my time responding to you.

One advice. Wake up & look around you. You are more than 25yrs behind. You actually need lots of sympathy.

Eight Supereme Court justices absent from Katsina-Alu’s inauguration

EIGHT of the 15 justices of the Supreme Court were absent from the inauguration of Justice Aloysius Katsina-Alu as the new Chief Justice of Nigeria at the main courtroom of the apex court in Abuja on Wednesday.

No official of the Nigerian Bar Association was also in attendance, although it could not be confirmed if any invitation was extended to the organisation.

No explanation was offered for the absence of the eight justices and the NBA by the CJN, Justice Idris Kutigi, who administered the oath of office on Katsina -Alu.

However, our correspondents gathered that the eight justices — Niki Tobi, George Oguntade, Maryam Mukhtar, Francis Tabai, Francis Ogbuagwu, Olufunmilola Adekeye, C. Chukwumah Eneh and Walter Onneghen — did not attend the ceremony because of the short notice .

The inauguration was initially scheduled to take place on Thursday (today) but was suddenly changed to Wednesday (yesterday) by the National Judicial Council.

Sources said that some of the eight justices had travelled out of Abuja, ostensibly to observe the Christmas holidays.

The justices of the court present were Kutigi, Dahiru Musdapher, Muntaka Coomassie, James Ogebe, Mahmoud Muhammad, Afolabi Fabiyi and Tanko Muhammed.

Four governors — Rotimi Amaechi (Rivers); Bukola Saraki (Kwara); Gabriel Suswam; (Benue) and Timipriye Sylva, (Bayelsa) — were also in attendance.

The Attorney-General of the Federation and Minister of Justice, Mr. Michael Aondoakaa (SAN), and his Labour and Productivity counterpart, Mr. Adetokunbo Kayode (SAN); also witnessed the ceremony.

Speaking after administering the oath on Katsina-Alu and the President of the Court of Appeal, Isa Salami, Kutigi said that the controversy over who should be the appropriate authority to administer the oath between him and President Umaru Yar’Adua was unnecessary.

Some Senior Advocates of Nigeria had said that Kutigi would be breaching convention by swearing in Katsina-Alu as the new CJN.

They argued that since the President had always carried out such the assignment, it would amount to an illegality if Kutigi, in his official capacity as the CJN, swore in his successor.

Some other prominent lawyers said that Kutigi could not perform the ceremony since his tenure as the CJN would expire at midnight on December 31 (today). They argued that it would amount to the country having two Chief Justices of Nigeria if he went ahead to swear in Katsina-Alu.

But Kutigi said on Wednesday that he was still in charge and that the Oath Act had already taken care of the issue.

He assured Nigerians that the judiciary would continue to do its best.

Kutigi said, “I will retire by midnight of December 31, 2009. The law allows me to go when I am 70 years old. I don‘t want mischief makers to go and write in the newspapers that there are two CJNs. There is only one CJN. I am still in charge.

”For the first time in the history of this country, the CJN is swearing in an in-coming CJN. This is the first time. It is not the fault of anybody. The law has always been there. Only that we have never used it.

”It is to be done by either the President or the Chief Justice of Nigeria. We had never had any reason in the past for the CJN to do it. But the reason has come. The law is there. The issue has generated a lot of comments from those who should know.

“All you need to do is look at the Oath Act.The law is clear. The constitution is also very clear. We are applying the law for the first time.”

But the NBA disagreed with him, saying he cannot claim to be in charge after swearing in Katsina-Alu.

The association, which insisted through its President, Mr. Rotimi Akeredolu (SAN), that it was illegal for Kutigi to swear in his successor, said, “The moment a new CJN takes his oath of office, he automatically becomes the substantive CJN, while the former CJN bows out.”

Akeredolu also told one of our correspondents on the telephone that the NBA stayed away from the ceremony because it did not want to be part of an illegality.

He said, “We don’t attend illegal settings. I said it earlier on that the arrangement was faulty and might lead to a situation where we would now have two CJNs at the same time. And what do we now have?

“The incumbent CJN cannot swear in his successor. By his own decision, Justice Kutigi ceases to be the CJN as from today, having allowed another CJN to take his oath of office.

“If he (Kutigi) now says that he is still in charge, it is patently illegal and all those who have been saying that there is nothing wrong with the arrangement are lending their weight to illegality. This thing may lead to a constitutional crisis.

