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Bouz:
Definitely, your family, She is be a longthroat. She could avoid the man but couldn't avoid the 50k gift from the man. Since she didn't like the man she should have avoided evrything about him.

Your response doesn't change anything really. The guy is a wicked man and by your reply, you're just the same. How can you promise to help someone out from your own benevolence and then turn around to demand something from them? If you knew you wouldn't help out without attaching strings to it, why offer to do it in the first place?

dermmy:
Don't worry when you are a mother advice your daughters to always do same whenever a stranger offer them money. At least there are some guys that would give that and won't expect anything in return according to you.

I repeat only a cheap lady would do what that lady did. A girl who is well trained who knows her worth won't do such. What would make a lady collect 50k from someone she had no prior relationship with? Someone who is not a family member.

So, wait, let me ask: all the guys that paid transport fare for a random lady in a bus was in relationships with him? All the guys that offered to take care of a lady's dinner bills were in relationships with them?

These are just a few examples of what people do for each other without expecting anything in return. But I can see now that low self-esteem men are more rampant than I originally thought if a man who offered to help someone would turn around and start blackmailing them and the whole lots of you will ably support him.

Don't worry about what I'll tell my daughters. I knew before now that Nigerian men can never give you help (financially or otherwise) without wanting something in return, no matter how 'saintly' they claim they are.

You are all the same. Bunch of untrustworthy snakes.

You should have known better. Nothing goes for nothing esp when it involves money gifts. The guy spoilt you meanwhile it was a trick to get you laid in future.

Sixfeetbelle:
So, wait, let me ask: all the guys that paid trans in a bus was in relationships with him? All the guys that offered to take care of a lady's dinner bills were in relationships with them?

These are just a few examples of what people do for each other without expecting anything in return. But I can see now that low self-esteem men are more rampant than I originally thought if a man who offered to help someone would turn around and start blackmailing them and the whole lots of you will ably support him.

Don't worry about what I'll tell my daughters. I knew before now that Nigerian men can never give you help (financially or otherwise) without wanting something in return, no matter how 'saintly' they claim they are.

You are all the same.s.

this is where discretion comes in. As a girl, you are expected to be careful when collecting from men. I'm not trying to take sides but sometimes its not always free and fair on the other side.

Sixfeetbelle:
Your response doesn't change anything really. The guy is a wicked man and by your reply, you're just the same. How can you promise to help someone out from your own benevolence and then turn around to demand something from them? If you knew you wouldn't help out without attaching strings to it, why offer to do it in the first place?

Am not like him, . but the lady should have rejected the offer, you sef check it naw, how can you collect gifts you want, from someone you don't want. the man acted trickish. thats nigerians for you. most nigerians are scam. but she should have rejected the offer since she doesn't like him

husseinaaa:
i met this guy 2018 in my madams tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

he usually come around he talks and joke with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us. to cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone am not working yet I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.

so few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciate it.

so we communicate normally but just as a friend.

last month he started asking me out I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lost interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to or I should accept him. he is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life. either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

This one tie gele. You self you suppose know when person fit dash or hook you with something.


Well it has happened, what is the circle of your relationship like? Can you raise that money?

Can you involve someone to discuss with the guy, bkos currently he doesn't need that money, he just wants to sleep with you.


The last resort is to involve the police, issue him threats as well, but make sure police day your corner give them his number and contact details and allow him keep fooling himself. This should be the last option if he cannot reason well.

By the way I won't advise you settle this with money, but with talk or involve police simple.

Bouz:
Am not like him, . but the lady should have rejected the offer, you sef check it naw, how can you collect gifts you want, from someone you don't want. the man acted trickish. thats nigerians for you. most nigerians are scam. but she should have rejected the offer since she doesn't like him

She was naïve. Simple.

I was like that, unfortunately, until I experienced firsthand how sexually deviant most men are and how they'd stop at nothing to satisfy that.

Liposure:
this is where discretion comes in. As a girl, you are expected to be careful when collecting from men. I'm not try to take sides but sometimes its not always free and fair on the other side.

There's nothing like using discretion here. Total abstinence should be preached since nothing is ever free as long it comes from a man to a woman. I know this now and she will, soon enough.

Sixfeetbelle:
So, wait, let me ask: all the guys that paid transport fare for a random lady in a bus was in relationships with him? All the guys that offered to take care of a lady's dinner bills were in relationships with them?

These are just a few examples of what people do for each other without expecting anything in return. But I can see now that low self-esteem men are more rampant than I originally thought if a man who offered to help someone would turn around and start blackmailing them and the whole lots of you will ably support him.

Don't worry about what I'll tell my daughters. I knew before now that Nigerian men can never give you help (financially or otherwise) without wanting something in return, no matter how 'saintly' they claim they are.

