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eledacedar:
Thanks a lot.

I'm working hard at drawing closer to God. That's my main focus.

Good luck with that (pardon me am not religous ) And do not let any one influence you again in anyway be it by husbands,boy friends, love ( i know people can do despicable things in the name of llove) some thing a lot of people do not understand the real meaning of, anyway your experience says it all, you are also very intelligent and articulate put that in a good use.

eledacedar:
You might be getting me wrong.

My admission of any wrong doing in my life course should be to my creator because He is the ultimate judge. Yes I said it seems like fun INITIALLY. This evidently means at a point in time, it became disgusting.

My use of the example of Saul who later became Paul evidently points to coming out of ignorance to thread the right path. When Saul went to the Caiaphas the chief priest to get legal authorisation to persecute Christ's followers, he felt he was on the right path. He was also there watching over the clothes of those who stoned Stephen to death.

Along the line, he came across the truth and made a complete U-turn. He became the persecuted one, he suffered ship wreck, he was flogged yet he clung to his new found faith right to the end.

If my statement about them fighting for an ideology is what you mean by making excuse for them, you didnt get me quite well. I would still refer to Saul/Paul. The ideology that Christ's followers were to be killed was what he initially had and later in life, the ideology changed and his personality changed.

You see, many of the 'Frat' boys are DISILLUSIONED. Some are desirous of being AMONG. There are others who are only looking for a cover to carry out their bad activities that are inherent in them. These 2 groups will foment trouble at the slightest instance. Many were just intimidated to join and felt they had no choice, these are the ones who run away at the slightest smell of trouble. In all, a basic ideology is in each person. So long as he believes in that ideology, he's bound to engage in antisocial activities.

The questions i would like to ask however is 'what can the society at large do to stop this menace'?
After identifying WHAT to do, WHEN will we take action?

Until then these buys/babes/dudes/chicks will continue in their lines of action and the menace keeps growing.

i get you quite alright, and i applaud you for speaking out, seeking for solution is also a good idea, i hope other potential thugs/cultist take a leave from your experience its been facsinating having this conversation i ve learnt a lot from it which is the most important life is all about experience and working towards getting it right were one got it wrong, incase you are wondering my curiosity i was a thug/gang member, some thing one thought was ok at that time, having grown up one realises that it was irrelevant, yes there are also reasons why some one might join a gang/cultist be it due to low self esteem, bullying or otherwise the most important is been able to recognise ones mistakes and to put it right, i would say Good luck. If i may, having been through all this,what are your plans for the future?

eledacedar:
None of my words thus far applauds any of their violent and irresponsible actions. No! As for being RESPONSIBLE for any actions they take/took, I also say no.

If you can, please mention my words that you think applaud their actions.

Also remember that I'm a human being with blood and water flowing through me, as such, I caanot claim to be a perfect and sinless person.

When one is ignorant, his/her actions are the best but with more understanding, one knows those actions of his/hers that are wrong. In one of my previous posts, I used the example of Saul who later became Paul.

from my understanding you seem ready to make amends, but without admission of guilt or taking responsibility again i repeat partly!, which i believe is also human, one would assume that you are not ready to move on, earlier you asserted that it seems like fun initially, now am not trying to be the judge here, am just trying to comprehend what goes on in the minds of folks like you, look there are gangs every were even here in the Uk and the US,in your previous post you were not neccerssarily applauding but making excuses for this thugs,by agreeing that they believe in an ideology,

eledacedar:
Well, I might not dispute what you say. As I said earlier, I was already attached to him b4 he got attached to 'Frat life' so it wasn't that easy for me to call it quits at the initial stage. It also seemed to be fun at the time but just as life is in phases, I outgrew that life and moved on.

