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ibkaye:
THANKYOU JARE!

Then what is the point of being married? I don't understand how some people think  

YE! MY HEAD O, MY HEAD!  

I just want to know what life is this? What would permit someone to get married in the first place with thinking that this is an ideal marriage. I think she should just stay single and have flings or become one of the swingers. I mean her kids would see her with another dude that aint her father. How would she explain herself? this is truly sad.

Feministic:
@ post

I myself, would prefer an open marriage to the sneaking around that most people do anyway.
and besides, I'm not the type to be nailed to one person, seems rather limiting and inhumane in a way,
I agree that people have been taught to react too harshly to a partner's outside sexual escapades,
and such reactions cause a lot of unneeded problems in relationships.
Since sex to me does not equal true "love" or commitment, then why should it bother me?

As for the guy who mentioned it: some couples love taping each other with other people. It's called voyeurism/exhibitionism.

Are you serious?? So you would bring another man to your marriage? Do you actually think you will find a sensible man who will live a life like this? Your marriage wouldn't last but 5-10 years. Your husband might find a woman more better than you and good bye to you. What example are you setting for you kids seeing you bring different men into the home during the night? There is no such thing as an open marriage. A marriage is between a man and a wife. Unless you are one of those polygomist in West Texas who have seven different wives to one man, forget it.

efelestus:
money breeds confidence. i wouldn't ask my love to marry me when i'm not sure how to provide for her. but with money, men, i can get married to 300 women and have 400 concubines.

Not really. you could have all the money in the world in your bank account and still not be married to any women.

why change it? I love the name, the pride that comes with it, everything. I mean if we change it, what would it be? And what would be the outcome? If you changed the name of America to Golden States, it wouldn't change anything. It would still be the great America as it was before just with a new name.

Uche2nna:
Ideally, yes.  In reality, most women marry for reasons besides love. They might not admit it tho. _{I wish I could also disagree with miself}

Nwannem nwoke, you are wrong. most women marry because of love.

agaba123:
I remember I said that there are things money cannot get.
But those thing will not be very effective on a hungry woman, a woman with an empty wardrobe etc

LOL!!!!! yeah you got the last part right. but yeah i think the most romantic things dont require money.

KarmaMod:
Lmao

amazing how they all want to marry the "good girls" yet STILL return to the so called "sluts" in the end.

Awon ode.

dont mind this man.ewu. he wants a freak a' leak as a wife.

agaba123:
Onyee how do you mean sis?

I have experienced some real romantic things that didn't require money.

agaba123:
Uche, tell you what, there is no romance without money but money alone cannot bring romance.

There are things money will do, but there are yearning in the heart which the money cannot satisfy
It is only the those seemingly little things that will satisfy them.
If you don't know them romance will not be complete trust me

Truly Questionable!!!

Studentet:
@ Onyinye,

Your simply a confused cheating little girl who don't know what she wants offline or online.

Please dont make me die of laughter you are so hilarious. have you considered stand up?

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=156197.msg2596792#msg2596792 date=1217639435]You make perfect sense, my friend.
Are you sure you're a Naija man?[/quote]Ruby, come on now there are some good ones around.

davidylan:
It is very important especially to a guy who is not a virgin when you married him. And you wonder why some men insist on sex before marriage.

well the guy better get over it. it aint like food or water. it is just one sexual act. men.

Studentet:
Onyinye, you are from another planet. Come  back to nija and see thousands of married men chasing fresh **** in clubs and bars.

Yes im from another planet. Planet of Onyinye. where the likes of you are servants.

@op
be happy that the lady gives you some head, if she were me, you would get none.

tpia:
what about a scenario where the wife wants her husband to give her the female equivalent of Mouth Action. He refuses because he "is not in the mood", or else considers it unmanly, unNigerian and unAfrican, since our forefathers never did things like that.

And the woman is tired of two minute sex all the time.

Is it okay if she looks around for a male friend to help her out?

hahaha two minutes. do you even get the chance to get on the bed?

yeah i got what you mean.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=156517.msg2596532#msg2596532 date=1217635100]This thread is so sick I just can't help not laughing

Sounds like the thread about "Selfish Girl": My girlfriend wnt forgive me because I slept with her friends numerous times oh gawdd! nlers[/quote]Nairaland dey will kill me o this man is no man but a petty boy. Who goes searching for female friends, just cause he aint getting no head from his wife? he acting as if the act is food or oxygen.

