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PeaceJoyLove:
You are not alone bro. More than 50% black boys who studied in Europe and return to their nations always find out they cannot blend easily again. And black girls do not make it easier too for these boys. I do not know what to advise you in this case, but what I will say is that, move out of black dominated nation and cool off your head elsewhere. Even black americans will mess up your brain, I am telling you truth. You are different now. All black girls will mess with your head. But you can still get a good black girl.

Many miss their soul mates, but mercy find them, and they still live a good life. Some even enjoy their new partners more than the so called soul-mates. Do not let the words of the spiritualists define your life. Reject the words and move on.

Help yourself by telling yourself you will find a partner you will be happy with. If you start believing that, you will get out of this fast. Do not associate with a lady who keeps reminding you that you love white girls cos of their color and that you want your children not to have the black color. Such ladies are poisonous and inferior complex is their problem. Leave such poison alone if she doesnt change and move on. Any woman who doubts you is a NO for you. Keep her close if you love her, but be ready to ditch her. You dont need such poison.

You will be so different in the ways you handle your affairs, and you may be falsely accused a scammer. If you love such girl but he keeps doubting you, .....hmmmmyou must let go and move elsewhere. Such persom is not good for you.

Above all, watch out for religious bigots. They are the worst. If she doesnt change, toss her away.

Be in peace with all men. God will answer your prayer. God will bring a wonderful partner who will make you forget your pain. Exactly your case was mine. The God who sustains me will sustain you too. You will get out of it soon.

Goodluck bro!

you talkin absolute rubbish....i dated many women but the most happy i had is with a black woman....

when you have dated many white women,they will not seem that special to you anymore....
na longthroath dey worry op joor....

asians are very nice too....

True, Nigeria has fine girls but Russia has got far more beautiful girls. Every Anna, Yulia, Natalia and Natasha in Russia is a fine girl.

justtoodark:
nigerian girls fine pass them joor....

and those ikebes ehn....

richmond500:
u don't get my post, he is not financially bouyant to move to Russia right now and settle down with her, even if she comes to Nigeria, could she cope? Naija is not for the faint of heart.
Agbero for oyinbo will be normal human in Nigeria, a normal human there is like a nun here. Since she is not financially good, I doubt she could afford even lekki lifestyle or GRA in port Harcourt

na two times mosquito go fly pass her ears she go deport herself back to europe.

He should forget her cos he can't go there and if she agrees to come here, street go show her shege and with her white skin and init accent, she will be an easy target, I wasn't saying its based on love but he doesn't have enough to create the environ which she would consider normal.

he should move on and stop talkin gibberish....

their is no formula to women....
many of them date rich men but dont love them....

Maybe you should try reach out to her

kaziblake:
Maybe you should try reach out to her

bad idea....

Bro you don't really love the girl. You're just depressed because she's found someone else and maybe what those spiritualist told you. By the time you find someone you really love and ready to spend your life with, you'll forget that girl in an instant.

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Nonexistent:
If you still love her, reconnect and snatch her from the man mek we hear word abeg. This one you are crying like xmas fowl, I don't want you to be rescued from lagoon. Love ko love ni.

You forgot to tell him to write his will before that ( hope he has hustled enough to have something to write in a will)

Cos if you want to go and snatch anything from a rich Russian, 8 out of 10 times, you're getting ready to mess with a Russian mob and those guys dont take any prisoners.

There are so many girls in this world, ogbeni forget about the one you've lost and cast your net into the wide open sea

This story is similar to one romance fiction story I'm writing

OP, Sorry about your predicament, I just didn't know something like this could happen in real life.

firstratedcitiz:
True, Nigeria has fine girls but Russia has got far more beautiful girls. Every Anna, Yulia, Natalia and Natasha in Russia is a fine girl.

absolutly not true....nigerian girls fine pass....

i would never start something with a slav woman anyways....

lilvicky68:
Before 20years time you will forget her..have patience man..

