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KarmaMod:
I don't get this saying. 7 packages?

It's just a stupid sexist saying meaning that a woman basically has hidden ways she reveals annually to her man.
In order words,the failure of a marriage is due to the woman and her ways

ROFL
jenny I'm just a simple Mgbeke girl o.
I never enter plane sef,na canoe I take come to America

Danke:
osisi if it is that bakasii i saw d other day on ur pic,then i don't balme d man for wanting to feel it ojare

who no like better thing,it was not meant for mr nwando alone abeg

This was even before the bakassi bakassied

Oya now that we're on the topic of Jamaicans and Islanders and men in general including Nigerians
One black man almost caused me to spill his balls on a moving train
I'm trying to change the tone and inject humor but this story is true.
The man in a crowded train pressed his "abunna" firmly on my body
and when there were bumps on the ride,he jumped up and down so excitedly
and even kept jumping after the bumps were gone.
I shoved my umbrella between us and he got the message.
He should thank his "stars" I didn't do what came to my mind to do with that umbrella.

_{I've told this story before,I know}

Danke:
naaa divorcd what will happen to those kids,no way woman,ur marriage will be fulfilled to d last ojare

but seriously i agree wt u,u know before marriage i had a long chat wt my mum sm nights and this woman told me sthg she said"marriage is like a gift wrapped and well covered,u don't know what is inside that gift until u open it,and that gift can only be opened when one is married,and watever u see,u take"
u know and many other things,which i have applied in this whole marriage,i have applied all i know,all my mama tot me,all ive reead,all ive seen,ive read and exhausted my whole brain,so where will start from if I'm told to remarry?

OSANOBUA!!
are you sure we don't have the same mother?
There's a saying in Igboland that a marriage comes with 7 wrapped marriages (ngwugwu)
and every year, a package in unwrapped until the seventh year
and if the marriage can suvive 7 years,it will last forever.

Actually that Igbo saying like all things African is sexist.
They actually say the woman comes with 7 packages and unwraps one ngwugwu per year.
how sexist

tpia:
can you explain how your attitude or statement here differs from the Sultan's own?

why do you" flourish" in these "Igbo threads"  like algae?

Danke:
mba ooooo,really i don't see myself marrying again,u know its like building all over again,i don't think i will have d strength to build again,ive exhausted all in this one,can't see myself doing it again

My sentiments exactly.
God forbid but anyday you hear I'm divorced,just pray that God should chase away all sexual desires from me since I don't want to go fornicating up and down because as for remarriage, no way.
This is it.
And I'm determined to give it all I gat
I will not be building this tower again

CodeRED:
I must admit just for this write-up I commend you.  I feel the same way too, and as a result getting involved once burnt has become very difficult. I have seen my mom stuck by my dad even when we were seeing our "twins" around the town. Many nights she would go out looking for him. We would asked why the hell didnt she throw him out since she has been working all her life and never depended on him for anything. Her reason was "it's for better or worse" I think My eldest sisters somehow adopted that mentality. Me? I don't think I can or I will oo. I am not saying I will divorce my husband if he cheats, afterall, it's in their DNA. I will however, stick around and help him work on it and if it remains an issue then I will take steps. I wont front I am not condone abuse in any form.  My level of tolerance has improved with age, but I still have that little bit of "me" inside.

And your last statement had me lol, Trained, like a dog right?

Thank you.
The things women go through to keep a home together.
I used to look at divorced women with disdain until I got married.
There's no married woman who hasn't  at some times esp in the early years thought about just getting in an airplane and leaving and never coming back.
I am being very frank
Marriage is not a bed of roses.
It takes hardwork
It takes a while to adjust to being married and blending in that union.
After the church ceremony,the real marriage begins.
Thankfully my husband has the fear of the Lord in him and I believe that helps.

Amen my dear.
May we retire with millions in our fifties and live our Golden years in good health to God's glory
If I had to marry again today,I'll marry the same man over and over again.
He is good to me
Do you feel the same way about what I said regarding remarriage?
God forbid Mr Kadry runs off with some dumb blonde will you get back in the marital market?

