₦airaland Forum

skylarr:
I wish him sound health. Truth be told, Abba Kyari acted reckless. Despite travelling to a country with the outbreak of the virus, he came back and refused to quarantine himself, disregarding the advice of the NCDC. Now he is putting a lot of people at risk. Very irresponsible of him

This shows you the mental status of people who pilot the affairs of the country.

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

Answer these questions sincerely. Then if they are positive, move to have a heart to heart talk with your man Inna very private place outside the home.

Do you love him?

Does he love you?

Do you find him to be a good man that will make a good husband and father?

If your answers to those questions are positive, then move to the next level below -

Tell him how much you love him and how proud you are of him taking care of responsibilities. Congratulate him so much and remind him how men like him are rare.

Ask him his plans for his siblings, how he intends setting them up to be on their own.

Ask him about what plans he has for himself, because he won't continue to cater for grown men and women.

From what he said you will the deduce if you want to stay with him or move on with your life.

If he states how he is about setting his siblings up to leave him alone and how he is planing to start up a family.

If the time frame for all these plans are okay for you, then stay. If not, you can gently tell him why you can't wait.

Again be careful not to get pregnant for him.

Good luck to you madam.

RiyadhGoddess:
Ok so I have just shared this on a nairalander's thread where he complained of having cold and I thought I should also open a thread and share it to everyone out there who might be in the same shoes I was last week.

I understand that a lot of people are panicking now especially those with the coronavirus symptoms and are very much afraid to go check themselves because of all that is being said in the news or media. If you are in such situation, I will advise you to step out of panic, go to the nearest health center and get yourself tested instead of allowing panic take control of you.

Let me tell you all a story of what happened to me last week. I already shared it in my chat room though.

On monday while making arrangements for our TVC shoot, I all of a sudden fell ill. My temperature went up and I started feeling feverish. I quickly handed over to one of my team mate to oversee the work, then I left for the house.

On Tuesday, Wednesday I couldn't go out because I was too weak. Walking for 5 minutes became hell for me because I felt weak and dizzy when walking. I almost asked my whatsapp family what could be the cause of what's happening to me but I didn't want to create panic so I didn't. What I had in mind was malaria, or shortness of blood but my colleague checked me and said I have blood so I just concluded maybe I need to rest because I've been under stress lately.

Thursday we left Lagos for Abuja for our presentation. I was okay anyway. Friday morning I was fine too.

After presentation on Friday, my whole body system changed. My body was hot, I was feverish, having discomfort in the throat, headache and weakness.
Each time it felt like I needed to clear my throat, I would cough mildly to avoid panic amongst my colleagues and everyone present. My close colleagues teased me about having coronavirus knowing that we had just had a presentation on the virus that Friday morning.

That Friday, I lost count of my urination because I kept on going to the convenience every 5 minutes to pee and that's because I drank lots of hot water due to the irritation I was having in my throat. I became worried but my colleague told me to calm down that my frequent urination was due to the cold conference room. His words helped a bit...

The more I read the media especially on Nairaland, the more fear gripped me and there was usually this cold chill in me. I remember reading a thread on Nairaland where a lady gave a vivid story of how she got the virus, symptoms and date. At a point while reading, I felt my whole legs going numb and almost had panic attack. The more I read the news that Friday night the more I shook with fear then this numb feelings in my whole body and felt like I was going to pass out. So I forced myself to stay away from the media.

One Aboki had coughed on me severally even though I turned my face away inside a korope bus, conductor had spat on me while shouting bus stops and asking for money, a passenger had placed her sweaty arm pit on me in a bid to bring out her money, a drug seller had washed his sweat with his finger on me after shouting and hustling his Ghana seed medicines at the populated motor park and of course not to forget, in the Okrika market where I do business, lots of body jamming and these Igbo boys pulling of hands mixed with all sorts of salivas from different mouths... All of these rang in my head which made me panic more. I began to ask myself, "Shile you didn't have HIV is it coronavirus that you will now have?"

That friday night before going to bed, I called my colleagues and asked could it be coronavirus? They all laughed obviously I must have said it in a very funny manner.

Anyway I picked my phone to chat my Daddy.
I said "Dad I think I have the virus". My dad said which virus and I said coronavirus. My dad couldn't control his laughter. I told him see what is happening to me, he kept on laughing.
They all believed my mind was playing pranks on me.

Then I understood what I have been reading on the media was beginning to have an effect on me to the point that it has now replaced the promises of God in my life.

