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If a lady I hook up with try to force me into getting a degree I don't want because she claims she is the almighty smart educated rich lady, I might tell her to go to hell.

Poster you are right but if they say something like they have been hurt in the past or they just got of a relationship, it might mean they just
want to take it slow and not rush things. Every good woman who just got out of a relationship or have been hurt before will take things slow to not make the same mistakes in a new relationship. But not every woman is like that, for example, some celebrities will divorce like one week, the next week they are hooking up with some one else and some people are like that. They don't think well.

To: Idiopathic:
I agree with you. A lot of people don't like the truth. They go along with the majority or custom as to avoid conflict or disrespect from their elders. Before I use to avoid conflict, right now I am like bring it on. Ladies don't like conflict as you may have realize, they are not responding to this thread as for now.
My thing is I say it the way I see it wether is good or bad. That's why I have a lot of enemies in this forum and outside this forum. Having enemies can be a good thing in a way. But my point is people should have a choice that's why they are human beings. If we are talking about animals here like ewu hausa[ a goat], then we can say this animals have no choice, human beings make choices for them, but when a human being starts acting like ewu hausa, then we got a problem. Another issue is chieftency, it seems like in the village both old and young want to be chief. That's another bullshit on its own. This chieftency all you need is to have money and then you bride the elders and they will give you a list of things you need and then you are a chief. This positions are things the people suppose to select not the elders. A lot of older and younger guys are turning to ritualism to be able to afford this chieftency. Most of all this things going on in Ibo land.This elders should be digging there grave not running peoples lives.


To:Romeo:
You don't have a point. What you are stating is not making any sense. What is your point? What do you have to contribute in this issue? The ladies that I refered to are not my sisters. The question that I asked regarding those ladies, you can't even answer them and you are here posting nonsense. This shows your level of comprehension is very low.

To:Meexteriox:

Get a life punk

Let those idiotic traditionalist who brag about having money who have been brain washed by their village elders go ahead with the traditional wedding. While those who use their head and make right choices without having some one make choices for them opt out. After all there are two types of people in this world. Those that make choices for themselves and those that let others make choices for them. Which one are you?

I wonder why people don't brag about how much they bought their wife from their elders. Maybe they are feeling quilty in engaging in such a rediculous act. It seems like is those hopeless greedy poor gold digging elders are the ones people are associating with to make decisions for them.

People should be able to freely marry a lady and give her family what ever he feels like not buy her at the auction held by the village elders. So on the auction contract, is there a place were it states full refund quaranteed if the lady happens to be a bitch? I don't think so.

There are some dumb people in this forum who thinks that this is about having money. This isn't about money. Is about common sense. I know this family
here in Portland. Back home their family[Their dads side]caused them or something. So they actually didn't go home during christmas or any hollidays. They lived in the town and visited their moms place. The man have I think about three or more daughters right now that are at a marrying age. So all this bitch posters here in this forum who are brain washed to go along with what ever tradition the dumb village elders have set up. Where are this ladies suppose to have their traditional wedding if they chose an Ibo[Not Igbo] man? Certainly not at her moms place. I heared that there have been men who came to marry one of these ladies and because they believe in bullshit tradition, they went to her dads place to inquire about things. They learned that they are not welcomed at her dads place. So this dumb nigger got to backout of marriage just because they can't do traditional wedding. So does that mean all the ladies should stay single? Bullshit. What if I fall for one of these ladies. I will tell her is not good that her dads family hate them all. But as far as I am concerned Zap. your elders and they can go to hell. Who are they to cause a family from visiting their fathers land. Some times I feel sad for these ladies. This is serious, is not a joke.

You see anything that make sense, look at it any how it will still make sense. While bullshit things will always be bullshit untill is fixed or even eliminated entirely.

