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3. Self-accountability. Carry out a periodic review of your person, your values, your progress and growth in life. You must give yourself honest feedback on how you are doing in life. Review your association regularly and be sure you’re hanging with the right people. When you judge yourself honestly, no one can judge you.

2. Take action. When you want something or you need to do something, stop seeking friends, relatives and familiar people to help you or do things for you.

Don’t ask anyone to do for you whatever you can do for yourself. Even if you think you can’t, try first and fail before asking for help. Take action by yourself.

You may not realise this, it is actually easier to get help and honest feedback through strangers than a familiar person. Be your first and best help. Be independent, solve your problems yourself.

1. Stand for something. Define your essence and give your life a meaning. You must clearly define what your life is about and what you’re after in life. You must know where you’re going and how you intend to arrive at your destination.

You must have certain values and personal rules you wouldn’t violate no matter the situation. These should be beyond morality rules, they are self-discipline or personal rules. When you define yourself, and respect your personal rules, you need no one’s opinion about you, you already know you.

The day you set yourself free from the opinions of others, the day you cease to be a victim of their emotional blackmail, the day you cease to hanker after acceptance and popularity, the day you don’t need people to sing your praise, accept you, commend you or validate your essence, that day you begin to earn real respect.


If you want people to show you proper respect not tied to your money, power, influence or position, you need to make the following decisions and abide by these rules. They are as follows:

If today it appears you are respected by many people because you are rich, the day you’ll know what they truly think of you is the day you find yourself in a problem money can’t solve.

If also you think people respect you, hold back your financial favours and generosity from them for a season and you’ll hear true confessions about what they think of you.

My dear friends, money cannot buy respect, being good or kind cannot buy respect, even humility and decency cannot earn you respect. The only way you can earn genuine respect is through self-realisation and self-dependence.

Ladies and gentlemen, real respect cannot be bought, what you can actually buy is eye service. True respect is when people genuinely respect you in your presence and in your absence. True respect is when people respect your person not your possessions. No matter how rich you are, you must earn self-respect to get it, it cannot be bought. The most revered and respected people in history never achieved it through their bank balances.

This is a major reason many of us make unreasonable financial decisions.

We labour or steal to build massive expensive houses in expensive areas to impress and earn respect but eventually just occupy a small portion of the massive building.

We buy and collect expensive cars and waste money servicing and maintaining vehicles we hardly use – just to impress and earn respect. We invest in very expensive clothes and accessories than the ones half the price look more beautiful and elegant just to let people know we can afford designers even if they’re ugly.

Some of us go as far as borrowing money to travel abroad just for people to think we can afford it and respect us. We just keep spending without deep thinking to impress people so that they will respect us or in our words “bow” for us.

Sadly as Nigerians, money and material possessions are the basic factors we use to determine who we choose to respect and the degree of respect we accord. Power and influence are the next factors we use in matters of honour and respect. That, unfortunately is how our society rolls. This is my submission.

This being the nature of our society, many of us unfortunately believe the only way we can truly earn the respect of others is through material possession and financial surplus. We hence, hanker after money and material things by all means based on our craving for respect and popularity. We want respect so we opt to buy this respect from others.

If subsequently we sense the person doesn’t have much materially, isn’t highly placed or not so famous or influential, we lose appreciation and basic respect for such person. In a situation when we feel we have a higher level of power, possession and prosperity than such one, we automatically assume a dominant role in the relationship and in fact demand respect from such a person even if the person is older or more advanced in life.

In a materialistic society like ours, the way you appear, what you wear, how you carry yourself and how people choose to see you is how they’ll treat you either good or bad.

As typical Nigerians, on first encounter with people, we tend to judge by the person’s immediate appearance. Even after we become a bit familiar with that person, we rate the person more by possessions, positions and power rather than intelligence, character or good nature.

Okoyeebows:
Here is what the airline said.

The airline in a statement by its spokesman, Mr. Chris Iwarah, said that other passengers around him offered to translate what was being said in English to him, but he insisted that the crew must brief him in Igbo language.


It's like you too don't understand English. Maybe they need to subtitle the post into igbo before you can understand.

Work in silence...Let your actions speak for you!

smh

ThothHermes:
Oyinbo repete

Yeah signs of a low esteem guy

ThothHermes:
My conclusion is hasty but true. You are a Loserpool Liverpool fan and it's anything Man City is sour grapes to you.

being a Liverpool fan should even make you applaud me for recognizing the efforts of ur coach on our former player sterling......

Guy use your brains...where did i castigate mancity or sterling?....like i said,your sentiments have clouded the aspect that enables you to think rationally!
Now i know you guys hardly peruse....so disappointing!

ThothHermes:
If he wasn't average what was he?? Excellent? Very good??
Tell me

Seriously i doubt if you and your likes understand the meaning of average....Thats because,this needs no argument!
Sterling was skillful and talented..thats why he was bought for that humongous amount...For a very young player to score 18 goals with 95 appearances show how good he is!

Like i said ab initio,no one is disputing the fact that he greatly improved under pep....but saying he was crap or "average" before pep came would make you and your likes look like educated illiterates for not even comprehending usage of words!

ThothHermes:
10 times better.

I agree...!

ThothHermes:
Sour grapes.

Sterling has become world class under Pep. Even the player admits as much.

Its imperative that you peruse before reacting so you don't come out as one who hastily concludes...Its so unfortunate that you fall into those class of people here due to sentiments beclouding your sense of reasoning!

The person i quoted used the word "average" to tag sterling at Liverpool...Now that is a rather misguided conclusion because you can't spend such amount if he was indeed an "average" player...would you?

