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callmelanner:
What is wrong with u sef... So u want to bring GEJ into the Picture again! Are u sure u've not been brainwashed

....Or has been programmed like a robot 2 always mention GEJ....

bandol:
It is high time melaye left Obasanjo alone else he would have himself to blame later. Politics is a game that should be played with wisdom

yeah because its obj...its now political and sud not b tampered with....and yet u will b d first to shout probe him probe him wen it involves Gej.....wit such mentality, d essence of fighting corruption has already been defeated even be4 it even started.....

mascot87:
Propaganda from pdpthief not surprised.

Ahhh....so in oda words,u r implying dat dino melaye is now a PDP sympathizer rite?
SMH

...u sud ask him wat he really wants from u..love or s.ex...d latter seems quite obvious...I tot ladies always ask dat question 2 know a guy's intention...

bro u r okay though...
but u sud know nl by now...

You are right @OP,No relationship or marriage CAN last longer without a good and effective communication...

For both partners to have an effective and fruitful communication, both must be very

1. ENGAGED LISTENERS
If your goal is to fully understand and connect with the other person, listening in an engaged way will often come naturally. If it doesn’t, try the following tips. The more you practice them, the more satisfying and rewarding your interactions with others will become.

Focus fully on the speaker, his or her body language, tone of voice, and other nonverbal cues. Tone of voice conveys emotion, so if you’re thinking about other things, checking text messages or doodling, you’re almost certain to miss the nonverbal cues and the emotional content behind the words being spoken. And if the person talking is similarly distracted, you’ll be able to quickly pick up on it. If you find it hard to concentrate on some speakers, try repeating their words over in your head—it’ll reinforce their message and help you stay focused.

Favor your right ear. The left side of the brain contains the primary processing centers for both speech comprehension and emotions. Since the left side of the brain is connected to the right side of the body, favoring your right ear can help you better detect the emotional nuances of what someone is saying. Try keeping your posture straight, your chin down, and tilting your right ear towards the speaker—this will make it easier to pick up on the higher frequencies of human speech that contain the emotional content of what’s being said.


Avoid interrupting or trying to redirect the conversation to your concerns, by saying something like, “If you think that’s bad, let me tell you what happened to me.” Listening is not the same as waiting for your turn to talk. You can’t concentrate on what someone’s saying if you’re forming what you’re going to say next. Often, the speaker can read your facial expressions and know that your mind’s elsewhere.

Show your interest in what’s being said. Nod occasionally, smile at the person, and make sure your posture is open and inviting. Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like “yes” or “uh huh.”

Try to set aside judgment. In order to communicate effectively with someone, you don’t have to like them or agree with their ideas, values, or opinions. However, you do need to set aside your judgment and withhold blame and criticism in order to fully understand a person. The most difficult communication, when successfully executed, can lead to the most unlikely and profound connection with someone.

Provide feedback If there seems to be a disconnect, reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. "What I'm hearing is," or "Sounds like you are saying," are great ways to reflect back. Don’t simply repeat what the speaker has said verbatim, though—you’ll sound insincere or unintelligent. Instead, express what the speaker’s words mean to you. Ask questions to clarify certain points: "What do you mean when you say..." or "Is this what you mean?"

2. PAYING ATTENTION TO NON VERBAL SIGNALS

When we communicate things that we care about, we do so mainly using nonverbal signals. Nonverbal communication, or body language, includes facial expressions, body movement and gestures, eye contact, posture, the tone of your voice, and even your muscle tension and breathing. The way you look, listen, move, and react to another person tells them more about how you’re feeling than words alone ever can.

3.KEEP STRESS IN CHECK

Use stalling tactics to give yourself time to think. Have a question repeated, or ask for clarification of a statement before responding.

Pause to collect your thoughts. Silence isn’t necessarily a bad thing—pausing can make you seem more in control than rushing your response.

Make one point and provide an example or supporting piece of information. If your response is too long or you waffle about a number of points, you risk losing the listener’s interest. Follow one point with an example and then gauge the listener’s reaction to tell if you should make a second point.

Deliver your words clearly. In many cases, how you say something can be as important as what you say. Speak clearly, maintain an even tone, and make eye contact. Keep your body language relaxed and open.

Wrap up with a summary and then stop. Summarize your response and then stop talking, even if it leaves a silence in the room. You don’t have to fill the silence by continuing to talk.


4.ASSERT YOURSELF
Value yourself and your opinions. They are as important as anyone else’s.

Know your needs and wants. Learn to express them without infringing on the rights of others.

Express negative thoughts in a positive way. It’s OK to be angry, but you must be respectful as well.

Receive feedback positively. Accept compliments graciously, learn from your mistakes, ask for help when needed.

Learn to say “no.” Know your limits and don’t let others take advantage of you. Look for alternatives so everyone feels good about the outcome.

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hmmm....the tam-george's mother was kidnapped and this thread is quiet like a graveyard....imagine if Dis had happened 2 dat of an APC member....
Curses and curses wud have been directed @ governor wike....I smell double standard!!