Also I read somewhere on this thread, some one stated that Ibo guys commit a lot of crimes. I totally agree with that. Imo state have more ritualist than any state in Nigeria unless you can prove other wise. Any one remember Otokoto era? If you don't there was this man named Chief Vincent Duru known as Otokoto [yahoo it up you will find more info.] who had a son named Obicheozo. The man had a restaurant in Orlu road. He is Ibo ofcurs, he kills his customers and sell their body parts and then burry their body at the back of the restaurant. You could be eating their paper soap and be eating somebody's body all along. That's why I don't like eating meat at public places, you really don't know what you are eating unless is chicken or something like that. One day, it was discovered. There was riot all over the city. A lot of ritualist houses were borned down. His son, there are women[stupid ones]all over him, he cruises on the road with fleet of luxury cars. Eventually this man, his son, and other ritualist that took part in the killings were killed. Most of them by hanging. If you think I am making this up read some of the story here. [ http://www.thisdayonline.com/archive/2003/01/21/20030121fea01.html ] or [ http://magazine.biafranigeriaworld.com/aehirim/2003jul12.html]

For those people cursing others for say the truth. Mine is back to send. You curse it goes back into your family. I even think that if you combine all the ritualist in Nigeria all put together. Ibo ritualist still out number them. Why because their tradition wants them to be rich to be able to perform stupid things like traditional wedding. Even in Ibo land any man that doesn't build up a house is considered a failure. Who said you have to have a house to be a man? These things pushes Ibo guys to crime. They can't really get into federal positions because the Hausa and Yorubas have taken over the ownership of Nigeria but that would be a different thread.

Nigeria is a sad place and will continue to be.

According to the poll when I checked it, over %50 of nairaland users don't reside in Nigeria.

Mr. poster, I don't know what kind of advice you want. Do you wants us to inform you to keep it a secret from your wife? The deal is inform her about it asap and seek medical help. Sleeping with your wifes sister is really bad, when it comes to naija culture is really really really bad.

Mistakes is part of life. But one should try not to make one.

There are a lot of scams and few good home business online.

Just curious. I know flat screen and vcd are in high demand.

What are you going to China for? You have to be specific. With technology, business travel is not really necessary unless you have a big company and you buy in large quantities. If you are going there to get info. that's a waste of money. Just log into the internet and you will get all the info. you need.

1]If this story is true, wether you take the money or not, you will one day loose that lady to another guy
2]You really have no option than to take the money
3]This rich guy or what ever might be his brother or a friend, they are playing a game to see if you truely love her. Taking the money means you don't love her. Just remembr this could be a test which you are likely to fail. Assuming it was a test and you fail it by wanting the money, the guy don't have to pay you Poo. because you don't have any contract with him. If you sue him, you are going to loose.

I think your best option will be to reject the money.

To:Dellynash:

I am just making sure you are for real about your story.

To:FireCrap:

Shut your fat lips bitch.

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Nice

Me apologize? You must be out of your Zap.i.n.g. mind.

To:Meexteriox:

Another bastard that wants to post his shity lame opinion.

Let her catch your bro. when he is cheating on her and then after divorce. Console her while she is getting ready for divorce. And then take the next
step of becoming the next bride.

I think no married man should cheat on his wife [after marriage], you can cheat on your fiancee, is okay, she is not your wife yet. But once you are married and you still have the lust toward another woman, that pretty much means that you don't love your wife.

Loving some one as in husband and wife is beyond emotional feelings, there is more to it. You should marry some one you love and lust for that way you can't cheat on her.

Mrs. Poster your post are below. According to you, you stated you are new. That's a lie. You are not new. You opened a new account. You have been using nairaland since last year. Last month you opened a new account just for this thread. There is nothing bad in a woman than lying. Lying is very bad. Since you are a liar that makes a lot of things about you questionable. See wahala O, Can you Imagine you want advice from nairaland and all you can come up is a lie? What if this your story is a lie? Lying is bad. Lying in a relationship is extra bad. I read some where on this forum about a guy complaining his wife lied to him before marriage about some virginity bullshit. Who knows if that thread is about you. Nawa for this world.


