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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 12:52pm On Jun 25, 2018

ImaIma1:
All this you keep emphasizing is not something you will advise your sister that is dear to you to engage in.

I will tell my sister to love genuinely without holding anything back in a relationship because relationship is very important to the success of any marriage and if they both love each,then they can get married.....
I cant advise my sister to start managing her love for her partner simply because she is not sure if he will leave her or dump her?....that doesn't make sense unless she doesnt love him...
And besides,no matter my advise,its still going to be her decision not mine!

ImaIma1:
Even if you do not see marriage as anything important, somethings are better done there. Even if she has kids and they break up, she was married.

Marriage is as important as a relationship!
You cant in one breath condemn one while upholding the other!
Marriage is important but you expect marriage to do every thing that you didnt do before marriage which a relationship offers!
We expect way too much from marriage!
You expect marriage to make you and you partner become comitted...thats a big lie!
You expect marriage to solve all your financial,mental and spritual problems....thats another terrible misconception!

We ignorantly see marriage as an equipment that converts a person's personality....that's also a pathetic conclusion!

If marriage could do all these,why is there infidelity.?
....why are couples still unhappy.?
why do we have an astonishing increase in divorce cases?
why hasn't marriage changed a known cassanova or a lady who is a serial cheat?

ImaIma1:
Would you marry a lady that has had 3 kids for 3 different men all in the name of total love in relationship?

You might try to answer in the affirmative but deep down you would rather not.

You really don't get my drift do you?
if a man loves a woman and vis a versa,they will do things the right way by getting married but they still have to go through a relationship which is equally important to understand and communicate with each other...which is the norm!
But marriage in its context didn't make them fall in love or made them do things for each other....marriage didn't give them maturity or responsibility.... all these were done and planned before they married not afterwards!

ImaIma1:
Your opinions might be as a result of civilization and supposed new age, but some values never change.

That's also your opinion which you are entitled to....
But if your opinion has brought more harm than good to a married couple,I think it should be time to review your values!
Besides,relationship is a principle that has existed long before both of us we even born hence,you cant just erroneously say that relationship came as a result of a "new age".....

ImaIma1:
I won't advise anyone i know to be in a relationship and act as a wife.

Whats really the requirements to be a wife that you cant do naturally for some one?
Do you need a Wifey title on your name to love and do something worthwhile?

But you will advise a guy to act like a hubby by assisting the lady since he genuinely loves her right?...okay!
My advise is that if you don't love the guy or he doesn't love you,then get some one else whom you love and who is ready to make you a life partner....
Relationship is another phase of commitment, if you get it wrong in a relationship, you will definitely get it wrong in marriage

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 12:00pm On Jun 25, 2018

ImaIma1:
Somethings should be reserved for marriage.

If they can decide to live as a married couple when they are single, having children shouldn't be left out.

Aside child bearing, what are the OTHER things that should be reserved for marriage?

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 11:55am On Jun 25, 2018

@ ImaIma1....I have a question for you.....
Did God place a condition to men before lovingly offering his son to die for us knowing fully well that some men will take that gesture for granted?

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 11:53am On Jun 25, 2018

ImaIma1:
Before sex became a norm in relationships and many things that have become "ok" were not, what were people doing with each other?

Please stop making emphasis on sex as if that's the most important reason why people go into a relationship.....Maybe that's what you think but that's not my idea!
There are great things partners enjoy aside sex....they care and loved each other....
They respect each other....which is paramount and an indicator of where the relationship should lead to...
Today a lady will say she can't respect a guy until he puts a ring in her finger....Or she can't do anything for him since she doesn't know if he will marry her or dump her....does that narrative make sense to you?

ImaIma1:
If i go by your logic, it means she shouldn't hold back from having children for him since she should give her all.

That should be a decision between the man and the woman esp if they decide not to get married...that's because bringing children into the world is a very important responsibility but beyond the scope of this issue we are talking about!

however,I have seen partners that have loved and stayed together with kids without getting married and i have seen married couples that have kids but have divorced....so what difference does it make?

In other words,marriage does not secure a couple from divorce neither does a marriage ensure commitment or fidelity!

ImaIma1:
My friend already has two children from 2 different relationship and the second relationship that produce the second child does not seem to be very active anymore.

That was her decision.....she may not want to fancy marriage!
based on the fact that she had children from different relationships....aka baby mama
however,the same thing is applicable in marriage.....
A lady can marry a guy,give birth to kids and still get divorced....which makes her a single mother with kids....and again still marry and still divorce.....
So what makes the divorced lady different from the single lady who has children from two relationships....

Look am not saying marriage is not prerequisite esp before God,but using marriage as a way to ensure commitment is not true and can't stand the test of time!
Marriage is not a mechanism that automatically produces love!

