But she’ll call you immature if you did same.

NCarthur:
This stuff just happened to me recently, she blocked me from calling her and also from WhatsApp. Now the question is did I do a bad thing by not taking advantage of her?

They have that stupid idea that they are doing you a favour coming to ask you out. So for you to turn that down you have offended Mother Nature and she’ll bite your ass.

Meanwhile, they wonder why a guy keeps pestering them after they have said NO. They are naturally selfish.

dawnomike:
The lady had refused to forgive my turning her down till date after 5 years... and she's married

Unfortunately, is it the unworthy guys you females’ feelings run wild for. When the unworthy guys have had their fill and made you feel less of yourself, that is when you begin looking for those ones you couldn’t develop feelings for, to come and salvage the damaged you. I wouldn’t settle for a damaged good. Never.

Even in your wildest emotional rollercoasters try and apply a little logic, it will help you.

One secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...it is a mystery so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

@ the bolded is not true cos ive tried severally to develop feelings for one or two good guys I felt would make a perfect spouse but it just didn't click. And it took me years trying to see if there's a way I can build the love for these guys, or feel something for them but same same.
You can't really force this feelings or develop it yourself, it won't work. This things happen naturally and if it not there, it not there. That is why most marriages are having problems today because you have people advising you saying, " you can build love, love grows in marriage, just marry the man first and love will come later" jaggons. If it actually works like that, then it would have happened for me when I tried forcing it for those guys I talked about earlier.

Feeling is something you can't control. That is why when you feel something for someone, you can't control how fast it grows until it reaches a peak where it becomes a threat. Likewise you dont have the power to control your feelings and make it grow for someone it doesn't click with. It's a natural phenomenon beyond every living being.

Please let not be misguided.
I believe in true love with genuine feelings and that is what covers all sins. As in no matter what the person does to you, you still want to be with them.

It took me 4 years after my ex to fall in love again. And this new guy is a Nairalander. Yes! And this happened within a few weeks. But we had a little misunderstanding and I was heartbroken to which I confided in a guy here about how I felt. So he asked me, how long have I dated this new guy that the love hurts so badly. I told him just a few weeks and he went wow! Like is it not too early to love so deeply?
Now I didn't realized that my feelings had grown so fast and so deep for this guy until he mentioned it and I paused to think but realized its not my fault! Its how nature works and we can't control these things.

Wow! That’s one solid reply. Men are truly not made for emotional rollercoaster.

Omar09:


I don't know if you were actually conscious when you posted this. I mean you are asking women to reprogram themselves, and to do things for themselves. You are asking women to pause their emotions the thing they live and strive on, their skill? C'mon man, it's not possible. They'd rather die than do that. You don't tell a specie to not act on how nature built it. If you had asked men not to be emotional then I'd say you asked them to leave a terrain that's not theirs unto one which is theirs "logic".

They have spies in the name of expats here. Is bigeria capable of testing 100,000 people like the developed countries did. The only confirmed cases here are the one we have been able to test. What about several hundreds if not thousands that are infected and we don’t know.

Mizwisdom:


Advanced countries? the death toll from the virus is more than 100,000 and most are in the advanced countries with more than 200,000 positive cases in total. What kind of thing do you think such clueless countries can be seeing?

If a prophecy comes and says there’s going to be a disease that is going to ravage the whole earth, best believe that some people will come together (oblivious of the said prophecy) basically for their own economic gains, release a virus, and believe you me, that’s the prophecy coming true.

When it was foretold in psalms that Christ will be betrayed by one of his disciples, God didn’t send angel or demon to do it oh. Judas took up the challenge equally for his own economic gain.

Therefore, when a prophecy is released some people naturally just play into it because that word that has gone out will never go back void. It will happen one way or the other.

mamapidgin:


They are not saying the same thing and they never said the same thing, if you listen very well to Pastor Adeboye he said that this virus was sent by God to earth plainly and clearly, and he also said that people should stop saying God doesn't send diseases to Mankind...But Apostle Suleiman has clearly and unequivocally said it was some people that sat down and created the virus just for some political and economical gains, these two statements are two different things and pls don't use realms of spirits to justify what the two of them have said as been in agreement with each other..

Nonsense talk. Nobody elected him to be working from the background. When they want your vote they should “work from background” too.

festacman:
The pitiable thing is that some Nigerians have allowed their HATRED for Buhari to drive them to wish and pray that COVID-19 cases and deaths should escalate in Nigeria so that their hatred and poor rating of Buhari will be justified. Simply malevolent and they will be disappointed.