JackDaAlienz:
Thank you so much
I avoided her to the point I didn't check her Instagram for 2 good years..
Last year August, I decided to man up and check her Instagram
Brooooooooooooooo I was shattered

She now has a son for the rich guy
And she is posting traveling photos around the world.
I felt joy for her new life but deep down I was crying like crazy.
It made me feel depressed but I plan to move on and HURSTLE harder.
I don't know if I will ever see her again
That girl loved me like crazy, our love was like fairytale.
To see her with her son and husband breaks my heart but I'm really really happy for her.
We both dreamed of living together and getting rich. We even talked about how cute our kids will be. We had plans
I just want to erase her out of my mind but it's like the bond I had with her is too strong!

You are probably insane man. I like been blunt

I funked one gal for 2 good years b4 I let her ho,when I need her,I call her

Lovethaa:
Hmmmmm... The best way to get over someone is to find another one.. try dating other women

OP has tasted rice, he doesn't want to chop beans again.

His taste, his problem.

JackDaAlienz:
Wow it seems like we have so much in common.
Nigerian girls were like sisters to me when I was in Russia. I had zero feelings or attraction to them.
I just see them as my sisters lol
I always dreamt of having very fine mulatto kids ( mixed biracial kids)
She was very pretty with blue eyes and she always loved my afro hair. We planned to get married but school and not being financially able made it a bit difficult.
We broke up 2 times lol
The first one didn't even last upto 24 hours before I came back to my senses and begged her and she forgave me.
The 2nd breakup I took for granted until she found a guy who was rich and serious in settling down.
We both cried when she told me that she found someone else. I know if I had money then we would still be together now.
I pray that God will give me the strength to push on.

Mehhhnn

You've made it clear that this girl is now married as you referred to the guy as her husband in one of your posts.

Why don't you leave the past behind and focus on the more glorious future? Remember say na person wife you dey talk about so o

Young men with nothing going on in their lives driven by relationships and nothing else. Until you are comfortable being alone and chasing your God given vision on earth, you may never realize yourself in life. Looking for completeness in the opposite sex is a programming that make people waste their youthful years on the wrong things. Get something doing, move on from the past. As you chase that important thing in your life, the right woman will come and everything will flow naturally.

[quote author=Kingkyle1 post=101069981][/quote]Same thing came to my mind
But in the book,it was the guy(tayo)who first moved on with his life when he impregnated another girl

Everything is your fault. If you weren't ready for relationship, why approach a lady? Why did you breakup with her if you truly love her?

JackDaAlienz:
When i travelled to Russia to study medicine I was 23 years when I meet a very beautiful Russian girl named Yulia
She was 17 turning to 18.

I loved this girl with all my heart and she was so in love with me. Infact she loved me too much.
I was her first black boyfriend
We dated for 2 years
Then we broke up because I needed some space.
We still became very close friends after the break up.
Until she got a new boyfriend.
She called me crying and telling me that she has not loved any guy in this life more than me. But she doesn't know what to do about this rich guy who wants her.
I told her to go ahead, that if he can give her the life she always dreamed of living.

She clearly want this guy because of his money. Her new boyfriend is very rich and me I wasn't financially strong then.
Her boyfriend knows I'm her ex, so he forced her to block me everywhere.
We haven't talked since 3 years

I moved on like nothing happened
Now I'm back in Nigeria
It's been 3 years now
But here is the problem
No matter how hard I try to forget her
It doesn't work
I still get flashbacks of our love, romance and all the good times we had.
No matter how hard I try, I just can't forget her.

I got into a new relationship which ended shortly because the girl I was dating said I was still in love with my ex. That I talk about my ex more than I talk about her.
And it's true, I unknowingly bring up my ex in our discussion.
How do I get over my ex of 3 years.
I sometimes cry at night thinking about her
It's so weird, I have never had this kind of bond with a girl.

