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ZIMDRILL:
i beg to differ

New married people should left alone to find their own feet, in doing things and understanding each other, understanding each based on their character and behaviour not based on what you were taught. Every man and woman differ it is important to understand each other not based on what parents says but based on what you see and do to each other

Have you ever noticed that the 1st of years of marriage is power struggle, the guy want wife to cook like his mother and the wife wants hubby to behave like her father hence usaully its power struggle indirect

Parents should visit once in while

sagitariusbaby:
It was in 2012 a close friend of mine lost his job, life became so hard for him that he started feeling dejected, frustrated and even suicidal. I would go over to his place after work, stock his house with food and even pocket money. I gave him my house key so he could step out from his compound at times to avoid goofy neighbours. I personally sustained this guy for over nine months.
Towards the end of 2012, there was an opening at my work place and I quickly met my boss on his behalf. He got the job even without passing the interview ahead of others as I have the ears of my boss.
This dude started working in my office second week of January 2013, I was so happy and felt fulfilled. Fast forward to six months later, this dude got jealous of my close relationship with my boss, started destroying that relationship by gossiping me to my boss. All the inner deals I did that no one knew about even before he started working with us, he went and tabled them before my boss just to gain his favour. I felt bad and a deep sense of regret. Even my boss was surprised he could do that to his close friend but my boss believed him to the extent that the level of trust he had for me started waning.

I resigned early 2015 when I couldn't take no more of his treachery and betrayal. I got a loan, added to my savings and established my campany few months after I left the firm. God opened doors for me beyond my expectation. Today he is full of regret but lacks courage to come meet me for help. I will never forget what that guy did to me, above all, I learnt a great life's lesson. People, be careful who you help.

scrolldown88:
I'm not evil auntie. Dogs don't bark at me, plus I'm not the one planning to kill an innocent dog.
Repent from your evil ways and leave that boyfriend alone. for it is written 'do not come between a man and his dog '.
Everybody knows it is written. And No be me write am.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Omofloflo:
Awon ode.... they won Abia state now none of the Ellup idiots calling for the head of ithe nec chairman assuming they lost inec would have been in trouble by now. Foolish people

sleek214:
Obi is a scam

Karlman:
And what really have you shown them? I don't understand you lots at all...is there any Igbo man or woman on the govs ballot! You people are really brainless!

Pls Let me state categorically here, that all these Yoruba touts crying all over Nairaland here just because Igbos are not as senseless as you are to give you the much craved opportunity to break into Igbo owned superstores, which will even lead to your miserable deaths anyway, the Igbo man will continue to be your source of envy and pain for the rest of your miserable existence. We worked hard to be who we are and you all can choke on that fact.

MILLERMannn:
Yes, some few years ago by one Yoruba guy. He told me to register for Custom recruitment online, which I did, not knowing it is a fake site. I was requested to pay money to continue although the money was small. I paid the money only for the guy to come later and start laughing at me.
I don't think there is any successful Yoruba guy that made it without stealing other people's things or duping people.

Peacemaker5128:
Loser Ibo man

sammirano:
Go and recover your destiny in Abia State. It is Yorubas that are to blame for the rubbish these refugees are pushing. People that couldn't survive in their poor and dying region. Wants to make a change in the place feeding them. People that are known in making premium bad decision. I believe after this elections this people needs to be put in place.

ManirBK:
I think this is best election so far and the collation process was free fair and credible. The out come of the results has not go against any candidate but fair to them. Emerging Peter Obi won Lagos state, if that should be the case tinubu would have proceed to react over compromise. Inec should proceed and announce Jagaban as the winner period

Hopium:
Few hours ago, INEC released the data of voters registration and PVC collected. Here is the breakdown by region:

PO will get between 19 and 20 million votes






Source:
https://twitter.com/inecnigeria/status/1628783402596896768

https://www.thecable.ng/breaking-87m-pvcs-collected-says-inec

chisomkachy:
https://www.thecable.ng/im-a-phd-holder-not-a-trader-kwankwaso-aims-dig-at-obi-in-chatham-house-speech/amp

2mercy:
…I warned about this government, but Nigerians have short memories



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/01/did-you-see-pepper-in-the-last-8-years-oyedepo-asks-nigerians/

AldrichAmes:
These twins and their brother are the biggest bigots in the Nigerian entertainment industry. The fact that they’re brazen with it and no one has ever called them out, is the reason why the untalented duo stay being the gift that keeps on giving.