OkikeAbiama:
It might be strange to people of Ipod territory but there are a lot of decent people in Nigeria

I really don't understand wat u mean saying 'd people of IPod territory'...cud u b a bit explicit wit ur statement?

Obiodunukwe:
Wailer

You ignored this part of her letter. Read carefully

I will however, remain an ardent supporter of President Buhari in his effort in charting a new course for this country. A course that we pray will put this country back on the path of progress. I will also continue to support the president’s fight against corruption and other ills of this country. My unflinching support for the President will remain for Allah’s sake and country. I pray that Allah will continue to guide and protect our President.

Comon bro...dat was a face saving admission she made...do u know wat it means 2 reject an appointment from d federal government?

kingthreat:
As much as I know you're not speaking out of imagination, i still dont want to believe this is true. I dont want to believe that the evil in the world has gone this bad that innocent blood.means nothing in the name of vengeance.

bro Comon on....Dis isn't d 19th century where u just shoot and Dats it...beheading cultist has been dere...so its nothing unusual....

...we r talking of cultists who r demon induced and barbaric in nature....who kill without blinking deir eyes...who maim without having a single conscience...

death 2 dem means nothing cos 2 dem deir soul has been sold 2 d devil..

herbie27:
"ur saying dat the governor gave these cultist arms", so the one dat happened in lagos state who is 2 be held responsible?, i guess the governor too.

bro dat guy is an APC sympathizer...dey see nothing wrong in deir apc governors even wen its too obvious 2 dem....is he nothing d same person dat queried d outcome of d SC in rivers state only to keep mute wen d same judgement was given in Lagos....Na today dose notorious cultist begin fight 4 omoku?

iykekelvins:
That's exactly what I was thinking.. If they were meant to be affected..Injury would av been understandable.

wen it comes to cultism,gender is nothing to dem..still remember a cult group dat killed d entire family of a rival cultist while he was watching with his hands tied...he was also killed just 2 make a statement..
..wen a cult group kills,dey do so without sparing anyone...cos just keeping one person alive no matter d gender or age is enough to put dem at risk....d best tin 2 do is 2 avoid anyone whom u suspect 2 b a cultist cos after killing him or her,u will also be killed...

doctokwus:
This is what u get when a govt comes in through thuggery, bloodshed and deaths.
It's those that were armed by people now ruling Rivers state that are now doing what they know how to do best;maiming and killing because a fraudulent govt has been sanctioned by judges that were supposed to give justice to the people.

Wats ur own problem wit Dis present government dat gives u sleepless nights?...why are u exhibiting ur partisan side 4 all to see....

dese notorious cult groups have been fighting and beheading each even wen Rotimi amaechi was still governor of rivers state....it was even worse during his tenure...

wat u or oda well meaning Nigerians sud do is to set aside ur political affiliations and encourage the police to do deir job properly by raiding omoku of dese notorious cultists.... rather Dan looking 4 every avenue to score any cheap political point....

come ohh...Na Wetin Leicester chop Dis season?...see wahala ohh....

iretiland:
This SC Judges are a disgrace to the concept of society, the santity of life and the principle of fairness. To say they are corrupt is an understatement. But then, how much can any serious minded individual expect from a group of judges appointed by GEJ. Except PMB can find some direction for his administration and thereafter find ways of constitutionally replacing them, Nigeria will continue in this path until some time into the future.
I believe the same judges are waiting patiently to receive the case files of Col Dasuki, Olisa Metuh and others...... so that they can set them free.
With these SC judges in office, Buhari is fighting a lost battle against corruption....... especially since they have Saraki in the Senate to help frustrate PMB in the area of enacting required laws.

wen are you people going to understand that the judges cant rule on any matter brought before them without substantive proof by the procecution...
The EFCC legal department must prove beyond reasonable doubt that the defendant committed that crime....
Maybe that's why they are judges not you or the president cos if u were opportune,you will send an innocent man to prison without fair hearing..

flokii:
you still don't get it.. do you?

those states you mentioned didn't generate much controversies like this... with little or no violence/bloodshed

this is all d fault of GEJ and his illiterate wife.. engaging in electoral fraud like it's nothing

and people like ursef expect us all to keep quiet and smile..

den u still dont get it too.....cos there was violence in osun,ogun and other apc states where elections were held....

Yes there was violence in river and akwa ibom...so it was left for apc legal team to prove beyond any reasonable doubt that there was no election or the election was marred by violence....

To do that,you need to produce a witness from each polling unit to substantiate ur claim...and we are talking about more than 5000 polling units in rivers state....Unfortunately,apc presented only 50 witnesses of which less than 5 was any where near any of the polling units....Wat do u expect the judges to do...?

....so the blame sud go to apc legal team who failed to produce any substantive evidence to back their claim...The job of the judges is to access the evidence brought before them and make their judgement based on it...not hear-says or sentimental mumbo-jumbo....