It's bad to stay on and endure an abusive marriage but I also believe the more industrialized nations like yours with more "liberated" women quit too soon sometimes.
Personally I wouldn't leave my husband for flirting.
I don't even know if I'll leave if he cheated once and was repentant (he better not hear this)
Everyone is entitled to at least one mistake (I think)
but if it's habitual or he has no remorse
that's it
It's over
and I'm not marrying after that.
I give myself only one chance at marriage
If it's death,maybe I'll remarry
but divorce,no way.
I don't have the strength to "train another man"
LOL

samba123:
@DavidDylan
That what I like to heard from you people not just one sided.

like you are always denying!!! It is not enough of what have you been seen in the Media/TV/newspaper a lots more are being hidden. Even thought those atrocities done by those Iraqi people are still not sufficient to judge their suffering. They are being outnumbers in terms of losses in their lives because of those war done by the US. And tell me who will pay the damages destruction on those war alone in Afganistan and Iraq?. Don’t tell me you just disregard / close you eyes about that.



Lol those people have been affected/loss on that war has been pay by the Iraqi government because of their aggressiveness on their part.



How could you rebuild when you’re dictated torture harass in your private place without justice. Is their any compensation all the damages done by the US to start rebuilding again and start a new life?

I thought there is a restraining order in immigration, how come Iraqis are being allowed to live in NY? Few are lucky or just a fraud.

Are these the reasons why Islam advocates the killing of apostates?
Or you're just dancing to your own samba?

'The Iranian Parliament has given provisional approval, by a majority of 196 to seven, to a bill that mandates the death penalty for apostasy from Islam. Until now Iranian judges could impose the death penalty in such cases only on the basis of Islamic law and fatwas, not on the basis of Iranian law.

The[b] bill prescribes a mandatory death sentence for any male Muslim who converts from Islam to another religion, and lifelong imprisonment for female converts from Islam[/b]. It also gives the Iranian secular courts authority to convict Iranians living outside the country of crimes relating to Iranian national security. It seems likely that this could be used against the many Iranian Christians who live outside Iran but are involved in evangelism within it. Apostasy from Islam is viewed by most Muslims as equivalent to treason.



and by the way,there is no compulsion in religion,says Islam

samba123:
If they deserve the punishment why not we see not only on the part of the Muslims but also on your side.

can someone interprete this jargon
are you saying someone who leaves Islam deserves death?
speak in plain language sir

@osisi
I saw this thread very late last night. So who Caribbean nurse was hitting on your man?  . Hitting on men is something that happens irrespective of race. By the way, I read somewhere that caribbean women don't keep their husbands. Who needs burden? We werent raised to stay in mess and work it out all in the name of marriage. If things are working out, dump and move on . Just a difference in culture I guess.

@ codered
African American and Caribbean women are so uninhibited.
They don't even know how to pretend small.
maybe difference in culture like you said
They can snatch your man right infront  of you if care is not taken.
Yes a surgical nurse chased and chased my man and flatly came out and told him what she was going to do to him in bed.

A Nigerian woman won't be that vocal
Neither would a Nigerian kid walk up to a man and tell him his mother admires him
And you're right our women seem to "endure abuse" more than Caribbeans and AA women.
One may also say our women would go to lengths to make a marriage work.
And that's not always a good thing if the man doesn't feel the same

I remember my cousins used to sing the lyrics of nkombothi as

when boys are many,one girl a ma ezu
when girls are many,one boy ga ezu

ROFL

meaning when boys are many,one girl won't be enough
when girls are many,one boy will do (be enough)

The "beatles" "Imagine"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XOewlNKNIjo&feature=related

Leaving Islam is like an insult to Islam.
In a recent protests,this was what the placards read.Among the disheartening images I saw, the unforgettable words on the signs read:

"Europe you will pay. Demolition is on its way."

"Europe you will pay. Your extermination is on its way."

"Butch those who mock Islam."

"Europe is the cancer. Islam is the answer."

"Islam will dominate the world."

"Europe take some lessons from 9/11."

"Europe you will pay. Your 9/11 is on its way."

"Be prepared for the real holocaust."

"Massacre those who insult Islam."