I remembered the psalmist said "The Lord is my Shepherd...I shall fear no evil for you are with me, your rod and your staff comforts me..."
I prayed to God to take control. Following day, my temperature was already reduced except for the weakness and I couldn't feel the discomfort in my throat.

We packed and left for the airport. During check, I was asked to step aside.

Obviously my temperature was high even though it feels warm to me but the thermometer detected it.

I was asked some questions upon questions in an office and my answers were NO. I have not come in contact with anyone who just arrived into the country whatsoever except for my public movements in Lagos.

The lady told me to isolate myself for 14 days for possible check and if there's anything, I should call the numbers given to me but by the time we were done, my colleagues had left me behind.
I rescheduled and came back to Lagos. For the first time, I summoned all courage and shared my story in my chat room on Saturday to drive all fears out of me.

This morning I met my doctor, ran some test and discovered I have malaria and a bit of typhoid which I have started medications.

I want you to know that there are lots of voices out there. Please choose wisely! Please use wisdom when deciding who to listen to. It's not every voice that is dependable at this trying moment. Please pick a few dependable information sources and stick with them. For instance, the NCDC, WHO, LSMOH are excellent.

If the news or social media is noticeably increasing your anxiety like in my own case, please limit the number of times you go on social media to read information that increases panic in you. For me, I completely stopped reading information till I got hold of myself.

Anxiety will always ask for more information. It is greedy and never satisfied. Don't fall into its trap! Also remember the Bible reminds us not to be overwhelmed by what we see. Our God is still on the throne! After the war, the Israelites came to moses and said "we counted and NO ONE IS MISSING" Number 31:49. I pray for you, From NOW till this pandemic ends, NONE will be missing in your family, among your friends and loved ones in Jesus name Amen!

Stay Safe, Wash More & Panicless. Panic kills faster than the virus itself.

God Bless You.
Shile.

You seem so careless and don't value your life.

You waited for almost a week before seeking medical attention. My goodness.

MiddleDimension:
this guy, you should just stop it already!
the whole of existence is full of imperfection! and this can only be explained by evolution! to say god designed all that you see is to say god is a terrible engineer!

the laryngeal nerve in mammals is a very good example of how species are not designed. a the deformities you see in the natural world does not point to a designer much less a competent one!

and yes, the realities of evolution is a sad one and anyone morally upright will speak of it with tongue in cheek when talking about it especially when you apply it to humans. btw, i try not to apply it to humans because it is not a motor for how we should live our lives. infact, if there is anything we have learned from evolution, it is how not to live our lives. this is the birth of civilization. but it doesn't mean that evolution is not true! like someone mentioned, evolutionary biology is the basis for a lot of what we do in medicine today! even in the fight against corona virus, it takes centre stage!

there are some vaccines that can kill some viruses that infect the human being, but we can't use them because they ill also have an adverse effect on us humans too. a sequencing of the genome of that virus and man's, and a developing of a vaccine taking into consideration their genetic code is helping us to solve this problem.

so no, you don't go about calling people monkey. those of us who agree that evolution is a fact, are the ones least likely to ca anyone that. but you who have some commandment to respect people, are the ones more likely to insult another human being

Will you just shut up and go about your business

MiddleDimension:
evolution goes on every second but takes geoligical time to become visible for un aided human senses to perceive it.

and no, there is no designer here. what you call design actually emerged as a result of nature weeding out imperfect versions and improving on those that are best fitted to survive.

designers go back to the drawing board when they see an error that would affect the functionality of their 'design'. when you look around nature, you will see a whole lot if imperfections. but your god is toi arrogant, it cannot admit errors and go back to the drawing board.

Will you shut up.

wirinet:
You are just displaying your ignorance and arrogance at the same time. No evolutionist or biologists every said humans evolved from monkeys. What they said was that at a particular time in the distance past, humans and monkeys shared a common ancestor.

Please quit speaking on issues you have absolutely no idea on.

Listen to yourself. Now who is displaying ignorance?

sharing a common ancestors means, came into existence thru one lineage. same parents

Again you guys are so confused and sound very ignorant to look at an intelligent being like human and even think they once had the same parents - a lower monkey? What a ridiculous laughable dumb thinking.

Evolutionist are so. dumb and should all be called by what they propagate. Mr monkeys. Period. no offense.

If someone had a DNA test and found out he is some percentage of a particular race, he shouldn't feel insulted being called that race.

Once again, Anyone who propagates these insane unintelligent theory should comfortably be referred to as, a Monkey, a very dumb one.

What i

wirinet:
I know educating you guys is an exercise in futility, as you guys are too emotionally invested in fairy tales you were indoctrinated from birth. You very life depends on these belief systems, so you are prepared to remain ignorant forever to maintain these beliefs.