And pls...no insults on the former president and his wife.....If you have evidence to show that GEJ or his wife were involved in any election malpractice....pls present the evidence here or take legal actions.....stop making baseless accusations hinged on hearsay or sentiments like d apc lawyers who goofed....

GEJ is no longer the president...so don't include him in ur narrative..as if he is still president...

Once again respect the former president and don't say wat u don't know.....cos u r beginning to sound like an apc sympathiser with ur baseless allegation...

flokii:
don't be surprised if what happened to fayose (by Aluko) happens to ur beloved wike..

cos bfor d SC judgement, his loyalists (perpetrators of crime & bloodshed) were already rallying their support for APC

now that he is there, let's see how he is going to sly them and not get exposed

an institution or establishment based on fraud & evil is bound to fail ... just can't last

Ohh so the elections in osun,oyo,ogun,lagos,imo,adamawa,bornu,nasarawa and a host of other apc states were conducted peacefully without fraud and evil right?...smh

I didnt expect anything less from a partisan mouth piece for the presidency..

He didn't talk about the scandal and shame the 2016 budget presented...'there was a miscalculation' or 'give the ministers enough time' wud have been his obvious plea to nigerians....

He didn't criticize the same SC for upholding the elections of governor ajimobi and governor amosun(both from the apc)

He didn't even object the obvious manipulation and daylight robbery of a deputy governor's mandate given to anoda aspirant in kogi state...

No He also didn't mention the obvious killings taking place on a regular basis in bornu no thanks to bokoharam whom they claimed has been 'technically defeated'...

But wen the SC upheld the elections of rivers and akwa ibom to governor wike and governor udom respectively....he finally found a rhythm to his voice....Wat an unrepentant hypocrite...he sud keep wailing till 2019....

dose ladies must be very very very wicked

Melkizedek:
That is the 'Israelites in the wilderness' mentality I've been talking about concerning the mindset of an average Nigerian! I believe in doing good deeds on a low key..but governance is a different thing altogether. Governance is by example. I support senator Bruce's gesture not because the common man can afford it,but so that his colleagues who are senators and governors and ministers will have a rethink and repentance of their ways and emulate him on patronising Nigerian products.

True!

SmartChoices:
You fall my hands big time.... Sure looking gal like you...y are you reasoning like a rebranded chibok girl?

Hahahahahahahahaha..

If they don't patronize made in Nigeria goods,we will complain.... if dey do,we will still complain and add more insults...Dats life 4 u...u can never satisfy any one no matter how much u try to please dem....oga Bruce carry go...#commonsense

tunisbaba:
It is a good thing to buy made in Nigeria things and i love what this man is doing but my concern is that, are Innoson Vehicles fabricated and assembled in Nigeria or the parts are shipped and assembled in the country. If the vehicles are not fabricated in Nigeria by Nigerian engineers, then there is nothing worth celebrating about Innoson Vehicle

but Dats d very reason why he is patronizing innoson vehicles...

nice move....#commonsense

@OP...pls let her go...and move on...
ur ex whom u spent 7yrs wit made a total blunder 2 leave u in such a condition....wat if d so called wealthy or comfortable guy dat she is about to marry had a financial crisis or was sacked due to downsizing... won't dat take her down 2 d same pit hole dat she was initially trying avoid wit u....?

Am guessing if u hammer and den make it like d dangote story,she will be d one narrating 2 her peers how she knew u before now..Lol...sum ladies Sha...dey don't know wat dey have until dey lose it...

sum people just don't know wat dey want in life....
my broda move on....keep moving forward...she has made her decision which 4 me was faulty....

there is no point crying or worrying over dat lady..suicide has never and sud never b an option....
U have so much to offer...don't end it just like dat because of a lady who believed in you 'half way'....

My regret is not choosing this match in ma ticket...but no probs

Manutd don resume deir normal testing testing....2-1....

lloydpras:
Sack This Old Bat!! This ManUtd Board Stubborn sha!

chiefobdk:
where were him

Omor guy u r wicked...

NobleAngell:
And who mentioned a party here? U know, u mustn't quote me cos woteva u hv to say hasn't nothing to do with what I've said.

lol...well I was only making a suggestion which u unfortunately didn't see....

And no i never said u belonged 2 any party..lol..I used party inclinations just so dat u don't tink am being partisan....Lol..

As it relates quoting u,Dats why its a forum...u either quote me or vice - versa...

if u don't sit well wit my quotes ,just ignore dem..simple... no need getting worked up over nothing....

NobleAngell:
Hmmm Ben is at it again. Looks like he had alot on his mind before he became senator. So he is offloading them 1 spew at a time. I think FFK has handed the baton to him.

he is only trying to make a point or stake a claim 4 the youths who have been misguided and hoodwinked...it has absolutely nothing 2 do with party inclinations.... he just made #commonsense

True but its advisable and safer 2 go for both to avoid stories dat touch....

some tin physical must have attracted dem to each oda....d inner beauty in dem is the reason why dey are still together and married....

bottom line:physical attraction brought dem together but inner beauty or a good heart kept both partners forever!