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Look here arnold, I've reported you to the moderators because you can't keep trying to tarnish me. You've been on this crusade since 2007 and has failed woefully each time. This is 2009. In my books you died and was buried on Dec 31st 2008. Please may your soul now go and rest in perfect peace. |
tpia:Is that really the case? why would the papa allow their daughters to marry far away and then refuse the sons marrying Yoruba women? What I know is more common is Igbo men /Calabar and Rivers wives |
asha 80:I would think they'll be doing that since I hear Yorubas don't charge that much for dowry and don't have a list of things to buy like most of Igboland. but there's still some ut Yoruba man/Igbo wife is a lot more common. |
JJYOU:My dear I always speak the truth. It may be interpreted and twisted in various way by nincompoops but it doesn't bother me. ![]() This is my observation and that of various others. You and various others who are non Igbo,non Yoruba say so too,so obviously it's not an Igbo/Yoruba thing. Whoever wants to kill themselves can do so |
sesman:This is not a bashing thread by any means. It's not a crime to speak one's language but it's not proper to do so in the manner I've mentioned. Those who want to read more meaning into the thread than there is can do so This is 2009 Hopefully there's are people who will listen to my advise and stop that behaviour since they may not how rude it comes across. |
earthmama,I'm not after your men abeg. I have mine. Now with the thread about Yoruba men's "sometin" you'll have more women rushing your men now If you like don't grab your own now Oh I forgot,na aloy emeka you dey eye crazy woman ![]() |
If these people are this wicked to their own own children,what will they do to other people's kids? |
So many cases of child abuse is being terminated at the police station without adequate follow up, which later results to the suffering of the victim (child) weather through being handicap or thrown out of school for the rest of his life. A typical example of the above scenario is what happened within Maiduguri, the capital city of Borno State in Bulunkuttu Ward where a father tied down his son to a poll, UnCloth the kid, sprayed kerosine on him and set fire over him before the child was rescued from him by his neighbours. When asked as to what the child did, he simply and arrogantly told his neighbours that the child is refusing to go to school. Is that why such punishment is meted to him? The child was taken to hospital by the relatives of his wife, who later reported the case to the police station and subsequently the father of the child was arrested and now in custody of the police. This is just a tip, so many forms of child abuses is happening in Nigeria, though some of the social vices will be related to the government's inability to provide basic social amenities, lack of job opportunity and the falling standard of living within the Nigerian nation. http://busuguma..com/2008/06/child-abuse-in-nigeria.html |
KANO, 7 July 2008 (IRIN) - The trafficking of girls from villages to cities in Nigeria is increasing and the state is powerless to stop the trade, officials told IRIN. “The business of recruiting teenage girls as domestic help in rich and middle-class homes is booming despite our efforts to put a stop to it”, Bello Ahmed, head of the Kano office of the National Agency for the Prohibition of Traffic in Persons (NAPTIP), told IRIN. Girls aged 12-17 are regularly trafficked from villages and brought to the city to work as maids for an average monthly wage of 1,500 naira (US$13) which they usually send back to their parents who are caring for several of their siblings, according to Ahmed. “Apart from being denied access to education, these girls are in many cases raped and beaten by their employers and this is why we keep a dormitory to rehabilitate them”, Ahmed said. “Bringing in girls from the villages to the city to work as house helps continues unabated. In fact it is on the rise”, agreed Mairo Bello, head of Adolescent Health Information Project, a Kano-based non-governmental organisation (NGO). As well as poverty, trafficking in girls and women is driven by the extreme income inequality which exists in Nigeria, and gender inequality. The problem is prevalent all around the country. The dangers Saudatu Halilu, a 16 year-old girl who moved to Kano from a rural village to work as a maid, has been a victim of the trade’s dangers. Saudatu was brought to Kano from Nassarawa State in central Nigeria 10 months ago to work as a domestic help, but she said her master forced her into sleeping with him and threatened to kill her if she told anyone. “I was too scared to tell my mistress or anyone what happened for fear of what my master would do to me and I did not realise I was pregnant until a medical check after I began to show some signs which attracted the attention of my mistress”, Halilu told AFP. Ruth, 13, doing her homework. From the age of five to nine she was denied the right to go to school and had to work selling water at a market in Gabon, after having been trafficked from Nigeria Poverty Poverty drives parents into steering their teenage daughters into work as domestic helps, believing