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Supreme145:
There is this motion that giving birth to children is an achievement in this country. I see young guys in mid and late twenties rushing into marriage while they are barely standing on their feet. From someone that comes from a family of 10 I'm sure if my dad is given a second chance he won't give birth as much children again. Let me share some of my experiences as regards giving birth without proper planning or sustainable income.

I've a neighbor in my compound, he's 32 and in his final year in the university, I can hardly have decent conversation with him without hearing about how he wants to get married. I would always remind him that he's living in a one room apartment, still a student without a strong source of income, but he would counter me saying that he can always start small and grow with his wife. Moreover when he gives birth he would have an investment.

I've have another friend that was a classmate in secondary school, he graduated the year I got admission though he had some issues with his results. One day he called me that he's married and I was surprised, though he is an artisan into all those parapets and pop stuffs I know he wasn't financially buoyant enough to carry a family. The last time I visited him he was looking malnourished and unable to sort out his issues in school almost four years after because according to him any money that he gets already has a pending issue waiting for it. He's looking far older than his elder brother who's still single, he looks 38 when he's just 30. He consoled himself by telling me that even if he doesn't have money he already has two kids which he sees an investment and a great achievement. Meanwhile they are cramped into a single room apartment and none of the kids are enrolled in school.

Last week while we were training in the evening, an argument broke out between two young guys. I was just by the side observing what was happening, I kept hearing stuffs like....why you dey argue with that guy? you no know say na person father he be? that guy don born two children o abi you think say e easy to born, na big achievement be that o. Now this is a guy that is about 25 years and has no sustainable means of income, he works in peoples farms and other menial jobs to make ends meet.

My next door married neighbor has become a torn in my flesh, he's always borrowing from me without paying so it's obvious he's struggling financially, factor in the constant arguments with his wife due to shortage of funds all the time. I once asked him why rushed to get married without a good source of income and he bluntly told me that he had always been broke while he was single and still broke now that he's married the only difference is that he can boast of his kids as an achievement unlike when he was single that he had nothing to boast of.

I have no issues what so ever with how anyone choose to life their life but considering the economic condition of this country now bringing in kids without proper plans is not the way to go. If my dad had given birth to maybe 3 kids I'm sure he wouldn't be stressed out the way he is now and the resources used in training 8 kids would be better managed on just 3kids.

Personally I feel that one of the surest way to perpetual poverty as a young guy is to get married while struggling financially. Like one of the examples above, he cast aside his personal development and aspirations just to cater for his family. Supposing he's still single I'm sure he would have cleared he's outstanding school fees and maybe get his certificate.

Well since I'm still single and still struggling I don't judge anybody, every mallam to his kettle. As for me no marriage till I'm financially stable enough to afford at least 3 bedroom flat, a small car and substantial savings. It would be an abomination for me to bring a child into this world to pass through the kind of life I had growing up.

LollySeaSide:
Oh...
Let's see...
Born a Catholic.
Lived with an uncle who attended deeper life. I attended deeper life for about four years, maybe five.
Back to Catholic.
After secondary school, I wanted to have my first girlfriend.
Wooed babe and she says she only dates her church members.
Good and fine.
Off I went to assemblies of God.
Boom!
We dated.
Smashed her for about a year.
Back to Catholic.
Time to move on to the next girl.
Oh my! Don't say whaaaatttt!
It's called youthful exuberance.
Next babe has the same mentality as the previous.
She was head over heels.
But...
We must attend the same church.
Ok then.
Hello Methodist Church!!!!
1, 2, 3 Sundays and I was already taking readings.
A powerful applause followed my first appearance at the pulpit.
Small but intellectually mighty.
Love(?) increased. Legs opened. Eyes closed. Moans sounded.
Oh my!
One Year passed. Boy! Time to head back to base.
Wait!
She was too sweet to be left.
Another year passed.
Oh no!
I had to move. Move I must!
But what was I to tell her?
That I'm dumping her?
What if she followed me to my church?
I crossed that possibility out.
Her parents were staunch Methodists.
She dares not!
I suddenly started praying to God to create a reason for my escape.
Oh Lord! I don't want to sin no more.
Please make me leave this church so I could stop fornicating!
What a prayer to say.
And then...
The prayer was answered!
What a beautiful Sunday it was!
Harvest was close. Levies have been announced.
All youths who haven't paid would have one leg of their footwear seized.
...and mine was seized!
What!!!!
In the house of God?
She too was furious.
"This is total rubbish!"
She exclaimed.
Next Sunday...
"In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy spirit."
And I answered, "Ameeeeeennnnnnnn!!!!
It was a new parish priest.
Tall, young and absolutely "priestly".
"Welcome back home, son", said me to myself and I.

seanjy4konji:
Very possible,,,I make 100 PERCENT or more every 2 days in my 50 k'...If you doubt mereply me and i will tell you what to do.

