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What's up desiree1? I have read through your issue and the responses you got. Your issue is not a big deal. My conclusion is that you haven't felt dumped before and love is dragging you back meaning that you are slow to act. You have to learn to act fast, I am sure you are a strong lady is just that love is giving you a sour medication. You must learn that because you are a lady some guys will think that you are weak and by you dragging your self back proves that.

There are some ladies who will immediately call the cops and pick up all their things that belong to them from his house. If you are breaking up with him going their alone or waiting for him to respond is dumb. Police are there to do their job, and the service is free paid by tax payers. Unless you borrowed those things then you don't need it back. But if you bought it with your own money, you have not right to just sit back and let him leave in peace. I hope you are not the kind of person that expect people to do things for you. You have to wake up and know this is your world and you have to make things happen and not wait for some one to act before you act.

That lady you called your friend, the one that told you about your ex. that lady is not your friend. You need to end your relationship with her. She may have been the one that put you in this situation, actually you put yourself in your state. I noticed that some single ladies are always snatching other ladies men, normally the so called friend. You need to be a strong Black lady which I know you are. Put your mind on something, watch movies, read a new novel, do something but end any emotional, thoughts, contact with your ex. there are guys out there that will treat you like a queen. Leave mr. nobody alone.

Peace.

I am thinking the poster is the one being difficult here. You set your courtship for 3 months and after that you have to drag him to the altar ready or not. I think the guy is doing the right thing, he is running from some one who is going to put expiration date on everything in the house. Some of the things poster have posted sounds fishy.

I tried to finish reading this but I think I fall asleep or something

To Teebaby:

There was this lady at one time I was interested in. We were kind of starting a relationship. By the way that relationship is dead, it was buried two weeks ago. I started writing poems to her but I called it lyrics. She was kind of shy and secretive. I knew by her writing poems I will some things from her. Poems are hard to write and if some one doesn't mean anything to you is even harder. So after one or two lyrics, she decided that she is tired that she can't write any more. I didn't broke up, but I lost a lot of interest in her. Is not just about poems, there are things behind those poems. If you think is a joke, ask a poet and they will tell you there is a meaning behind every good poem.

Well, Teebaby I cooked this up for you for your soon to be ex boyfriend, why I said ex. you don't feel a lot of things for him that's why is hard for you to write, you are hiding something, you feel like you can't open up to him about how you feel.

I am a lady not a poet
When I met you I thought I found my first love
You meant everything to me
I didn't want your money
I didn't want your car
I didn't want your house
I didn't want your poems
I wanted you

I am a lady not a poet
Every morning I woke up
I thought of you
I thought of your smile
I thought of your warm hands
I thought of your watery kiss
I wished you were here with me
Sadly, I thought not of your poems

I am a lady not a poet
I need a man by my side
A man to call my own
A man to hold me and look into my eyes
A man to hold and squeeze my ass and suck my nipples
A man that will UnCloth me with his eyes
A man that will talk me to sleep
Sadly, I don't need a poet

I am a lady not a poet
I am not a bitch
I won't sleep around
I can love you
I can cook african dish for you
I can care for you
I can have beautiful kids for you
Sadly, I can't write poems

I am a lady not a poet
I am afraid you choose love over poetry
I am afraid you choose poetry over me
I am afraid you judge me because of how I write
I am afraid you trust poetry over me
I am afraid I am a lady not a poet
I am afraid you will find a poet not a lady
I am afraid I am loosing you

What's up poster? Your stats are ridiculous. Where did you cook that up from. Because kids in your neighborhood pray such prayers doesn't automatically mean men don't want their lady to be richer. As for me, I need a lady who is too rich that I don't even have to work. I just sit home chilling and causing people out on nairaland.

What's up poster? I think first you need to know what you want and then you get into how you can get it

1]Do you want the relationship to work? Solution:Stop fighting, bitching, be humble, you are the wife not the husband, and be a good wife. I am sure you loved this man if not you wouldn't have had kids with him. True? Or maybe you are falling out of love with all the bullshit going on?
2]You want divorce and want to be broke? Solution: Divorce him now and let him have all the money, by the way you choose him in the first place not his money [not a good option]
3]You want to divorce him by owning half of his money and business values? Solution: Check with your lawyer, even if you don't have a lawyer, look up a local lawyer in your area and get all the juicy info. you need. Especially a divorce lawyer, that way they can give you current info. Law changes a lot. Sistawoman made a good point on that. Also don't talk to your friends about this issue especially your lady friends, this may be a ticket for them to get your man. If you have already did talk to them, talk to them again and said that everything is fine and well. Play it cool.