Let's face it, If God wasn't in control, COVID-19 cases in Nigeria could have been as worse as it is in Italy given that up till early March 2020, Nigerian businessmen were still going to and fro China.

Now, there is no doubt presidential address is politically correct and emotionally fashionable. However, it is meticulous planning and effective actions rather than mere inspirational words that solve problems. Yes, it could have been better if Pres. Buhari talked once in a while but if he chooses not to, he should continue to do the NEEDFUL, working effectively from background with state governors, NCDC and presidential response committee. Above all, he should stay safe and strong for the tasks ahead.

I laugh your beginning and your end. Continue, crap boy.

kingxsamz:


Crap.
The story is meant for deluded people like you.

Despite that, he still needs to take back control of the relationship and school that his gf on why they both need to have a life apart from each other and she should stop suffocating him. He has to take a stand else she’s just going to toy with his life and eventually leave him. When a woman can control you she herself will get tired of that and move on with a guy that tells her what and what she must do. Wake brother and be a man for once in your life.

Biggie225:
she loves and care about you so much . Op endure and move on with her. ,with time you will get used her antics. Never you lose that girl .
I've had similar experience before and I regret my stupid actions..

This one don grow old inside marriage from womb. I commend your mindset, but that your husband too has to know that he cannot just cheat at will and not face the consequences even though you have made up your mind to be married till death do you guys part. God bless you union.

LifeMapEmpire:
I tell people "FORGIVENESS" is key in the success of any marriage... Been married for about 10years now and I can say without mincing words that "NOTHING IS A DEAL BREAKER FOR ME".


I have forgiven in advance for the things my spouse will still do!

As you may already know, there’s constant war between good and evil and that war takes place in our minds. If you are seeking God constantly and even though in an imperfect way, there’s always that force of evil wanting to pull you back from that endeavour. And the end goal is to try and stop you from making heaven, nothing else. Therefore, when you abide in God’s word and follow his commandments, trials and tribulations will come and you will overcome them, not easily though. You will be untouchable but they will never stop coming. And you need those challenges in order to grow in Christ. God allowed it for your upliftment in spirit.


Your second question: why do you need to struggle for the food feeling cool already inside your fridge. It is there waiting for you for ever. In some cases where nepa takes like you go out to get Petrol to power the gen and keep the fridge cool for the food you have kept in it. Same thing happens to those who don’t believe there’s God. They are not to be tormented. In fact people like that have most things working for them in life. They don’t have to struggle. The devil makes everything so good for them that they don’t believe there’s a devil, or a Christ for that matter. — eternally and spiritually blind.

If I already have you in my cage why should I stress your life, in the process, you’ll start having second thoughts looking for solutions. I have to not even interfere in your life so that you won’t even have any feeling you are caged, blinded.

lepasharon:


Shebi Christians love to say being a Christian provides them with so many benefits making them untouchable by any evil forces?

Now you turn around to say unbelievers aren't touched because the devil already has them?
Which is it?

Do you realise the devil doesn’t torment what is already his.

lepasharon:


Warn other doctors that engage in abortion? Has he been to Canada or england? The doctors in the west engage in abortion and have a better standard of living than most Nigerians. Nonsense. Go to Europe now.

Evil don’t battle with what is already his. Outward prosperity don’t qualify for a crisis free life.

afroxyz:
A 34 year old lady was just sworn in as the Prime.minister of one of the Scandinavian countriea. People have booked ticket to visit mars in the year 2022. Yet we are here battling with demons and witches. Tufiakwa!!

The Op may not have used the proper topic for his write up, but the content is as real as reality. The fact that you are not experiencing it or don’t know about it doesn’t make it less factual. Only the blind ones claim to know so much, yet they know nothing going on around them. Some of you ignoramus are enjoying the grace God had place on your parents or grand parent that is why you don’t encounter such occurrences as stated by the Op. Thank God that there’s always a way out, and that is Jesus Christ. Gob bless!

Fearing all your life. That’s not healthy.

Davash222:
No CCTV means it will only take the grace of God for Kasali to come out of this.
One of the disadvantages of fornication and adultery.
That's why I decide to abstain for over 10 years.

Just do all you can do as a parent and pray for them. They have their own mistakes to make too, just like you the parent. Many of them come back to the good values you have taught them after making many mistakes. And some, they are just lost to every worldly vices you can find, despite all your efforts as parent. YOU CANT BLAME YOURSELF.

proclinician:


Just imagine brother. After all the red flags initially the girl agreed to go to the house because she saw a nice car. How can parents possible instill good virtues in the girl child? It is difficult.