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Re: My Husband Has Become Boring, He Hardly Makes The Bed When He Gets Up
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Thanks plappville, for your contribution, as regards ur question i do go to work that is why i get up as early as 5.30 sometimes 5am to cook before going to work, i wake up before him and when he wakes up he will hardly touch the bed. About the second round stuff he use to even go like three times when we were dating but now he seems too tired, meanwhile i do all the house work, cooking, washing of his clothes, etc inshort everything, so i don't understand why he gets so tired in that area.

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Re: My Husband Has Become Boring, He Hardly Makes The Bed When He Gets Up
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Thanks plappville, for your contribution, as regards ur question i do go to work that is why i get up as early as 5.30 sometimes 5am to cook before going to work, i wake up before him and when he wakes up he will hardly touch the bed. About the second round stuff he use to even go like three times when we were dating but now he seems too tired, meanwhile i do all the house work, cooking, washing of his clothes, etc inshort everything, so i don't understand why he gets so tired in that area.

IGWE USA you live in Seattle huh? That's like 4hrs. from Portland. So what's your last name?

Also before I forget. I noticed people were telling you to get a maid. Listen very well, "DO NOT GET A MAID"unless you don't mind a second wife
for him if you know what I mean. Remember all domestic work at home, the lady should take care of it. If is domestic, ladies remember is your job as a woman by tradition, abi?I don't make my bed in the morning, I don't think is a big deal. Shoes suppose to be in the closet if there is one. Making bed and throwing shoes any how is not a big deal, is just a sign of exhaustion, he is tired. This married have Zap.e.d. him up. So I recommend you talk to him, if you don't feel confortable yelling at him maybe "YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED JUST YET."


So Mrs. Poster my question to you is did you live with this guy before you got married or was it just visiting? When some ladies visit their potential husband when dating, they assume he is going to change when he gets married, hell no. So the ladies that are reading this that are not married this also applies to guys, if you see a behavior you don't like, deal with it right there rather than wait after your marriage.

My advice to any one getting married is always live with the person for atleast one year before getting marrried. My two brothers are getting married next year. I informed them about the issue, they think is wack.  You can't really say you know some one until you live with them for a while. They may visit you or you visit them and stay overnight but that means nothing much, because the person is expecting you. There have been people who have dated for years and got married and divorced the same week,month,year. It happens all the time. If not a year try 6 months of living together before marriage. If you think 6 months is too much, remember you are getting married to live with that person forever, that means you will see him/her every day. That could be boring at times for some people.

Some one once said that many marriages fail because people spend too much time preparing their wedding[wedding day] than they do planning their marriage[life].

upala opoko buru nti chiri ya.

I think he wasn't ready for marriage but you charmed him into it now he is psychologically Zap.e.d. The best advice to you is to talk to him
like intructor to student. Tell him is time for him to get his shit together.

Mr. poster is marrying virginity more important to you than marrying a good wife?

To:Savanaha:
Bitch, why don’t you sit your fat ass down like you are taught to by your tradition

To:Monatoetje:
In Imo State, there are many traditions but when it comes to traditional marriage, the one thing they have in common is
Auctioning their daughter off in exchange for naira and kobo, beans, rice, and all that bullshit. People continue to do it because
They can’t think for themselves.

To:Omo Crap:
Who the Zap. are you calling son. Shut your mouth and listen son. This issue isn’t about afford or not afford. Is about history
Repeating it self. Assuming you have common sense you would have realized that the title of the thread have nothing to do with price
Dumb Poo.

To:JJYOU:
I see that you too don’t reason well. If this was a money issue, you would have read some where it stated
That they need to cut the money and all the bullshit the require down. A man should thank the daughters parents
For their good work but the amount of money or what ever the guy chooses to give should depend on him not on greedy
Traditionists. So you think I use my money on bling bling crap? Is only a fool that judge a book by its color. So bitch use your head
The next time you post the Poo. you post.

To:UZWU
If you are responding to a nonsense and meaningless post do you know what that makes you? I am sure your dumb ass that think well. It makes you a
Dumb Zap.e.r. People are not understand issues before they start posting their Poo. The summary of this issue is that most Nigerians are 419ers, there is
A chance you are one too, okay? Relax. Is normal any where in the world to have one civilized marriage which is going to church, mosque, synagogue or what ever.
Before this marriage you have to come with your parents bring drinks and what ever you chose to give to her parents. Traditional wedding is a new way greedy parents
Use to scam the quote “son inlaw.”