Also, not every info. you can disclose on a public forum, you never know who might know you, especially when it comes to dollars, if you know what I mean.

A pregnant man? Wahala de for this forum. Well, Mr. I like sex and I don't like responsibility. Think with your head next time instead of with your dumb ass.

What's up poster? The example you gave is not difficult at all. Maybe you need to understand the meaning of difficult before you post anything else. But an example of a lady being difficult is you tell her to sit, she stand, you tell her okay you can stand now, she sit plus one that bitches about every little thing. Every minute she is bitching about something, that's what I call being difficult.

Thanks to those reasonable people that have commented something sensible. Anyways, when I first met this lady. It was a sudden as if there was a charm or something. The issue is, I didn't know what kind of lady I wanted. As time goes on, I asked that question and once I knew the answer, I compared it to her and she doesn't come close. Instead of just ending the relationship, I decided to see if something can be worked out. She is a little adamant and she refused all offers. Last month, she apologized for all her refusals. Well, is too late. If I had known what kind of lady I wanted, I guess I woundn't have been involved with her.

I think some people make mistakes and get married to other people that they really don't want to be with but because they found themselves together and can't face the break up which leads to cheating and other stuff. Pregnancy is one of the main reasons guys marry ladies that they don't want to be with. Like there is some one I know right now, she got some lady pregnant and she wants to marry her. He have been told to marry her because he wants to be with her not because of the pregnancy.

I don't regret anything about this relationship. There wasn't even a relationship. The relationship was in the forming process. For this 3 yrs. or so, she was just concentrating on her studies and making little or no effort towards the relationship. When I first saw her for the first time in about 3yrs, I knew immidiately that I can't have anything to do with her and nothing can be done about it. I didn't even visit her because things didn't seem right and I know the closer I get to her and her family the harder it will be to break of the relationship.

Life goes on.

To Dj4cruze, lunatic bastard:

Listen mr. nobody, is obvious that you are some angry bitch that just change his or her user name to avoid facing reality. mr. DJ is mr. nobody. I don't have time for bastards like you but I am ready for what ever street punks like you got. Listen, the next time you post, try to learn atleast simple english and how to write. People in psychiatric will write better than you so I wonder where you are located. Are you one of those homeless punks that roam the streets of las vegas, mr. nobody or are you just some bastard incarcerated. I heard they have started providing computers to prisoners. So for the mean time idiotic bitch, stay away from this thread, lunatic bastard.

Have you been in a situation where you loved or cared about some one after some years you have zero feelings for them? Or some one told you they don't love or care about you any more? What do you think cause these things. Well, there was this lady I met about 3yrs ago and I was feeling her. She was hot and all that. I never met with her a lot. At one point, I met her after about 3 yrs of not seing her and I had no feeling for her any more. I thought of having a long term relationship when I first met her but now, she is like a stranger I can walk past without noticing that some one just walked by. Assuming there was a marriage about the time I met her, I would have no option now but divorce but I took some time to let things be.

One thing that I think that caused that was I was trying to shape her into the lady that I wanted to be with, she refused to do those things. So her condition right now doesn't come close to the lady I want to be with so the relationship is %100 over without a chance of survival.

To Bastage:

Listen up illusional bitch, you sound like a White stupid motherfucker. Don't disceive yourself, because the color of your skin is black doesn't make you black. Obama is where he is today because he choose to be there not because of White people and certainly not because of your dumb ass, stupid bitch.

What's up poster? You got some good points  but what about ladies? Are their own reasons for leaving different? Is it gender based or what?

All these people that are bitching about breaking some ones heart, do you all know what it means to break some ones heart? Rejecting some one doesn't necessarilly mean you broke their heart. Is deeper than that.

Buy him cars and give him money when ever he ask

If he loved you, he probably wouldn't want to know what's in another ladies skirt. Run before you get stuck[marriage].

What's up poster? I think you are the guy in question but I may be wrong. To answer your question, both parties have to love each other for the marriage
to survive. Assuming the guy in question goes ahead with the marriage, the lady may one day find a man that she loves, which means divorce for the guy in question.

I know a lot of women get angry when you call them fat bitch. Next time a lady does something stupid, just call her fat bitch, and she will be pissed, for atleast a minimum of one week. Guess what? She will be asking every one around her if she look fat. If I had a choice to choose between skinny and fat,
I may choose none, but skinny is not beauty at all. Skinny ladies to me some how are not beautiful. I don't know why some ladies starve them selves. The media is portraying wrong messages.