SONYCITY:
my name is sunday i want to advise you on how to use dt ur 1million naira for a business i do oil and gas busine and i buy one drom of desel 13000 *70drop =910000 u still has ur balance of 90000 for ur expenses then u wil nw sell d deseal 17.500 *70=1225000 cal me if u dnt understand 08177259809

Ayotimi222:
I am 17. Just finished secondasy schl. And wish to start some online stuff soon. Hope to get succesful pro9ress! And start crushing it to.

Education is vital for your growth, don’t forget that.

But wanna learn mose, how did you make your first million! Legallx!! And when?
Ready to learn and gather ideas!

Let’s talk bout money, I made my first million at 24 (I even made it late) through dropping shipping and supplies from China..you can do all that from Nigeria without traveling anywhere. I’m not gonna lie to you, you have to come up with a capital, best from savings. 50,000 naira is good start. Most people these day won’t trust you with their money in recent time.

Look for schools, establishments and find what they are lacking. Boarding Schools were the cashcow then, school shoes was the milk. Find something they are lacking and convince their management.

You can add agent business to it as side hustle, start an online page Facebook/Instagram/twitter/LinkedIn and lots more. Don’t limit yourself to only one social media app.(Package am well, do your logo, always snap clear and sharp photos). Reach out to land owners, already finished house that are selling or renting. One deal can break the bank for you depending on your level.

As you are doing that, find a skill today incase knotting tie and cooperate wears aren’t meant for you. Painting, Industrial welding will give you fat figures outside Nigeria.

I’m 27 now, I’m optimistic bout people finding the compass on time. There’s no point going to PTA meetings at 50 when your hands and legs are not tied and you’re legitimate. Of course! You can start early!!
Mods! Please push to first page please!.

Goldenheart:
I have a local business you can engage in and generate average of #1m per month...

But you won't believe so make I chop my thing alone

excel101:
Intest in buying and distribution of drugs. You buy legal and NAFDAC approved drugs from a qualified Pharmacist that imports... Reach me for details.

ornicus:
This is trolling for ediats. Pets are not allowed in the cabin on planes.

itiswellandwell:
Beautiful woman.

Very cheap s6 edge. Check my signature.

Ademat7:
While u've not decide what to invest into let the fund be invested in mutual fund,Google search "mutual fund thread on Nairaland" at least ur money will b getting daily interest pending when u conclude on what to do.
By the way invest in the biz area u know like the back of your hand.
Rentals is not bad
Sell what pple need in your area not what u think they should need( do a survey of ur environment)
++++++++Books to read+++++++++
*Richest man in Babylon
*Small money big business by Akin Alabi
*Richdad poordad by Robert kiyosaki
*$100 dollar startup( highly recommended) I can send u pdf version of it

Mankosi:
Facebook lost $120b but the owner is not worth up to $90b.
This lie wasn't fabricated well.

fairfora:
We will vote him out, come 2019. What about you?

fairfora:
and what are you trying to say? I'm a scientist and I strongly believe in efficacy of prayers. A woman and her daughter who were HIV positive came for Wednesday programmes in our church 4 years ago. If I had not been aware of their case, I'd have doubted when she was giving her testimony. Her husband died as a result of the disease while the daughter was born HIV positive. JThey used to go to apin/pepfar at LUTH for medication and counseling . After she was introduced to the Wednesday prayer programme, she became committed to it. Along the line, she wasn't feeling sick anymore, likewise the daughter so she decided to go for test at same apin/pepfar Clinic and she tested negative with her daughter. This development aroused the faith of many HIV patients who knew the woman and her daughter very well at the clinic, including the doctors and nurses. She was referred by LUTH to a higher Lab and she came back with a result showing negative. The daughter who had stopped going to school as a result of ill health resumed and regained strength. Your case is like my fellow scientists who always fault the cross over of Istraelite from Egypt, saying the sea must be shallow that time, which made them cross freely but have failed to tell us the reason why Pharaoh and his chariots with thousands of soldiers perished in the same seemingly shallow red sea. If you have faith, you can move the immovable.

kaliboi94:
I tire o I can Neva try that risk lol just saying o

HNO3:
Why did you request for a culture test in the first place?
Go for a normal RVS test.