From my perspective, I don’t see anything wrong in a man chasing you date or marry a jobless woman. I have come to realise that the only thing of value to most men of means out there in a woman, is her beauty, youth and virility- her ability to give birth. Most men don’t give a rat ass about what a woman has accomplished, she just has to be good looking and good shape enough for him to marry or date. A lady could be mopping the floor as a job and a billionaire man passes by and fancy her, he goes for her immediately. Most men don’t care about what the lady has achieved in life. That is why the best time a lady should select her life partner should be between 20 to 25 because at that time they are at their best in beauty and physique.But guess what; our ladies prefer to use this time to jump from one highest bidder to another, giving different me. access to their delicate bodies. By the time their are in their late 20s and early 30s they are used up emotionally and can’t pair bond with a serious guy because some of them must have slept with 20 plus men from age 15 to 30. The man that will end up with this kind of ladies is just left with someone who is emotionally jaded - quite used up hence pair bonding with their life partner is impossible. Only a man can have many partners in the past and still have the ability to pair bond with his partner.

emmaodet:


I 100% agree with you.
There is an Insatiable Appetite for Pvssy and more Pvssy by men, i don't know if it is either a Curse or not because it is not natural.
Men spend through their nose just to keep sleeping with women day in day out. To some, it as become a Hobby or a way of Life or a Source of Joy or Addiction.
Here in prodeco camp in Onne-Ph, ladies charge or get $100/night to sleep with Experts or Oyinbo. $100 fvcking dollars - #36,000 for a night pvssy for God sake.
By the time you factor in the cost of lodging in prodeco per night of 30-40k per night plus entertainment - eating expensive Buffet and expensive wine, then 100k may likely be wasted for a night all in the Name of sexx.
Men are something else, when with money, the urge for sex can never be satisfied.
We also settle waaaaayyyyy for less all in the name of sexx.
A man is ready to marry a broke, jobless and unproductive woman just because she has fine face and sure of regular sex while the average woman will Never do that.

Those men proposing to your mum at her age 72 are the real problems we have in the men’s world. I am not in anyway doubting what you just said. You see those men; they don’t have any control over their natural inclinations, that is why the rest of us will take a hit for it. Only said what should be obtainable in men’s circle and I did not contest the existence of a large exception like the ones you stated. Thank you very much.

Pataricatering:
Ur naive and u don’t know anything - u haven’t seen life - even my mother who is 72 still gets marriage proposals .

Exactly my point. Even in the so called developed countries the men still shoulder most of the financial and otherwise responsibilities in a male/female relationship. So, why on earth would a man be chasing a pretty lady with all his financial strength. Some call it ’being responsible.’ it is just you setting a big burden upon your life esp if the lady you are chasing is not the contributing type, which majority of them are. What is I can is really getting men to fall into traps they have set for themselves is the natural urge to have sex, nothing more. A man that can tame that part of himself for a woman who really deserves it, is a small god in a way. We know most men don’t have power over this area of their lives. That is the reason many of this ladies believe they are the best thing after slice bread.

emmaodet:


To me the man is the one doing the woman a favour because he is the one to shoulder most of the responsibilities in the relationship.

Because you men over the years you men have made them believe they are doing you a favour by being with you. The prime of a woman starts by age 17/18 to age 25/26 and some are lucky to still look good at age 28. After that period they are not worth chasing anymore. On the other hand, the man’s prime begins at 31 to almost infinity because at age 31 he has something he is doing, has a goal he is chasing, taking good care of himself and all. It is this time up women find him attractive because he has means and matured. Unfortunately, men waste their young years chasing women up and down not knowing they still have a lot of time ahead when, it is even the women that will be chasing them all over the place. Who do you think is doing the other a favour??

emmaodet:


Hmmmmmmm
You are right sha.
The way guys advice other guys and beg women not to leave a relationship, it looks as if they are doing us a Favour by just dating or marrying us.
It is Capital NO.
If they are tired, they can take a walk.
Ti a ba gunyan ninu ewe, ti a se obe ninu epo epa, eni mayo mayo. - No matter the situation, those who will be contented will be and those who won't, will not

Truer words have not been spoken. Thank you for this piece. Men really need to define their individual rules.

Acidosis:


You get time sha. Why are you begging/pleading?

You have to develop yourself enough to throw a party when someone walks out of your life. It's an avenue to expand your experience and grow.

There are no regrets in my book and, more importantly, I don't suffer heartbreaks. The signs are always there for you to watch and prepare! So before you make the attempt to leave, I am already gone (in my mind).