1]Bitchy, bitching about every single thing, she doesn't know how and when to shut up
2]Too skinny, you may wonder if she is sick, or have a eating disorder, no go area
3]Too fat, too fat that she stinks, oh men, always eating, not a single hour will pass without her hugging some fatty food, sometimes her fatness is gross, also sometimes when she is around, it seems like everything around is getting fatter.

Hey poster, be honest, are you the guy in question?No need to lie.

To:Texazzpete:

You need to go to hell, there are a lot of tax collectors there, dumb shit.

To:Nuzo:Dumb Shit:

Learn how to spell before you can post. You are a disgrace to Blacks. I hope you are not Black because you should have known all this years that a Black man is spelled like this, Black man not back man. What the hell is back man? People you see what I am talking about, not every body that look black know who they are.

Mr. dumb shit, learn to spell and then we can debate if you are old enough to continue posting your shit in this thread.

To texazzpete or you mean tax collector:

Look what's stupid is not the name of this thread, what's stupid is your user name, texazzpete. Are you a tax collector, if so I think you are in the wrong thread. I have paid my tax so stop wasting your time and go find people who have not paid their tax.

I know there are some Blacks that think like White people so I am not surprised with some of the posts here.

To davidif or you meant devil:

Listen up. I knew some punk like you is going to bitch about the title of this thread. The point is White people want Black leaders dead. If you disagree ask Rev. Jesse jackson, Louise Farrakhan, so many other Black leaders in the US. They will tell you the same thing. So, what's your problem punk? You want Black leaders dead too? Because the majority of Obama voters are White doesn't give them any right to kill him. Don't you think? I won't be surprise if you think otherwise. Anyways get a life, bitch.

Some people say he will be president regardless of what happens. They said God sent him. Is possible God is working things out through him. But Dr. Martin Luther King, God works things out through him but the security around him wasn't that good. So people need to focus on security at all times.

They have planned to have Obama killed two or more times before he even become president. So what happens when he becomes a president? I hope he have a lot of body guards. Some news agency have claimed there was no plot to kill him. That's no suprise. Goodluck to the future Black US President.

By Sunnewsonline
http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2008/aug/27/national-27-08-2008-001.htm
By CBS News
http://cbs4denver.com/investigates/assisination.plot.obama.2.802827.html
By Salon
http://www.salon.com/politics/war_room/2008/08/26/plot/index.html

To Chika98:

Go to hell stupid bitch.

I don't know what the Bleep just happened. I used to care about Olympics but this year, before I realized what was going on, the Olympics came to an end.

China did an incredible job, they proved their outstanding job in many areas of life, science and technology[unlike Nigeria]. But overall China did good and Nigerian football players need to get their shit together. They need to bring home Gold or nothing else.

So what's your final thoughts regarding the 2008 Olympics in China?

This is the deal. My older brother is dating a White lady. Actually they plan to get married. The White lady don't give a Bleep about the family. She haven't even done anything for the family approval. Some ladies don't know that the family have to approve them as wife to be or they will have issues with them. So basically my approval rating for is about %5 out of %100. When she comes around she doesn't do much if anything, she just go and hide in his room. Hopefully I will go to the wedding if I don't have anything to do.

My younger brother is dating Asian lady, I think she is Hispanic, but she looks mix. Actually I don't know what she is. Do I want to know? No. Well lets just say she is White. You are Black or White. If you disagree, go figure. They have not discussed marriage openly, so I don't know if he is wasting his time or tasting the waters. She have made effort to hang out. But she haven't made any sacrifice. She just comes around some times, and hang out. That's not good enough. My approval rate is %10.

My other older brother is hooking up with an Ibo lady who happens to live in another state, about 4hrs. drive. They are getting married soon. The deal is this lady is too friendly, well behaved, done a lot of things for the family, made some sacrifice. The thing is, she is too nice that it makes me wonder. When some one is too friendly it makes me to wonder if they are real or just pretenders. It looks like she wants to get married to my brother and she is willing to do what ever it takes. She seems to not want any problem or misunderstanding with the family. My approval for her is about %95 plus pretending behaviors. I guess she knows how to get what she wants.

A lot of ladies know that if they bitch about the way the guy eats or snore or what ever, he may think twice about marrying her and also that after marriage they can bitch about anything they want.

To Jeseph6 or what ever that means;
Don't try to be smart here. If you need help on how to start another thread, you just need to ask. For the mean time, you either answer the question, contribute something meaningful [not just posting shit] or get the Bleep off this thread. Comprende [understand]?