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jas man:
I think she was also seeing him the same time she was dating you. I think you are probably a better marriage material or just proposed b/4 her ex. To hear low life people like Plappville who is neither married or know anything about marriage is unfortunate, that'sexactely people like that will do and that's sad. Go immediately and get a DNA test for the kids if there's one. She neither love or have any respect for the marriage. Her relationships with her ex's far from over. She knows why she married you, love is not one it, and I wish you luck

Na who con be this again wen dey insult me without knowing me??
I didnt meant any harm in My post. So i am lowlife to u? Well thanks but i do not appreciate ur insults in any way.
I ve come to know that some of u in NL are good in insulting ppl. even thé OP repliés me but didn't trow any insult.

For ur information, i am Happily married with two lovely kids, and even expecting thé 3rd one in few weeks Time.
I said what i said in My reviews post because i do keep in touch with My ex and My Hubby knows him very well.
We dont communicate in secret, i know his Wife to be etc, we are like Family friend.
So to me, that hé is nô longer My lover doesn't mean i should cut him off totally.
As long as hé respects My position as a friend and somebody's Wife, i see nothing wrong.
Infact, Hubby and i has nô secret for each other, we share almost everthing as in, eletronics addresses, phone etc, so why should hé doubt me.
Thé errors i saw in posters Wife is thé fact that she changed thé name and it seem she communicate too frequant with her ex. I nô dey suport bad thing so mâke u plz stop insulting me thank u.

Na waooh, it has become a problem to keep contact with ex? why are some people jalouse about this ex thin.
I no see anything wrong in keeping contact oo, as long as nothing is attached.

It's all ok, u re welcome.

koolchicco:
Hmm, sounds enlightening, can you pls expatiate more on the highlighted? Cheers!

here are links u can visit to be more enlightened.

The first link is very much clear, but u will need some ovulation monitoring digital like clearblue etc.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/boyorgirl/a/chooseagirl.htm
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Conceive-a-Boy-Child&id=1956866

macjive01:
^^^. Lol. I reserve my comment.

Until when?And why??

dayokanu:
Get a 50yr old Grandmother

With the way they over use house help in Nigeria, a 50yrs old woman will be of no help to them.
That's why they always like using kids and teens.

chaircover:
How about them cleaning up after their own mess and go to the market themselves to buy their own food and cook it their own-selves.

Much cheaper and less stressful option all round

How would they? Money dey trow away like pure water, so let them buy wahala with their money, not too long they will cry of what house help is doing in their house as if househelp blow wistle call them at the first place. Lazy generation!

I could remember last yr in Paris a neighbour dog killed a baby of about two yrs of age.
They both were Africans, though I didn't follow up the update of the tragedy.
It's crazy the way people take animals here in the west. Despite the multiple incidents.

THE parents of a two-year-old boy mauled by their family dog are said to be "absolutely devastated" as he recovers from his
injuries in hospital today.Toddler Lewis Oliver was attacked by the animal, a Japanese Akita named Kona, at home in Hailsham, East Sussex, at 8.15pm
yesterday.He was taken to hospital in Brighton, where his mum Reme Keightley, 30, and dad Dean Oliver are at his bedside.
Do you know the attacked youngster?
If so call the newsdesk on 0207 782 4104
Email exclusive@the-sun.co.uk

