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[quote author=HR.hotness link=topic=166449.msg2739326#msg2739326 date=1220296421]@ topic

I spse what she's driving at is that women shdnt put themselves in that situation. . .

if u don't want a guy, why lead him on. . . mean r pretty open with what they want anyways, so d idea that u didnt knw shdnt even arise. when u make it clear to a gut that you're not interested in sex and take away all opportunities for him to take advantage, then d issue of date rape will not even arise.[/quote]But what about you and your guy are getting caught up and you know you aint into having sex. Doesn't matter what the situation or position you are in. . . . the guy should know that NO means NO.

Sisikill:
So you are saying that after the yes, the maybe, the giggles and the chuckles, the handling on the bed, the shirt half way down, the skirt half way up, she now says no, he should just jump off her and say "Yes Ma'am! Whatever you say!" Not even!

You darn skippy!

Baxilexi:
onyin, noting in life stops abruptly not even machine.

Im sorry but i can't except that. If i was with a dude and i saw things were getting hot N' heavy, then i might pull the plug and say i aint gonna do it. I would hope the guy would understand in ALL circumstances.

Sisikill:
[b]The word NO in itself is not should not be used to judge a rape situation in some cases. [/b]It's sad how many men have their names on the sex offender's list because of situations like this and once someone's name is there, there is not erasing it.

And guys should also know the kind girls they are dealing with. Not everyone who comes batting their eyelashes at you is inviting you to come sex 'em up.

But Queen. . . . isn't no the most important aspect. I mean if she says NO, then it means NO. And if he is continues to conclude his sexual desires it is rape. So what do you want her to do, bring out her camera phone and videotape the act so it will show some proof?

Rape is ALWAYS criminal. But doesn't mean a person will get convicted for it.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=165944.msg2739009#msg2739009 date=1220292998]@oyinye
if Hanna does come to FL, make room for me over there.
I'll need a place to stay jk[/quote]Never believe the hype of hurricane. It never hits Houston.

@all

Can i ask yal this? Was all the insult necessary? I know the kind of person I am. Which is brassbound. But did you need to insult me for it? I mean can any of yal quote me where on this thread i insulted any one of you? Because i sure can't. So who cares if im cantankerous. . . . i will eventually meet my match. It happened when my parents had me to my father and so will it to me. The cycle continues.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=165944.msg2738945#msg2738945 date=1220292304]Actually it's heading towards New Orleans.

Florida and the Islands has had enough of this hurricanes sef

But thanks, NY is not for me  [/quote]Yeah supposely it is going to hit Houston but it never does.

tope2000:
You only want life to viewed accroding to the gospel of onyinye
You think you are always rite with every arguement

Oka i have no idea where you got this summary but whatever. Of course i go by the Gospel of Onyinye . . . . who else then. Gospel of Tonya, Chris, Brittany. . . i mean what?
I never said that i was always right. . . . but im not saying im wrong either.

davidylan:
makes sense, i doubt if the outcome would have been the same if you were just like your mom.

I think it is honorable to be like my father. He is a very respectable strong person. My mom is too strong as well. The out come would have been the same because im just me.

StephenP:
Maybe you should strive to be like your mom.

Why. . . . when i can strive to be me?

StephenP:
I want to know too.

I have other siblings.

agaba123:
@ onyinye
you are an ego bomb waiting to explode. egoistic is primary level of your ego. I do not know what you read and I don't know how you parents relate to themselves.
If your thoughts are molded after your mums. Good for you but if not, go find out why she is still married to your father.

My parents are still married to this date because my father is a top class gentlemen and very understanding. And my mom is too understanding. Actually me and my father are exactly alike.

StephenP:
@Onyinye, I can't wait to break that wall you think you've rigidly put up. It is a rule, it's just, again, human.

And what rule is this again? That it is a must for me to cry infront of my husband like a child? And there is no "wall" built in me, it just is.

davidylan:
there is nothing like rules, its just being yourself, being human, letting go and trusting that your partner will be there to hold you and protect you. That is what makes a relationship stronger. Being able to open up completely to each other.

You said it not me.
Anyways. . . . of course i would open up completely to my spouse. And while im "opening up" i'll tell him that when im upset, i need to be let alone. So far i haven't had problem with anyone on the this issue . . . . . well except once.

tope2000:
i don't really give a damn if you cry or not
I am refering to all your other post on this thread n others

Which summarizes as me being what. . . .

tope2000:
All i can say is you're living in a world of your own
the way you think is something else  
i hope as you continue to grow, you learn to see life differently

So just because i don't like crying in front of folk, im deemed as "something else"? I mean can't i just collect myself without the help of others?

davidylan:
This one don pass ego of a man, its the ego of a stubborn mule she possesses.

Is the insult necessary?

davidylan:
A woman is more emotional than a man so its expected that she will do more of the crying. who told you men don't cry infront of their wives? Is it because they don't share that with the world?