the menial jobs would secure better living conditions for their daughters, Ahmed said. “I had no option but to send Hindu, who is my eldest daughter, to work in the city because we are poor and need money to feed”, said Aisha, a mother of six, who sent her eldest child, 14 year-old Hindu Nasidi, to Kano to earn money. The girl upset her keepers by not washing plates properly and they ground chilli pepper into her vagina as a punishment. “The money she was paid from the job was very helpful in taking care of her six siblings until the unfortunate incident”, Nasidi said, blaming rising food prices for her decision to send the young girl out to work in the first place. With Hindu’s job gone the family now ekes out a living from Nasidi’s raffia mat weaving and her husband’s mango and watermelon hawking which do not bring in enough money to buy sufficient food for their six children. Powerless Although NAPTIP has managed to stop the practice of teenage girls being ferried in trucks from villages to the cities “like chickens”, Ahmed admitted his agency had failed to stop the trade. “The more the law enforcement agencies perfect their strategies at stopping the business, the more the perpetrators become more sophisticated in running their trade”, he said. Lack of legislation to prosecute the traffickers makes NAPTIP unable to take legal action against traffickers even when they are arrested, according to Ahmed. The Child Rights Act which provides for five year jail terms and US$424 fines for perpetrators of child labour is yet to be endorsed by the northern states’ legislatures because some clauses in it have been found controversial by religious and cultural leaders. Friction The Act has been a source of friction between the Nigerian federal government, which has endorsed it, and the northern legislative houses. “We are disturbed by the trend of using teenage girls as domestic helps which is a form of child labour and we are aware of the provision in the Child Rights Act that deals with that issue”, Abdulaziz Garba Gafasa, speaker of Kano’s parliament, told IRIN. “However we can’t endorse the Act because of certain clauses that are in conflict with our religious and cultural values; once such grey areas are expunged we will approve it, otherwise we will make by-laws at state level that will deal with the perpetrators of this despicable act.” Mohammed Aliyu Mashi, who collaborates with the UN Children’s Fund (UNICEF) in fighting child trafficking, rejected the notion that there was no legislation to prosecute child traffickers, saying what was lacking was the political will to enforce the law. “There is provision in the penal code operating in the north which prescribes five year jail terms to life imprisonment to people convicted of child trafficking and child labour”, Mashi said. “The claim of lack of legislature is just a ruse; it is an excuse to avoid prosecuting offenders because of lack of political will from officials.” |
Mary was found by a British charity worker and today lives at a refuge in Akwa Ibom province with 150 other children who have been branded witches, blamed for all their family's woes, and abandoned. Before being pushed out of their homes many were beaten or slashed with knives, thrown onto fires, or had acid poured over them as a punishment or in an attempt to make them "confess" to being possessed. In one horrific case, a young girl called Uma had a three-inch nail driven into her skull.http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/africaandindianocean/nigeria/3407882/Child-witches-of-Nigeria-seek-refuge.html
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Now this is coming from a deranged individual, Festus Oguhebe, who is an Associate Professor of Business at the Alcorn State University in Port Gibson, Mississippi. Oguhebe, who is Igbo and hails from the Delta State area of Nigeria, graduated from Northwestern Oklahoma State University with a B.S., an M.B.A. from Mankator State University, and a D.B.A. from Mississippi State University. He started teaching at Alcorn State University from 1992. A restaurant that he operated, which served African food, burnt down about three years ago. He and his family had lived upstairs but used the downstairs for the restaurant. There is an empty space where the building used to stand. In 1993, Oguhebe wrote a book, titled “A Revelation of Valentine Love: How to Find the Right Spouse,” which obviously led him to return to Nigeria and get an allegedly very beautiful woman as wife. But it didn’t stop his maltreatment of the woman, who he refused to allow to go to school. In the last few years, Oguhebe has been dabbling as a preacher and some people refer to him as a “Rev.” http://www.chatafrikarticles.com/articles/140/1/OGUHEBES-SADISM-AND-AFRICAN-CULTURE/Page1.html |
Prof Oguhebe was later sentenced to many years in prison |