How can I remove her from my mind
It's like I'm spiritually tied to this girl

heendrix:
Eyah I really do understand how ya just feel brotherly.....I've had numerous break ups with 9ja girls tbh none of them moved me I just fly to the next bird. but this Serbian girl was just too good and there was nothing she wouldn't do for me. to cut it short, we had the best of time and she wasn't a girl I'd just loose like that. las las I suck my pride up n had to beg her with my sisters involved sef naturally she got a soft heart so twasn't hard for her to forgive me. since ur girl need you to be bucked up try working on yourself and also invest in crypto with the little you can

so he can join the moving ship.

Jeezuzpick:
No, he won't.

You can't forget a love any more than you can forget the alphabet.

What he can do is live with it and learn to love someone else so he can have a good life and family.

And he will do that before 20 years time so we are still saying the same thing..

Try and contact her, don't be too sure her relationship with the other guy is still intact.

JackDaAlienz:
When i travelled to Russia to study medicine I was 23 years when I meet a very beautiful Russian girl named Yulia
She was 17 turning to 18.

I loved this girl with all my heart and she was so in love with me. Infact she loved me too much.
I was her first black boyfriend
We dated for 2 years
Then we broke up because I needed some space.
We still became very close friends after the break up.
Until she got a new boyfriend.
She called me crying and telling me that she has not loved any guy in this life more than me. But she doesn't know what to do about this rich guy who wants her.
I told her to go ahead, that if he can give her the life she always dreamed of living.

She clearly want this guy because of his money. Her new boyfriend is very rich and me I wasn't financially strong then.
Her boyfriend knows I'm her ex, so he forced her to block me everywhere.
We haven't talked since 3 years

I moved on like nothing happened
Now I'm back in Nigeria
It's been 3 years now
But here is the problem
No matter how hard I try to forget her
It doesn't work
I still get flashbacks of our love, romance and all the good times we had.
No matter how hard I try, I just can't forget her.

I got into a new relationship which ended shortly because the girl I was dating said I was still in love with my ex. That I talk about my ex more than I talk about her.
And it's true, I unknowingly bring up my ex in our discussion.
How do I get over my ex of 3 years.
I sometimes cry at night thinking about her
It's so weird, I have never had this kind of bond with a girl.

How can I remove her from my mind
It's like I'm spiritually tied to this girl

BRATISLAVA:
Another day, another paid thread.

Suddenly all of them only feel feel pain and attachment to white girls. Yet they complain about racism when their minds are already enslaved.

Imagine if the girl were black, and she left him for a rich man, what do you think OP himself would say?

Instead because she is white, we have Lamentations and claiming to have been soul mates. Desire for Mulatto kids will not stop making black men sound foolish.

Chai..

JackDaAlienz:
When i was dating her I meet someone who is gifted spiritually
This person said that the girl is my soulmate and my coming to Russia to study was not a conincedence
That she was my love in another lifetime
And me coming to Russia was a divine way of reuniting with my soulmate "Yulia"
I never believed all this soulmate stuff
But thinking back, I can see why I can't get her off my mind.

You broke up because you wanted space.... She accepted...

Younger guys get problems sha, your pride is hurt because you're comparing yourself with another guy and feeling inferior...

When the girl moves on, her Ex usually feel jealous because they suppose that the girl will be begging and can't live without them...

Just pretend say she don't die.. Simple!

Get out of soul tie nonsense... She don marry. Get your own spouse

AlexB300:
So my soul mate might not be in Nigeria after all

no, she is in maiduguri

AsherAmari:
Make we hear word abeg. Somebody is enjoying her life somewhere, you're here lamenting.

Move on already and stop tormenting yourself by living in fools Paradise. Hypertension is real.

seriously, he even admitted her love was conditional. No money no love

JackDaAlienz:
When i travelled to Russia to study medicine I was 23 years when I meet a very beautiful Russian girl named Yulia
She was 17 turning to 18.

I loved this girl with all my heart and she was so in love with me. Infact she loved me too much.
I was her first black boyfriend
We dated for 2 years
Then we broke up because I needed some space.
We still became very close friends after the break up.
Until she got a new boyfriend.
She called me crying and telling me that she has not loved any guy in this life more than me. But she doesn't know what to do about this rich guy who wants her.
I told her to go ahead, that if he can give her the life she always dreamed of living.

