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Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

it's been 4 days we went on date and I haven't heard or seen anything from her be it WhatsApp message or even call or text... is it worth it or I should just move on...

it's my first date too and I don't know whether I have to be the one to call her the second day or not.

@TheUndercoverer Ubunja martinez39s ublight glycolysis please let me have your opinion on this

Be honest with your self

1st how old are you ?

And whose phone are you browsing through?



I HOPE I MADE SENSE

She's not into you. Simple!.

Your desperation might turn to SIMPING!

Call her and tell her your mind

Mokason288:
1st how old are you ?

And whose phone are you browsing through?

Be honest with your self

if you had the ability and patience to read, you'll have inferred from the post that I was the one who paid for the date and everything that was spent that day.. I'm gainfully employed and I'm old enough to know that I need someone to share my feelings with. if you're here to troll, you should just avoid this post

MufasaLion:
She's not into you. Simple!.
Your desperation might turn to SIMPING!

thanks... that's what I'm trying to avoid... I don't want to appear desperate

HopeVictor:
Call her and tell her your mind

I don't get how this would help, can you elaborate more

I actually read your post like this: there's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my Liability...
Imagine contacting a Liability so that she would relate with you as if her needs are your responsibilities, Damn!
Girls keep catching you guys unprepared, and I'm not cool with it.

Nodeydopass:
thanks... that's what I'm trying to avoid... I don't want to appear desperate

Leave her alone. I don't understand how you guys find your street ladies attractive.

Nodeydopass:
I don't get how this would help, can you elaborate more

Girls like the hard guys.. call her and tell her you were expecting a call or chat from her.. if she isn't interested in the relationship she should tell you..so you can stop wasting your time and move on.

MufasaLion:
Leave her alone. I don't understand how you guys find your street ladies attractive.

okay

Nodeydopass:
okay

Good!.

Stay safe man.

HopeVictor:
Girls like the hard guys.. call her and tell her you were expecting a call or chat from her.. if she isn't interested in the relationship she should tell you..so you can stop wasting your time and move on.

alright brother, I appreciate your opinion

Nodeydopass:
it's been 4 days we went on date and I haven't heard or seen anything from her be it WhatsApp message or even call or text... is it worth it or I should just move on...

it's my first date too and I don't know whether I have to be the one to call her the second day or not

Usually a guy will text or call and say he had a great time and wants to hang out again soon, something like that. So maybe she can be nervous that you didn’t like something about her and that’s why you didn’t give any feedback.

It could also be that she’s silent because she is used to being pursued and is not used to a shared effort arrangement. You could just tell her that you’d like her to initiate sometimes rather than just staring at her “online” status feeling lonely.

If you truly find her boring and/or selfish then you might have to put your physical attraction aside and let this one go.

MufasaLion:
Good!.
Stay safe man.

thanks boss

[quote author=Nodeydopass post=100214647][/quote]Bro she is way Below your standards let her go and stop thinking of her!.

Nodeydopass:
thanks boss

You're welcome. Look in the ocean is a gang of fish.

McSquishi:
Usually a guy will text or call and say he had a great time and wants to hang out again soon, something like that. So maybe she can be nervous that you didn’t like something about her and that’s why you didn’t give any feedback.

It could also be that she’s silent because she is used to being pursued and is not used to a shared effort arrangement. You could just tell her that you’d like her to initiate sometimes rather than just staring at her “online” status feeling lonely.

If you truly find her boring and/or selfish then you might have to put your physical attraction aside and let this one go.

I understand you dear. thanks for your input. it was my bad that I didn't call her the second day but I already made it open ended the first day when I told her that if a second date is going to happen, we'd definitely go swimming and she replied saying she doesn't know whether she could swim or not.
I've exhausted every form of manly thing I can do to get her, that's why I think doing anything again would make me seem desperate

Nodeydopass:
if you had the ability and patience to read, you'll have inferred from the post that I was the one who paid for the date and everything that was spent that day.. I'm gainfully employed and I'm old enough to know that I need someone to share my feelings with. if you're here to troll, you should just avoid this post

Avoiding post

MufasaLion:
You're welcome. Look in the ocean is a gang of fish.