Then some carry it to America. A college professor faces sentencing Nov. 14 in Hinds County Circuit Court after pleading guilty to felony child abuse, court records show. Festus Oguhebe, a Byram resident and Alcorn State University business professor, initially faced five counts of child abuse stemming from a March 2005 arrest. He is the father of six young children. Prosecutors could not be reached to explain what happened to the other charges. On Tuesday, Alcorn spokesman Christopher Cason said university officials are awaiting results of the sentencing before considering Oguhebe's job status after learning of his plea. ASU employees are expected to be of "good moral character," he said. When reached at his home, Oguhebe told a Clarion-Ledger reporter to "stop doing stories - this is hurting my family and six children. Stop calling us and disturbing us." He would not comment further. However, Oguhebe's attorney, Robert Shuler Smith of Jackson, said his client pleaded no contest to one count of child abuse Oct. 17. The other charge, he said, was not prosecuted. Smith said he wants the professor to receive probation and keep his job. "We believe this was an isolated incident," Smith said. A native of Nigeria, Oguhebe was accused of abusing his 11-year-old son by "placing him in a bathtub, then putting hot pepper juice in his eyes, on his penis and buttocks; and also by tying his hands behind his back and covering his body with ants," according to court records. The professor also was accused of abusing his son by "whipping and striking the child in such a manner as to cause serious bodily injury," according to records filed by Hinds Assistant District Attorney Jacqueline Purnell. Oguhebe's arrest in March 2005 marked the second time he had been charged with child abuse. In February 2005, he was charged with one count of felony child abuse, according to Hinds County records. He bonded out on that charge. The children are now living in "good care" in the metro Jackson area with other family members, said Henry Glaze, commander of the juvenile and child protection divisions at the Hinds County Sheriff's Department. "I'm pleased , he is not causing his children to go through the trauma of a trial," Glaze said. Oguhebe punished his children for things such as incomplete schoolwork and attempting to steal food in their own home during forced fasts, according to the affidavits filed in Hinds County Court. It was a case of "good intentions (to discipline his children) that went somewhat bad," Smith said. Smith said he hopes to introduce evidence from a sociologist at the sentencing phase about disciplinary actions in other cultures. Nearly 1,000 child-abuse cases are investigated every year by local law enforcement agencies and the Mississippi Department of Human Services, Glaze said. There were 16,723 investigations of child-abuse cases in Mississippi in 2005, said DHS spokeswoman Julia Bryan.
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wonders shall never end. How do legs drop off a body or are these people exagerrating? The father should be castrated though why should anyone treat a little girl this way? If he'd been feeding her well,she wouldn't be begging food from neighbors. This is just so sad. |
Wicked father chops off child’s leg DELE OGUNYEMI, Ibadan It is incredible, yet it is true. A father has willfully dismembered one of the two legs of his own daughter. And whilst the whole episode lasted, the father apparently took delight in the show of shame. It all happened at Gbelekale area of Ibadan, where a 50-year-old retired soldier, Mr. Dauda Tiamiyu allegedly tied both the legs and hands of his eight-year-old daughter with unsterilized cable wire as punishment for a minor offence. The little girl, Barakat, was reportedly locked up in an inner room of the living apartment for several days, with the wire tightly tied on her leg, while she hardly had anything to eat or drink whilst the punishment lasted. Mr. Tiamiyu was said to be punishing his daughter for begging for food and money from neighbours. And when it became exactly 10 days that Barakat had been kept in seclusion, all along with the wire still tightly tied upon her to prevent escape, "the leg dropped off the body." Tiamiyu, who has already been arrested by the police in the Oyo state capital and kept in their custody for the inhuman act of brutality, was a guest of the juvenile court sitting in Ibadan, yesterday, where a case of child abuse was preferred against him. It took the joint efforts of some Ibadan-based non-governmental organizations, notably the Child Growth Concern Initiative (CGCI); Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA); Justice Development and Peace Commission (JDPC) and Movement Against Defilement (M.A.D.) to get Tiamiyu prosecuted over his inhuman act. The groups had taken up Barakat’s ordeal when an alarm was raised over the issue on January 28 this year when Barakat’s biological mother, Madam Akande, who has been divorced from Dauda Tiamiyu since 2004, intimated the human rights organisations of the matter. Barakat’s mother, who stated that she and Tiamiyu were separated following unbearable ill-treatment, had told the non-governmental organisations that she had to give the father custody of the daughter because of threat from the father that the child must not die under her care. But Tiamiyu had allegedly tied the hands and legs of his eight-year old daughter, Barakat, with wire cables as a punishment for begging for food and money from neighbours. The punishment subsequently led to the amputation of the girl’s left leg, which dropped off at a traditional orthopaedic