Really? Have you really moved on? By some of your comments on here, it would appear to one that you! Still applaud the murderous atrocities meted out by this thugs, and i put it to you! That you! Was, Perhaps still partly responsible be it knowing or unknowingly for some of this atrocities.would you agree?

perryy:
. They are fallen fools. what are you doing with cultism when ordinary knife can kill you? Useless children. Well, cultism is meant for the cowards. When I was in school, I fought some of them, yet they couldn't identify me the next day. I was traditionally protected and I never joined any group for useless protection.

why do they need protection? From what exactly?... it bogles the mind

einsteino:
i do not have the jurisdiction to define what success is, but by the definition of the society we live in, amassing wealth and having companies that employ educated fellas is success.

now i question the inadequacy of any one who consider that as success

eledacedar:
Your opinion it is. Which you are entitled to. Mind you, I seek nobody's empathy. Not in any way, I only responded to someone.

i appreciate your sense of reasoning, and i hate to be very robust, you were aware of the murderous atrocities that went on yet you! Did not go to the authorities or get away sooner, it appears to me that the whole activities be it murderous or otherwise were enjoyed by you, again my two cent

b0rn2fuck:
I get sense nah, if not for the tin between the legs of all these women, I wouldn't have problem at all. I can only loose my sense woman unclothedness

that one na every man palaver...women

einsteino:
bob izua has so much blood on his hands, so dnt start. and blood of prominent people for that matter. i am not in support of cultisms, i hate it. but the society allows these guys to occuppy enviable positions. imagine bob was even empowered by d govt to collect taxes.

and in your view thats success? Having peoples blood on ones hands? I do not want to question the inadequacy

b0rn2fuck:
just imagine, aa guy living in a single room, telling that lived in 2 bedroom bungallow of my own, we both even have a child, he was telling to join Alora! I was like, Is this guy out of his sense, even me wey bi born2fuck which nairalanders think he has no life still far better than you! But I talk ham for my mind, no bi out! Na so I dey shake head like lizard pretend say I don listen but for my mind, I know say na the last wey two of uss go siddon together be that

so you get sense like this? yee! Osanobua!

eledacedar:
The truth is that it's not easy letting go of some1 u love just like that. I fell in love with him before he fell in love with 'Frat life'. I was with him all through his rise to the top. Guys came and went. His/my/our house was always crawling with his men. I was mother of all.

Yes, I sometimes enjoyed the respect from being 'mama awon boys'. If there's something I Dont know about them, it's not much.

Then came the time to move on in life and let go of what 'frat life' had to offer. He wasn't willing to let go and I wanted a better life not filled with so much risk,anxiety and uncertainty.

His love for frat life was more than his love for me. I had to move on.

Talking about being calm, many who insult others because their views differ Dont really know that such insults lead to the loss of tens of lives at a stretch because some1 felt his/her ego has been trampled on. Why pick fights when I can just move on? I have seen a lot to know that sometimes, I just have to let people be even if their views are different from mine and appear foolish to me. It's their view.



If possible, as far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men. Romans 12:18

If many of us apply this principle, we would have averted a lot of deaths, probably that of the guy being buried here.

yea! Right, love my butt! Dont expect any empathy, you chose that life (mama boys)and knew the risks,so deal with the out come, am sure you thought it was glamorous at first , my opinion anyway.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Only a female who has dated a fvcking cultist for 6 years will tolerate such insults
Insults are nuthing compared to the shiit she must have received in the hands of her boyfriend
Dude she is one damaged individual

don't expect any empathy from me, she chose that life, so should deal with the out come, perharps she thought it was glamorous at first, who knows

tellwisdom:
Edo people, una no get sense??

