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adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2026/05/23/blackout-hits-presidential-villa-nnamdi-azikiwe-international-airport-other-parts-of-abuja

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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dominique:
Hull City make dramatic return to Premier League

Hull players celebrate on the final whistle in the English Championship play-off final football match between Hull City and Middlesbrough at Wembley Stadium in London on May 23, 2026. Hull won the game 1-0. (Photo by Paul ELLIS / AFP)

Hull City were promoted to the Premier League in dramatic fashion as Oli McBurnie’s last-gasp strike sealed a 1-0 win over Middlesbrough in the Championship play-off final on Saturday.

McBurnie punished a mistake from Middlesbrough goalkeeper Sol Brynn to bag the lucrative winner in the final moments of the second half at Wembley.


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/hull-city-make-dramatic-return-to-premier-league/

fergie001:
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https://www.facebook.com/share/p/18X4dBQLrE/

Kobicove:
So you prefer the federal government to fold it's arms and watch the local airline industry collapse?

QuinQQ:
HE DID NOT REQUEST HER TO PAY!!!!
He just wanted to cheat the poor waiter!
If he requested she pay it, different. Otherwise huge red flag!

Ployploy:
Every man have their own type of women they love to marrie or date
BBW women are one of the best women
So guys what your thoughts
Which of this Beautiful BBW women will you pick ?

iwaeda:
https://dailytrust.com/airlines-raise-fare-amidst-rising-fuel-price/

Chisave:
So she should encourage his cheating habit. She must have seen the sign and tried to correct it but the guy will be doing strong head. But this particular one broke the camels back. Imagine cheating a food vendor of N500.

symbianDON:
it's not about who pays the N500; it's more about honesty and responsibility. It's a big relationship red flag when you have a partner who is a potential thief.

wildcatter23:
RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR THE WEAK🤦🤦

I went to a restaurant this evening to get food for my girlfriend.

After getting the food and just as I was about to leave, I saw two lovers arguing.

I asked the girl what the issue was, and she explained that they had also come to get food.

Their bill was supposed to be ₦8,300, but the waiter mistakenly charged them ₦7,800, which the guy paid.

As they were about to leave, she noticed the mistake and told her boyfriend to go back and pay the remaining balance, but he refused.

That disagreement eventually led to their breakup.

Is that enough to warrant a breakup?

What do you guys think?

Was the lady loyal to the guy?

InfoGuru118:
https://verynigerian.com/breaking-fubara-pulls-out-of-apc-governorship-primaries/

JuanDeDios:
Well, "ladies" can flock around a man - doesn't mean any of them loves him.

OverCalculating:
This isn’t about insulting men; it’s about holding up a mirror and self reflection. The traits below describe a pattern of behavior that I have closely observed in Nigerian men, that quietly erodes self-respect, ambition, and control over their lives. The sad thing is that many of them don't even know about it.

As a man, If you see yourself in several of these points, it’s not a verdict. It’s a starting point. All you need to do is just to recognize the habits, then start finding how to break them and rebuild discipline, purpose, and self-respect.

As a lady, if you observe these habits in your fiancee, you don't need to worsen the case for him by feeling it is normal. It is either you choose to help him rebuild himself with discipline and self respect or just walk away if you think you can't tolerate it.

There is a serious problem with your guy if:


1. He has a victim mentality.

2. He complains instead of fixing his own problems.

3. He's easily influenced and always looking for validation from others.

4. He can't control his sexual urges and food cravings.

5. He has weak eye contact, sloppy handshake, and is afraid to stand for what he believes in.

6. He's a nice guy who's always available.

7. He believes his parents are responsible for his miserable life.

8. He smokes weed. He's a weak man.


9. He distracts himself with pleasure and has no purpose in life.

10. He can't control his emotions and gets easily offended.

11. He is desperate and puts women on a pedestal.

12. Likes gossiping about others.

13. He's fat and in terrible shape but doing nothing about it.

14. There is lack of self-discipline to take action.

15. He gives constant excuses and whine about his problems.

“Buka is better than restaurant, stop taking your girlfriend to restaurant & send 15k but here you will spend only 4k, all the girls in my life I take them to Buka, all those girls are not worth spending your money on, you meet a girl today you’re spending 40k on her”

—-Nigerian… pic.twitter.com/aUV8ROgv4I

— D3VID 🐢 (@DurkioWiz) May 16, 2026

Racoon:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/18a2sx4dv6/

FuglyGurl:
https://www.arise.tv/pdp-screens-jonathan-tuesday-as-sole-presidential-aspirant-for-2027-race/

fergie001:
Tinubu, Wike Reject Fubara’s Bid, Pick Ex-Minority Leader Chinda for Rivers Gov

SOURCE

politicoNG:
https://www.thisdaylive.com/2026/05/18/pdp-screens-goodluck-jonathan-tomorrow-ahead-of-2027-presidential-election-aspiration/

giftson102:
Ask men why they cheet, you will hear, my wife is unkempt, she don't bath twice a day, she don't make her hair and nails, she don't dress segzly, her bwest is flat, her tummy is big, she is unattractive......I need a young fresh bl00d.
She can't ride me, her knee and waist is always hurting her...