Also, men need to learn to set their rules. Society shouldn't always tell us what to do. Today is Val and the typical man is out there running helter skelter from one cinema to another restaurant all in the attempt to impress the woman with our society's meaning of love.

Men stup!dly do this out of fear of neglect and heartbreak. Like Sango or Obatala, they fear their gods (women) will abandon them if they fail to perform the yearly ritual. We have turned women into smaller gods we must appease to avoid wrath and calamity. Real gods/God (like mothers and our heavenly father) do not unleash terror because we fail to praise them. Think of those times you failed to praise God. Think of those times you failed to celebrate your mother on "Mother's day". Did your mother abandon you?

Men now act out of fear of abandonment and loneliness, and love of pleasure and other mundane things that can't stand the test of time or lack. Even if you love to spend or cherish your spouse's beautiful face more than your life, create a dummy scenario like these things don't matter to you sometimes.

Yes, education is the way forward in life, but not as we take education in this part of the world where, we believe education has to be in the classroom only. That is why you’ll see 700k applicants within two weeks.

landmark86:
700,000 within two weeks
We still have millions studying across our higher institutions.
Many are serving (NYSC) presently.
Still yet we have millions of graduates roaming about (jobless).


And someone said "education is a way forward in life"
Nooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!
Is a big SCAM in Nigeria I swear.

You are even sad on his behalf. You witches and wizards sha want to be seeing someone unhappy. He’s just enjoying every moment, whether good or bad.

At least he found someone who can treat him right.

Randy100:
Shameless and lazy young man. It is not as if she is marrying a 19 years old American model.

You are right. He did more than half of the job. I just think he wants to have fun at her expense. Like, give her some good psychological turmoil.

Malawian:

Wait bro, you no fvck am? You had done more than half the job.

He doesn’t have to bleep. The most important thing is he did not lose himself in the process of getting laid. Nothing is special about a woman’s pvssy my brother. I still wonder why some men keep spending their life savings on this thing.

henrybangs44:

all this long story u no bleep am....chai

I like girls like you. You don’t waste a man’s time. We can just meet now and disintegrate the next minute because we couldn’t agree on you coming to my house. Unto the next.

Ladycewhy:
Honestly when the Nigerian guy says "come to my house" na to fvck o ,and this thread just proves it. See that one taking concuction so he can shift someone's womb like say he know road to her papa house. The very reason i usually ask a guy that tells me to come to his house 'if they are minting money at his house" lol .

However i do not approve the way ladies have been going about it, is it fear or shyness that will not make you pick your call and tell him you are not coming? Or even tell him straight up the first time he brings it up that you wont come. Ladies we need to do better, maybe thats why most guys feel i am blunt and they can't handle it. Me refusing to come to your house is not breaking any law so i will tell you straight up and if you start giving me attitude ,i delete you.Na my pussy and i will decide when to bring it to your house,not on your terms,if you want your terms ,go carry ashawo (for socially awkward men ).

Yes, he deserves it.

babtaima:


Yo.... the truth in this post is scary.. this is the entire summary of the game. You deserve some cash commissions for this..

I have said my own. Enjoy your day.

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You are not special. The earlier guys realise this the better for them. No human being with a hole under her is special. Boys, wake up.

Auntyesther:
and i ll say awwn! fenks boo i even wantu sleep sef and thereafter go and visit my fwend

The best dating advice right here. Never be scared of losing a lady. She has the power of attractiveness; every guy wants to have her hence the shakara they do. On the other hand, you as a guy that knows what he is doing, you have the power to ignore the most beautiful in the world. That confuses her and she’ll be looking for how to appease you. Never ever be afraid to lose those ladies no matter how pretty she looks. They are everywhere. Young men grow up you, I say it once again, you have the power to IGNORE and act LESS CONCERNED.