The motor invented by Karl Benz had evolved tremendously over the last 200 or so years. If follows similar laws to biological evolutions, models that do not change fast enough to meet the demands of the environment becomes extinct. Newer more efficient models are designed to take the place of older models. Older models that still meet the purpose and demand of consumers would last much longer time. The only difference here is while benz is being designed by human engineers, species are being designed by environmental factors such as mutation, environment itself, food and natural selection.

go to bed.
You sound confused.

since you so believe in evolution permit me to address u as a monkey.

You are a monkey, a black one. Enjoy your evolution monkey.

wirinet:
OK answer this questions;
Why didn't the 1979 Mercedes benz model turn to the latest G wagon?


If the latest Mercedes benz model are the S and C class series, among others, how come the 1984 S series, 190 series and the 1984 300D class can still be found on our roads?

Answer this question and you will find the answer to your question.

Why hasn't any Mercedes G wagon turn to the 1979 model again?

Your own kind of monkey is a dumb one.

You shot yourself in the head.

Answer

Why G wagon hasn't turned to 1979 model is the same reason why no monkeys has turned to human.

Monkeys are created monkeys (G wagon) no way they can turn to Maybach (humans)

So forever G wagon will remain g wagon because that was how it was made from the beginning, a g wagon.

Humans will remain humans and monkeys remain monkeys because that were how they were all created to be what they are forever.

Bacteriologist:
If humans were created from sand why is there still sand?

That's how stupid you sound.

Another black monkey sported.

But it looks like you evolved from a lineage of the dumbest of monkeys.

I will answer your monkey kind of logic about sand.

Since human begin use sand build house, why has sand no dey finish?

You need go join your ancestors in bush jumping from tree to tree because monkeys like u have no business within humans created by God.

Farki:
Which of the thousands of gods have you tested and found to be true?

The One and only true God who created everything in heavens and on earth, even you monkey , but he created u an intelligent human, not a monkey.

Do you want to know how real he is?

nairalanduseles:
U show your level of exposure
You think by insulting is the only way to air your opinion
You think that makes you sound intelligent
You are definitely a child
And you re not exposed
You compare the air we breath .....to a fictional character

You need to grow up young lad ...
Not everyone is going to have the same opinion as you
Learn to accept and move on.....

Ooh you re religious so I understand

Oh my goodness. I call you by your father's name you feel its an insult, right?

That shows you aren't from monkey because you are denying your ancestral lineage.

You are a monkey and that is not an insult because you believe solely that you and your generations evolved from monkey.

Mr man it is not an insult but calling you by your fathers name.

Farki:
If I drop a stone at your empty coconut head isn't that a visual representation of gravity?

Stop reasoning like a kid, those things you said can easily be demonstrated through repeatable processes which is why it is considered science rather than wild assumptions or the supernatural.

Okay monkey.

continue in your monkey believe.

My regards to your fellow smart monkeys who dey for bush they enjoy life well without worrying about anything.

But you dumb monkeys decide to come into this world they cause troubles for monkeys like you.

You have tested your science to prove their existence right?
Do you know you can test God and see his existence as well?

Monkey if you want to taste and see God existence let me know.

voltron14:
I can prove the existence of air by creating a paper windmill. It would rotate if I leave it in the open but once I put it in a jar, it would stop.

Finito air proven.

I can prove the existence of elements like oxygen and can tell you some are even originated from out of this planet but can you prove God ?

Years ago, your kind believed the earth was the centre of the universe and killed those who said the sun was at least the centre of our own system - the solar system.

Now you are here talking about the sun and moon as if you wouldn't have been put down by your own kind for even espousing them.

Scientists do not claim to have all the answers but oftentimes, their theories end up being correct and they love to the next thing to prove.

You on the other hand, believe volume 1 and 2 of a book whose authors even gave differing testimonies of things they claimed they witnessed.

Jeez.

Okay. I hear you black monkey.

Continue in your monkey believe...

bye

Judybash93:
Lol... evolution never predicted that we evolved from monkeys. The only thing is that we and other apelike creatures share common ancestors. For example, can you say that a lion isn't related to a jaguar or maybe a cheetah? So, based on countless scientific evidence, we're made to understand that we share a common ancestor before splitting into distinct groups.

Another cousin monkey spoken.

Okay cousin black monkey, I hear you.

nairalanduseles:
U sound so ignorant
Monkeys are cute and intelligent
Your religion makes u so judgemental
I have not met you and will never want to
You disgust me

Okay. I heard you monkey..