Biko who told men they are attractive to their wives? You think you are still handsome, some of you don't bath a whole day, you pee, do the ntanta kpajakpaja to remove the drop of urine and put it back in your boxers, then come back drunk with your mouth smelling alcohol and smoke, then ask your wife to suck and kiss you.

With Grey hair everywhere, stinky armpit, no strength at all, before 5 minutes you don cum con doze off. You think your wife don't need fresh handsome guys, very vibrant and active. Men who do skin care, use expensive perfume, do haircut every week, wear fine segzy clothes and are good in bed.

You people think it's women that gets old, you are forever young because you dey wear jeans and polo with canvas ndi HPE teachers. Na em make you think say you are young.
Your wife needs a young guy, someone her age or even younger. So if anyone is enduring anything, it's your wife enduring you. You weh no Sabi lick plate but you want your wife to ride you like your 20 years old side chick.

If you like don't be faithful to your wife and treat her well. Dey there and be doing Boiyoyo.

Cherrybae:
Again, APC disqualifies Senator Ipalibo Harry, Ojukaye Flag Amachree, Tein Jackreece, Danagogo, clears Bro. Felix Obuah, Hon. Alwell Oyesoh others to contest for the Senate Primaries in Rivers State tomorrow, Monday 18 May, 2026.

Wike is incharge in Rivers state. We urge Gov Fubara to withdraw from the Governorship race to avoid further embarrassment.

Only the Rainbow Coalition will produce All Aspirants for various positions in Rivers state.

Source
https://www.facebook.com/share/1CYufvkdD1/

Titopeblog:
I never participated in the APC primaries- Cubana Chiefpriest

Social media was awash with reports yesterday claiming he lost his bid to secure the APC House of Representatives ticket to represent Orlu East Federal constituency in the 2027 general election.

The party held its primaries yeaterday and the incumbent House of Representatives member was declares winner of the primries. Many took to Chiefpriest’s comment section to mock him.

Reacting to the news, the socialite in a post shared on IG this afternoon, said he did not participate in the primaries after he was told yesterday morning that it wasn’t the turn of his local government to field a candidate for the election. He said he immediately left Imo for Lagos state. He said nobody can say they say him at the venue of the primaries.

https://www.titopeblog.com/2026/05/i-never-participated-in-apc-primaries.html?m=1

JAOS:
https://thenationonlineng.net/over-8-3m-households-benefited-from-conditional-cash-transfer-programme-doro/

"If Any Man Keeps Malice With Me For 3 Days, I Will Sleep With Another Man"

— Lady reveals.. pic.twitter.com/T0iOd5Siv5

— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) May 16, 2026

adenigga:
Source: https://dailytrust.com/tinubu-to-nigerians-you-must-pay-taxes-if-you-want-development

fergie001:
A troll who posted on X a malicious content about Adekunle Gold & Simi's daughter has been arrested & sentenced to two years imprisonment without an option of fine.

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However, some Nigerians including Sowore has accused the Nigerian Police for being the "Private army of the rich", also referencing a 2012 post by Adekunle against them President Goodluck Jonathan.


Omoyele Sowore


Adekunle Gold



Adekunle Gold

press9jatv:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/just-in-cubana-chief-priest-loses-apc-ticket-for-reps-seat/?utm_source=&utm_medium=twitter#google_vignette

Vixlot:
Sandamu/Daura/Mai’adua Reps APC Primary Election Result:


SOURCE

I have won the election to contest in APC, those who disagree should seek a solution - Yusuf Buhari, and the former president of Nigeria pic.twitter.com/NrW69zFOFQ

— Azlannnn (@Shaibu_AO) May 16, 2026

Yusuf Buhari




https://dailytrust.com/apc-primaries-how-yusuf-buhari-defeated-ex-dss-dgs-son/

iwaeda:
https://www.thecable.ng/adc-unveils-2027-manifesto-proposes-living-wage-production-driven-economy/

Leonardobiageli:
Justice Crack Denies Sowore’s Lawyer, Marshall Abubakar As Clash Ensue In Court Over Representation



https://independent.ng/justice-crack-denies-sowores-lawyer-marshall-abubakar-as-clash-ensue-in-court-over-representation/

WhizdomXX:
Sandy Onor picked it. I was thinking they would give Jonathan if the courts allow them to have candidates.

educatedfool:


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