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So basically before marriage, ladies will act like saints or the best ladies. After marriage they are now in control, demanding, and bitching about every little thing. Guys and ladies, is it true? And why do they do it? Is it so that they will get married or is it to impress the guy and his family?

Is again not agin

This is a disgrace. How can the house of the president of a whole nation be robbed? Maybe the security at his home were part of the plot. Or maybe Mr. President is trying to save money instead of employing enough security to protect his mom. Is sad that such a thing could happen. Nigeria, what a country.

If you are not ready, you are not ready unless some lady is going to drag you to the alter.

Why don't some ladies respect themselves? Disgrace.

Hey poster, you need to do what you got to do and stop bitching around

Hey poster. You are talking shit. You need to shut your dumb ass and grow up. So what did the last Owerri lady did to you? Now you want to categorize them as hustlers. So you think you can easily use women just like that? You need to think twice before you continue this your sexcapades. Next it would be Abia state ladies are hustlers. Get a life dumb ass.

Nairaland is better without fights but I am ready for fight any time.

What's Up Poster? So how did your new guy take the truth when you told him. Did you lie in the first place that you never married before or you just didn't get into the issue? Some guys will call it quits and some will cope especially those who have been divorced before. If is for me, I may give you 24hrs. to pack your shit.

May He Rest In Peace.

What's up poster? This is what I think is the issue. If she is a religious person, meaning she doesn't play with church, she goes to church every sunday or more than ones a week. Then you may not have a problem. Also you have to understand a ladies past before you can understand her present. So something may have happend to her, maybe the last relationship she said that she loved the person, something bad happened even though she claim she haven't been in a relationship. Some one can tell you they love you and you know they don't. Some can also not tell you they love you and you know they love you. According to you earlier on your post, you stated she doesn't express her emotions, is possible she is not ready for the drama or she is some one that does things her way not the way society decides. I hope you know that there are people that don't celebrate valentines day and that doesn't mean they don't value love or anything like that.

If she is not religious, a party person, hang out with friends a lot. Run as much as you can because she doesn't give a shit about you.

I guess the picture I looked at is the new school in Abuja not Madonna University. Maybe there are guards around Madonna University to prevent people from taking pictures or maybe cameras are not allowed.

Based on the picture, the school actually look nice but I don't know what happens inside. I guess you can't judge a book by its cover. But based on the comments so far, Madonna University is a bleeped up school not fit to be called a university.

This isn't about changing who you are. Some people have some criteria in what they look for in a partner. You can only change things that are possible. For example, if you are looking for an Ibo wife, you are not going to meet a Yoruba lady and ask her that you want her to change to an Ibo lady. No it doesn't work that way.

Is very simple, this is only before marriage, because after marriage na you sabi. Tell this person that there are things that you look for in a partner and that they met some of it and not all of it. Things like drinking alcohol, smoking, using drugs, going to night clubs [adult clubs:watching nude dancers], coming home late[if you are dating how would you know if the person comes home late since you don't live with the person I guess? Call them around 12am, if you hear loud music or if they don't answer something might be up]. You can even change the person's career or the kind of friends they hang out with. Just tell them that you don't like their career with good reasons. For their friends, may be they are party people, drug addicts or what ever, let the person know that their friends sucks. It is very simple, he/she change what you want or you keep it moving. There are too many fish in the ocean.

After marriage, you shouldn't be changing anything you knew prio unless is something that developed. Some people think that is not okay to change something about your partner, basically you are saying is okay to put up with all the person's shit, no good relationship require change and sacrifice if you don't know ask those that have stayed married for years not those that are on their 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriage.

If you disagree go figure.

I don't agree or disagree with Oluwaseun. All I know is Nigeria is a blessed nation and also a sad nation full of corrupt, cultisim, ritualism, bribery, criminals, and a whole lot of Shit.

Obama Is Black and White. Don't forget that. Some times it seems as if his whiteness is over shadowing his blackness when it comes to some of his actions lately. Believe it or not, a lot of Blacks [minority of people] will not vote for Obama due to some of his actions.

Some peole want to move forward without knowing the past. How can you move forward without knowing your roots?

Listen to what Black professionals have to say about reparation:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCX2TxvNY3Q

He is ready for marriage when he accepts life in prison because that's what marriage is.

I don't know if you know U.S. history very well. The Japanse at one time were put into concentration camps for some years. It wasn't slavery according to U.S. government. After the war ended. U.S. government paid reparation money to victims and their familes. Now the question is, why would U.S. government pay reparation to Japanese for incarcerating them and not pay Blacks for slavery? Is it that Blacks are not worth to be paid? It seems like those who doesn't want reparation for slavery are saying that Blacks are not worth the money?