To:Ebony crap:
Shut your dirty mouth

To:Romeo:Dumb idiot:
I didn’t say anything about white marriage. I don’t call it that. I don’t know why you call it white marriage. Do you have something against White people? If you do. That’s good
But that’s the point idiot. Look at this fool wanting to show me the difference between Ibo and Igbo. Savanaha, the fat ass bitch even agreed with him without stop thinking with
Her fat ass. Romeo let me teach you Ibo and Igbo lesson 101. Ibo means the people of Ibo land like in Imo Onitsha Anambra Enugu and states like that. Igbo is the language spoken by Ibos.
Get it dumb Zap.e.r.? Normally I would charge you for this lesson that every 1yr old Naija should have known but because you and Savanaha are dumb Zap.e.r.s I am going to let you have the lesson for free. And Savanaha you want some one to pay your birth price for your parents bringing you up very well without teaching you the difference between Ibo and Igbo. That’s a bag of rice out of your auctioning list when ever that happens.

To:Tpia or whatever Zap. that means::
Sit your ass down
To:Dumbboy100:
Assuming that I am Ibo, it doesn’t mean that I have to put up with every bullshit they come up with in the name of tradition. Did you also ask
Your Dad if he bought your mother during the auctioning process? I guess not. Traditional wedding is your tradition not mine and is bullshit. Also the
Correct spelling is marriage not marriege. Dumbboy what the Zap. does marriege mean?

To:Monicaa:
Do you like the song the boy is mine by Monica? Well you said I have a choice to anything right? I guess that means I have a choice to like you right?

Any ways people of Ibo, Hausa, and Yoruba [maybe White people too] that’s pretty much what nairaland means without White people though. The issue is Nigerians are known for their world class talent known as 419, is it okay for your tradition to continue to support it?

To:tkb417:

1]Be    My    Wife
2]Black Man  Working
3]Black Mans Wheels
Black  Mans Wheels sounds better

Savanaha shut your bitchy mouth.

Skolars I don't know if you realize that you got people confused, your profile states you are male and your fishy story is claiming your are a female.
So you are either telling us bullshit or you need to change your profile.

For those who understand my point, that's cool. For those Zap.e.r.s. who chose to be rediculous, I don't know what to say. You have been informed, if you see a thread that you think is stupid, stay the Zap. away from it. Unless you are stupid and you can't tell what thread is stupid or not and you just want to voice your shity opinion. I don't give a Zap.

Alright, some dumb people here want to claim especially ladies[cause your parents are going to get the cash, aint it?] that some traditional weddings are okay. Some White slave owners at some point felt like some auctioning of some slaves were fair and not too expensive. If the slave is weak, a female and stupid, the price will be low. If the slave is strong and a male like Kunta Kunte, the price will be high.

I can not think of any Nigerian parents that have a daughter that is not greedy. Seriously Ibo people or what ever tribe in Nigeria that do tradtional wedding need to make it optional. A man only suppose to have one wedding and that's it. Non of this traditional nonsense.

I still don't know how the Hausa and Yoruba people operate. Maybe they are feeling too big to respond. If I am in Nigeria I am sure I am going to be fighting the Hausas and Yorubas just like I am fighting Whites here to make sure no one Zap.s. with my rights.

If I chose an Ibo lady as a Fiancee, if that ever happens, maybe is possible. I have a right to say, is either traditional or church wedding. Not both. If they disagree, they can have their daughter back, after all there are too many fish in the ocean.

Just a start up fee with like one computer or laptop and the internet cafes you have been to what kind of stuff do they have there?
I am thinking of hooking a friend up with a biz. and see how it goes. Especially in lagos.

Don't trust a Nigerian. Especially when it comes to money. They are like hispanic ladies. Never to be trusted. That's a $1000 secret right there.