I remember they used to call every award they lose out on, as “Yoruba awards” and cry about being denied the award because they’re Igbo. Their elder brother also once said: “I’m a Biafran. I have lived in Lagos and me, Yoruba and Hausa people have nothing in common”.

The whole Peter Obi charade is an IPOB and Igbo supremacist campaign to hijack power again like these people did in 1966. And they have international backing this time and are using the rogue ENDSARS foot soldiers led by that dirty/smelly looking scumbag, Aisha Yesufu, and the compromised hack journalist, David Hundeyin (these two posers are funded by western NGOs). Obi was a total failure as a governor. He was a failure as a member of GEJ’s government. But whimsically in 2022, they’re projecting the low IQ market trader as the saviour. If you can’t see the transparent charade - I can’t help you. If Obi wins, prepare yourselves for another civil war.

I’m not even a fan of Tinubu (I would’ve preferred Osinbajo) or Nigeria as a country. However, since this is where the country is at right now - if you’re Yoruba and you willingly go out there to vote for these IPOB Biafran miscreants - you deserve to be bundled up and sold into slavery. You have to be very daft not to see the handwriting on the wall.

Peacemaker5129:
This fool refused to die when he failed in Anambla

festacman:
Gov. Charles Soludo is the only APGA governor and technically the leader of APGA. Now, APGA has candidates across the constituencies in Anambra State for 2023 elections and they stand the risk of being upstaged by Labour Party unless an aggressive campaign is done led by the APGA leader.

Don't forget that 4 AD governors (Segun Osoba of Ogun State, Lam Adesina of Oyo State; Bisi Akande of Osun State; Adeniyi Adebayo of Ekiti State; and Adebayo Adefarati of Ondo State) in SW lost their seats because they were on the fence as a way of allowing Obasanjo a lee way to get required votes. Yes, Obasanjo won along with PDP governorship candidates while the 'helpful' sitting AD governors became jobless, leaving Gov. Tinubu of Lagos as 'king of the jungle'. History is full of lessons.

Gov. Soludo committed no offense in protecting his interest and that of the party that gave him platform to become governor.

Lastly, it must be said that Prof. Charles Soludo has always had first class brain even from his days as Senior Prefect in Uga Boys High School. So, I am sure he worked for his professorship and still working to uphold it. Professorship is earned not gifted. Prof. Osuji is merely being emotional.

Fbboyo:
Op you are right, Igbo people wickedness no be here oo, once you are not from their blood, they will see you as an animal, savagery is their second name, I wonder how their biafra will look like, people that hate themselves like what I don't know, infact no sane person can live in that region. If you want to finish them kpata kpata, give them Biafra, that is when you will know the real demons in Nigeria, you will see how they will soil their name internationally to the extent that the whole world will start avoiding them.

Onucs:
That is a dear I think

fiizznation:
This guy is a complete clown. If this guy is the best the southeast can present then am completely disappointed in them. A guy that isn't serious, gallivanting around the globe with the funds that are pumped into their campaign by gullible supporters, doesn't understand the simplest basic of economics which is demand and supply, graduated with a pass in philosophy, doesn't know what green energy stands for, performed woefully as the governor of Anambra State, etc. Mr Obi was the first governor in Nigeria that deported his fellow Nigerians from his state, calling them unprintable names. He even said it with his own mouth that he doesn't have any business with the North during his reign as governor.

Not that he is going to win 3 states, but for someone that will be representing the east, he ought to do better. Or maybe the east should present a better candidate next time.

nairavsdollars:
https://independent.ng/wike-to-sign-cancelation-of-omehias-recognition-as-ex-rivers-governor-friday/

N3TRAL:
Lecturers from the department of political science in UNILAG, UNN, or Covenant University will not reject a proposal from a Haitian Presidential aspirant to speak to their students.

