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Greatmind653:
Pls, if you don't really understand this post, don't comment please. If you're gender bias, pls, read and ignore.

Good morning kind hearted people in the house. Pls, I need honest and matured advice from experience and knowledgeable people in the house.

How can I train my sons especially my 11yrs old boy into a good, respectful, well behaved young man in a situation where he constantly see his father in gambling addiction, and the house is not always peaceful because of this?

How can I make them believe that the fact that their father does not provide anything for them nor anything in the house, does not mean they're not good enough?
My son has learnt the habit of not asking his Dad for anything no matter how little because he knows the answer already. He would rather starve than ask him for anything. Every of his needs, he will patiently wait for me.

I practically provide everything in the house and he knows. Infact my husband and my two sons can be in the house hungry for the whole day if I'm not around.
Any money he has is strictly for betting. He wouldn't even use it to feed himself not to talk of his children.
He eat anything I provide in the house without him providing. Most times it's very annoying.
Most times, we don't talk to each other in this house, yet anything I cook, he must eat.
I'm trying my best, because I can't watch my kids go hungry or stay without light, water, TV subscriptions and the rest. But once he's holding TV remote, no one dare change the channel.

How can I train well behaved young boys in a home like this? I'm so lonely and worried for my children too.

I'm no longer traumatized by his gambling addiction, because I have tried everything, and it didn't work if this is the life he wants, then fine.

I'm traveling with my two boys for the Christmas and I intend to stay in my family house for a very long time. Maybe not to return back here.
This house, I shoulder the house rent, all the bills all for the sake of my children. I don't want a broken home. I don't want my children growing up lonely without the presence of their both parents. But, am I doing the right thing here?
My husband has refused to change for years. all efforts, complain, family intervention all failed.
He's been in gambling even before we got married. I have endure for so long and I'm scared if what I'm enduring really worth it.

I've given up either.

Am I making my children better by staying together here or they could be better when we're apart?
Anyone experience this before?

What's the right thing to do here?

Are u sure he provides nothing? Or you never put kinds for small things he does, I always assume my wife does nothing in the house u til one day I sit down and think of one or 2 things I would have done that she will do notice, like pure water, Maggi, salt and money for house cleaner.


Think well, however,there are somthihg he provides apart from money, like security, respect, the joy of having a having somebody called husband. Anyway think we'll, I. Wish I the best


I got to know is my mum that was paying my school feels on til I graduated from university, anytime I asked my mum she will say I will tell ur dad that he Wil give me to give u, I. Don't knwo that ma no dey give shi shi, until when I graduated and my mum told us, but morally my dad was there not that my dad don't want to give but him no get ni

Greatmind653:
Pls, if you don't really understand this post, don't comment please. If you're gender bias, pls, read and ignore.

Good morning kind hearted people in the house. Pls, I need honest and matured advice from experience and knowledgeable people in the house.

How can I train my sons especially my 11yrs old boy into a good, respectful, well behaved young man in a situation where he constantly see his father in gambling addiction, and the house is not always peaceful because of this?

How can I make them believe that the fact that their father does not provide anything for them nor anything in the house, does not mean they're not good enough?
My son has learnt the habit of not asking his Dad for anything no matter how little because he knows the answer already. He would rather starve than ask him for anything. Every of his needs, he will patiently wait for me.

I practically provide everything in the house and he knows. Infact my husband and my two sons can be in the house hungry for the whole day if I'm not around.
Any money he has is strictly for betting. He wouldn't even use it to feed himself not to talk of his children.
He eat anything I provide in the house without him providing. Most times it's very annoying.
Most times, we don't talk to each other in this house, yet anything I cook, he must eat.
I'm trying my best, because I can't watch my kids go hungry or stay without light, water, TV subscriptions and the rest. But once he's holding TV remote, no one dare change the channel.

How can I train well behaved young boys in a home like this? I'm so lonely and worried for my children too.

I'm no longer traumatized by his gambling addiction, because I have tried everything, and it didn't work if this is the life he wants, then fine.

