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The hurt you feel is so deep, it’s too hard for you to deal with on your own. The depression is so heavy you lack the emotional energy to set yourself free. Still, no one sees it, no one feels it, no one senses it, you’re perhaps too good at hiding the real you, they can’t see through it, or perhaps they are too busy or consumed in their own world and issues, they can’t really see yours.

The losses you’ve experienced, the disappointments you’ve experienced, the back to back heartbreaks from people you loved, the character failure from people you trusted, the treachery and betrayal from people you gave your all, the sell out from people of your blood, the wrong your father did, the hurt your mama caused, the wrong steps you took that back fired, that big mistake you made that’s left your reputation permanently tainted, the mistake you can’t forgive yourself for and the regret that you recall that makes you cringe every now and again.

You join religious groups, you choose to fellowship hoping companionship and being with people of faith will help out, unfortunately, the one you joined are more interested in using you than helping you or building you.

Your stewardship is their priority, your service is their priority, your seed sowing is their priority, your attendance is their priority, your donations is their priority and your financial contribution is all they most care about. They can’t see you neither can they truly recognize the real you, so they can’t solve your loneliness, depression hurt or pain issues, they conclude you have no problems simply because you have financial comfort.

They don’t see the needs money can’t buy, they can’t see the gap money can’t fill. Still, you go there, every meeting you’re in attendance, singing, worshipping, praising and praying, you’re smart enough to know they’re fake, you know the lies and can perceive the scam, but you can’t just walk away, to where, to who?

But I know you, I know your kind. Yes, outwardly you seem to have a perfect life, the façade is working perfectly, it’s alright people think you’re cool like that, little do they know that you’re one of the most unhappy and depressed people around.

The laughter is fake, the smile is unreal, the excitement, energy, jokes, fun and thrill are all your attempt to cover up the real person on the inside. That real person that is so lonely, anxious, afraid and insecure.

You apply the make-believe life as a form of escape from the realities of your actual depression and loneliness.

You don’t see genuine helper or anyone trustworthy you can really share how you truly feel with. You escape into movies, into social media, into fashion, into makeup, into sports, into comedy shows, into religion, into shopping, into alcohol and drugs; into your job and perhaps counselling friends and solving other people’s problems, but you definitely cannot escape the fear, insecurity, loneliness, pain and anxiety you feel deep within.

Life has dealt you bad and mean blows you’re yet to recover from. Your soul is so scared, the healing wouldn’t just happen and you’re moving around continuously and interacting extensively – covering up a much-wounded soul.

People have passed so many complimenting remarks on your pictures, videos and content on social media, thousands of likes, thousands of comments and everyone wishing you well, admiring you and envying you. Everyone comes to you for counselling, for advice, for inspiration, for motivation and a shoulder to cry on. You seem a superstar, you seem like you have it all together, you can handle your stuff comfortably well, you are super strong, emotionally balanced and in charge, your life appears like the dream life for most of your contemporaries, they wish they had your life as theirs.

You laugh, you smile, you’re boisterous, energetic, always interested, always involved, full of life, always happy, always the centre of fun, thrill and motivation for other people. You’re always the life of any party, any gathering every group, with you, there’s never a dull moment; your social media accounts are most exciting, most interesting and very active. Loaded with so many videos and pictures of occasions and events. You have so many friends, so many followers, so many admirers, your life seem like the perfect one, everyone wants to be like you, live like you, be happy like you and enjoy life the way you do.

starbuck:
May this never be our portion. Amen


RIP to the lost souls

Lets not keep making proclamations without corresponding ACTION...its too easy!
The people of Israel in the bible didn't just pray and proclaim God's words,they had corresponding action!

Enough of "May this never be our portion. Amen".....Its getting stale everyday! Am also sure that God is not only tired but disappointed in believers who only declare or speak his words without any action!

“The only thing necessary for EVIL to prevail is for good men to stand by and do NOTHING.” ― Edmund Burke.

LesbianBoy:
Stop drinking garri you say 'no' Now look at! You can't see clearly again. I repeat I predicted that Liverpool will beat Barcelona and qualify! You can go and check that thread and see my post including people quoting me to hail me

I don see you way dey drink baby cereal this morning
Taaaaahhh hail kor...
Guy you are not the one that predicted we would win....i know the guy who made the prediction...!
You and some pups were castigating him but he was adamant and confident that we would win even though he is a mancity supporter!
He even predicted the correct score!
Guy No too much talk....its just 48 hours before kickoff....so save your inconsistent predictions until the kickoff!

[quote author=Wordson post=78848876][/quote]yes ohh

LesbianBoy:
Stop the lies now! I was one of those that confidently predicted Liverpool beating Barcelona against all odds and it happened!

Story....you and one osasky repeatedly said klopp won't even smell the finals...

LesbianBoy:
Story! When "god of football" is on your side no matter what the other team does you would come out victorious! Arsenal could have beaten Chelsea today especially if they had taken their chances in the first half but they couldn't score! Anyways saturday is not far! Save this post because I will remind you I predicted it.

Tottenham will win the champions league! I am confident!