hospital located at Oje, in Ibadan, where she was rushed when the father later realized the extent of the damage he had inflicted on the daughter. Tiamiyu allegedly told the traditional hospital management that his daughter was hit by a motor cyclist. He also reportedly abandoned the girl in the hospital since November 2008. Barakat had insisted during a press briefing in the Oyo state capital, jointly organised by the concerned non-governmental organisations that her father actually terrorised her by tying up her legs and hands with cable wire as a punishment for begging the neighbours for food. However, when the case came up for trial at the juvenile court, Ibadan, yesterday, Tiamiyu denied the allegation, saying that Barakat’s dismembered leg came about as a result of certain skin infections that inflicted her some time last year. According to Tiamiyu, by the time he observed that Barakat’s leg had swollen, he took her to the traditional orthopaedic hospital and made initial deposit of N5, 000, out of the N60, 000 medical bill charged. Tiamiyu had nothing else to tell the court on his daughter’s bodily injuries. Barakat’s mother, Mariam, was furious as she refuted Tiamiyu’s claim, insisting that her daughter’s leg was actually dismembered because of the ill treatment Mr. Tiamiyu meted out on the little girl. She told the court that she only got to know about Barakat’s ordeal last August through a friend, adding that she had since then moved down to Ibadan to be able to take motherly care of her. When questioned on the circumstances surrounding her separation from Barakat’s father in 2004, Mariam revealed that she had to run for dear life when it became apparent that Tiamiyu might kill her as a result of his high handedness. Her words: "Your Lordship, Barakat’s father beat me till I once lost a pregnancy. It was after this I had Barakat for him. I later realized that I had married a tiger. I had Barakat for him as an underage and in 2004 when I separated from him; I initially took Barakat along with me to Lagos, where I relocated to. But I had to return Barakat when she was fast falling sick here and then." The trial magistrate, Mrs. A. B. Bolaji, while adjourning further hearing on the matter till February 27 this year, directed that Tiamiyu be further remanded in police custody till then. The magistrate also directed the medical director of the traditional orthopaedic hospital, where Barakat was initially admitted and treated, to attend the next hearing so as to clarify certain issues bothering on when Barakat was admitted as well as the condition under which she was admitted to that hospital. http://odili.net/news/source/2009/feb/7/801.html |
I love individuals not their tribes. I'm Igbo and there are people from my hometown I'll avoid like a plague People are good or bad irrespective of their tribe |
Igbos also scream on the phone. even me self My own kedu kwanu can be heard from a mile away only in private though (unless I get carried away ![]() I'll never forget the Igbo man I saw at the airport on his cell phone in heavily starched white caftan and gold chain just screaming on top of his lungs. Everyone was staring at him he looked like a trader at Main market Onitsha |
asha 80:My examples are numerous with different people. My good friend ,one time bossom friend in Houston ,did it all the time till I told her it was very rude and she apologised but never could stop it. We'll be talking and here comes Toun her friend and immediately they go off screaming away in Yoruba when Toun speaks very good English. And my hubby who went to a university in Yoruba land says it was an everday occurence amongst his Yoruba friends too. It even happened when you went with a Yoruba classmate to see a professor for something academic , he said. As soon as you got there,your friend would prostrate and they go off in Yoruba and you're just there looking like a fool and at the end of their long conversation,you have no clue if he's presented the problem you came with and gotten a solution for both of you or just himself ![]() then the prof turns over to you as if to say "what's your problem" and you don't know whether to narrate the reason you came or prostrate on the floor like your friend did. |
HeatFusion:If the friend speaks English what's wrong in speaking to her in English or even "broken" Must you speak Yoruba to your Yoruba friends while in the midst of non Yoruba speakers? |
HeatFusion:I'm sure you know exactly what I'm referring to. I never mentioned a phone conversation,did I? Please read the original post again. Please don't make this thread what it's not,I beg of you. |
debosky:Gbam! To all the unmarried folks hear ye,hear ye If there's something in that man or woman you cannot stand at coursthip,it won't get better after marriage. |
Busy_body:I disagree To be happily married you cannot remain with your same exact ideals as when you were unmarried since there's someone else or others (Children) involved. You are fundamentally the same person but you must make accomodations for others. He does care aabout his marriage I agree but he forgot that the wife is who she is not who he wants her to be. He knew the real her but was blinded by love as most people are. He has to learn to accomodate her shortcomings through counselling and hopefully she'll learn to be less clingy and insecure. Then he (the husband) must also ask himself what he's doing (if any) to worsen the situation. I won't advise him to leave as long as there's no violence,he should try everything within his power to work it out The next woman down the block looking very attractive right now may turn out to be worse |