" falls of chair"

persius555:
Cultism has swallowed the entire edo state. As it is now, it has gotten out of control. The fire has been spreading unhindered for a very long time. They are in every household, workplace and all. A major factor responsible for its deep rooted is the lack of unemployment for its teeming multitude of youths, little assistant or motivation by the state govt. Offcourse, this challenge is not just limited to edo state, but the entire niger delta. God bless and heal my edo state.

the most honest and sensible comment on here, God bless you and the whole of your generation, infact me thinks you should be one of the goverments advicers

einsteino:
do you know bob izua? does he look like someone who is successful? if u dont know how many companies and estates he has even overseas, you would say he looks like a poverty stricken fellow. but bob izua started just like these guys, we cursed him.. he was and still is a thug even though he is abt 60 yrs+.. but yet very successful

Rubbish! Ok! fine, Bob whatever, one man successful in your own view. Who else is successful? So because of one man, every one should join cult? And he is still alive so he is not a fool like the others who are killing and been killed

HungerBAD:
Success don't hide. These guys are not successful in life.

no! They do not seem to be, no successful human gambles with their life they are mostly cowards thus they go in gangs, no different like here in england or in new york, they just gangs of paranoid youths murdering themselves,its very sad

rman:
You should know a man is behind that handle. It so obvious.

my thought exactly! People claim all sorts on the internet, might even be a law enforcement agent trying to get some infor.

eledacedar:
Everything we say/do is an integral function of who we are on the inside. Many bad eggs look for an umbrella to carry out their bad deeds hence they join frats. Others are clean guys who are outgoing.

Many posters here also talk and act in a way that shows who they are on the inside and just because this is a faceless forum, they talk anyhow.

Mo ti de fila ma wobe. Mo ti de gele ma wobe

clearly, you seem a very inteligent and very articulate with your views, so if i may ask? How did you get mixed up with this dangerous folks? One would have thought that this folks are usualy ignorant and illitrate thus their behaviour. Which it appears is not the case with you. And in my understanding you are still in support of this folks although you claimed to have gotten away luckily.

I suspect this toilet to be for Disable people or people with bad back

fyneboi79:
Na people like you dey rejoice with ritualists driving clean cars. Madam rejoice

typical nigerian that woman, they do not care how you make money, every money is success to them even if you are an armed robber

Rikidony:
Big boys dnt show off if it was in a sane country that pay tax the collectors would have paid him a visit

true talk, none of this so called celebrity pays a penny in tax in nigeria thus they are flashing their untaxed wealth

Who is she?and why is she wearing that kinda glasses is she blind?

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Really?! Am glad to hear this, means poor and ugly man like me still have a chance

Na wao! The So called modern Women are becoming indecent and cheaper and cheaper every day , by 2020 i suspect they would all be going about naked, well... am not complaining

mrborntodoit:
You are a useless son of a public w.hore. Your mother spentt her days fvcking like a dog and the consequences are telling on your manners. Useless second-handed bas.tard

this person has a degree in insulting, which one be second hand bast.stard? .. " falls of chair"

cleatoris:
Poor service delivery to a people with very low expectations and standards.

i agree %1000,mediocrity reigns in nigeria

harry509:
I blame d managemnt. Dis country sha. Na only GOD go hlp us.

no! I blame the people for not demanding for quality services which they ve paid for

PDPwayoo:
u can not separate Nigerians from lawlessness and disorderliness ....... THIS WAS WHY SOME PEOPLE HATE BUHARI, COS ARMY FLOG PEOPLE RUSHING FOR BUS AND CROSSING ROAD.
if u see any black man rushing train or not waiting for his turn/no. in abroad... must be a Nigerian.

is this photo good for people against GMB and (WAI)?

Absolutely! For nigerians lawlessness means clever and stupid words like "shining your eyes", its so embarrasing

What the fu...k, tufiakwa! Who is marrying who? how did any one with some sense let this happen?

skarlet:
I think you're quite deranged to post such baseless things. Get yourself checked, honestly...

me thinks he has been smoking banana leaves when is time for action will run a hide under the table

This guys on here boasting about the militants, so it means this people will never have any future in their whole entire lives, they have determined to be criminals until they get shot by an army or other law enforcement agencies, do they not think is time to move on, and do better things with their lives? take it from a from a retired thug but now i ve got a life, you can have a life too

WILSON:
YOUR FADA!!! BROS EEH NA WETIN COME BRING THIS KIND TALK NAA!! SHOOOH!

you funny wella.. i don laugh tire