"Exterminate those who insult Islam."

"Behead those who insult Islam."

"Slay those who insult Islam."

and that is the religion of peace.

and Christians and atheists probably passed the streets in London where they saw this.
A suicide bomber trained in the heart of London.http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1509664/Muslim-protests-are-incitement-to-murder%2C-say-Tories.html

samba123:
Don’t just see in one side of that incident!!! Do you think you have a zero intolerant in Christendom? Even you have that in your mind, the suffering of the Iraqi people and in Afghanistan are just one of the results that your fellows are more nasty in the eyes of the Muslims world. You can’t see the hidden atrocity of the American soldier when they conducted they operation thunder storm. How many people are affected in that war alone? Do you think they just accepted all those things are happening? Their silent are a misery in their faces without any reason to talk/show in the public. Biases are always praying around like you!!!

This topic again,for the umpteenth time is not about tolerance.
not about the Iraqi war
not about darfur
not about the slaughter of sunnis by shias
not about American and British soldiers in Afghanistan
It's about nothing but [b]the killing of people who choose to leave Islam as entrenched in the hadiths and exemplified by Mohammmed your prophet.[/b]It's about  the killing of apostates as done today in Afghanistan,Nigeria,London,Canada,Sudan,Austaralia,Netherlands by adherents who choose to live exactly like that prophet
It's about that killing being in the penal codes of countries where Islam  and the Koran rule supreme.
That is the topic.

Bastage:
olabalwe.

You don't seem to be able to grasp the concept of relevance.

This topic is about murdering people for their beliefs.

It has nothing to do with the Vatican State City.
It has nothing to do with Nigerian Bishops.
It has nothing to do with building mosques.
It has nothing to do with treason.
It ha nothing to do with the IRA (which incidentally was a financial organisation not a religious organisation).

Even if those excuses you used were relevant, they are so poor that they can be shot down in flames within seconds by anyone with half a brain. Some are just outright blatant lies while others are smoke-screens and distortions of the truth.

I find it utterly amazing that you can insult someone and tell them that they are immoral whilst you sit there calling for the death penalty for people who don't believe in the same god as yourself.
If you're the best that your religion has to offer, I have no sympathy whatsoever for you when the extremists from the other side perpetrate any of the so-called atrocities you're whining about.

Reap what you sow, brother.

When the mohammed teddy bear almost caused the life of that British woman who did nothing but try to teach school children,we all watched it play out on the pages of the daily Newspapers and internet.
Men dressed in white flowing gowns trooped out of a mosque after "praying" with machetes and tree limbs in hand asking for the head of this poor teacher.
Thankfully many Muslims here condemned that barbarity.
Most normal human should ask where that mindset came from and the answer lies squarely at the doorsteps of Islam.

Thank you for redirecting us back to the topic
[b]It's about a religion that says to kill people who "insult it", leave it willfully and yet they tell me Islam is peaceful,how is that?[/b]why can't they just let people be
that's all we're asking

olabowale:
@Plus_Queen: « #20 on: Today at 03:55:33 AM »
Whats the difference between it and the "marriage you are not permitted to end?" I mean there is no provision for it in that religion's holy book. Never mind people do on their own, which may be contrary to the command in this book. Say the Bible?

The Bible says you can divorce based on fornication and adultery,but my dear are you comparing divorce to murdering someone for leaving a religion  

olabowale:
As I have said above, don't mind what the people do, even if it is contrary to thir holy book. That applies to Qur'an here, too. Considering that the verse that you quoted is plain and direct: should there be a compulsion in religion? Should there be another meaning of that verse?

You say there's no compulsion in religion yet you're compelled to kill those who leave the religion?
altaquiyyah.
This one is like a pig wearing lipstick.It can be clearly seen from a mile away.

olabowale:
@Plus_Queen: « #20 on: Today at 03:55:33 AM »
In Qur'an, Surah Al Imran I think has a verse where people are predicted to go back and forth in and out of Islam, until such an indecisiveness should be taken for disbelief, uncommitted to belief. If everyone is killed the first time they left Islam, would have a need for this verse that talks about the back and forth of a person between belief and disbelief?



