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dreeldee:
i don't expect a real "lady" to make much orders if any on a first date, i should be the one making the offer and hopefully, she should be refusing my offers   and even if she's going to accept it, trust me i won't even offer you something too expensive or a large meal so i save money because i ain't sure yet if you're a glutton or not, you don't expect me to feed your voracious appetite on our first date

Dang, i get your point but you sounding kinda cheap.

HCH3COO:
Can you explain why you expect him to pay but can't be a submissive wife?

You are looking for trouble this afternoon. I said that i can't be a full blown submissive wife, but i will be close enough that i take of my duties as a wife. And well growing up, that is what i was brought up with. The man should pay and the woman pay sometimes.

HCH3COO:
You can spot the greedy ones from a mile away.

oh really now.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2595013#msg2595013 date=1217613497]gone are those days when a babe will have to ask the husband for money to buy underwear, so we are not saying don't make your money, but trust me, it goes a long way, when u actually take it upon yourself to take your man out and spend on him, always receiving is not a good thing, giver never lacks.[/quote]Of course i would take my man out. I have done it before in the past. But when he starts expecting me to take him out all the time, then that is when trouble starts.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2594991#msg2594991 date=1217613296]cldnt have said it better, yu will know an hungry lady by what she order at a restaurant, you will know that a lady that has never seen good food by what she order at the restaurant, and ladies as such should be made to suffer such.
Anyhow, nothing wrong in a man paying, but if she can't afford it, i will stay home and we will soak gari, u odnt like it? go to the next guy.[/quote]LOL!!! yeah i think such chics are so ridiculous. I mean ordering lobster, scallions, sun dried tomatoes, and bread sticks on a first date is a bit much. But i did hear one from a friend that the guy willing paid for what she ordered.

dreeldee:
no charm will make me pay when she's ordering what i've never and don't know when i'll have a taste of such in a lifetime

What ever. when she starts becoming seductative, watch you pull out your pay check

HCH3COO:
I think what you mean to say is that you find it "attractive" when a man foots the bill on a first day, it leaves a lasting inmpression on you.  All these shouts of "he should pay" is rather your alter ego messing with your agbari.  You don't want to be a submissive wife, you make your own money, yet you go out with your man boyfriend and still expect him to pay.  I no be mugu o, you go wash dishes well well.

First of all nwannem nwoke, i will be a good wife. Maybe not full blown submissive but close. Second, yeah i expect my man to pay. but if i see the opportunity for me to show him that i can return the offer, then will take up the bill. Third, what is wrong with me making my own money? You want me to ask my man for an allowance?

dreeldee:
@onyinye God help such woman that she's got money with her because i'll take the exit door, then we'll see who's smarter

LOL!!! Watch her turn on the charm and you bring out your wallet.

[quote author=A-40 link=topic=143923.msg2594907#msg2594907 date=1217612578]@onyinye
When last i checked Rick Carlisle was the coach of the Mavs my post was not for you dearie[/quote]If you read the bolded area clearly, i was talking about the Houston Rockets. and their new recruit Artest. I was posting that with him on the team, we are bringing home the trophy back to its rightful home.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2594905#msg2594905 date=1217612567]In western world, till u marry, my sister, it is u pay your and i pay mine.
Even after theya re married, it is all because they most of the time have join account.[/quote]Well for me in the states, i don't pay for myself most of the time. Oka on the first date, it is all about first impressions. So yeah the man should pay on the first date. But afterwards, the woman should pay sometimes you know. it is only right. But then again i know some scandalous ladies that will purposely order the most expensive thing just so she can test how much he got in his pocket.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2594866#msg2594866 date=1217612259]there are some times when a man is low on cash and such days, the best u cld do for such man like u said is to be there for him, like be4 u leave the house, give him the money for the date, not that you will get there, and say " you fool, here take money and pay for it"
western world style is you pay urs and i pay mine, it is african culture that will pay for the lady.[/quote]in western culture, that whole you pay for yourself thing, is when you are still in the friend mode. But once you start dating, he should pay. But if he doesn't have money, why are you taking me out in the first place? And if i have to pay, i will take up the bill, not give you the money before we live. But yeah i don't mind taking up the bill everynow and then. I mean i get be getting all the taking, and him doing the giving. im not self fish.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2594826#msg2594826 date=1217611910]na wa for you oh, u want to enjoy the good side of western culture and the good one of nija and dump the other, see you, you don't want to dubmit to the man and yet u want to spend his money?[/quote]I will surely care for my man and be there to fulfill his every need. As for money, oka i was raised in any area of southern gentlemen and they always paid. I have no problem you know taking up the bill. In fact there will be days instead you taking me out, i will take you out and pay.

HCH3COO:
No mind the yeye aproko.  Na for fantasy island she dey live.  When reality strike she go wound.

Nwannem nwoke, o gini?