It’s the toughest challenge because they can be shallow in thinking. They have not depth. The only thing making her to contemplate dating him is the nice car and nice house after all he did to her.

proclinician:
He has a nice car and a nice house. Hmmm what if he was a ritual killer na like this u for just go. To raise a daughter may seem the toughest challenge of my lifetime.

This one sabi. I don’t support cheating from man or woman, but the reality doesn’t care what we support or not. The fact remains that men when married can be chronic cheaters, and it doesn’t erase the fact that they still love their wives. Most men are creatures that cannot be satisfied with one woman, even if the woman is the prettiest in the world.

NextD18:
I hate to say this but I have to.

As a woman, if you have zero tolerance for a cheating man, you'll hardly cope or have a successful marriage.

Trust me; this is the bitter truth.

99.583% of women who their marriage has lasted successfully, once tolerated and forgave their husband for being unfaithful.

Rather you did it for yourself by yourself.

sunshineV:
The poverty in this country will make u do the unspeakable

Seeing young girls have worthy suitors doesn’t sit well with most women who used their tender age to sleep with all the men in town.

ozodigboo:

What are you saying.
You want to go and marry your age mate? Go ahead.
By the time you are rocking 40, as a mature, clean man, your wife at 38 or so, has completed 4 kids and now looks like an old woman
You'll now start looking outside
Problems begin.
Guy, we've seen it all. Forget

I am 15urs older thank my woman. Thank God she get same height as me and she get flesh small, we look just perfect together. I just wanna pamper this geh. And courting them that young when they have not slept with everybody yet, it is really easy to mould them to your liking. And you just be a considerate man and don’t take advantage of her because she has less experience. Be a good man.

Toks2008:


Don't you know that one the reasons young ladies cry of heartbreak is because they get involved with men too young to know what they really want?

Yes in some cases it is not about age but the truth is that age gap is a great factor.

A lady can be older than her man don't get me wrong and love is not about age but understanding and connection but nevertheless it is better for a young girl in her adult teens or early 20s to be with a man that is at least 8 or 10years older..
Why?

1. In most cases, the guy will adore her like a kid sis and will cope with her nastiness compared to a younger guy who is just about her age.

2. By the time the lady is in her mid 20s the guy is probably ready to take her home if she proves to be a good lady.

3. A 30 year old guy dating a 20 or 22year old lady will likely be stable enough financially, psychologically...to support the lady.

4. Ladies love to be pampered and they can get that easily from a guy who is quite older and not their peers that are probably still as childish as them.

5. Guys naturally get the kick when they know a girl is very younger than them and this spark will continue for a long time at least I am a testimony to this...

I can go on and on listing the benefits and guess what; the reason why ladies fall for married men easily is because married men are so mature mentally and they sure know how to take care of a woman and unfortunately ladies are wired to love a man that takes good care of them regardless of his marital status but the good thing is that girls experience same care from men who are considerably older than them.

My advise to adult teenage girls and those in their 20s is that they meticulously choose a guy who is at least 7 to 10years older or even more if they truly want to enjoy bliss.

This is my personal opinion and I think lalasticlala should consider this for front page so that young ladies can benefit from this no holds barr expose.
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Yes now. Mostly it was me applying techniques I read online than meds. First round 5 to 7min. With second round I can last 20mins. Third round, please come and save someone’s daughter before it will be too late.

adebayo10977:


So how did you cured your 30 seconds of a thing.

Are you a MGTOW or red-pilled in anyway

RisenPhoenix:


Of course there is a prime; biological as well as psychological. For women above 21, their sexual value is diminished the longer they age, they have likely had multiple sexual partners, from secondary school mate through park tout to sugar daddy. Most would have had at least one abortion, sometimes more. Their multiple sexual exposure would have eradicated any modicum of honesty, modesty or contentment with one man. And they would have perfected the art of pretence and emotional manipulation which all women seem to be born with. And their ease of manipulating men for money would have given them an attitude of disrespect towards all men. Plus they will be more confident in using gutter language indiscriminately. Plus they have a higher risk of giving birth to unhealthier children as they approach their 30s. Yet the amount of food they will eat among other expense outlay to their husbands remains the same.

How can those women still retain their worth and value to a man who wants to marry them? It is like contemplating between buying a 2020 brand new high spec model of vehicle and a 1980s overused model at the same price. Which would you buy, honestly?