Where is the mind control? No one can control the mind of anyone. Should I remind you of how high is mind controlling, the concept that cojoled you, a very "intelligent woman, that could drive you to accept 3 completely separate and distinct entities to suddenly become One Indivisible entity! How unreal is that, except that there is the highest form of "mind control" in full trottle up at work?

Even if the individual decides to leave Islam and return a thousand and one times.It is his prerogative,to kill him is murder and[b] thank God the international community is cracking down on those barbaric acts.[/b]
Again this is about Islam murdering it's apostates,not about the concept of trinity,or eating jollof at salah.
It is about people being unable to be free from Islam for whatever reason.
They should be able to make that[b] free choice [/b] without fear of being butchered to death in your hands.

You are taking this argument over the top. In my home right now, I have a person who called himself a Christian Prophet! I had to tell him that at best he is a pastor. But he was a muslim home. We discuss religion, and never at anytime did I desuade him from what he practices. I only do what I do and hopefully before he is no more with me, he will see the goodness of Islam, and returns. Many have.

And it is not every person who has a child who is not practicing Islam kills him/her. Give us many examples, if there is any among the Yoruba Muslims. And please don't say the Yorubas "copy" a group of religion people or another ethnic group. The Yorubas have a saying that "we only wake up to see people take the qualities of the yorubas. Yorubas never behave like the children of other persons."

Remember that you are not Islam.You've told me that line several times so let's use it now.
Need I remind you that the subject is on Islam and killing of apostates so it's a little childish of you to defend the killings under whatever reasons you chose to profer and at the same time single out Yoruba Muslims as non murderous muslims.
Thank God you know examples abound and the individuals did not leave and return then leave again.
so that reason to kill makes sense only to you and your cohorts.
I am esctatic Yoruba Muslims are more peaceful than their counterparts in northern Nigeria and Pakistan.We all know why
We actually pray most of you Muslims are that peaceful.
That is what a religion should teach.
Islam is something else entirely.
Keep defending killing a person for leaving Islam,the more you speak,the more we see the spirit behind that thing you call a religious movement.

Pastor PLC:
These ugly girls making a hell of noise here as if real guys chase them. Bunch of ugly girls in this site - no person is interested in any of you here.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
pastor indeed
abeg wear your 3 piece suit comot

Like one apostate of Islam puts it,Islam is like the proverbial Hotel California
You can check in but can't checkout.

Like an abscess with a fistula, it is a "gift that keeps on giving"

And yet someone will turn around at an opportuned time to quote that famous altaquiyyah "there's no compulsion in religion".
I bet they think their listeners are daft
Tell that to dolly.

For anyone to sit and rationalise why a fellow human should be killed for his choice of religion beats me.
Yet when I categorically say that Islam is evil based on what comes out of their own mouths ,some people would be asking for my neck.
Islam = mind control + manipulation + a whole dose of fear.

Some are stuck because they fear death at the hands of people like Olabowale (based on his own words)
since in some instances it's the fathers that actually kill their own children when they decide to flee from that murderous bunch.
So much for a peaceful religion.
We are not deceived.
There are no moderate muslims.
there are 2 sets.

1.Those who have the balls to do as Mohammed instructed
2. And those who support it privately and sometimes publicly but without the balls to bear a sword but will if "coached" by practising ones.

any wonder the radical ones are the ones that follow Mohammeds teaching to the "T"with scared foreheads to prove their dedication to prayers unto allah.
Lord help us!

Baby Jinx:
The best Nigerian wives are full time wives and mother. . . don't you get it. Quit your job and stay at home to take care of your man, you are even lucky he allows you to orders takeout and only insults you after the fact, some men won't even let it go that far.

A homecooked meal, pampering of your husband, putting his needs first, never questioning him, going to any length to make sure he never suffers a moment of discomfort will ensure you have that you continue to have the best 3 letters in the world before your name, the 3 letters that command respect wherever you go. . . I am talking about MRS.

You'd better recognize that fast and recognize it soon because there are many women out there who are now living in regret, biting their fingers and saying "Had I known". If you are interested, I'll send you a book to help you. I've read this book like a thousand times and it has helped me a lot. It's called. . .