You are all the same. Bunch of untrustworthy snakes.

There you go again. That's the way of an average Nigerian girl always looking for the guy that'll pay the bills. That's what is killing the Op now if she had rejected that 50k from the stranger she won't be in this mess. You don't like the stranger yet you collected the 50k he offered you. Only a cheap lady does that.

She was even asking the guy if he wouldn't use the money as bait she was suspicious by asking that question but the greed that always kill Nigerian ladies and turn them into prey for ritual killers blindfolded the cheap lady.

I'm even surprised you are defending the lady. Oh yes the guy is evil for doing that but does a lady have to be stupid putting herself in danger because she wants free things? Greedy people would always meet their waterloo.

husseinaaa:
i met this guy 2018 in my madams tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

he usually come around he talks and joke with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us. to cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone am not working yet I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.

so few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciate it.

so we communicate normally but just as a friend.

last month he started asking me out I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lost interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to or I should accept him. he is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life. either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

I will give you the 50k. Come and give me the virginity then

I'm confused. Does no one ever buy gifts for their friends? Why are you giving a gift of you expect something in return.

Why are men buying gifts for women, just so they can have sex with them? Have you got no personality? That is shameful. If this is the only way you can operate, go find a prostitute.

Men

HappyCreative:
I'm confused. Does no one ever buy gifts for their friends? Why are you giving a gift of you expect something in return.

Why are men buying gifts for women, just so they can have sex with them? Have you got no personality? That is shameful. If this is the only way you can operate, go find a prostitute.

Men

Most ladies these days operate like prostitute because of the harsh Nigerian economy. And the lady portrayed herself like a prostitute by collecting money from a stranger. Only a cheap lady does that.

PuZZyNegro:
I will give you the 50k. Come and give me the virginity then

Don't mind the Op. That her virginity narrative is a big lie. She's trying to win our sympathy with that dumb narrative. Ladies like to play the victim when the situation turns against them.

husseinaaa:
I met this guy in 2018 in my madams tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

he usually comes around he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us. to cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone am not working yet I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having the intention of relationship or sex etc he should. then he said he just meant to buy it for me as a friend and I thank him.

so a few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciate it.

so we communicate normally but just as a friend.

last month he started asking me out I told him am not ready for a relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive made me lost interest in anything like that, he got angry and told me to send it back his 50,000 to or I should accept him. he is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid the problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life. either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

. If in your heart to heart you know that no commitment was involved when he gave you that 50k. Get him to threaten you again. Go to the nearest police station with his threats and make him sign undertaken. Trust me he will be so scared of you. Men like that idiot are a problem to a decent mind. Make sure you record his voice and give it to the police. Only useless men blackmail a girl with gifts.

husseinaaa:
I met this guy in 2018 in my madams tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

he usually comes around he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us. to cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone am not working yet I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having the intention of relationship or sex etc he should. then he said he just meant to buy it for me as a friend and I thank him.

so a few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciate it.

so we communicate normally but just as a friend.

last month he started asking me out I told him am not ready for a relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive made me lost interest in anything like that, he got angry and told me to send it back his 50,000 to or I should accept him. he is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid the problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life. either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

. If in your heart to heart you know that no commitment was involved when he gave you that 50k. Get him to threaten you again. Go to the nearest police station with his threats and make him sign undertaken. Trust me he will be so scared of you. Men like that idiot are a problem to a decent mind. Make sure you record his voice and give it to the police. Only useless men blackmail a girl with gifts. Forget about jazz, who jazz help. Go and report that good for nonentity useless fool.

Lol joke

Return the phone to him. If he continues to threaten you, report the matter to police.

husseinaaa:
I met this guy 2018 in my Madam's tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

He usually comes around, he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us.

To cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone I am not working yet, I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. Then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.

So few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciated it.

So we communicate normally but just as a friend.

Last month he started asking me out, I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lose interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to him or I should accept him. He is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life, either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

Xenry:
When a guy starts to give you what he can't give to his fellow guys, just know that he would be expecting from you what his fellow guys wouldn't be able to give him.

Deep

...My own is that if you can't go down with a guy fully,don't accept gifts from him.

If you commit the crime,then be ready to do the jail.

Not all guys though but it is not written in the face.

Xenry:
When a guy starts to give you what he can't give to his fellow guys, just know that he would be expecting from you what his fellow guys wouldn't be able to give him.

U are a very wise one, may your days be long, may your son not resemble your landlord

Xenry:
When a guy starts to give you what he can't give to his fellow guys, just know that he would be expecting from you what his fellow guys wouldn't be able to give him.