I hail thee our great fisherman

falcon01:
Bro she is way Below your standards let her go and stop thinking of her!.

hmmm

SmellySperm:
I hail thee our great fisherman

LMAO... Fam!

Yo really dig that!

Nodeydopass:
I understand you dear. thanks for your input. it was my bad that I didn't call her the second day but I already made it open ended the first day when I told her that if a second date is going to happen, we'd definitely go swimming and she replied saying she doesn't know whether she could swim or not.
I've exhausted every form of manly thing I can do to get her, that's why I think doing anything again would make me seem desperate

Hmmm. She will probably text you in a week or two more asking when the swimming will take place or maybe she’s genuinely not interested at all but was just going along for the ride.

I think you you knowing the situation best if you feel you’ll look desperate by reaching out again then don’t. But texting “hey, just checking on you” if you’re thinking about her to this extent, that is not a big deal. And if she hardly replies like the old times then at that point you can guess she’s not feeling you...

dating is complicated! Ugh!

Good luck

Let your moniker speak to you

@Nodeydopass

You are not being unreasonable brother, don't contact her until she reaches out, it seems to me two things;

1. She's not so much into you - if this the case let her be and move on, but if you must insist ensure you can keep up with the consequences. Do with do with you.

2. You seem not to know what makes her open up - seek her areas of interest and discuss that, I've dated extreme introverts, na Dem day talk pass I swear down, them go bore with gist pass extroverts.

MufasaLion:
LMAO... Fam!
Yo really dig that!

fr fr

SmellySperm:
fr fr

Keep fishin' man!

Sorry ooo. How old are you ?
I think your priority now should be your studies last year was wasted year for Nigeria students due to strike and lockdown I don't want to believe you want to waste this year again shassing girls up and down. My advice for you is to leave that girl face your studies/ life and make name for your self that girl will be the one shassing you. but if you want to continue you are free to do so

There's really no reason to play hard here.

The truth is that you like her. So if your heart is leading you to call her, then go ahead & make the call.

It won't kill you.

You can also let her know that with the first date you guys had, you expect her to start treating you like a friend & reach out sometimes... atleast know what she will say.

Most ladies are used to guys chasing them. It takes time for them to get comfortable with you, but when they eventually do, you'll be glad you chased.

The main thing is you knowing for how long you're meant to chase - you're not meant to chase forever.

Don't waste your time trying to think & understand the reason for her actions. Its fruitless... make the call, have whatever conversation you need to have with her. By all means satisfy your heart pls.

Nodeydopass:
good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

there's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp(she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation. so I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along. and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. the date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.
then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. however, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.
Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable

delete her number and block her for good....

McSquishi:
Hmmm. She will probably text you in a week or two more asking when the swimming will take place or maybe she’s genuinely not interested at all but was just going along for the ride.

I think you you knowing the situation best if you feel you’ll look desperate by reaching out again then don’t. But texting “hey, just checking on you” if you’re thinking about her to this extent, that is not a big deal. And if she hardly replies like the old times then at that point you can guess she’s not feeling you...

dating is complicated! Ugh!

Good luck

McSquishi:
Hmmm. She will probably text you in a week or two more asking when the swimming will take place or maybe she’s genuinely not interested at all but was just going along for the ride.

I think you you knowing the situation best if you feel you’ll look desperate by reaching out again then don’t. But texting “hey, just checking on you” if you’re thinking about her to this extent, that is not a big deal. And if she hardly replies like the old times then at that point you can guess she’s not feeling you...

dating is complicated! Ugh!

Good luck

McSquishi:
Hmmm. She will probably text you in a week or two more asking when the swimming will take place or maybe she’s genuinely not interested at all but was just going along for the ride.

I think you you knowing the situation best if you feel you’ll look desperate by reaching out again then don’t. But texting “hey, just checking on you” if you’re thinking about her to this extent, that is not a big deal. And if she hardly replies like the old times then at that point you can guess she’s not feeling you...

dating is complicated! Ugh!

Good luck

I secretly hope so @ bolded. thanks once again. I wish things could just be easy like Hollywood