Lewis was undergoing treatment for facial injuries, but police said they are not considered to be life-threatening.
His great-aunt Jane Keightley said: "All I know is that Kona snapped at Lewis but I really don't know any more details at the
moment. "Kona got him on the side of the mouth. I haven't seen Lewis but I know that he has been up watching telly and taking drinks.
"He is a brave little soldier."
The family, who live on an estate in the market town, had Kona — not a banned breed of dog — since he was a puppy.
A sticker by the front door of the family's semi-detached house reads: "Watch Out, Rottweiler About."
A spokesman for Sussex Police said Kona was destroyed last night with the consent of the parents.
Ms Keightley said the family own another dog of the same breed which is now to be rehomed.
She said: "Kona had never shown any aggression towards anyone before.
"He has been there since he was born and played with the children and chased them.
"This is the first time that he decided to snap."Lewis has a 13-year-old sister. Asked how Lewis's parents were feeling, the great-aunt said: "They are absolutely devastated." Inspector Tony Wakefield, of Sussex Police, said: "Although this was clearly a traumatic incident for the child and his family, this appears to be an isolated incident which occurred within the family home. "The family voluntarily agreed for the dog, which had not previously shown any aggression towards the family or the public, to be destroyed immediately."
Advertisement A South East Coast Ambulance Service spokeswoman confirmed it sent an ambulance to the scene last night and the child was taken to hospital under blue lights.
Steve Goody, director of external affairs at the Blue Cross animal charity, called for the Government to change its legislation on dangerous dogs in the light of the attack.
He said: "This tragic incident is yet more evidence that dangerous dogs legislation is not working.
"While we don't know the full circumstances of this case, this dog was not a banned breed and an attack on private property is not covered by current laws.
"The Government must seize this opportunity to scrap the Dangerous Dogs Act and replace it with a law that properly protects the public."

macjive01:
Oyibo can b funny really- pple who cud send their wife out to go sleep with someone else and come back and tell them the story.
I have actually been approached before by a couple, and it was the man that spoke asking me if it's ok for me to bang his wife for him.
Imagine my reaction- at that point I was a newbie student from africa, I looked at the wife and she was smiling and blushing cowering behind the man's back.

Was I speechless? Infact I was even scare thinking it was a setup.

After una go say 9ja no dey slack or carry last, see a reall nja guy wen run for free bang,

Euhhh!! It seems women are much fond of their mum, I wonder why the guys are not yet in

Moi perso, I can't choose oooo!!

furotex:
my friends wife is restless because she has no female child among the 5 healthy boys she has already gotten & she is ready to get pregnant even now in search of it.pls landers tell something.

She is only killing herself, a child is a child, if her husband continue giveing her the Y + her X there is no hope of having a girl, for me, I was loving to have a girl also but then, it's not always as we wished.

I ve two boys I decided to try again, in few months time another boy will be welcomed. All glory be to God. I will not make it a must have a girl thing else end up having plenty kids in this modern time.

Genius100:
Faraday, relax. Go buy an ovulation meter. On the day she is ovulating as indicated by the meter, fire her like 5 to 6 rounds. You will be surprised how many people don't know that there is a timing aspect to pregnancy,

True talk, with the new technology, there are very sure digital fertality monitor products.
Like I said befor in my previews post, both party has a role to play, do not put the stress on ur wife alone, u ve to help her things will be fine am so sure.
Poster should use this link, thought it's written in French but with google translation tool, u can translate the page good luck.

http://www.clearblue.com/fr/clearblue-fertility-monitor.php

Genius100:
MouthAction is not politically correct? What does your sex life with your husband have to do with politics?  MouthAction is one way you can easily turn a man on. Had you given him MouthAction instead of forcing him to have intimacy, you will not have to open this thread.

Second, even without MouthAction, if he comes the first time, what stops you from initiating sex 20 minutes later after all you are the one that wants to experience an or-gasm?

, sex Life and politics.

st time it took two hard push to wake him up when I asked him why he slept so deep he told me he was on a missionary journey in the spirit realm

tell him to take u to that his Spirit realm Rireeeeee'nn

lovejo:
But most western women comes out openly and they go ahead for divorce without deceit like african woman that hides the truth from their husband.

I dont généralise in cases like this, u Will agrée with me that not all Afrian woman Will hid this situation.
Only a selfish and self centered woman could do this to her husband.