peterincredible:
this same thing happened to me last year feb then i was a corper serving during the election period i told her to come the first time she agreed then she stood me up she no come hmmm i saw here during cds the following thursday asked her why dat it is disrespectfull and i dont lyk it she appologised and we rescheduled the following week i called her that morning on the day she was suppose to come she said she will start preparing then i started cleaning my room told my roomate to disappear or i will break his head he laughed and went to the next room, so i started cooking usually i dont add much salt and use only one maggi when i cook cause i have mild high blood pressure bcause of her i cooked and put the normal salt and just make the jollof ricr look good and tasty and and even spray perfume for the room thinking say na beta person i invite come ooo then boom time was 5pm this girl neva come or even called hmm so i called her then she told me she was ill i just laff cut the call then immediately i deleted her no, i saw her the next day during all this political waker when copers dey do during election period na i politician called all corpers in that local govt to a hotel for some sharing of money oo na so i see this same girl that said was ill talking to some of my guys i just went to dem greet my guys, greet her smiling then left, guess what? her concience start judging her she came to me to start a conversation we talked for a while then i left her giving her a boring reason to go she neva saw my call since that day and anytime i see her i will just greet from afar and go without chatting her up hmm then she called me a month time telling me i dont call her anymore infact that got me angry but i maintained and then later she sent me text on watsapp immediately the text entered my phone i blocked her then she new we not on the same page again since then wherever she sees me she will complain peter wetin i do you i will just laff and tell her nothing jare then give her a boring reason to excuse myself and since that time she has been the one trying to spark a conversation but guy i am very hot headed and will neva ever tollerate a disrespectfull woman even if am broke and my wife or gf tries to be bitchy bcause of one boring reason i will just let her know am the man and am ready to walk away any fucking time when u let them know that and u always smile it will leave them confuse neva eva chase a women even when she threatings to leave she might be testing u to know ure strenght and most of it all a girl can never love a man she takes for granted or disrespects so when a girl act that way always smile when u see her to keep her confuse then cut her offff u hear me cut her offff and as for the gurl she always be the one to come to me but i gave her a very long space even the day i we where both passing out she called me i looked at her then smile a bit turn and left she was expecting me to come to her to talk but i didnt that shows strength neva let a girl disrepect u when she does just leave her most time it she will be the one chasing as i read ure post i just laff cause i remembered what i did to her i can see the look on her face anytime i gave her a quick answer and excuse myself she looks rejected i neva even taught i was that wicked the dating world is very beautifulll but only the men who dont give a Bleep and show strenght wins i just cant stop laughing sha thanks for remembering me about that wierd girl

But men still get crazy over them.

Dobson43:




This is all every lady has to offer.....white or black

You just gave her a good advice. Nothing wrong with her just the incompatibility issue with her ex.

thorpido:
You are incompatible like he said.It is no fault of yours,it is just who you are.You're an introvert while he's an extrovert.

Don't ever make the mistake of dating an extrovert again.It will wear you out.You'll forever be dealing with trying to catch up while he's seeing you as inadequate.

I don’t believe I. 50-50 relationship. I only believe in complimenting each other in a relationship; where one is lacking, the other fills the space. And vice versal. no This girl will find the kind of man befitting for her.

daben1:
The way you girls think self ehn, once you're in a relationship with an average Nigerian girl, it has automatically become your responsibility to be doing the calling while her own responsibility is to be at the receiving end... "He stopped calling as he used to"
Relationship should be a 50-50 stuff.
The relationship failed because of lack of communication: because your responsibility is to wait while he calls while you receive

Can you do that for a boyfriend “willingly.”

Nnemuka:

how is she exploiting him?
He was not forced at gun point to give, he did all those willingly.

Lol. I think he’s going to regret investing this much on that girl, too. How can a boyfriend take the role of a husband or father over a girl that has her support system intact. Only one way this is gonna go - heartbreak for the stupid boy.

Timekeeper:


I swear I feel like cursing your bf for making such investment in you.. He is a big fool, and I hope life will teach him a lesson

How can he spend such money on a bitch and leech like you.. U gat parents Abi shey ur parents are disabled ni.

A man is feeding ur life and u r thinking of breaking up. Final year 4dt matter.. I swear, karma will do 10x of this in ur miserable rubbish life.


Chai dt guy na big fool.. Ontop on pussy oo, not two oo, just one pussy that might be smelling sef

He still doesn’t have sense. You still have a father and mother that takes care of you but one boy will be slaving day and night to be acting as your parent, and you feel happy about that??

Fareee123:
well, I never asked for it,my dad gives me house rent which he knows about, but he still pays it because when I had issues with my roommate in my first year,the Lady broke my head,so he got me another apartment and told the landlord to call him whenever the rent expires. Not all guys don't have sense like you

Not her fault oooh. It is guys that overdo things all in the name of being a man. He’s putting that much stress on himself meanwhile, the girl can cater to some of this personal stuff on her own. The day he stops doing those things due to financial constraints wahala go shele because he has made her to feel entitled already.

Ukodo1123:
U have handwork, n your parent cater for u n u still exploit the young man

That guy is not suppose to pay your rent if u are from a good home

Yes, their power will come to an end one day. Imagine a Muslim country like Iran having all the powers the USA has today. Think about how there’ll be pushing for everyone in the world to be islamised. The wickedness will be a thousand folds greater than what you accuse the USA of today.

breezeng:
Religion is the major problem. America is evil. America itself are terrorists. How can you kill a fellow human being on there soil. Where is united nation. A toothless bulldog where 1 vote is equal to 5 or more. I am sure that all this America power will come to an end one day.