I also do agree that he got a step better under pep and that is because he was never average as assumed wrongly by the person i quoted!

princeade86:
And dis

So this was the reason why he was talking to sterling as if he killed some one? smh
Why didn't he do so inside their dressing room?

andrew444:
Sterling was average under rodgers weda they push for title or not ,tell me something I don't know ,is it not the same headless chicken ,during pellegrini stint even iheanacho outscored him .

English clubs buy their overrated player for such amount

Sterling is world class now and that's the fact and he developed a lot under pep ,the current sterling is what matters .

EOD

Modified

Just find out you are not the person I quoted ,that one know football with wetin him write ,I would not have quoted you if I know he is not the one.

That's your opinion which you are entitled to!
however,you can't compare his 2013/2014 performance with his shambolic performance under pellegrini!

Coaches are different based on their ability to nurture talent! pelegrini saw sterling as the "finished product"..that's why he convinced the owners to part with that huge sum!

However,it was obvious pellegrini never had the right skills to improve sterling...that's why his performance was below par....

Its unwise to use that as parameter to judge sterling!
A player who scored 18 goals as a teenager during his time at Liverpool and man city was meant to part with 49million pounds can not be an 'average' player!
You could say he was still improving but using the word 'average' would imply that he wasn't "good enough"!

andrew444:
I agree with all what you said.

Sterling under brendan Rodgers was an average player and headless chicken

Sterling under pellegrini was also average

Sterling under pep 1st season was still average

But sterling under pep second season which is last season and sterling now is world class.

No club buys an 'average' player for 49 million pounds!

A player that was integral to Brenda Rogers's push for title in 2013/2014 season and also made 95 appearances with 18 goals can not be regarded as an average player!

I pity some people here who still erroneously believe that you can be in a 'relationship' and still be 'unfaithful' or disloyal as long as you are not 'married'....

Take a stroll down to the last threads in page one and see for yourself!
https://www.nairaland.com/5194392/married-woman-dies-during-sex


I still repeat....Marriage will never and can never guarantee faithfulness or loyalty from your partner esp the promiscuous ones!

When one cheats on a partner that they are in a relationship with,it implies that the person lack emotional maturity hence,the person will still continue the cheating(during marriage) even after catching him/her red handed!

I still repeat....marriage will NEVER guarantee faithfulness or loyalty from your partner!

OP....You don't need answers....You already have plenty!
The choice is yours to make!

For those going through depression or contemplating suicide please read this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/5163072/come-out

aaamos:
Liverpool must go throphyless this season
God of soccer will avenge barca

keep wailing in slow motion

PrudySara:

watch first

c. The girls all going girl power at the end when they were protecting the van? Ugh i almost sank in my seat when I saw that part, please Hollywood I have nothing against feminism but can you NOT let it ruin movies? I'm so scared about how feminism will f*ck up the new James bond movie

To be honest i loved the thanos's "i am inevitable" and tony stark's "i am iron man" convo...watch that part like 15 times

However,once i get to the part where captain marvel takes the gauntlet from peter parker,i start fast-forwarding...

The all girl power part in the movie was so silly and unnecessary....seriously,if feminist wanna do their own adventure movies,they are free to...but not a superb franchise like the MCU...see what feminism did to the recent Ghost busters which featured all women!

Stanweezy:
FG should ban snipper, it has killed more human beings than rat

Not a solution!
There were other killer substances before snipper!
In my opinion i think the issue is too much pressure!
Pressure to get married esp for ladies
Pressure to get a good grade!
Pressure to graduate with your own colleagues!
Pressure to remain in an unloving or abusive relationship or marriage!
Pressure to have a job..
Pressure due to age...
Pressure from families and friends....
These kind of pressures lead most people into depression and ultimately,suicide becomes inevitable!

Memberclub:
penaldo lover

quite the opposite.... But how would you know when ur trademark is to wrongfully assume!

uthlaw:
and his scoring them in champions league,the like of aubemeyang,sane, lakazett, sallah,benaldo Silva, Gabriel Jesus are dominating English league, don't even mention Messi!

Its astonishing that sentiment can cloud one's sense of judgement!
there is a difference between playing for club against another club in the same country and playing for a club against another club from a different country!
Know the difference!
Its a simple challenge!

Memberclub:
what a load of bullsh!t.

yeah just like yours!

Chai eleyi gidigan

Memberclub:
he scored 2 goals each against Tottenham man utd and Liverpool this season. Take a sit

Mr Reactor....try to peruse before reacting extraneously...no pun intended!
I said he should come to the English premier league...In other words,he should play week in,week out esp during Christmas where there is hardly any break!
That's totally different from playing English club sides in a champions league match!
At times,fans of messi allow sentiments to cloud your sense of judgement!

andrew444:
Look at how salah is scoring for fun in the Epl after they will say Epl is hard

Is it the same salah that cannot score 20 goals in Seria A per season ?

But since when dude went to Epl he has become world class

Scoring goals depends primarily on the position the manager want you to play!
It also depends on the formation a manager decides to use which normally brings the best out of his forward players!
Most times klopp either features him as a striker or as a winger hence,the probability of salah scoring is very high!

bukkyemotions:
Just 22 goals, when Messi is 34 goals with one match remaining

I challenge messi to spend a season at the English premier league and see how tough it is.....You can't compare that to a league where atletico Madrid are the only club side with a good defence!

emeijeh:
Yea, you right.
It really hurts to be a Man United fan these days.

Cardiff?!
Common Cardiff?!