ZIM DRILL:
DNA test is faulty free

this is what it does it matches with father, if it doesnt match they match the children themself if they do then 1 problems solved the kids are from one father, then they will ask for another sample from the father if it doesnt matchs then they aint his kids for real

DNA test can prove that you are from the same father even when the father's DNA sample is not there ?

It's all ok ur explaination is clear.

Finecat:
African women can be so deceitful.

Why do u look so down on Africa women only, dont u know thé western women havé this same fault?

Waoh!!! This thread is becoming very tough ooo, see how replies are coming fast.
Where is Poster? Viens vite!!!!

jennykadry:
lol plappville where do you always get this your . . . . . "it is said that" or % stats?
How do you know who is more "sexual" like you put it?

I was In a forum recently and ther was a poll drawed, the result shows dat 44% of men said, (when asked about their overall sex life): {I wish I had sex more frequently.} Guys I’ve interracted with in chat room  think that women just aren’t as sexual or into sex as much as guys. But My experience as a woman, and with much discussions from other ladies i know however, has been to D contrary. Women re by far MORE sexual and enjoy sex much more than men do. Their orgasms last longer and as a group Dey are much more capable of multiple orgasms dan men. Yet, is very typical to hear a most married m'en complain that he only gets sex 4rom his wife once a month. U may ask, if women are more sexual then men that men are the ones who usually complain about nt getting enough sex. The answer lies in 2 differences between men and women.
, (1) Women don’t get physically turned on as easily as men. And conversely women get turned off more easily then men. So if a hubby is not doing or saying the right things to his wify,, she won’t get turned on, and in fact might get turned off. , (2) Combine that wit the fact that women ve one ability that men don’t have and you will start to get a better
understanding of the situation.
I use myself as an experiment before knowing from other women, but i am nt a SEX Dr oooo   just My own way. Do it may nt be just.

The biggest complaint that guys in relationships usually have, is not getting enough sex from their wife.
But this is not ur hubbys instead it turns out the contrary.  
In this case, u have a great role to play, put anger aside completely and invite patient.
It can really be frustrating when a woman gets turned off, becos it is said that women are more sexual and they do enjoy sex more deeply than men are capable of all thesame, u should be happy u are not having problem with lost of sexual feelings a result. U ve reminded me of I nephew that got married to a  virgin lady of 24, it was same situation u are facing for very a long period he kept complaining and was advised to be patient and continue to make her improve.
After some time it was my nephew that was now runing for sex   looools funny but true.
So dear this is not case at all, it's very common.
I advise u touch him like he likes it dont make it all about what u like make it about him! Good luck.
 

from DAYOKANU, Try any Ade, Emeka, Ochuko or Akpan. You would surely give glory to God

i beg nô kill me with laugh oooo,!

unsuregirl:
I have never slept with another man but I do know that I never get an heavenly feeling, what the heck, our intercourse lasts barely a few strokes as he cums easily, there is never a chance to get to the point where we can experiment or I can get any pleasure, And I am also his first, its very common in our culture to save ourselves for marriage and we both preferred to avoid penetration till marriage, Usually I am not the kind to express my frustration in words, I prefer to sulk over such things but then I guess it was a long time and I needed him to see something, I don't know , and he does not give an angry response, he also just gives up too easily, probably he can't take failure well, he wants to please me but he says he does not know how to get it right and he even told me once that he dreamt once that I left him because he could not please me but I could never do that(never imagined to do that) , I always thought that we just have to try more to get it right but expected his co-operation and not this

I see, if at 25 u happens to be his first why are u rushing over it, u guys just got married 2 months back, which mean u both started having intimacy in just 2 months. The guy is still trainning himself, give him time am sure he will improve in no distance time. One question Is ur Hubby a Nigerian dude? Because the thing dey baffo me ooo.
My dear try and help him more some people are like that, not very active as a result of praticing it late.