ImaIma1:
I guess she uses this model of give your allas long as you love him

lol...
I guess U misunderstood my give ur all principles(loving genuinely) which is independent of child bearing.....
When you love some one,you will care for the person....motivate the person...love genuinely.... because that's what you want to do for the one you love....
That's what I mean by giving your all in a relationship....

once that happens,marriage will only become a necessary formality where you want everyone to know that you have been married to the one you love genuinely.....

Remember you can't practise love in marriage..... if you were not in love with him before marriage,don't think the spirit of love will take over as soon as you get married!

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 10:30am On Jun 25, 2018

Slimsly100:
Huh!!!!
Not this early morning biko. I nor get strength to argue or quarrel today.
I agree with u las las.

Na you sabi cheesy

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 10:26am On Jun 25, 2018

ImaIma1:
I agree with you that love should be full and not half.

But a girlfriend should not assume the duties of a wife neither should a boyfriend assume duties of a husband.

Somethings are better done in the walls of marriage even if they end in divorce.

Still don't really get the difference.....or your emphasis towards marriage as a yardstick for commitment and love!

I love some one and deep inside am willing to care and help her out in every way possible even though I haven't married her yet which is also a possibility,then some one will tell me to wait until I get married before I do such....?

So what will I be doing with her before marriage?
keep looking at her face everyday like a stranger until we get married?

So because am not yet married to her yet,I should not assist her or buy her gifts or show her love until I marry her?

So because a guy hasn't proposed to a lady yet,she won't cook for him or do what she would want to do for a guy that she loves simply because she is not sure if he may marry her or dump her.....?

It doesn't make any sense.....these ideologies are illogic and can't stand the test of time!

if a person can be dumped in a so called "wall of marriage",then what's so special about the marriage euphoria.....?
I really don't get it....

If a lady is genuinely into a guy,she won't even wait until she gets married to him before offering him love,respect and care!
It comes naturally....

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 1:14am On Jun 25, 2018

Slimsly100:
I never said it will turn out wrong ma guy and I bet you weren't patient enough to see that I wished her goodluck. Anyway, there no best means of communication than face to face that way u can get the true meaning and motive of someone's statements.

Yeah I saw the good luck but just say so without making it look as though she is going to be slaughtered!

Remember no two relationships are the same.....what work for one may not work for the other!

Let's be optimistic! cheesy

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 12:29am On Jun 25, 2018

Slimsly100:
Don't worry, ur eyes go soon open!!! But until then,

Good luck!!

She is having great time with a great man......wish her well....no need for the negative banter.....not every relationship will turn out wrong......

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 12:18am On Jun 25, 2018

ImaIma1:
There is place for threading with caution and acting in wisdom and discretion.

A lot of boyfriends end up being exes. I guess she has the heart for whatever she gets.

The fact that unmarried people have sex in relationships doesn't still make it right.

True but there is no caution when it comes to love....
That's why its important to take some time to empty ur self from the past relationships due to its effects in one's future decisions....

As for boyfriends becoming exes,do you stop travelling to a particular place simply because you heard that there was an accident?

life or whatever you do in life is a risk.....If you are too careful in matters of the heart,the right person could be mistaken for a wrong person......

There is no such thing as too much love....if you want to love some one,do it wholeheartedly but if you don't want to because you want to be too careful,the let that partner go.....

As for having sex before marriage,that's a decision between partners......

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 11:39pm On Jun 24, 2018

ImaIma1:
It doesn't change the fact that doing all these things for a boyfriend is just a ticking time bomb and not advisable for any lady.

whether boyfriend or husband....its still doesn't change any thing....won't the husband divorce a wife or do you think a child or ring will make a man stay with a lady.....?

A good man in a relationship will be a good man in marriage....same is applicable to a good woman!

It starts from the relationship.... That's where you know who you are into....

U can't give what you don't have!

And besides,she is not doing it because of marriage...she is doing it because she loves her man!

A lady in love can do any thing for her partner....same for a guy!
There is no place for half love or careful love....

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 9:42pm On Jun 24, 2018

ImaIma1:
Not talking from personal experience.

No sad past to move on from.

But as long has not made her his wife, everything she is doing is just background noise.

Nothing special about being married.....
If he doesn't love her before marriage,he won't love her after marriage!

Pls stop putting to much priority on marriage as if its going to take one to their Eldorado....

marriage does not breed commitment or solve all problems associated with relationship!

So don't relegate the significance of a relationship.... its a pointer to how ur marriage will pan out!

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 8:12pm On Jun 24, 2018

ImaIma1:
Boyfriend or husband?

I think she made a mistake and wrote boyfriend instead of husband. Someone should try and correct her.

So you are suggesting like some one said that she should not do anything for her bf until she is married to him simply because you feel the guy in question whom you don't even know will dump her?

