| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by theforemost: 11:11pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
its like you've enjoyed the lady's under and since she didn't promise you marriage, now she found another guy and you jealous.hiding under pretext you helped her 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Hassanmaye(m): 11:11pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
AfricanGiant91:
Guy, u gently sha o; i swear. Person try dat rubbish wit me, walahi she go meet her bag & baggage's outside Haha African giant you remove resemble your name can't you see she should be taking care of  |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by WEALTHYMII: 11:11pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Her friend upstairs is using this foolish girl to get back at you.
You really tried for her. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by James2nweke: 11:11pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Bossy by vacating my bed and sleeping on the floor since January??!
Bossy by tolerating her insolent behaviour for one full week??!
C'mon
bro pick her calls,call those she reported you to and ask to explain herself to them and they will cautious her next time she won't try it You gave too much respect and freedom in ur house You should have rules in ur house even when ur close friend and family come around they already know what you don't like around ur pkace 2 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by INCREDIBLE007(m): 11:12pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
bros
This story dey super
may God enable you with wisdom to handle it properly |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Bornboy4: 11:13pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
From a spiritual angle, I have a feeling that she is an emissary from the village sent to find fault with you so that they can easily penetrate you spiritually. That you didn't sleep with her is your first triumph otherwise, your destiny would have been at stake. So be careful, take no offence and her plans would bounce back at her! 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Hassanmaye(m): 11:13pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Kingcalls:
Thats the entitlement mentality women have...imagine say u decide to de hammer am , she will do worse... thats the difference between guys and girls...if na man u accommodate freely...he will sleep on the floor and still act like house boy to u...he will b going on errands free for u and will b fetching the water without u knowing that the is water problem...men are more appreciative than woman and never forget the help u gave them when they were in need ... women act like entitled spoilt kids That's there nature stupid ingrate, you will do anything for them small problen set in they have forgotten all what you did, 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:13pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
I'm a lady and can tell you for free that you did the right thing. Allow her pack her belongings, she should move out. Can't stand people with entitlement sense. 6 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by bomsilaga(m): 11:13pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
You just might be having feelings for her. I see no reason her not giving you attention should warrant this action. Act maturely next time. daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by vickydevoka(m): 11:14pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
If I were u I would endure till de end. Just for her parents sake. 90% of gals are soucy . Just get use to her, besides this will prepare u for marriage. N I marriage this is de tip of de iceberg 2 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Baybiibee: 11:14pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Boss13:
What I don't understand here is why her parents are comfortable with her staying with you, a man who is not related to her. Didn't they analyze the outcome(s) of the situation.
I swear... It can never be my parents... Even brother they will not allow me stay with talk more of a male family friend.. Some parents reasoning sha.. 3 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by SIRRITE: 11:14pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Richochett:
Lol
Op is a fool.
That girl just want him to fvck her but he's busy acting bossy. After all they are not related in any way What dou mean bossy? |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Sholmakem(f): 11:15pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
I like that your action bro . she's an idiot .
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by SirBunky85(m): 11:15pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
your action is good but I would've preferred you tell her to her face that she's overstayed her welcome and should pack her things 5 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by koolaid87: 11:16pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Richochett:
You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.
Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house 
Allow her to enter the house. A simp will never see any wrong in her behaviour. 3 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by nedekid: 11:17pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Bros, you do well.
But go there and let her pack her stuff. 2 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by jomoh: 11:17pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
I should unlock and evict her??!
I don't actually want to be the one who tells her to leave.
She should make that choice herself
Personally I’d advise you don’t let her in at all. Let her report to her parents and they should be the judge. If you let her in and go without your parents knowing the true picture, that girl will cook up stories against you and it’s the word of a man against a woman(if you know what I mean). Plus she has friends already and you don’t know what she’s been telling her friends or what her friends can do for her against you. Keep her out until her parents interfere. 2 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by CalmElder(m): 11:17pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
citizen202:
..I will advice you go home.. sit her down have a conversation with her.. bros there's life after school oooh..