Is this socalled DNA test perfect? Sometimes these tests can read another thing.
There is a woman, she is a friends neighbour. She did Hiv test and the result came out positive. Her Hubby was dead scared, the woman said no it's impossible, the Hubby went and do the test his result was negetive, then the clicnic asked the woman to come for anther test after 3 months, she went and she was negetive. The clicnic were shocked and said it's the first time they had this error, the woman's Hubby pressed charges for damages.
What am I talking about? Error could happen in a case like this.

a court wedding means it is registered so when you die automatically your wife becomes sole beneficiary

True talk, even if u choose to Use Pre-nup, it doesn't change the above qoutes.

zeelah:
@chaircover, thanks so much for your advice, am really trying hard to get a new job with that I will think less of him, and with that I can go out more because for now am always at home with my laptop.It's wonderful sharing with you guys.Thanks so much. BUT BY THE WAY WHY DO MARRIED MEN CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES EVEN IF THE WOMEN ARE SO DEAD FAITHFUL ITS SO PATHETIC AND PAINFUL.

It's hard to tell why, 60% of faithful wives are victim of unfaithful husbands.
Only God will help our men with this cheating habit.

My dear don't kill urself, get urself a job u will see how u will no longer set eyes on all his outing.
When u re idol ur 90% thinking is about him, but when u will start up something that will take most of ur time, when will u ve the time to check clock?? If he promise u he will not marry any other woman, he is openly telling u that he can ve a GF but will never marry her! Damn it. It hurts but be couragous, don't forget to involve ur God in this matter.

dsgirl:
well, after all said, i would say you should try and not force him to make love when he is really tired, put yourself in his shoes like Naijafrend said, you wouldnt like it if u were the one who needed sleep and your husband tried to force u to have intimacy, that would have been an abuse.
Why not try and avoid unnecessary argument that could lead to any physical or emotional abuse or any form of abuse at all.
I would suggest you make him a good meal and try apologise to him. I believe he would apologise to you too. Apologizing first does not make you a fool o, someone is just trying to make things right. I'm not sure you truly want to leave a 2month old marriage. If he is an irrational person like someone i know, try and have a serious conversation with him explaining to him that you dont enjoy him twisting your arm or slapping you whenever he feels like. As a woman, I believe there are ways you can be in charge without sweating.

I agree with u, it ia abusive to force your man for love making when he is very tired and about to sleep.
This is valide for the opposite. I guess that was the LCM of the slap issue. But in any case the man couldn't ve gone this far as slapping her. I hate men that raise thier hands up to hit thier wife.

ifyalways:
NO.
It all goes to [i]our kids and my adopted kids [/i]with him as the executor,custodian and administrator.Mutual agreement,thank youss 
Wetin i get sef?

rire a mort,

The best is to will it to the kids, incase of surden death while I am still young sure Hubby will remarry, I would want another woman to exploit my sweat while my kids will are there. Or else I can will to Hubby.

@ Poster know ye that every releationship needs effort!! You guys just need to look at the arguement and talk it out to see if it is worth argueing about. Put some effort into the relationship and sometimes you just need to agree with him even though you totally don't! Also ask yourself, why am i argueing with him? Is this mine or his fault? If this is his fault then how can i talk to him patiently without totally blowing up? If this doesn't work just try not to give space to arguements.

ifyalways:
Sorry abt the slap,marriage is not a bed of roses,don't leave yet . . .
Sexual matters?Did u guys play abstinence during courtship or become sexually incompatible overnight?
When he is[b] tired please don't force him[/b],you are a woman,the power is already in u,utilize it babe . . .seduce him without saying a word,make him want you and long for more without going verbal or saying a word.Initiate those moves you want and when hes on it,reciprocate and let him know he is doing it right.
You both are wrong,go into the house babez and get those sexy lingerie out,cook him a nice dinner and get your groove on,take him the very moment he walks right inside the house and f, cuk him to submission.
IF se.x is the only problem u guys have,i wud say [b]DO NOT [/b]leave!

