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Ifyjos:
Back to the sender

It's not a back to sender something, lung cancer from smoking is real and liver cirrhosis from excessive drinking is also real

Ifyjos:
She doesn’t want the best for me , all she wanted is for me to become a single mom and suffer while she will be happily married

Kai God, I feel like punching you I swear, so its 'your' guy who put you in a family way when you were 14 years old and supposed to be is SS2 at most that want's the best for you?
Was it your sister that got you pregnant? Is it not better for you to be a single mom and be something in life?
Like i said before your stupidity no get equal for this world.

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

I won't start by singing how terrible what you did is, it is terrible very terrible in fact and to think you were influenced by an outsider against your own family, one day he will ask you to stage robbery attack or even murder on your parents and you will gladly do it because your mum used to insult him when he comes around, yeye fish brained excuse.
From your story even if you don't admit it to yourself you are low key jealous and envious of your sister, also you have a severe case of low self-esteem and you certainly don't know what is good for you.
Here's my advice though, first reach out to your sister's fiance and explain what you did if he has moved on well if not try as much as possible to get them back together, also confess to your parents what you did solicit their help in seeking for your sister's forgiveness though i doubt if she will ever forgive you or trust you again and also get ready to always be reminded of this act every now and then, just try all the same. Secondly, why not go back to school? You are young and if your sister went to school and got a job then it's not for lack of sponsorship you dropped out, yes you got pregs at 15 but your life didn't end there na. Pick your life up and make something out of your self, "I want to" and "I will" has never made anybody, for 5 years you have been sitting around waiting for sister give me or boyfriend give me and "wanting to" (i want to learn tailoring, why haven't you learnt it since?) and you still want to be respected, are you high on the cigarette your boyfriend smokes?
Thirdly that your so-called boyfriend/ fiance doesn't actually have your best interest at heart, you may deny it now with low self-esteem slathered words like he didn't deny the pregnancy, has my pictures on FB and WhatsApp, etc, but here is why i said what i said, a guy who for 5 years despite being fully aware of the fact that he is now responsible for another human has done nothing to better his life, he washes cars and squats with friends you say, and is sometimes unable to pay your child's fee let's not talk about feeding and clothing because obviously it's your parents that provide that since you still live with them, also this guys smokes and drinks and will probably die young of lung cancer or liver cirrhosis where will that leave you? Let's even say he lives long he is barely able to foot the bills of one child through creche and nursery school what happens when you have 2 or more kids or this one gets to the tertiary level of education? He has done nothing to better his life and has done nothing to better your live aside influence you into thuggery and delinquent life and you say he is "good" girl you are a special breed of stupid.
I badly want to bash you but i will hold my peace, think on this things if not i see a very bleak and suffering-filled future for you and don't even delude yourself into thinking if you somehow fix this mess you created that things will go back to the way it was, first just know that your sister should she bounce back may never help you in this life again, next know that your family and relatives should they come to the knowledge of what your "good" boyfriend influenced you to do may never agree to you guys union. Wise up oo, this is 2020.

AIIyIic:
How far na?

Fine and you??

awuf2008:
Why not go to Iran and tell their president.

Why not go back to school and learn the difference between a STATEMENT and a QUESTION.

Omo fear dey catch me on behalf of Iran.

Asquare84:
The Shiite reverends their dead ones, they buried their dead ones in caskets, make and beautiful grave. So their mode of Islam is different from other. That one of the reasons Shiite and Sunni islam don't go together

Ohh this makes sense. Thanks

OneCorner:
Moral of d story?

It's a question. I have had muslim friends who lost family and couldn't even see the body, because it had to buried within 24 hours and they were more than 24 hour away. So i am just confused.

According to Islamic rites is he not supposed to be buried within 24 hours of his death, and should be buried wherever he died? Or not?