Wise words

Please report this guy to your brother , your friends , your father , police , soldier friend ... anyone you have that can take it serious ... Don’t take his treats for granted ... Just Incase he’s planning any sort of physical assault ...

Reset the phone to factory mode and give it back to him. If he continues to harass you, report him to the lawless police. It's a gift, and in a lawful society, it's yours for keeps, irrespective of whether you give him pussy or not.

husseinaaa:
I met this guy 2018 in my Madam's tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

He usually comes around, he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us.

To cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone I am not working yet, I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. Then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.

So few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciated it.

So we communicate normally but just as a friend.

Last month he started asking me out, I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lose interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to him or I should accept him. He is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life, either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

The only jazz that is valid is Don Jazzy!.

Thos might b a yahoo boy posting this so that mumu future is feminist crew will foolishly contribute for him make them flex muscle say them pass man

So your guys can't give you 50k ? and/or vice versa ? Please change your guys' and stop generalizing

Xenry:
When a guy starts to give you what he can't give to his fellow guys, just know that he would be expecting from you what his fellow guys wouldn't be able to give him.

Uprightness100:
This is why we Admonish all and sundry to Have Genuie Relationship with JESUS.
In matters like this, you Confidently and simply use Matthew 18:18 to treat his Matter.
If he tries anything, he will pay with his life.

You must be joking right?

Powerfly:
Moral of the story! -
1) Never ever collect anything even if it's a lift from an average Nigerian Man, because they are just a replica of a typical Nigerian politician.

2.) Never take Nigerian men for their word. Infact whenever they something, just understand it as the opposite in meaning.

Op if na me eh! Shingbai!! The maga for no smell. Make him do him worse!.
I'll go down on my knees in the mid night after taking my bath with warm water and say a simple prayer saying " dear father in heaven, i hand over this case to you to judge righteously!.. If i ever collected the money gift knowing and aggreeing to any ungodly intention and then acting like i'm innocent, then let my life speak nemesis upon nemesis. But if i'm innocent then let (his name) fire consume him and his evil intentions. Then enter house go sleep because the bagger can do no sh*t.!!
If i jam that kind father xmas, e for don be for the idiot.

Why haven't you said tnis prayer on your family so you guys can escape poverty

Powerfly:
Moral of the story! -
1) Never ever collect anything even if it's a lift from an average Nigerian Man, because they are just a replica of a typical Nigerian politician.

2.) Never take Nigerian men for their word. Infact whenever they something, just understand it as the opposite in meaning.

Op if na me eh! Shingbai!! The maga for no smell. Make him do him worse!.
I'll go down on my knees in the mid night after taking my bath with warm water and say a simple prayer saying " dear father in heaven, i hand over this case to you to judge righteously!.. If i ever collected the money gift knowing and aggreeing to any ungodly intention and then acting like i'm innocent, then let my life speak nemesis upon nemesis. But if i'm innocent then let (his name) fire consume him and his evil intentions. Then enter house go sleep because the bagger can do no sh*t.!!
If i jam that kind father xmas, e for don be for the idiot.

y do u gals feel, swearing in the midnight while naked, is only potent for u guys, why do u even think the universe or heavens can shake for your sakes, simply cos u a woman..my dear open ur fucking eyes, this is not nollywood...if u like go to the moon , naked a d swear from now till eternity, nothing will happen... don't think cos u are a woman, u have certain super Powers, u don't have shit ok......I see women this days, the way the post on their status, asking for gifts and money from ppl they don't know, believing as a woman, those ppl ought to give them those things, just like that, nothing goes for nothing in life..

AsherAmari:
O yeah? So who's fault is it? Is it her who was being sincere or the guy who lied? For Pete's sakes, can't you guys help a sis without attaching any strings to it? It's so appalling.

Now note,.
She didn't go asking the guy for a phone or money.
She even tried to find out the bases on which he was getting the phone for her and he lied. This alone qualifies her as a very good and responsible girl.

Now, your fellow guy wants to box her into a corner and you guys are all over the place calling the innocent girl names. Unto what now? Abeg free her.

You guys should stop wooing a woman with gifts. If she likes you, she'll date you without all the goodies. otherwise take a walk

Nobody can help a sister without strings attached. When you're not their sis, this life is give and take. Afterall how many brothers una don help.

Rubbish and entitled Nigerian b!tches

[[s]quote author=Uprightness100 post=100021353]This is why we Admonish all and sundry to Have Genuie Relationship with JESUS.
In matters like this, you Confidently and simply use Matthew 18:18 to treat his Matter.
If he tries anything, he will pay with his life.[/quote][/s]

Yeah right. Rubbish talk.

Taa una too dey lie for this forum. Nothing ever happened