I'm traveling with my two boys for the Christmas and I intend to stay in my family house for a very long time. Maybe not to return back here.
This house, I shoulder the house rent, all the bills all for the sake of my children. I don't want a broken home. I don't want my children growing up lonely without the presence of their both parents. But, am I doing the right thing here?
My husband has refused to change for years. all efforts, complain, family intervention all failed.
He's been in gambling even before we got married. I have endure for so long and I'm scared if what I'm enduring really worth it.

I've given up either.

Am I making my children better by staying together here or they could be better when we're apart?
Anyone experience this before?

What's the right thing to do here?

Are u sure he provides nothing? Or you never put kinds for small things he does, I always assume my wife does nothing in the house u til one day I sit down and think of one or 2 things I would have done that she will do notice, like pure water, Maggi, salt and money for house cleaner.


Think well, however,there are somthihg he provides apart from money, like security, respect, the joy of having a having somebody called husband. Anyway think we'll, I. Wish I the best

2aces:
It will shock you that your serious babe you are making long term plans with is a hookup girl on code.
Majority of these Saturday weedings are littered with overused and damaged goods.

I just dey imagine who will marry my Ex, I over used that babe, she dey do hook up codedly, she think I don't know but since I don't have intention to marry her, continue until I shock her,

AqualinaXYZ:
Yoruba people Fubara is not Sanwo Olu or Yoruba elders who has chosen to be puppets of Tinubu




This is a bold Rivers man we’re talking about here



For PH we match akpor with akpor

Nigeria is a very interesting country of hypocrites.

—Obedients claim Wike rigged their candidate in Rivers for Fubara

—Wike rigged candidate Fubara won and Obedient LP went to court.

—Wike fought with Fubara and Obedients switched alliance to their enemy called Fubara and even went ahead to withdraw LP case in court against him.

—Fubara demolished the house of assembly, Obedient cheered the illegality on.

—Fubara presented budget to 4 assembly members, they adore the illegality.

—Fubara signed the budget within 24hrs without any debate, Obedients tantalize in joy.

—Now Tinubu help broker a truce between Wike/Fubara and some people said it’s unconstitutional. Was any of Fubara action constitutional in the first place that made you guys support him?

No one want justice in this country.

TruthsFM:
Tinubu can’t do anything here. Buhari failed woefully when Obaseki blow up Oshimole in Edo State politics, so tell me what Tinubu government will do to stop governor Fubara from leading in his government. Tinubu government will be distracting themselves more

Is Tinubu Buhari?

We go there and see

saintokwuluora:
D kain beating Believer of this news will receive at the park go pass Mob Action.

Just went to park now, nothing like that

iwaeda:
How can someone believe giving 25k to 15m is the solution to economic problems. When we said Tinubu doesn't know Jack about development, they called us wailers. Money boys will use to carry olosho or buy drinks and pepper soups., women will use to buy Aso ebi.

That is why some still remain poor, 75k can start simthibg if you get brain

Couldntfigurean:
The People of Abia are happy with their Governor and his Good works
Even a Sitting Governor of State of one of the states which shares a border with the state of Abia is pleased with the works of the Governor
But some people from a certain region who don’t even live in the State are the ones helping the Governor dissect his Budget

The same way people that have not even been to Lagos dey help the Lagosian reject God fatherism, Even the obident dey envy the archivement of the working Governor

Righthussle:
Na court go settle the matter las las



If you're reading this, stop giving MIRACLE healers your hard earned money. MIRACLE healing is fake.

Because u never experience it, go to any gospel believing church, give your life to Christ geniuly and see the miracle

SadiqBabaSani:
Fubara is a crook, Wike is a senior crook wetin I benefit frm their fight. Wike robbed Obi

Na that thing dey pain the obedient

We4all:
Na wao! Will he also undergo all those traditional rituals that chiefs are subjected to? Wouldn't that go against his Christian faith?

Give what belongs to ceaer to ceaser

telkevog:
That's some women for you.