I just feel sorry for Liverpool because it would be hard to take. After all the hard work and good football, NOTHING to show for it! In fact I see one or two key players leaving!

You know i still remember you were one of those at the barca vs liverpool thread who made funny predictions about liverpool losing at anfield after the 3-0 loss to barca!
Well The rest is history!
I already know why you want tottenham to win!
So save all those "god of soccer" matter!
If not for the carelessness of manchester city and the naivety of ajax,would tottenham be in the finals?
One thing i have discovered from liverpool rivals is that liverpool keep surprising them!

LesbianBoy:
My prediction is managers that have worked hard over the years but not won anything in their coaching career.

Klopp has won a trophy before

Sarri and Pochettino have not won anything in the coaching career upon all their "good football"

Sarri has finally won a trophy

So Pochettino is up next!

Tottenham would win the UCL!

Guy forget all these weak permutations....
Chelsea won because sarri got his tactics spot on and arsenal were just clueless!
Chelsea never depended on luck or permutations but hard work,determination and superior tactics!
And besides,Klopp has been to two champions league finals and he hasn't also won a continental trophy!
This will be his 3rd UCL finals and the liverpool team he has built for these few years are not only hungry for a trophy but also determined!

Hazard will really be missed at chelsea!

chai

chai arsenal...this continental curse is very strong ohhh

Emereze360:
I remember vividly when my former girlfriend left.. I felt like killing myself, all night my pillow got angry with me cos it was always soaked in tears...but it dawn on me one day that people come and go no body is worth dying for

That's the spirit bro!
In addition,Love yourself plenty and never entrust your heart to anyone!

jnrbayano:
How many men were dumped in this story?

over sense will not kill you!

RIP to her!
This should surely be a lesson to the living esp here in nigeria!
As a passenger,you must always be alert and caution any driver that is over-speeding or following the wrong way!
Most transport drivers are either inexperienced or reckless!

old men playing.....

sonofspada:
Never,
I repeat never look down on anybody.
Always make a humble first impression even to a gate man, cos U'd never know if he is the owner of the house u just entered.

True

Expect disappointments esp from people!

Peace of mind is nonnegotiable!

No matter how caring,noble,just and faithful someone is to you,never entrust ur heart to any one!

Disgraceful!

David Beckham was banned for 6 months and charged 925 pounds(#462,000) for using his cellphone while driving!
How was it possible?
By a passing pedestrian who photographed the incident.....

Now that's is a country where their citizens are actively involved knowing fully well that such misconduct by Beckham could be fatal to someone else!

Here,in Nigeria,we see these drivers everyday operating and making calls with their cellphones including keke drivers!
But we say nothing and only spiritually console our selves with the idea that such reckless behaviour won't result into a fatal accident to us!

At the end,that man wont be charged to court and made to face the punishment of his reckless actions while the living in nigeria will say "thank God it did not happen to me and my family" as they leave the scene and never remember such incident until another similar tragedy occurs!

Juliet11111:
such a thing will never be our portion in Jesus name

It won't be our portion by shouting the name of Jesus only!
We have all witnessed and seen drivers making calls while driving and yet we turn a blind eye!
No matter how many times you pray,if you don't speak out or caution drivers about this habitual acts,more people will keep dying!

FG to World leaders :Nigeria is 'safe' for you to come!
World leaders: Are your people safe?

Dear friend, words hurt, words destroy. Don’t be a victim of verbal abuse, disdain or disrespect. Position yourself for proper respect with or without a lot of cash. Respect is more about who you are, not what you have. If you want true respect, follow the rules!

FRANKLY SPEAKING BY
MUYIWA AFOLABI

8. Don’t stop. In life you’ll encounter different situations and experiences that will thoroughly discourage you and disappoint you. Don’t let them stop you. You can slow down, rest, relax and absorb the hurt but never stop. Never give up on your dreams in life, it defines your essence, once you give up, you lose the meaning of your life. Hold on to that meaning of your life, never give up.

7. Spend time with respectful people. Make sure to avoid people that talk down at you, criticise you, make coarse jokes of your dreams and ambition or laugh at your mistakes and weaknesses. Avoid such people, hook up with people who respect themselves by respecting others. Insecure people disrespect others, avoid them.

6. Respect yourself too. Don’t treat yourself with disrespect. Don’t speak ill or low of yourself. Don’t think negatively or poorly of yourself. You are good as you are and you’ll become better, you are great and you’ll definitely become greater. Appreciate who you are today even as you strive and work at becoming better. Dear friend, show yourself good respect.

5. Expect mistakes. No one is perfect in life including you. You’ve made mistakes in time past and you’ll make mistakes in the future. When you make mistakes, don’t dwell on it in prolonged regret, lamentation and self-condemnation.

Never accept disrespect from anyone because you goofed. Accept your mistakes, no excuses, take corrections and move on. You’ll surely make mistakes in life, but never dwell in regret, just move forward.

4. Ignore your fears. Fear is natural and occasionally comes to everyone but, never bow to your fears. Ignorance is actually the source of most fears. What you know and understand, you can easily handle and defeat. Fear is a major reason we run to others for help and cover. When you become knowledgeable and capable, you become fearless, you become independent.