honestly I think she likes you... Just try to have conversations with her ...tell her all she's been doing that you don't like ...and start sleeping on your bed joor... Please and please and please, DON'T SLEEP where she sleeps, she go either HUG you or or carry leg put for your body or both. Na true talk I dey yarn you so. You're a smart guy sef, it's evident that you're matured, so you don't need a lot of advise... sexual activity is not 'sharpness', only dull, one track minded people think so. 3 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:17pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
She's an ingrate with an entitlement mentality and bad attitude to boot. 3 Likes |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by nedekid: 11:18pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Baybiibee:
I swear... It can never be my parents... Even brother they will not allow me stay with talk more of a male family friend.. Some parents reasoning sha.. If it were your parents, they probably will rent accommodation for you. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Hassanmaye(m): 11:18pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Lilpen3758:
She want Bleep!! if u Bleep her well i mean hot Bleep ooh she will become your house girl
God when this kind girls go cross my path? Haha if she poison you nko |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Richochett: 11:19pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
SIRRITE:
What dou mean bossy? Acting like a boss |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Number1benue: 11:19pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
daveyjay:
I should unlock and evict her??!
I don't actually want to be the one who tells her to leave.
She should make that choice herself
No now egbon you need to use that eviction let her know say she day wrong like person talk for up somebody don day deceive her. If you no use this stringent action take reset her brain she go carry this same attitude around thinking say she right cause you were lenient. Why she no deserve chance again be say it was calculative and premeditated from her end, and even when you notice come call her attention to it she was still adamant which only shows one thing she does not see anything abnormal with what she is doing. So pls let her go and do it to other people so maybe just maybe we go take know if nah you day wrong you get bros. Let her learn the hard way nothing bad there, after all we day learn am now from BuBU him self 2 Likes 
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| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Rocktation(f): 11:19pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
pocohantas:
If you are staying with people, the least you can do is be useful.
Isn’t this the same reason some women prefer their family visiting, over their husband’s own? So why can’t the little girl fetch the damn water! She no dey fetch water for her papa house? She should fetch it without being told if she was properly raised. It is a daily routine like any other.
There are little things that wins the heart of your host. When next you are coming, they will look forward to having you. Well, it's easy to stay on our little soap boxes and charge others to behave in a certain way we say is ideal. The conditions of the people you help must not be servile, to qualify them as having proper upbringing, sweets. Or aren't such the sad tales, most newbies in The Abroad tell? The story might be doctored, but not so much as to make us unsee that she wanted to cook. So why aren't people acknowledging that, at least? 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by 2elliot: 11:19pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
abbasajao:
Unfortunately, this is a one side of stories,. Abeg go dig the other side come. We dey wait, thank you. Mbana! 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:19pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Person never even gain admission she dey behave like this....how e go come be when she finally enter school. Bros you do well. |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by lilyheaven: 11:21pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Maybe, but it may not work out, Op don’t want to see any green light, Or later later Op will fall for her. CalmElder:
Seems both parents want to seal their friendship by joining them together in matrimony |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Nobody: 11:22pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by pocohantas(f): 11:22pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Rocktation:
Well, it's easy to stay on our little soap boxes and charge others to behave in a certain way we say is ideal. The conditions of the people you help must not be servile, to qualify them as having proper upbringing, sweets. Or aren't such the sad tales, most newbies in The Abroad tell? The story might be doctored, but not so much as to make us unsee that she wanted to cook. So why aren't people acknowledging that, at least? If she can shamelessly carry raw food to a neighbour’s house to cook, then she can use same effort to fetch water. It is not even servility, it is common sense to meet your host halfway. 21 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by content208: 11:23pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
Richochett:
At least I'm more intelligent than you. No you are not. What you wrote didn't portray intelligence. It portrayed dumbness |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by Mftivi: 11:23pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
If you end up not opening the door for her, don't ever sleep in that room with her again.
Don't take chances. 1 Like |
| Re: Accommodating An Insolent Girl by 2elliot: 11:23pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
saphiere:
If anything happens to her you will be held accountable. Her people know she is in your custody. Be a man. Go home and settle your differences. I guess she was acting a fish brain and forgot how to act an ideal woman. But, how convenient for a non man or remote trans woman like you to know what being a man entails. 1 Like 1 Share |