See to this advise, very correct.

pslm23:
^^^^^,  My husband "borrows" my socks anytime he has run out of clean socks and by the time i get it back, it's all stretched out and no longer as white as they were  . I've also told him time without number to empty his pockets before putting his pants in the washer and he should try to seperate his boxers and sock from inside the pants. Do you think he listens? HELL NO!  The other day, when the washer stopped, i saw wet papers all over the clothes in the machine and upon further investigation, found out that he left his pocket Bible in the pocket of his jeans. I told him God will deal with him for doing that! 

, The italic words are so funny, I didn't stop laughing OMG, no go kill some1 with laughter ooo.
For me, I always ve it in mind that I ve 4 kids at home, it sounds funny to him each time I tell him he is my 1st born kikiki.

None of the above, simply becos your wife refused u sex once does not mean u should force her.
Mind u, a bitter mind no dey born better pikin ooo. I am sure she might ve refused because of your way of approach.

U think she has no right to refused u becos it's sex? When a woman is not happy why would she have intimacy just to plz the man?
If u ve played a good role, after disputing with your wife, she will nt refused u after all requesting for sex shouldn't be the first step to take.
Why not buy her a flower or a reconsilation card, when her mind is down then u play with her the love making will flow at once,

Most men don't know how to win their wife in situation like This, they want and the woman said no, they will not even try to add technics to make the wife smile back, all they do is by force becos she is my wife.

I think that is nonsence and a non romantic way to settle with a wife. Imagine u coming to ask NL if u can commit adultery!!! Chiiiiiii, some men no get shame for eye at all. !!!:>> go ahead and commit, I can see that u really love your wife.

But how can the poster say that they ve problem only 2 months trial
And if I may asked the poster, since u ve been dating hasn't there been a day she took in?? Abi una been dey play safe all through?? Because it's hard to date this long without any form of pregnancy. That could ve at least give u some sign of what the future could be with her abi?

harakiri:
^^^

@plappville

The woman in question is no different from the "satanic" women you talked about. If not for her current situation and the medical report, she would have kept this secret for all eternity.

This is the POSTERS words, We are having problems conceiving that's why she confessed. Doctors say female fertility drops with age. Fertility even drops further after 35. I am really disgusted with her

there was no medical report yet , the doctor spoke in respect of her age, and the hubby said they only start trying since two months, two months is not enough to judge if they have problem or not. The doctor is right about what he told them but I think at her age she is have chances to get pregnant, I understood that she confessed befor the doctor spoke about the age thing. All thesame, she has to be forgiven, life goes on.

This one said dis, that one said that positive advise or not my question is, Can any of us here boldly come out and say he/she hasn't lied befor? Be it @ work in order not to be sacked, in our business arena we add sugar and salt just to gain a client, in the school, we ve lied to friendS and lecturals.

Lie is lie be it for marriage or other purposes.
The woman in question has lied to keep the man she loves for reasons best known to her like every liar in the world.
What is important in this case is that she told the truth even if it was told late, at least her heart is troubleless than befor.
Some satanic hearted women will keep it for enternity. I know it hurts to discover that the one we love had lied to us but then.

@ Poster plz bear it in mind that, your woman is not over 45 yrs she is only 36 if there is any reason that could prevent a 35-43yrs old woman from been pregnant it should be is STRESS that is, If she has no health problem.
I have two friends that had thier kids at their 37 and 39, and just after the first pregnacy the second child comes easily.

U as a husband has alot of role to play don't don't pour the blame on your wife.
Now that she has confessed to u, if really u love her and has 4given her all u need do is make her happy.
Make love without season and remove the subject of baby from u. U will see how the thing willjust enter. If u and your woman are stressed over getting a baby u ve less chance to have it.
Above all , Take it to God and relax your mind, enjoy your relationship, and stop been sad and negetive. Be informed that there is no perfect home in this world.

Bien entendu, c'est à vous de reflechir avant de faire les choses.