He didn’t wait. He said they met again within that duration.

donstan18:
I don't know if you are crazy or not, but one thing I'm sure of is that it will be very annoying to find out that she isn't worth the stress and patience you passed through while waiting for 3 years.

That one is sick.

uninspired07:


What kind of advice is this? Are they not supposed to be a team? Or do I have my understanding of marriage all mixed up cos I am confused with some of the advice I am seeing on this forum.

Op should settle his marital issue in house because we have different kind of people online whose advice will likely not bode well for his marriage.

Your kind? No, please let your kind come and impregnate us. Kind ko, kinda ni.

funmisticqueen:
use the male birth control and be sterile for 13 years please. We don't want you impregnating our kind

This is why it is good to be patient enough to hear from the other side, then the truth present itself from the two opposing arguments. Thank you for your response ma’am. God bless your home with the strength to forgive and be there for each, not because only because of the kid, also for a blissful marriage which you both deserve. Happy new year.

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

Good, bro.

uninspired07:


Bro, I apologized to her earlier because I realized my comments got to her but for some inexplicable reason, i just feel catharsis knowing I hurt her today because she’s a very vile woman.

I am sure she will reconsider her online conduct & strange ideologies going forward.

Go and sin no more. Please don’t call her ugly again.

uninspired07:


God will heal her. We are all hurt but we don’t become callous because of that.

The true beauty of a woman is in her character. What we men need from our wives & female lovers more than sex is support, respect & loyalty like our mothers give us. Any woman that can master these attributes will control her husband like mumu without being a feminist.

This is a new year & we don’t need all the hate.

I apologize to funministiqueen for calling her ugly. She’s God’s creature & she’s beautiful just the way she is.

Lmao. What is wrong with being average looking??No matter how I dislike a person I don’t jump to personal attacks, I just attack their idea. I don’t really like most her comments but I would never call her ‘ugly’ because of that. Don’t you know it is good to have divergent views to a particular discuss We all shouldn’t be saying the same things. I appreciate her view to the subject matter but don’t necessarily agree with them. I believe we all can get along without personal attacks. God bless.

uninspired07:
That funministique girl is so ugly that I am utterly disappointed that such a creature has tormented this forum for years unend.

Her picture/image is perfect justification for why she’s bitter. I will be circumspect to take the comments of these feminists to heart going forward since it’s clear that most of them are suffering from one defect or another.

Very despicable & deplorable set of individuals who have polluted our cyberspace with their feminist poison.

Rightly said.

TenthMan:

Humans are blessed with the gift of thought and reason.

It separates us from other species.

If we go by human instinct, the female will always choose the male that has the highest/better propensity to produce offspring with healthy genetics and a male that will support her with resources and security. It is therefore basic instinct for a woman to choose men who are financially capable in today's world. Also, the female is considered vulnerable when she is pregnant and nurturing her young. After this, she has always been productive resource wise.

People calling for women to select/choose/stick to men who have little or nothing are asking the women to override their basic instinct. A lot of women are having none of it. Men who accuse women of ''not knowing tomorrow'' do not know how nature works. A woman will rather stay with a man who she sees his fortunes/resources than one which is imaginary. ''I go fit get am'' no be property. It is the woman's right to ensure that her offspring are properly nurtured. It is the woman that gets pregnant. It is the woman that bears the child. It is the woman that nourishes the child. Hence do not expect the woman to take such major risks by selecting a ''weaker man''. In the past, the males had to prove themselves competing with other males. Nowadays it is financial strength and material comfort that is the yardstick. Not brute strength and the ability to hunt a mammoth.

The woman is also aware of the risk in the man's desire/propensity to procreate as many times and with as many females as possible. She needs security for her own offspring. The woman too, if the man is found weak,unable to provide at any point in time, may lead to allowing another man have his way. People are shy to state these facts or simply do not like them because they do not conform to what they believe, which is fine.

What the women have to know is that happiness is not usually based on lavish comfort. Men also have to note that because she stayed with you when you had nothing does not make her a good person/mate either. Nothing is guaranteed.


My responses are objective (knowledge/fact based) and you must know I answer without any form of bias (cultural, religious, tribal, ethnic, class, gender, age, race, nationality, blood, acquaintance, etc.)

These your words can be taken to the bank and it will yield returns. No mind them. They only come online to make mouth.

healthserve:




Here they come single ladies trying to seduce married women out of their marriages to join the leagues of pseudo-independent but frustrated women.