So just because it is expected of me to be some emotional creature. . . i must abide by that rule?

tope2000:
i mean generally
BTW
why don't you like crying infront of people?? its human to

Why would i cry in front of people when there are isolated places for that? To tell you the truth. . . . i don't like see folk crying in front of other people. It just seems weak and childish to me. I mean can't you go to your car, room, some where isolated to do so? I mean i don't even cry in front of my own family. I just dont see the point in it. Just let me handle it and collect myself.

agaba123:
You should have been a man since you have the ego of a man. It is still not late.

So you are saying im egotistic?

tope2000:
@onyinye
I think its time you start living in the real world darling unless of course you don't plan on marrying a nigerian man oo

So i don't live in the real world because i don't like crying in front of people?

davidylan:
deliverance minister no go do.   She needs a guy who will handle her with some tough love and all this "this is me", " just not my style" will disappear.
If you can't be comfortable enough to cry in front of your husband then why are you married to him?

Abeg climb off the high horse. We've seen and handled girls worse than you before, they crumble like a pack of cards when you get them around your index finger.

Like the umpteenth person who has said that. . . . . any ways I want to ask you this. Why is it oka for the man not to cry in front of his wife but the wife is expected to?

agaba123:
get her a deliverance minister.
Ihe a agbaghi aka

Actually understood some of that. . . .

tope2000:
David n onyin, im serious about u two hooking up oooo
u two would make an intresting couple, u guys can learn a thing or two from each other

FAULTY

davidylan:
Young woman, if you've ever been seriously in love before you wont be saying all these things you're saying. I don't know anyone, male or female, who doesnt need a shoulder to cry on . . .
Dont force yourself to be different, you're just going to drive men away from you . . . by the time you realise it, it may be too late.

Oka i have always been this way. . . . so im not forcing myself to be different. I just don't like crying in front of people. Just not my style. When im upset or something. . . . let me handle it. Trust me it is a way better than the alternative. . . .

StephenP:
Look, it's ok to be comforted when you're upset . . . it doesn't make you any less of a woman, it just shows you're human.

Oka. . . . . so you are basically calling me inhuman  I just don't want to be comforted when im upset. It just adds insult to injury because it helps nothing. All it does is annoys me even more.

davidylan:
You're forgetting you had your picture here early on.

Hmmm. . . . . . .

davidylan:
Does it need verification? Just read your own self-deluded posts.

Cutty buddy. . . . just because i don't follow what most do. . . . im self-deluded?

StephenP:
Your posts give you away.

Actually. . . . they don't.

StephenP:
Because that's friends and lovers do . . . they comfort you because they care for you.

Yeah and my friends and such do care enough to know that when im upset that i need to be left alone.

davidylan:
i have been "priviledged" to see her royal highness. Ask me in private for my personal opinion.

Awwww. . . . . cutty buddy, stop telling fables.

davidylan:
Its obvious you've never been seriously in love before. Too bad, i can help you out if you are interested.

How can you verify this. . . .

StephenP:
Sweetie, everyone wants to be comforted when upset yet here you are, wallowing in self deceit, talking about how you're not the type to be comforted and all that "jive".

What, can't i be different? I don't like hearing "It will be okay" "Its all right" "Im here for you". That just adds insult to injury. Just let me be myself for a wee bit and let me handle it. When i get back my three C's (cool, calm,and collected) then I will come to you.

agaba123:
would have liked to see how this 'gift to mankind' looks like.

Not all dreams come true. . . .

StephenP:
Girl, you need to get off your high stool.

Hey my "stool" is just as leveled as everybody else's. What, im not the type to be comforted when upset. Just let me get my composure on my own. . . . then it is a win win situation for everyone.

@post

Do you expect her to have a kool aid smile and to be skipping down the rode when she finds out you are dating her friend?

Ben20001:
Onyinye abi Onyinye2, you no dey tire for talk,
Your eye never dey pain you since 3:00.
Na wa o
Davi abi Kini oruko, you too leave the babe make she use her life do something.

Nairalanders, make una help me see problem for net o

Oka im going to have to ask you to rewrite this into clear plain basic english. Thanks.

chika98:
Kissing me intensely when I'm upset while saying he's sorry. Now that's hot!

Na uh! That is not hot. . . . . that will get somebody slapped.

mesmya:
oh no funmi u and this your kwestions
seriously wats all sex and no correct food to go with it?

Correct food my foot. Just give a dog a bone

Anyways back to topic:

The most romantic thing a guy could do is just recite poetry with a Gerald Albright instrumental in the background.
That would just melt me to my knees into his arms.

eldee:
Let's see . . . maybe it's because Nairaland is a leveler that helps daft vermins like you a chance to be Einsteins behind PC screens

Oka. . . . did i strike a nerve? What is with the insults. . . . . seriously so not necessary or respected.