Since you don't see the air we breath, does it make the air not in existence?

You don't see the force of gravity yet you believe in it.

So many things in chemistry and physics aren't seen, yet you believe in them.

You must be a very dumb monkey, unlike your father who live in the bush that you said are very intelligent. You are such a dumb monkey.

voltron14:
Err, some of them have photographs we can refer to.

They have a chronology of their existence, we even have DNA evidence, what do we have about your phoney ?

You can try to debunk the creation of cars even though the pictures from their earliest of times to their evolution today are well documented if that makes you happy.

What you are telling me to do is blindly accept volume 1 and 2 of a book with nary a speck of evidence as against the plethora of evidence science produces and discovers everyday.

By the way, when will the pastors cure Coronavirus?

Waiting for science as usual right?

Permit me to call you by your fathers name.

So black monkey, how did sun, moon, ocean, stars where and how did they evolve?


Answer this black monkey and I will believe u.

But monkey, u believe say we get air? Have u seen the picture of air we breathe?

nairalanduseles:
We all evolved from monkeys
There is nothing wrong with monkeys
They re veru intelligent animals
I rather be called a monkey than a follower of some strange cult called religion

God forbid you alone and your entire generations come from monkeys. not me.

I hear you black monkey..

goodbye

voltron14:
There is a difference when a word is used in a derogatory fashion as against scientific.

By the way, the term is that we descended from ape-like creatures.

Again, what evidence do you have other than the Bible made up of 2 volumes - old and new testament?

What is evidenced in the Bible that makes you believe it?

That someone turned water into wine or that he walked on water?

When you dey read about great scientists and inventors, what evidence do you have that those geniuses existed if not for the things they invented?

God exist by looking at the things he created, the brain, human body. sea, ocean, the sky, the moon the beautiful nature.

If you observe them finish and still believe there is no God, then I too will prove u wrong that cars, planes, computers, ship, phones all evolved without a maker

Beautiful designs have designers.

nairalanduseles:
Use your brain there is prove to back revolution
It ain't some fairy tale with no backing or probe
Your father must be so proud of you

The awe inspiring things in nature give evidence to existence of a powerful designer.

A the same way you get awestruck by super technologies.

Na from your maker you tap those sense to create things naa.

Since you believe in evolution don't be mad when they call you monkey, because na from monkey u take evolve.

voltron14:
It is only a primitive mind that takes evolution as an insult.

The people calling you monkeys believe they themselves are evolved from apes, so get over yourself.

Science has given links of extinct species with overwhelming evidence. Even today, we have species of various kind going extinction before our very eyes.

All you can point to about your belief is a single book with part 1 and part 2 telling you some being somewhere who believes the special race are some guys in Israel and you believe the book.

I shame for you.

So who you humans resemble for your creative inborn talents?

voltron14:
First off, I'm not your boy.

Secondly, you cannot provide incontrovertible evidence that God exists but I can prove dinosaurs and other species did.

Today, evidence of paleontology is used in oil exploration which is what has led to even greater production of hydrocarbons even in deep offshore environments, areas inclement for our own existence.

The use of carbon dating has been shown to be accurate whilst all you can point to are sea scrolls some of which have been proven to be fake.

Why do you get mad when they call u black monkey, monkey no be your papa name?

What evidence again do you need for the existence of God if not the things seen, its all over in the nature.

Beautiful designs don't come by chance. All the beautiful things you see in nature they wouldn't have come by chance since all the beautiful houses and cars and clothes and shoes and planes didnt come by chance.

Do you know all the things you mentioned are governed by rules and laws? Physics and chemistry will tell u that. so who gave them those codes and laws?

nairalanduseles:
I am very logical
We share lots of characteristics with chimpanzees
U 're being illogical believing in some character created by the racist white

But na d same racist white brought evolution, so why believe their evolution theory but will not still beleive their character created story?

Why are u mad when they call u black monkey, monkey no be your papa?

Them say if a child no remember him mama e go resemble him papa. $So who humans resemble for their creative abilities?

voltron14:
I'm sure you think evolution took minutes.

Are you aware even the Coronavirus mutates hence the difficulty in locking it down?

Remember they say, if a piking no resemble his father e go resemble his mother.

So who do humans resemble for their creative ability!

You father the monkey right?

Do why do you get mad when they call u black money since na your papa name them dey call you?

nairalanduseles:
It takes time u re so ignorant u rather believe some story book

U are illogical.

Have u taken time to study, about brain, cells, DNA, ?