There’s always a fool waiting for your woman to breakup with you so they can be the idiot with her. They don’t necessarily love your woman like you do, but they sha want to chop their own from the honey pot. Most men are like that. From research it was found out that women move on easily from breakup than men, because of the reason I stated earlier. So don’t be surprised things changed with her within a year. My advise to you - move the F on. Look for a girl that has a better sexual history, or a virgin at best.

Biafrareform:


Sincerely speaking I am amazed at the level of what girls do now a days . I am just confused as to what came over them .

The way I am seeing it, if this babe is really into married men and she isn't willing to cut tiers then I will surely find it difficult to trust ladies again .

While we were in school, she was a a different girl . She changed completely within a space of one year and I am so sad about the development.

Should I leave this babe, it will take me a very long time to trust any babe again honestly

Actually met my woman when she was going to be 21 and a virgin. When you meet them at a tender age when they have not been ran through by every Tom, DICK, and Harry you have the opportunity to groom them to your taste. It is like a child you show the way he should go and he will not depart from there. But, if you did not meet her as a virgin or tender in heart, my brother, you get a lot of work to do oooh.

RisenPhoenix:


Wow. A really early starter in the game of manipulation. They exist.

So she is on her NYSC already at 20? She must have chopped life tire.
Anyway, not all <21s are marriageable. But all marriageable women are <21.

How old are you?? If you are still in your 20s please I beg you don’t bother your life with any woman who is not quality. In your 30s and 40s you’ll have so many at your beck and call that you’ll be spoiled with choices. Don’t kill yourself over this one.

Biafrareform:


Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

If she’s truly 20yrs old and has an enterprise already in whoring my brother, it will take 6 or more years for her to close that enterprise oh. If you can wait for 6yrs when she’s tired of all the fun and this olosho work, then you’ll have your remnant waiting for you and ready to be loyal. For now, don’t waste your time on her. You were supposed to catch her young, but then, she’s now exposed and she’s hardwired for a sleeping-around lifestyle, I am sorry, there’s nothing you can do again.

Biafrareform:


Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

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Had a worst case scenario sometime like that. But it wasn’t five secs... something like 30 secs or more. But someone lasting on 5secs is somehow to me.

This person is just looking for attention. No man can last only 5secs.

You are right. Feminine ladies tend toward the traditional style. While feminist are the ones dragging manhood with men in the name of “equal opportunities” in an environment where nothing is stopping them from achieving anything. They are just looking for benefits they did not work for.

AfroKnight:


Feminine women and not feminists.

That translates into traditional.

Joke’s on you.

Look Michelle, I’d rather not have a face off with you. I like your personality, even if I do not agree with most of your ideas.

Chill darling.

And feminism don’t equal feminine. You are right on the feminine angle.

Michellekabod2:
you are the one ignorant here.

Feminine ladies are in demand not traditional.

I am not disputing your points oh. That is just how life is, it is never fair. No woman wants to marry down. A man naturally would do that even if he is a poor man. Life for the man is tough no doubt.

emmaodet:


You raised some good points but about the issue of men not minding whether a woman is productive or not, bro they need to.
In life, different stages require different things.
If you are a poor man, the biggest gift you will appreciate is money if you organize an event because that is what you are lacking most.
If you are okay financially and you have like 2 cars in the compound, you may likely value a house gift to car or money simply because you don't have it.
My point is that, for rich dudes, marrying a jobless, broke or lazy lady won't be a criteria because they get that covered but same yardstick shouldn't be used for poor guys.
Poor guys have no business marrying poor ladies but it is so unfortunate that even the so called rich ladies are not ready to help and marry the poor men thereby causing a landslide in relationship and marriages.
And if these trend continues, in the next 20-30yrs, we will have more financially stable women than men simply because when a man goes up, he brings a woman up all in the name of relationship and marriage, he empowers a woman in the name of marriage.
Infact, if the woman fvcks up and cheats and been dismissed, the community still encourages the man to empower another woman all in the name of marriage even though he may likely suffers the same faith But a woman who inherits her hubby money after his death will rather stay single and be fvcking till she dies than bring a man onboard for empowering.
A woman who decides not to marry can decide to hustle hard and still make it career wise or become lazy and marry a rich dude or become a high class runs girl and still likely make it But moat men Only have one Hard Route - Hustle, Hustle and Hustle.
No slowing down, no taking a break, no marriage to cash out, just Hustle
It is hard out there bro, Hard for guys