I always hear some shit from some Blacks that reparation is not a good idea. White people want apology. Bleep that. Apology is the same as doing nothing. So it would be better that they don't apologize than apologiz. Money is what they would have to pay. For those of you who don't know U.S. history very well, Blacks were enslaved for over 362yrs. Do you know what that means? That means Family generations over and over and over were in slaves. Can you imagine working for a whole week without a pay? We are talking about hundreds of years here. The U.S. and Europe made billions of dollars from it. Slaves worked everyday without pay. And what you want for all this shit is an apology. Get a life people.

OBAMA COMMENTS CLICK HERE

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080802/ap_on_el_pr/obama_slavery_reparations

Is this a joke on Blacks or what? He got a good point improving schools and national healthcare but how is he going to do that? Is he going to appoint Black leaders to make sure that ghetto neighborhoods get the best schools and healthcare or is a White man going to do that. This comes down to the same question people have been asking, “Is He Black Enough To Be A Black President?” If you ask me, I don’t know.

OBAMA COMMENTS CLICK HERE

Ladies listen up. If you marry some one like Nas or P. Diddy, you shouldn't expect him to change over night, actually don't expect any change at all. It took years for them to get used to a lifestyle of using women, partying until 3am, etc. Don't think that you are going to easily change that or have them give it up easily. If you want a husband pick a guy that resemble a husband, if you want a bad guy, get ready for a life time of pain or you can easily reduce the pain with divorce. Is kind of dump to see ladies bitching about their husbands shameful habits when in fact, they knew all these things before marriage and now they suppose to turn into saints over night.

Watch before you leap and listen if you have ears.

Is advisable to not tell him that of curse is not being faithful but if you got nothing to lose, you got nothing to fear. Remember what you stated, you didn’t want the marriage but it was too late. Listen those who have ears. Is never too late, it doesn’t matter what people think. At the end of the day, is your problem not theirs. You can even change your mind while you are about to put the ring in his finger. So time is important, take your time don’t rush into things.

Thanks for those that have answered my question and those that just want to post, try to learn how to answer questions. For the mean time if you got an answer post it.

THE QUESTION IS WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE CALLED NOT WHAT YOU ARE CALLED. GET IT?

PICK ONE
1]Honey
2]Sweet Heart
3]Hoty
4]Beauty
5]Smart beauty
6]Smart hoty
7]Queen
8]African queen
9]Black queen

IF THE NAME YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR LOVER TO CALL YOU IS NOT HERE CHOOSE ONE FOR YOUR SELF

To:Ima1:

All the bitch ashawos that roam the rooms of hotels claiming that they are faithfully married to their husbands. You better quit talking shit and face the reality. Also remember that being cursed is no reason to try to curse out when ever you feel your womanhood have been degraded. All your curses are back to sender. Also remember that each time you curse some one, it goes back to the children you and your stupid husband have and will have. So what you don’t wish on your children, don’t wish it on any one. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

For the mean time, stay away from this thread bitch ass drunk ho.

I don't think that any move is wrong. But any move you take should let the lady know that there are many fishes in the ocean.

Most Nigerian politicians are stupid. I am guessing that they have solved all the problems in Nigeria to talk about some stupid shit like generators.

To:Ima1:

Get a life stupid bitch.

To:NJ11:
I am not disrespecting African ladies. If you read my post carefully assuming you can read, you will notice that the lady I came close to choosing was African not Hispanic. So that should tell you something. I know that there are many divorces involving inter-racial marriages but you have to understand that there are many inter-racial marriages that exist without a divorce. If an African guy doesn’t want an African lady or African American lady because of their bitchy attitude and lack of interest in learning from their mistakes, then they will remain in that state. African ladies get jealous when an African guy chose a White lady. Some ladies are already trying to give Hispanic ladies bad names.

I have had Hispanic and African lady friends. The Black ladies are the worst to deal with. They will insult you, criticize you, even want to get into a fight with you, unlike the Hispanic ladies I have dealt with. The point is Black ladies are the worst ladies I have dealt with and they never seem to want to learn. In a house there is only one leader and most of them don’t seem to comprehend that.

There is this stupid bitch named Ima1 on this thread, stating that I don’t live in a better state. Who gives a Bleep what state I live in. I just don’t live in the state I live in the biggest and most advanced city in Oregon. Portland is not always in the news but is one of the best cities in the U.S. Because you don’t see gang bangers, drug dealers, prostitutes roaming the streets and hotels every day doesn’t make it a better place. I guess this stupid bitch are one of those ashawos that are always disturbing African men that have married to White ladies. She doesn’t seem to have any respect for her self or others.

Hispanic ladies may cut you but African or Black ladies will shoot you. So which one do you prefer? Giving Hispanic ladies bad name only shows that you are jealous and more of you stupid bitches are left out without a chance of marrying an African guy abroad because they have settled down with the ladies they feel comfortable with, one that’s is not going to give them headaches every day.

To:Michelin89:
Listen bitch, because you are a curse to humanity doesn’t mean you have to go around spreading your curse to others. Did it ever occurred to you that some people are resistant to your devilish desires. Get a life bitch.