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yetseyi:
Your friend should stand her ground and get a roomate she is comfortable with, if it takes 3months for her to get a suitable person she can stay with 3months should be deducted from the remaining 7 months balance that the ex roomies wants to collect.

I had a similar experience but I was the roomie that was taken.

I was running a program at the other end of town and I needed a place to stay because its a very long distance and the family I was staying with over there had told me indirectly that I have overstayed my welcome.

Luckily I got an agent who told me a lady needed a roommate for a miniflat. We sealed the deal and I made preparation to move in. We agreed I would pay about 65% then and would balance the remaining after a specified time. Our agreement was we could have visitors. We signed a handwritten receipt and that was it I paid the agent for the link and the amount I paid is 50% of her monthly rent for a year. The place was furnished and she even told me I may not need to bring much properties it was just a bring your luggage kind of place. She even moved her stuff out of one side of the wardrobe. I just brought mattress some utensils and personal effects.

After I moved in I met the agent along the road on day and asked me if everything was okay I said yes no problem he now said he asked because that day after I paid my roomies called him and when he got there she told him that she wants to bring another person to the room, she was going to collect another half rent from that same individual and the agent told her its not done that way that she can't do that and our agreement was two of us not three persons. Luckily her mum was around from the village when I got the place so it was the mum that spoke sense into her that's she can't do tha. I was like really. I didn't say anything about it.


The time to pay the balance came but she travelled to her village that time.I was to pay to her account but somehow I defaulted on that date. By the time she came back some days later I told her I was sorry I couldnt meet that particular date so as we were talking she said she wanted to bring someone from her village a pregnant girl so she will stay with us deliver the baby and maybe give the baby for adoption .

All the alarm bells in me were ringing, I said is she your relative she said errrm no "my sister from the village" (all these na my sister parole) I said does your mum know about you bringing her she said her mum will not allow her to bring the girl to Lagos if she knows. I didn't say anything at first.

Later that night I told her that having a pregnant person living with us permanently will not work as I need to study for critical exams and pregnant people need care and beside I don't support harboring someone that we don't know that is pregnant that hope she knows if anything happens to her all her relatives in the village that threw her out will come for her head and me too will be involved as the roomie.This is naija and Lagos ooo I don't have the strength for wahala and prevention is better than cure that she can be sending money to the girl to help her my friend did not listen to my talk

She said the girl can't disturb me I a inhumane etc etc. I then saw that diplomacy time has ended that its one of three options.

1. Do not bring the girl we agreed to be 2
2. Just remove the months I have used and give me the remaining balance if you want to bring her.
3.I have your balance with me let me use the remaining months left and leave if you are still bringing her.

She didn't agree with any of the options, So I held the balance.She said I can't hold on to the money I said I will and that's the leverage I have. Our agreement changed the moment you decided to bring someone else to live permanently with us and not just anybody someone from your village that you are not related to and is pregnant and you are thinking of giving the child for adoption that I like my life and don't want anypolice or court case for my self.

She called the agent they called me we held a meeting I said I am not saying she can't bring her but she should just take one of my options. They said I am inhumane , difficult, that I call myself a Christian and I am wicked that as easy going as I am I am very difficult.

I just dey look them and I still held on to the balance she even threatened to beat me up sef just because I held on to the cash loool. when I saw her wahala was to much for me I left the place for her and stayed with someone.

When they saw I didn't buldge they called another meeting at that point sef me too I now did shakara that I can't stay with someone that threatened me because of small matter.Anyway we settled it that dat.

The agent said I should give her the balance I asked is she still bringing the girl she said shes not I paid her and we lived till my money expired.

we are now good friends and I visit her whenever I am in that area.


Your friend should find someone suitable herself simple.

Winneygirl:
Or.... you can look for a replacement by yourself.
Someone who you might be comfortable staying with. I don't know where you stay or what you do... but corp members usually need a place to stay and hardly stay beyond a year.
It will take time though....

ibkn:
see me see local trouble OO! the person that wants to move out is the one insisting that either I pay or her friend moves in. God forbid if the relationship fails nko? her friend and her will join me in the flat. I no gree. you cannot have your cake and eat it. I won't pay you for inconveniencing me. park and I get a free room space. shikena

oglalasioux:
Smart move. They want to kill two birds with one stone. They probably know your sister can't balance the money so they'll both stay. Forget the talk about her leaving. It's all a trick.

PresVA:
She should neither accept the new person nor refund. ..
How could she bring a total stranger to live with you?

Then, about refunding her, why should you refund her? Did you chase her out of the house? She's leaving on her own accord so you don't owe her anything. ..

If she's a very good friend, you can consider either of the options. .but just know that you don't owe her anything

eyinjuege:
Let your friend accept the new room mate.

Project400:
Is it possible for men to lie about their marital status? Do ladies agree to date a 'grown man' whose house/home is unknown to them?

That's a difficult one.