“In any case, three processes are involved in this matter. The CJN-designate must first of all be appointed by the President, who will thereafter send his name to the Senate for confirmation. After the necessary confirmation, the President will now issue a letter of appointment preceding the inauguration. It is after these processes that the CJN- designate will now be inaugurated by the President.

“Does the President issue the letter from Saudi Arabia? It is only the President that can inaugurate the CJN.”

However, a source at the NJC claimed that the letter appointing Katsina-Alu as the CJN was written by the Secretary to the Federal Government, Alhaji Yayale Ahmed.

The source, who asked not to be named, told one of our correspondents that Katsina-Alu’s appointment had been “perfected.”

Section 231(1) of the 1999 Constitution states that, “The appointment of a person to the office of the CJN shall be made by the President on the recommendation of the NJC subject to confirmation of such appointment by the Senate.”

Source

GL:
well, i believe marriage is great and that it is overrated. i don't think i'm lonely, unhappy, immature or scared of commitment. saying marriage is overrated isn't so much a reflection of the actual importance of marriage, as it is a reflection of people's perception of the importance of marriage. so it is overrated in the sense that people act like it's a do-or-die affair. like u might as well marry just anybody rather than stay single. or like singleness is a curse. i've seen so many unhappy marriages but i don't think that's enough reason to avoid marriage. however, it's better to be happily unmarried than to be unhappily married.

Exactly. Thank you GL.

bidemi12:
The worst thing in life is to one day wake up one morning and you realise that you are 60 years old and start to wonder what in God's name you used your life to do. Only lonely, unhappy and immature people who fear commitment will actually believe that marriage is overated. I'm sure you will get married one day and if you hold this opinion then why do it in the first place? If you say you wont get married then you lie. If you are already married and still hold this opinion then you must lead a very sad life. I sympathize. 

You judge what you don't know. Speak for yourself. and keep your sympathy.

Where on earth did you get the bold from? Please speak with facts and not with  some silly conjunctures of your brain

Why would someone wakes up at 60 and not be happy simply because he never got married?

You don't need marriage certificate to show you are responsible. The certificate is only a piece of paper.

You can maintain an healthy relationship and even have children without getting married.

I know lots of unmarried people who are happy living single. And many more married who regretted getting married.

I didn't ask nobody not to get marry, I only advocate for people to be sure of the reason they are doing it.

Well am not sure of any changes. You best option is to go to any of the IIATA agents and confirm.

What I know is that if you are not staying up to 6 months, you don't need visa.

check this Delta Airline link. Indicate your nationalities and destinations, it will give you some information

http://www.delta.com/planning_reservations/plan_flight/international_travel_information/visa_passport_information/

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=366055.msg5220744#msg5220744 date=1262216903]I laugh at Igbo Wife,lol. [/quote]Because you suddenly saw your picture

Fhemmmy:
I beg.
She was disvirgined by one of the guys in the hood - big deal
She had slept with some of the guys in the hood - big deal
She can take care of her man - blessing
She loves you - blessing
She is not that educated - bling of a problem, if you love her enuf, help her to get educated.
She has begged me - What else do you want?

Man sleep with woman, woman sleep with men, i am sick and tired of pple using that as excuse to dump a woman, so you will quit the relationship and you too will tell the next dude that wanna date him, that she is your conquest, what a wickedness that some of us men put the ladies thru.
I think you need to learn to love her and live with it, but if you cant, then, leave her alone.
At least, i am sure you knew, she wasnt educated before you slept with her, but your mind and heart was clouded then by what she has btw her legs and i guess she was so cute that you educated mind forgot that she wasn't educated . . . . .that is what i called wickedness, and i am sure y'all will stand to apologize one day to her.
I wish someone cld help her to get education and be someone in life.

You have all the advice you need. take it or leave it. All the best.

@OP

I know is not that easy to let go your husband of 6yrs and the father of your kids.

But take it or leave it, if he is a cheat, he will always be, nothing/no one can change that.

So its your choice. As far i s I can see from your posts, you have not trully made up your mind to let him go.

Think, long and deep, and make up your mind. Do you want reconciliation (and accept him as he is) or separation? The decision is yours and yours only.

Fhemmy and I took time analyzing the reasons why people get married on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-351884.0.html

The truth is that a lot of people don't even know why they are getting married, or they are getting married for all the flimsies reasons.

Marriage is highly overrated. You should be sure it worths the reason why you are getting married, else let you partner know that you are not cut out for marriage

Congrats chaircover. You deserves it.

All the best in the new year.