101 Ways not MISS out on MRS: What Shall it profit a woman to gain everything but not MRS.

You can also get it online at http://ifeedmybrainstomyhusbandforbreakfast..com/

Wish you th best.

If this is a grown female , you need serious therapy and if it's a man you need to get a bed at Yaba Psychia and just incase it's a child, you need to go latch unto your mother's mammaries.
Nonsense.

~Sauron~:
Thatz even a bit on the low side.
Don't u see mother n daughter going to the same club??
Blimey. . . . .I once had a mum and her daughter flashed their boobs in a club to prove who's got the bigger size!!!

Abomination.
Now that's one thing you know a nIgerian girl and her momma will not be doing.
We have our faults and they have theirs.

dayokanu:
I would prefer girls that are real. Not fronting. That Carribean girl would keep her husband more than the Naija girl who wont want to express

themselves sexually so as not to be seen as a slut. In the end the Husband hits UNILAG and finds girls who would get down without inhibition.

CHEATING starts!!!!

I was hanging out with some friends in the neighbourhood and one woman sent her son like 15 years to tell my friend she likes him

He was Like " My momma likes you and wants you phone number"

having said all what I said,people should be real.
Caribbean girls are not keeping any husbands.
The women have their undercover lovers and the men are known flirts.
And it's somehow "accepted"

Look at that story you told of a 15 year old boy,how sick is that?
a teenager now looking for bedmates for his momma.
That is downright low!

michelin89:
Interesting!

Their men are even worse
If you think Nigerian men are tenacious,Caribbean men are something else.
Once they want you,only God can help you
he'll turn up in front of your house,at your job,at your bank.
He'll be everywhere you go.
and he'll have a wife at home o.
You'll be on the roadside with a flat tire and Mr Trinidad and Tobago will just show up with a tow truck
the men are unbelievable.
If you like sef,carry belle for another man,it won't move him.

~Sauron~:
21 gun salute for Queenisha. . . . .
U have just made ma day!!!!

U didn't finish the story. . . .

Once they struck 30 and still unattached, desperation and frustration set in.
They hook up any man they sniff and gets passed around like Kobe n Shaq's moves in NBA.
Yoruba babes and fronting are inseperable.

well thanks
Don't blame our girls ,blame our society.
that's what good girls are expected to do.
You guys are very young men anyway,it's not as though any of you are looking for anything serious  right now.
You are just looking to get her bed

dayokanu:
Why are some gurls so out of touch saying Yes makes you cheap?

A guy who persists unreasonably is Cheap and he's a loser.

i have seen a guy who married a girl he met at a club and laid the same day. So what is cheap

@Plusqueen,

Do you notice that Naija girls form more than any other race in the world? That means they are the most virtuous?

LOL
because you're Nigerian I guess you know more of Nigerian girls than others.
Yes we have our faults
the others have theirs.
would you rather a woman mounted you on the dance floor like these  uninhibited Caribbeans girls?
My dear hubby had a surgical nurse tell him in graphic details what she wanted to do to him.
Is that the type of woman you want?
We have our issues,they have theirs

~Sauron~:
Jackal ego?? ROFLMAOWPIMP.

A man has to act right!!!
Women love men that act right(this has nuthing to do with being pompous or overbearing).
A man must show a sense of self-pride.


Thanx for bringing this up.

Naija gurls are something else.
They have attached so much nonsense theories to relationships than any other race in the world.
A Naija babe fronts for u for 12 months and she ends up being shagged at the back of a club(the same night she agreed) and her reasons for not saying YES in the first place was because she didn't want u to see her as being cheap.
How ironic?

It's sad but Nigerians generally are brought up to be liars.
Our soceity is deeply entrenched in lies and deception.
People can't even tell their correct ages.
Many have as many passports as there are foreign embassies
Girls in Nigeria are brought up to do Inyanga for men.
she may like the man o,but she's expected to say no the first time.
That is what our society teaches.
Unlike these akata and Haitian girls around here that'll be chasing your man right in front of you.
NOt that I like their method but we have an " innate "culture of lies.