Please try as much as possible not to use your personal experience or what you have seen to judge another person's relationship....

Everyone is different.... and many have gone through lots of heart breaks but that didn't stop them from offering unlimited love to their partner....

Move on from your past....learn to forgive your self and forgive that person....and move on....

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 7:45pm On Jun 24, 2018*

victorian:
OK but have not turned bad .
Have only become wise and careful with my decisions and actions , that's all.

My dear I understand your caution but for the fact that you are holding back some certain things U used to do implies that U may not give MUCH in your next or current relationship.....
.....Unfortunately, that should not be the case.....forget about that toxic relationship you once had...
Forget about that guy.....its just that guy NOT all the men!
Forgive him,forgive yourself and move on with your life....
Your current or future partner deserves all the love that U can give....
There is no such thing as half-love or small love.....
Take it from someone who also experienced such in the past!

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 7:29pm On Jun 24, 2018

victorian:
Did I mention categoritically that have become bad ?

The fact am no longer doing everything she's doing at this time , does not mean am now bad .

OK?

But that's what you are insinuating.....
For the very fact that you are holding back some certain things esp due to what happened in the past confirms my assertions...

We all have had heart breaks in our lives at one time or the other but that should not make you change simply because of a certain guy that never cherished what you were doing for him.....

Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 5:20pm On Jun 24, 2018

victorian:
Wow! Am surprised .
If truly u are deep down , then you've earned my respect . Your type look indepth and do not get carried away or sell their souls for sex and curves .
Nice one ! Keep it up, pls.

Don't change o,biko!

I guess you have been meeting the wrong set of people.....

There will always be good and bad people in this world.....no matter the gender involved..

The hurt you have experienced is the same thing a guy has also experienced....

Many have experienced worse but they still carried on with the hope to see a beta partner....

.....the decision or choice to keep going and never change what you believe in is entirely up to you....

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 5:02pm On Jun 24, 2018

peekay429:
Wow! Congrats that's superb u are really a potential wife material. My problem is just that sex part what happened to sex before marriage na. You are yet to be his wife and he has already gotten it from u what will u then offer him when u are married?

So sex is now a gift a lady offers a hubby?
Not character or a very good personality?
Is sex now what a lady has to offer in a marriage?
Will that keep him from cheating on her when they finally get married?
I thought this kind of thinking has become obsolete....

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 4:59pm On Jun 24, 2018

Philpham:
Its impossible to satisfy a man, they are nothing but ingrates and only controlled by their ....

smh

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 4:57pm On Jun 24, 2018

victorian:
Na abroad she dey. So she is 50percent / 70 percent safe .

In Nigeria , i have done all that . at the end all it brought me great sorrows and heartbreaks . Trust me, most Nigerian men don't deserve such woman . like someone said she will learn the hard way. That's why ladies have changed . No mumu again.
And the men are now crying foul.
Someone even said ,he will quickly put a ring on it ?

Did I read correctly ? Ring ko! Tyre ni!

Na lie! Pure lie! Men are never satisfied ontop say they have good wife material , only very few are wise .

E ti ri kan kan.

If you know , you know .

Sorry what did women change into according to you?
They became bad right and you think that will get them a good partner?

So you had a bad past with your previous relationships... does that imply that other guys will do the same thing to you?

So you Were good before and some one used your goodness for granted....does it now stop you from being good?

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Sports › Re: England Vs Panama: World Cup 2018 (6 - 1) - Full Time by openmine(m): 2:19pm On Jun 24, 2018

Pen-harry

6 -0

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 2:12pm On Jun 24, 2018

pocohantas:
Yes, that has always been my opinion on cooking in relationships. I don't dig that "what if he dumps me", what if I dump him kwanu?

If I am going into a relationship, I give it my all.

Whatever I do for him within that period, is because I love him and his well-being is my concern. I love to know that whenever I stop being there, he thinks of me and smiles. Not for the sex, but the memories and value I brought to the relationship.

Ohh my God.....
There are few ladies like you in Nigeria that think like this...please don't ever change such kind of mindset! its very rare!

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 1:59pm On Jun 24, 2018

pocohantas:
Which energy are they saving?
I honestly do not understand this particular reasoning. Some ladies have sex with their bfs, he spends on them...then time to cook, she says she is saving energy for husband? Which energy pass the one she burnt on top bed?

These things are nothing. As long as he doesn't put a gun to her head. If you love someone, you won't see these things as anything.

You won't go about thinking your effort will be a waste if he 'dumps' you. You just do you best while you can and leave the rest.

My dear pocohantas over sense no go kill you.....

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 1:55pm On Jun 24, 2018

Colourich:
Husband should enjoy these benefits not boyfriend.

What's the difference?
Why place so much emphasis on a husband?