"For Better For Stay, For Worst For Go", that's what girls of this generation see marriage to be.
Bro, you have potentials. If she wants to leave, just don't worry her. Just keep fighting, you'll definitely breakthrough one day. Then it will be your turn to turn her down if she eventually wants to return.
Infact, she never loved you in the first place. Your only getting to find out now because only the test of fire makes a fine steel. You should have seen it coming, but maybe you were blinded by love.

Don't Blame her, is too early, nothing like Hot moon

AncientAlien:
But what if you going to office. Will you go without bath?
I wish you visit jos, kaduna, or kano. Yu will understand how severe harmattan is to them. Only afternoon is manageable when the breeze blows with a touch of warmth.

You dont mentioned sokoto

Juniorangel:
If your electricity is estimated NEPA bill try use hot plate or by pass it if you have prepaid, use only when you want to cook

And Tinubu is the problem that makes electricity not to be good, let everybody do their part and see if this country will be good

Jewessgratitud3:
Just today today when cold start una don dey calculate hot water expenses . Na wa o.

Modified

Oh . Na jos? Use fire wood now. abi na who dey look you for jos? No be village? Enter bush cut fire wood and make fire🔥. No time 🤓

Jos na bush ABI?

[quote author=lonelyatdtop post=127463939][/quote]use gas and electric

lonelyatdtop:
It's the weather my brother, I have not seen or heard of anyone bathing with normal temperature water here in Jos.

They think north is like the south, try it and freez

MisterGrace:
Nawao... Apart the minister of interior, who else among these appointees are working again?

None.

Until they stop allowing the governors to nominate ministers, terrible and clueless people will continue to manage our affairs.

Umiah, Wike are not working?

mmadu5:
not only Lagos but the whole Nigeria as a country ... lower food prices to make it easier for ordinary person to afford . these dumb politicians need to start thinking outside the box...

Pls what did you think is the major thing that contributed to the increase in price of food item

omenka1:
Can inec conduct any credible election
This is the BIG question
At the end na still imposition go happen
Evil institution

But they did it in Bayalsa

kingsways:
The law is clear.

Those 27 are no longer members of the State House of Assembly having left the party that won the elections that brought them

As of today, there no division in PDP

How can I child they gave birth to after saraki defected from A. P. C join nairaland, I thought nairaland is for 18+

ngeneukwuewuGOAT:


Nigerians should brace up for this emilokon tyrant. This criminal is not ready to release power any time soon. He has pocketed inec, judiciary, and some bati-diots. Trouble looming ahead

Even from your name, it shows who u stand with

victorclean:
What will you expect when the supreme court chief justice us a Bossom friend of Asiwaju?.

Tell me more! You don't mean it

LifeofDream:
Omo hunger is real..

Make Una help my life with anything, na garri I just dey chop for two days now and I get exam tomorrow.. 🙏

9032088067
Opay

Go do car wash, I did it all through my school days

ItisWell22:
Why not?

Niger republic.

Niger republic is just #6500 from sokoto

holutee:
A good job

A car - gift

An inverter --gift

Grace of God

Wow! Congratulations. The inverter cost how. Much

OceanEye:
I was able to afford a land for the first in my life.

At what age

SeedofAbraham:
A well paying job... He answered my prayers as I was called to resume during the last quarter of the year. Most especially, the Offer was a Birthday gift as I got it on my month of birth (birthday month). Grateful to God for what He has done and what He will continue to do in my life.

Like how. Much pay

Aleem26:
A bouncing baby boy with just 20k midwife payment
Am indeed Greatful to HE

Did u pray for it last year?

immortalcrown:
It takes a ritualist to the headquarter of ritual.

Anambra is the state capital

Sunday2021:
who cares what you stand on. thank God you are enjoying the mandate.
Only a fool will still believe that the disaster called tinubu has something to offer. Anyways, even the devil have followers so am not surprised.

I Knw you are very pained, anyway, How can you see any good thing for a man that you have never trust, your prayer is seeing him failed but God will shame u. Tinubu will finish well