Boy do let me seen if you wont be awestruck by the complexities , and then let me see why after the study you will still think they come by chance.....

And if you still believe the come by chance, then we have no need to say that anything was designed by anybody.

voltron14:
I'm sure you think evolution took minutes.

Are you aware even the Coronavirus mutates hence the difficulty in locking it down?

So how long did evolution take?

You are so ignorant of human body, the brain, the cells. Which makes u think such complexities weren't designed?

Study deep about nature, boy.... You will understand that there was a designer ....

okorotalkative:
You get adam and eve pictures?

So why hasn't any other monkey or primate turn to human again?

And why hasn't we seen monkey or apes producing things or making similar inventions since they are brothers to humans?

Why hasn't any other thing evolved since the theory of evolution?

sulaak:
The West doesn't want Africans, it time for Nigerian to take back their country.

You aren't sure, man. Come to California, and see the number of Nigerians doing wonders in their various fields, so loved and wanted by the US. The don't want them go back.

Who told you they don't want African geniuses?

Which country are u taking back, when all you lots are the same. selfish and greedy. Anyone different from these greedy selfish blacks will want to leave the country so as to retain his sanity.

Watch how This 9trn will disappear in just a year and still yet no infrastructure to show for it.

Soulless Rogues......


Why not cut the cost of running this govt and divert the savings into the said audio infrastructure, instead of tampering with the fund meant for the poor old pensioners ?


Good morning a few good Nigerians. Word of advice, if you don't want to lose your sanity because of the insane thievery in govt and bastardization and raping of the country relocate and start a family somewhere else, because the way things look, Nigeria is irredeemable .

voltron14:
The people eating ginger because of Covid-19 are idiots.

What proactive measures are you talking about?

I laugh when I read what some of you write.

Nigeria with 200 million people has a handful of Covid-19 cases with zero death, but we should feel bad because compared to the 'same climes ' many of you love to refer to, perhaps we should have hit the 1000 deaths mark.

When Buhari addresses you is not so you can start to insult him?

Would you take his words with any form of fairness?

Has he ever said anything on any subject that you have not criticized?

Isn't that the only purpose for which you want him to speak?

Your arguments lack logic.

Proactive measures - I mean, close boarders and stop flights.

You talk off points. I never mentioned the president addressing the nation rather I said proactive measures.

The people eating ginger are not idiots but rather they are ignorant and not well sensitized.
Not just ginger, chloroquine too are now abused.

Stop defending these politicians blindly, they don't care about you and wouldn't care if you all are killed by covid19, then they will fly away to a safer place on their private jets.

Now in America, everybody is filing for unemployement. And they will all get it while they stay indoors, the govt pays them every two weeks. This is how a sane country works.

You close jobs then you provide for those whose jobs are closed.

You guys in Africa are something else. You seem to accept suffering and oppression as a way of life. Tufiakwa

voltron14:
Yes, it is because of Buhari the world is suffering from Coronavirus.

Don't be sentimental. I never mentioned covid19.

I said, the misfortunes bedevilling the country.

Common sense will tell you that when a father of the house is good and does the right things, the family flows well, but when he is not, the family is filled with unexplainable troubles.

But talking about covid19, imagine the govt had taken proactive measures even when the virus was in China alone and closed boarders and restrict flights from high rusk countries, will there be need for this panic to the extent that people now out of fear abuse chloroquine and other substances.

Go to villages, people now eat garlic, ginger like mad. because the govt refused to heed the warning and closes boarders and flights.

Pray never to have a company run by people like Nigerian politicians, honestly.

Kingspin:
Mad people na now daybreak?




Multiple FX trade is cooperative nepotism and wickedness, not just monopoly.

Honestly, sometimes I wonder if a black man is below human in thinking. All the problems in this country is self inflicted. Very stupid low thinking humans full this country.

They sell dollars 307 to individuals who outrageously sell at 367 - 370. In fact they inflate this prices at will thereby causing unnecessary inflation and unsteady prices of commodities.

What arrant nonsense.

The best thing to do now is, let dollar selling be between CBN and Money deposit banks, and let the masses access dollars easily thru the banks, in that way there will be stability in both exchange rates, goods and services. Then the economy will stably grow.

DennisEche:
He is cursed and full of bad luck. Just look at oil price selling below $30.

Of course that's one thing most Nigerians don't know that when someone is evil, wicked and soulless, he attracts nothing but curses around him. He might not suffer the consequences of his evil deeds right away, but around the person, bad luck and evil things hover.

Everything thing happening around this president and during his regime shows he is evil. So much misfortunes have clouded this country.