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=156239.msg2594797#msg2594797 date=1217611694]The man should pay, but is he aint got money, sis, help him out and he will pay u back when he has gotten a job.[/quote]I will pay but it will surely change my perception of you.

i dont see the problem. they are both mature adults in love so watever. now 20 and 45, oka now that is something to be reckoned with.

idupaul:
Hurray,,,,,,, am really happy for you. am serious.

hw come my madam lost hers.

No need to be happy, it is just a choice i made.
Well nwannem nwoke, that i question has endless answers. You are better off asking her, not me. We all choose to do such things for different reasons.

idupaul:
You try sha, but it wasnt a spectacular perfomance though.

hmmm its tricky, but i bet u have lost it , i know say u don see opportunity tire.

you bet ko opportunity ni. I haven't lost anything.

idupaul:
Virginity status.

Oooh okay. do you think i still have this status?

[quote author=A-40 link=topic=143923.msg2594472#msg2594472 date=1217608068]Favre should just quit already even though he is a great player and all that i am not sure he can lead the Packers to another NFC championship game i think his time is up and a great player should know when to quit its becoming rather ridiculous he has pulled more comebacks than Evander Holyfield and Mike Tyson put together

@Jesoul
You would be suprised at the wonders Rick Carlisle will do this season i wont say more than that
As for Houston i really feel they could use a gully and grimy player like Artest at least let the guy die before you bury him he just might be what they need Houston must be tired of T-Mac's ajebutter basketball by now[/quote]
Yeah we are going to bring home the championship trophy back to its rightful home.

idupaul:
Are u saying you still have it? declare now and make women folk proud.

gini "it"?

idupaul:
ohh   u lost it when the opprtunity came.

lost gini?

idupaul:
ok ooo, sha I hope u got a virgin too

Don't worry about me, i know my morals.

idupaul:
is this a curse

Mba, this is a wake up call.

idupaul:
believe its likey to be lack of opportunity, if she can hold it till 26 we can to a great extent call her a VIRGIN of the AVANT GARDE class. the true christian like bespoke virgin

Blah Blah Blah. this is why you don't deserve a virgin.

idupaul:
26 means she is an abstaining virgin  , any thing below 25 means the person is a lack of opportunity virgin.

Nwannem nwoke, you got it all wrong.We leave in a world where temptation is way higher so just because a person is 24 and a virgin doesn't mean it is from lack of opportunity.

idupaul:
Heaven ke,  av still not given up hope of getting my own 26 years old virgin.

why she gotta be 26

Aunty, thank you.

idupaul:
I am really jealous , hw come he got the 26 yr old virgin and i did not.

Because you didn't deserve it or you weren't looking in the right place or women.

ifyalways:
ilu nka kajara akaja.nne gi bukwa nnukwu mmanwu sha
i hotaakwara ihe di ilu butara maka na atuola omara,o mata mana a tuolu ofeke,o felu fenye isi na ohia.
dalu

(coughs in embarassment) Aunty ify, may i ask for the translation.

Oka ify, i've got a probverb my mom use to tell me.

Nnam gwalum na Obulu na Udala amaro ebe nkpoluguya di, O ga ada, odanye na ofia ofeke, si na obumu gwali, "
My father told me that if an udala fruit lacked knowledge of the roots of the tree that produced it, would surely fall into the evil forest of the profane,

alexleo:
my wife was a virgin when i married her seven years ago. she was 26 years then. Man, i have all the respect for her. I have a die hard trust on her. I celebrate her all the time. You know what it means to deliver herself mint to me? My wife can walk the streets of the whole wide world with her head tall and no man can point at her that he has tasted her. Am proud of her. Again in the cause of our courtship we never had sex, i left her untouched until after our wedding because i don't believe in premarital sex or any sex outside marriage. And you know what? Ours has beena peaceful and blissfull marriage. I love her 100 percent and over. Its quite a thing of joy both for the woman and the man.

May God Bless your marriage.

JeSoul:
Huxley is married to a[b] christian [/b] perhaps that's why he's so obsessively militant about discrediting christianity.

He is not married. . . but i hope when he does God will find him first.

Throughout my whole life, i have only seen my mom cry once. And that was when my uncle died in a plane crash in Nigeria. When i saw her crying, it was heartbreaking. But i couldn't cry in front of her, so i went to my closet and just started balling. I mean it just broke me. I didn't say anything either. I just left the room because i couldn't deal.

@post
If you want to solve the problems of Nigeria, you have to first start with the mentality. Everyone has this mentality of "You don't do anything for, then i aint doing anything for you" Until you rid these people of that mentality, Nigeria shall continue to suffer. When the people start showing that they can do better, then change will happen. When someone who has a brand new 09' car finally sees that what is the point of this car if the rodes are terrible. let me do something to help, then people will see that example and follow. Because a lot of people rather sit around with their friends eating kola nut and talk about all the problems in Nigeria, then actually do something.