It is not that fact that you're speaking at Harvard University that matters. It is the platform that gives you audience at Harvard that determines your worth.

The Ivy league will never reject a presidential aspirant of the most populous black country who volunteers to give his account of governance in Nigeria to students.

Harvard scholars have heard Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Barrack Obama , Bill Gates, Chimamanda Adichie address them at televised events.

If you understood the prestige attached to Harvard you would know that the institution would be lowering its standard to invite Obi who doesn't understand the concept of Green Energy to speak to its students in an important event.

Speaking at one of the smallest halls in Harvard to scarcely occupied seats can never make a person president of my country. Know this and have peace ✌️

Roger3D:
Our country is so full of contradictions. Just imagine! These are the same people who were calling Nigeria a zoo a couple of months ago but here they are today forming patriotic citizens. If their candidate loses next year (which I hope he does), it's back to their 'zoo' vomit all over again.

Ylink4sure:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/09/atiku-and-i-have-no-ideological-differences-says-peter-obi/


So,there you have it! Those of you who insisted this man (Obi) was bringing anything new to the table.I'm waiting for you to defend this.

I have said this,he and his supporters will score many own goals prelude to the election. This is just one of many to come.

Tboy222:
A Nigerian man has reportedly been deported from Canada for killing a Parrot within one month of relocation.

A Twitter user @Dr Olusesan who shared the story claimed the parrot had a GPS tracker but the unlucky man killed it.

“The same thing happened here in Qatar around 2012, One of our country man will just went out at midnight to kill cats to make soup. He has been doing it so long before police get him one night.He was deported too.The funny thing is he was doing good job of around $3k at the time.”

lhordspy:
7 point indeed from a third class graduate who managed to scale school


May Nigeria never be unfortunate.

Emmacolinho:
Another one



Please say a prayer for me I am depressed and strongly contemplating suicide..nothing gives me joy anymore

candidtalk:
Igbos always so hateful and ungracious. There is nothing or no one they do not hate. Not a fan of the Monarchy per se but the queen was a nice, gracious, fair and selfless monarch.

Very convenient for this hateful Uju woman, typical of the average Igbo, to try and taint the queen's passing by making her the arrowhead of British imperialism.

lhordspy:
Is he there to defraud the woman of her dollars too. All in the name of fund mobilisation. What happened to the $150m you cunningly obtained few days ago. ?

Pandora happened to it right?

Madam okonjo iweala, please stay a little far from that man,Peter.....make your purse no miss, vanish, Evaporate, disengage, dissapear (any word sha that can best describe criminally minded pandora looter)


Yoruba call it - bi Afowora bi ole.


He has an history in Lying alot after commiting a Scam.

Havemercylord:
Hello everyone, I am 34 years old and I am here to get honest advice from experienced people.

My story will be short and precise.

I met a girl in April, 2022 (this year), she already had 3 kids, TWO for a man and ONE for a man another man.

Before I met this girl, I have what I need at least, i can rent a house, buy my basic needs and even have savings.

But since i met her, i was turned down in all the places where i was promised Good jobs and contracts.

When we went to make consultation, we were told she belongs to water spirit that she refused to give sacrifices or relate well with her fellow water mates, that the more she didn't do the right things for them, my own Life Will be affected too.

She is pregnant for me right now and I have not had any child before.

My question is this, is there anyone here who has had similar experience?

We were told to appease her water mates, that afterwards, things will change for good.

And i have also heard from several people that most times after doing all the sacrifices, things might not change much for the man.

And all these sacrifices cost money!!!

WHAT CAN I DO?

SHOULD I LEAVE HER OR FIGHT THE BATTLES WITH HER?

nlfpmod:
As shared by Twitter user, Yemi Giwa:



https://twitter.com/Babygiwa/status/1562904880745955328?t=xyww6GBNBAC0pwvQ3GvrYQ&s=08[/quote]The same happened to my elder brother. He paid the penalty immediately after he received the text.
Yes, that is the way to go if Nigeria must work again—it is the duty of the govt to instill discipline among the citizens.