She clearly want this guy because of his money. Her new boyfriend is very rich and me I wasn't financially strong then.
Her boyfriend knows I'm her ex, so he forced her to block me everywhere.
We haven't talked since 3 years

I moved on like nothing happened
Now I'm back in Nigeria
It's been 3 years now
But here is the problem
No matter how hard I try to forget her
It doesn't work
I still get flashbacks of our love, romance and all the good times we had.
No matter how hard I try, I just can't forget her.

I got into a new relationship which ended shortly because the girl I was dating said I was still in love with my ex. That I talk about my ex more than I talk about her.
And it's true, I unknowingly bring up my ex in our discussion.
How do I get over my ex of 3 years.
I sometimes cry at night thinking about her
It's so weird, I have never had this kind of bond with a girl.

How can I remove her from my mind
It's like I'm spiritually tied to this girl

You miss her. Yet you were the one who told her you needed space which led to your break up. When she called you to tell you she wanted to get back together you told her to go ahead with another man. I don't think you ever loved her, you are just missing the benefits of the relationship not the actual girl. Pls move on cos you pushed her away with your own hand.

@JackDaAlienz

Its called Oneitis. Befriend and date at least 5 very pretty and sexy girls going forward and you'll forget about her in no time. You'd come back to this your post and laugh.

Besides be a man and stand by the decisions you made. You chose to let her go for valid reasons..so stand by your decision.

menh,if you love somebody,her picture and the memory you both shared will remain indelible.I met a girl in 2017 during my youth service,we became friend and i later developed a very strong feeling for her,I noticed same with her when she started gisting me about her lifestyle and relationship with men.unfortunately l lost her to a man who got married to her,I filled empty and I haven't develop half of such feelings for any other girl.my brother, u can not completely erase her from your heart,just move on.

Nonsense!!!

You left her bcus you needed space,ad now you're saying you can't forget her.
Lemme ask, during hour spacial period... didn't you realize you couldn't do without her? Abi wahs dis one

Wahala for who no study medicine for russia.
This your story is bullshit I don't knw how it managed to make front page o...why did you say you needed space?

If she had all you want why did you give her space?
Wahs our business with dis story now abi yhu want us to goan beat the new russian boyfriend?

Bouz:
Op come closer first.

wetin dey ur mind ?

JackDaAlienz:
When i travelled to Russia to study medicine I was 23 years when I meet a very beautiful Russian girl named Yulia
She was 17 turning to 18.

I loved this girl with all my heart and she was so in love with me. Infact she loved me too much.
I was her first black boyfriend
We dated for 2 years
Then we broke up because I needed some space.
We still became very close friends after the break up.
Until she got a new boyfriend.
She called me crying and telling me that she has not loved any guy in this life more than me. But she doesn't know what to do about this rich guy who wants her.
I told her to go ahead, that if he can give her the life she always dreamed of living.

She clearly want this guy because of his money. Her new boyfriend is very rich and me I wasn't financially strong then.
Her boyfriend knows I'm her ex, so he forced her to block me everywhere.
We haven't talked since 3 years

I moved on like nothing happened
Now I'm back in Nigeria
It's been 3 years now
But here is the problem
No matter how hard I try to forget her
It doesn't work
I still get flashbacks of our love, romance and all the good times we had.
No matter how hard I try, I just can't forget her.

I got into a new relationship which ended shortly because the girl I was dating said I was still in love with my ex. That I talk about my ex more than I talk about her.
And it's true, I unknowingly bring up my ex in our discussion.
How do I get over my ex of 3 years.
I sometimes cry at night thinking about her
It's so weird, I have never had this kind of bond with a girl.

How can I remove her from my mind
It's like I'm spiritually tied to this girl

I feel you bro.
When you have experienced that kind of love and cone to experience Nigerian "transaction love", it's enough to make a man long for the gem in the past