davidylan:She didn't change The poster said she always had that stubborn streak in her . It's like someone marrying Karmamod and expecting her to be home knitting and pounding yam. ![]() People usually cannot hide for long. He knew exactly what he was getting into. The problem is that some men think somehow after marriage,they can change you It never works. He should learn through counselling how to live with his wife. That's who she's always been |
ifyalways:Amen they say the grass is always geener on the side. @ Mozilla,seat the young lady down and tell her in plain language that the marriage is not working out and that you suggest you both seek counselling. Do whatever is within your power as a human to make the marriage work. Don't throw in the "tawel" just yet since there are kids involved. As one who's been married much longer than 2 years,I can tell you that in the earlier years there were times we both felt like quitting. The first few years are very trying times. Even worse when you're in a strange land especially if the financial situation is tough. You're perhaps young,new to the institution of marriage and trying to live together with someone who was just a stranger a short while ago. As long as there's no violence involved,there's always great hope.IMHO You'll be a miserable man trying to make someone change and conform to your will,marriage is a compromise a give and take. I pray you'll work it out. |
goshen360:I hope you know this is illegal and punishable. Need I remind you that internet forums like this are monitored and people have been picked up via their IP addresses. Be very careful. On the night of Obama's inauguration,there was a young man who listened to the whole thing on a transistor radio from a cold cell His crime was making a threat to do away with the new president. A word is enough for the wise. |
Treetop20:do you live with them? how do you know the man isn't doing anything to make her suspiscious men can be like that sometimes. Some of them bring out the worst in a woman |
As a married woman myself, I'll say that there are 2 sides to every story. Unless if this woman has mental problems,there's no smoke without fire. |
*Hauwa*:I'm not even talking about going to a party where most of the guests are Yoruba when the celebrant is Yoruba. I expect people to speak their languages and dialects at a party dominated by their people. I'm talking of an ordinary chit chat session . Even in my University days,boy ,was it common |
Treetop20:are you missing the whole point of the thread? are you guilty of what I'm talking about? |
I find it very rude when carrying on a conversation in English with a Yoruba friend and right in the middle of the conversation , a Yoruba person comes along, they immediately break out loudly in Yoruba sometimes for long periods with no consideration whatsoever to the non Yoruba speakers in the group. I've had this experience several times and I'm not alone. Perhaps you folks don't know it comes across as very rude and inconsiderate. If the individual speaks English, there's no reason why you couldn't speak English to him/her at that particular time. If you have secrets to share that you don't want other folks to hear,why not wait till your fellow discussants are gone? Please I'm not bashing Yorubas and if there's any non Yoruba who's noticed this too, please say so perhaps those who do it,have no clue the way it comes across to others. |
Theblessed:I wouldn't use adjectives like uncivilized and unpolished to describe it but it's common knowledge that Yorubas are very guilty of what you've described. It's happened to me times without number too and I've heard many others say the same. You'll be having a conversation in English and once their kinsman arrives,they break out loudly in Yoruba and your conversation with them ends. They even do it when they see someone of another tribe who speaks Yoruba. I can relate,it's extremely annoying and very rude. Perhaps they don't know that's the way it comes across. I hope some can read it here and learn not to do that or at least excuse themselves politely. You'll just be gisting and before you know it,ba woni and Yoruba will follow and there ends the conversation. |
This would mean one passport, one currency and one regional force. Ghaddafi’s pet project had been long in coming three years ago at a similar summit in Accra, Ghana, he had mooted this idea but ideological differences in the manner of execution had stalled the project. Ghaddafi wanted a fast-track but South Africa, Kenya and Nigeria preferred to foot drag preferring a phased approach on a sub-regional levelGod forbid bad thing! Tufiakwa I reject any such alliance in Jesus's name |
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.It continued for sometime until one 'waffi' guy rebuked them.The yoruba peeps retorted back that why should he rebuke them.