SAM MILLA:
didnt tell you i am looking for chic angel.

what are you looking for then?

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=156517.msg2596483#msg2596483 date=1217634427]read the title.

Single and Searching. . . . . .any connection there?[/quote]abi o. very true. so all because his wife won't do one sexual act? is it that important?

yeah ummm oka im sorry but im going to have to turn you down.this is real awkward for me and im just aint into any guy right now. so i hope you find some other chic.dalu.

Ruby, he knows he is about to grilled so he signs off.

First if you would be kind and answer these questions
1. what do you want from these female friends?
2. are you questioning your whole marriage because she won't do one sexual act?

oka you are kind of putting me in an awkward position. I sincerely hope you are just joking with me. I sincerely hope. Any ways it is not necessariarly an "interview" but they sure are going to ask a lot of questions and such.

SAM MILLA:
And you believe thats the right thing to do,
what if i don't want to be interviewed by your whole family members?

Then what? Dose that mean that i don't love the girl or does it mean that i don't deserve her?

onyii baby, answer now because its beta u tell them in
advance that i am a hard nut to crack because i am coming for you.

i hope you are upt to 17+ because i am a soccer player.

Nwannem nwoke, im flattered. really i am. but ummm yeah i hope your just joking with me. Anyways i do believe it is right for my parents and my family to interview the man im going to marry. The opinion means most valuable to me. But yeah i hope you are just joking.

rampant:
but if its a medical doctor u peeps wont interview him  abi?

Yep, when my cousin got married, all the elders in my family interviewed the man before they could get married and he was a lawyer. and i will go through the same thing when i eventually marry.

SAM MILLA:
are u guys still on this, i thought the point has been established.
onyinye has accepted to welcome the teacher and sit him down and talk to him
to determine his genuity i guess.
(and thats if he want to talk to you)

I don't care if he doesn't want to, he will have to be interviewed by our entire family.

rampant:
my point exactly
i for one wouldnt want it to happen to my daughters,but if it does,who im i to deny her ,her happiness

I wont deny her happiness, but i will have a serious sit down with the man first. If i feel he aint no perv, then i will feel a wee bit betta. but i still dont condone teachers dating students.

rampant:
you're making it look as if the man will forever be a high school teacher.u people sef

Im just saying that if someone wants to date their high school teacher, fine, just don't come crying to me when something happens. But im not saying some real good marriages can't come out of it cause there can.

idupaul:
u will love the idea 2 or did your dad put cctv in your undies when u were in high school.

LOL. no he put a chasity belt. naw im just jiving. i had four safe and enjoyable years in high school.

idupaul:
thats if he knows,  it happens to many girls and their dads don't know.

Well Nnam will know. i will make sure that teacher gets whats coming for him.

rampant:
d last time i checked destiny had nothing to do wt favour

well if that is someone's destiny to date and end up with their highschool, well then May God truly be with them.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=156194.msg2596229#msg2596229 date=1217628753]exactly!!!
he did not make any move because he knew itz a wrong move.

It's a fact that almost every students fall in love with their teachers, but a smart teacher, esp the one that wants to keep his job, knows the situation cannot/should not occur.[/quote]Yeah he should know it is the very worst move. Because my village dad will come and tear his ass up.

rampant:
so what if its their destiny to be together?

then well unfortunately destiny wasn't in their favor.

rampant:
you're already complicating issues,u said its not right for a teacher to date a student didnt u?

and i asked u ,have u ever heard of d word called destiny?

what has murder got to do wt my question?

Oka oh, yes i have heard of the word destiny.

rampant:
ever heard of d word destiny?

if that is destiny then i guess it is a person's destiny to become a murder.

SAM MILLA:
yes they will always call it rape to justify one persons own case and condemn the other.
forget that crap.
what did she went to do in his house? oh he dragged her there.

meanwhile are you sure you didnt do it too?
and who mentioned coaches here.
give me your coaches number, i will ask him.(jokes)

It aint crap, this is real life. yes she went there on her own but i doubt she intended on having sex with the dude. Why in all that is reasonable would i have relations or a relationship with any of my male teachers or coaches?? Do i not have sense?