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a woman who really loves a man,

will treat his flesh and blood with respect

cause she knows that loving his kid is loving him too

I like a woman on this forum who took her husbands love child and treated it like her own

No doubt she kept her marriage nice and fresh!

tellwisdom,

if a woman who took a lot of crap finally reaches breaking point - and just gives up or finally lets go - the man also has to face reality that it just didnt work out.

what he is trying to ask is:


if a woman is already hot tempered before marriage - what are the chances of it changing?


Answer
Short of a miracle - none.

amen!


we break the spirit of Traumatic Bonding


and putting up with crap in the name of love


not knowing that God's best is waiting for us - when we let go of the old!

only those who have faced the reality of being in eighther shoes



are qualified to comment.



(Unless you have been there you can never really say right?)

Shoot,

debrief

in his generation they wanted to kill him! like how they stone people in India and stuff

amen, its one of the most, if not the most unhealthiest relationships i have ever been in


and could never break it no matter what i did, prayer, fasting, powerful people praying for me.

I am just glad i am in a lighter spot.

Hope my God helps me maintain.

Amen

Have any of you ever gone through trying to end a bad relationship

and no matter what you did you couldnt get over the guy

but one day all of a sudden you wake up and you are hard cold

nothing there, his texts irritate, you cant even lift a finger to reply

where before you talked/txted daily and possibly hourly

you go a week and you just dont give a da__n

whats that all about?

Hit me

Nigerian women are aggressive enough


and now being a police woman on top of that!


She will box you day and night

I just think the wrong people make the decision

Only the woman can truelly, cause as it were she is the one to put a knife to her child's throat

I dont believe anyone should make that decision cause she will bear the brunt of the pain.

@davidylan

what criteria make a child illegitimate?


the dictionary def that someone so kindly posted here

"born to unmarried parents" etc

Ok,

Thank God for the family that you came from.

But the reality we live in today bears this unfortunate reality.

You are obviously better and higher than most of us lower species.

But that privelige should never give you the platform / pride to sentence (in your holier than thou court) unfortunate ones to a dark future

(and by so doing making yourself higher and mightier than them)

my two cents

I myself was also an "illegitimate kid" or "bastard"  whatever you wanna call it.

But i never grew up with that lable - to me, i just never let it land on my head. My father last saw me when i was 3.  

At 23 (Yes Davidylan - instinctively you will look for your bio dad - by the way i had a step dad but there was a hole there)

i looked for him myself at 23 and still to this day i was always the chaser.  

I am greatful for who i am today, my losses have somehow contributed to who i am today.  And i embrace the good and the bad.  I couldnt be more greatful.

Today i hold a masters in Accounting and Finance, i am a CA practicing in one of the biggest hotel chains ever!  how God is so good - if we just believe.  He has a purpose for you!!!!  

Peace out am out.

@ Poster



Sometimes God sends angels ahead, and you never know who's angel this kid will be.

In many cases, "illegitimate" kids have ended down the road saving the lives of the very people that rejected them!

Read the book of Genesis where at the end, Joseph said

"Dont be angry at the bad you did to me - now i see that God intended or sent me ahead to save our lives"

KNOW YOUR GOD - DO YOU REALLY KNOW HIM!If you do, this ones' childs play

Davidylan you are too passionate about this

Where you a love child yourself or Illegitimate

Look, its not the end of the world when people make bad mistakes

What distinguishes a winner is the ability to bounce back and straighten what they didnt make right.

By killing / or aborting a child - how are you solving the problem, all you are doing is changing its state -
Water, vapour, steam, ice - its all water - and by melting the ice, and boiling it - does not mean you get rid of it.
It just becomes a cloud, then rain and the cylce continues over and over and over again.

In life (unfortunatley) you have to leave room for failure - failing well is a skill that not many have achieved
hence suicide, depression whatever.
You can not decide to end the life of a kid just because it was your mistake. You must feel the pain
(and TRUST me you will) (People who have had abortions - many of them never get rest) of your mistake.

In closing, you can not choose to end or keep a life. God in his bigness always straightens things out, and even
if it llooks bad now - how do you know that that child, may be the only one with a matching kidney should her father need it.

The purposes of God are sometimes not clear off the batt - but He has his hand in EVERY area of your life. [b][/b]Forgive yourself, move on - and thank Him in advance for a miracle!

-

A Nigerian man? For me?


NEVER EVER AGAIN

the type of cellulite black women have is hard and looks better

even if she is fat, she still looks in one piece if you see what i mean

tight fat

and the above is what it is.

sometimes we bring problems on our own heads and refuse to face the consequences

sometimes this thing of curses is just an excuse to place blame on someone and not accept responsibility for your own mistakes

if you are lazy or sleep around or if the consequences come its not always a curse

just face your responsibility and change that part

chei

oh the poor victimised pastors.

wow this is so nice B.

my gurl.

@ poster his nose was bleached?

VERY NICE THE GUY WHO SAID DO THESE PEOPLE KNOW HIS DESTINY THAT THEY ARE ADVISING AGAINST.

JUST LIKE CHILDBIRTH, GOD HONOURS MARRIAGE AND SOMEHOW WITH THE LITTLE YOU HAVE HE WILL ADD TO YOU.

I graduated with a 2.2 but through God's grace my faith has never really been about my ability or brain - more in Him.

It has been a struggle to be honest. and i went through somethings like trying to secure a "real" job in a foreign environment and never being able to do so.

But God always opens doors and they are big and beautiful.

After returning home to my country, i thot i would get a job at the click of my finger tips. this was not so. private companies had race issues, public/government employed who they knew. so it was tough. i even got fired from a job i did everything to keep.

But God is ALWAYS faithful. Today i am an accountant with a "real" job. as a matter of fact 2nd in command.

I work for an internationally recognised brand. In the top 50 of fortune 500 companies.

I practice exactly what i studied for - i just wanted to say thank you my God.

Amen.

Why didnt she get married first this time?


I can forgive people for making mistakes at first but isnt it better for your next try to be in marriage?

which one do you prefer.

they say they are long term bad effects to ceasareans.
almost like how some believe abortions can be linked to breast cancer


something about halting the process, and stopping natural progressions in the body - hormones released after childbirth, how the body naturally follows its cycle and is restored.



only thing is ladies - is it as tight and firm after kiddy birth.

ceasers help that right? they leave you tight?

Guys are they back together for real?


http://www.theboombox.com/2011/07/29/jennifer-lopez-diddy-back-together