Was a husband not once a boyfriend?
When has marriage become a magic wand that makes a Casanova a committed person?
So U think a hubby will not still cheat on the Wifey even if she does all these stuffs?

Marriage does not breed or produce commitment and love or change a person's personality....
What you were before you got married is what you will still be after you have been married!
Don't get it twisted!

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 1:45pm On Jun 24, 2018

MISEDUCATIONS:
just listen to the rant of a bitter envious loser still wishing for marriage.
who will put a ring on such a bitter mess

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Romance › Re: "My Boyfriend Can Never Complain Because I Give Him Everything" - Lady by openmine(m): 1:37pm On Jun 24, 2018

jessca048:
all what she has listed is good, but she should have one thing at the back of her mind men are unpredictable she shouldn't be surprise when that same nigga leaves her for a Chic that can barely even measure of to her

Yeah that's because you have been able to successfully taste ALL the men in this world to come to such conclusion right?
Smh

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Romance › Re: For Men Only: Why She Will Leave you For Another Man by openmine(m): 9:50am On Jun 24, 2018*

banjicom:
Don't mind the mumu guy let him keep writing rubbish, he thinks been a gentle man alone is enough 2 keep a lady. Can u imagine ur girlfriend breaking up with u and d only excuse she could give was that...u are too good for me.....u are not like other guys......2 days later u discovered she is back in a relationship with her ex bf who maltreatment and hurt her days and nights and u just sit down alone thinking where did i go wrong, i did everything to make her happy.

bro love na scam o.....if u know u know

hmmmm.....no all ladies sha but this particular lady is suffering from a childhood issue

your ex is suffering from what psychologists call "learned helplessness".....

Learned helplessness is behavior that occurs when the subject(in this case ur ex) endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or avoid.

Let me explain.....it may be that your ex had an abusive or violent dad who always beats her mother or she has seen her brothers beat their female siblings...hence she saw it as a norm to be beaten by a man even if she did nothing wrong....

Once you are in a relationship with her and you don't maltreat or become abusive towards her,she gets upset and leaves because that is what she is used to....

What you can do to help her if you still care about her...

She doesn't deserve an abusive or violent person to be happy:

What you should do(thats if you still care about her) is to make her understand that she doesn't deserve to be treated like a piece of trash by that violent guy she went back to.....

Understanding what she has been through:
That you understand what she may have been through during her childhood but that should not define who she is....

But but at the end, its ur choice.....

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Crime › Re: Policeman Stripped Unclad, Battered In Anambra For Accidentally Killing A Lady by openmine(m): 8:39pm On Jun 23, 2018

The most corrupt......

Sports › Re: Chelsea FC Reacts To Omeruo's Performance by openmine(m): 7:17pm On Jun 23, 2018

......The rejected stone... cheesy

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Politics › Re: President Buhari Reacts To Super Eagles Victory Over Iceland by openmine(m): 1:44pm On Jun 23, 2018

frankmoney:
well I don't see any reason for that , let's just enjoy the world cup

okay

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Politics › Re: President Buhari Reacts To Super Eagles Victory Over Iceland by openmine(m): 10:58am On Jun 23, 2018

frankmoney:
wetin u want them to do when they lose ?

This could have been their response....
"You can do better than what you did against croatia...we wish you a better and improved performance in the next game....We believe in your abilities"

Sports › Re: Alex Iwobi's Sister & Parents At The Stadium In Russia As Nigeria Beats Iceland by openmine(m): 10:27am On Jun 23, 2018

RexTramadol1:
No be matter of eye problem.....

Even stats have faults so no yarn bullocks oga

Abi no be stat tell us say Naija economy don recover and prices still remain d same

Dose handling statistics have their personal bias also

And from personal experience, I've seen more of beautiful ladies of fulani extraction than the too yellow Igbo girls.

Your argument is baseless and unnecessary.......well that's your opinion of which you are entitled to....

I stand by my opinion that there are pretty ladies all over the country...

..Unless you are telling me U have been to ALL the LGAs or communities in every state to confirm ur assertions...

Sports › Re: Alex Iwobi's Sister & Parents At The Stadium In Russia As Nigeria Beats Iceland by openmine(m): 10:14am On Jun 23, 2018

RexTramadol1:
Hausa/fulani pass fine Igbo well well

With nice curves inclusive.

......this has always been my problem with folks like you.... have you taken stats to determine such conclusions....? Now tell me how you are different from the lady I quoted?

Sports › Re: Alex Iwobi's Sister & Parents At The Stadium In Russia As Nigeria Beats Iceland by openmine(m): 9:00am On Jun 23, 2018

ChiefAzubuike1:
Only a biafran can offer you such an epitome of beauty.

Smh...
....again with this stale biafran thing?
There is no place in Nigeria that you won't find extremely pretty and endowed ladies....

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