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ItisWell22:


And this is why the op is hurting.
He took this guy as a brother and had no secrets with him.

Let’s all be realistic and stop all this stoicism; it’s painful.

If op had seen the guy as just another of his guys, e for no pain am.
But he took this guy as a brother and hid nothing from him.
Why should he hide such huge leap from op?
So op doesn’t wake up from his slumber if he probably hasn’t built his own house?
Then he isn’t a good friend.

Op, learn your lesson and move.
He was never a friend.
Or probably, never valued you as much as you valued him.

Reason why I just expect nothing from no one and expect everyone to disappoint me; ahead, ahead…

Op is the problem, he doesn't have sense.

It's not about what you call or take someone as it's about what he calls or takes you as.

I am glad he just learnt his major life lesson.

No sensible person shares personal things in the name of friendship that can change with weather.

The friend is wiser and he should learn from him

Jones90:


I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it a secret from him?

It is his choice respect that.

What should worry us is that op didn't see any clue of him not being a close friend up till now which shows that op is a dull thing.

We should all wise up

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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What is the problem here

You see him as a close brother, are you going to force him to do the same?

This is same problem we have in marriage, men love a woman who only cares about what he can provide and later cry.

Op for you not to see any clue he doesn't treat you the same up till now means you are not smart but a needy attached fo.ol

Passion will not pay your bills.

Expand your sources of income and be sure you can fund this before embarking on it if you insist.

BC they married liabilities and gold diggers

Every family should have a corolla precisely 2003 to 2008. You wont understand until you own one

Stopped drinking beer I can't believe how much I have saved. Still can't believe I have stayed without it for over 7 months

All thanks to Tinubu and outrageous prices, being responsible is cheaper now & irresponsible acts are very expensive

Theopneustos:
Good nairalanders
Please how do you handle a situation where you have a senior colleague in your workplace that has a clique that supports her secret acts that are contrary to the workplace do's and donts.
In addition to that tries to discredit you before the MD because you don't join her clique.
Is It to report her to the MD or let it slide?
She's so toxic but pretends a lot before the boss

You need to gather as much concrete evidence as possible before speaking to the boss so you don't look stupid when your claims are watered down.

Most importantly who does the boss like more between you and her. Is he a neutral Boss? Some emotional bosses will favour anyone they like even when they are wrong

FRANCISTOWN:

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

Lol Boss man

It's well but if you already know what to do what is the point in bringing the matter to a public forum since you cant tolerate a different perspective.

It seems you are newly married certainly below 1 year and the initial gra gra must happen before you calm down to reality.

The less empowered esp financially the more likely she may give you 100% submission to your wishes.

Money is power, is she 100% dependent on you? He who pays the Piper .............

FRANCISTOWN:

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

She really has nothing to apologize for. I think you should watch your over sized ego before you destroy your marriage.

She should be free to express herself Biko. How can a woman be well educated and not be allowed to express an opinion in 2023.

You have scolded her and expressed displeasure at what she said and that is enough. Move on

You are quite a sensitive man sha because this issue is a very light one to me. She is only saying that you love your mum more so no offense there BC it's normally true & she is probably jealous.

Why should she apologize for stating her observation?

Lol Maga has paid, fools will only learn from their experience, loser

Why the rush to get married without sorting out your finances. Except your over 45yrs it was a silly mistake.

Marriage should wait till a man is financially stable with stable source of income (except he is 45yrs).

Marriage doesnt benefit a man, its just a place to be receiving steady billing

Once you add a child to this picture then you are buried in a life of struggle.

Ladies are loyal to their emotions and feelings which will always change with conditions.

No woman loves a man, they only love what you can provide, only a man can love actually.

Just continue searching for any work to start earning, he who has fallen fears no fall

Poverty mentality is about trying to become rich overnight. Only greedy poor mindset to show off quickly.

Uyi2017:
Let's put money aside, what else is your guy bring into your relationship?

How old are you not to know that whoever brought money brought almost everything.

Money answereth everything

He will need money to develop the state by increasing IGR.

Why is this hard to understand?

I am sure it's PDP e rats complaining

amadiwati:


I have not had law gigs. You can give me a sample and topic, and I will deliver it.

It will need a lawyer because you will cite cases in the write up

amadiwati:
Yes, I am available. You can chat me up

Can you do law research n writing, with Chicago reference style?

Mumu talkative

What does the stupid wife do for a living. Abi marriage Na her only hope?

Stupid people

You had 300m to invest and can not do proper search to buy land with C of O.

By the way way should an Igbo man build a mansion in Lagos? Why not an okay house and build mansion at home?

Demolish all of them let them buy another and start afresh BC they won't learn.

Nemesis0147:
Go to kubwa
Jikowyi
Karu new site or Dutse….house there are affordable…

Dutse or kubwa closer to town and you will get some decent with 600k

Cheap skit

what are you doing with SMA Gold when there are cheaper alternatives. Is he broke and senseless?

You should have used 3.5l V6 vehicle

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Testiebobo:
I feel discouraged to look at myself in the mirror, anytime i noticed that i dont have a single hair under my chin. Even someone that is sixteen years old is already having one. I dont feel ok. What could be the deficiency problem?

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Worry about your account balance, that is the most important thing not beard

BigBlackPreek:
Just change your line and avoid unnecessary stress

Extreme

Help but know your limit

Once you hear longest time, you have forgotten me now from someone that has not communicated in over 2 years.

Run ooooo Na them

Football is the least of our problems