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I will like to hear from your wife. I don't don't judge this kind of matter without hearing from the defendant.

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

this is why you should marry your best friend whose best friend is you

Pls sit down with her and renegotiate the terms and conditions of your union. Who does what and whose duty is this and that. You must also be frank in telling her what you won't accept as a husband. Pls let her know from this very beginning, else you both might unknowingly be sitting on a keg of gunpowder.
Peace be to your home.

Don't mind them. Comprehensionis a problem in Nigeria.
I am a civil servant and can relate to the issue.

The wife is plain wicked and selfish even to her self.

He shdnt have married someone with this mentality.

She does not love him. If you dig deep inside the marriage story you will realise she never loved him.

How can you watch a man you claim to love struggle and demand extra for rent

Ñ

moriss33:
Obviously you lack comprehension skills...na shop rent be the matter
He didn't ask her for money to take care of his needs or responsibilities.
She has N250k in her account made 4rm the shop
Yes he didn't open the shop 4 her but he assisted in furnishing it.
Now why can't she pay for her shop rent of 90k from the N250k in her account.
This is a civil servant not a business man so his income is limited...also he is paying rent, feeding them & giving her money too.
Now as a man he also has to save for when babies start coming, school fees, building of his own home & Etc which are all his sole responsibility.
Why can't his wife pay 4 shop rent., when she obviously has the money...no b wickedness ?
Let me not forget....she dey send money to male friends buy can't pay her shop rent.

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

I have never been in your shoes as a single, but my opinion about marriage is if any of the couple LOVE something else more than each other (part from God), then marital bombs won't be very far away.

Something else especially Money, friends (most times, the opposite sex, or ex).

I think most marriages is sometimes based on fun, merry, honour, respect, self-satisfaction or awareness, NOT real LOVE.

When the Love of Money is in one or both parties: trouble.

1Tim.6.9 - But those who DESIRE to be rich fall into temptation and a snare...
1Tim.6.10 - For the LOVE of money is a root of all kinds of evil...

Even genuine human love could fail too, through selfishness and pride of the couple.

The only sure type of marriage is that which makes Jesus as master: they both love Jesus supremely, but money and others are mere Servants.

We should not focus all our attention on passing things like Beauty, Money, Honour of men, Ego, etc., but Jesus and his Kingdom.

I can only advice anyone to seek God and obey him in any situation.

Remember, things that are impossible with men are POSSIBLE with God. Don't trust any man including Pastors...


May Jesus bless you.

seanwilliam:
I understand you bro. There are always 3 sides to his story ..

The husband’s side
The wife’s
And the truth


But what the op complained about is what is common in our society these days bro.. he might be trying to make his wife look bad and make himself only , but the point is , what he posted is seen in marriage settings these days in naija

Yes too many guys can't keep relationship at the past
But want to keep marriage...

My grandfather said a woman is always a child even at old age.
You should (guard) take care of them the way you take care of your child, If you fail you will get the results.

For me when you make a woman love you... You will control her like remote.

When are woman is in love she will do anything for you...

And you don't force a woman to love you.. but someone will love you for sure. If you make her to .

Pls sir, dont send your wife packing.
She's the wife of your youth, the bone of your bone.
She's the one God has given you to be the mother of your children, the one you will spend the rest of your life with.

Sir, by the reason of marriage, your destiny is now intertwine with that of your wife, the two have now become one.
There what God have joined together let no one divide.

Oga, no body in nairaland has the final solution to marriage, not even me, your marriage will fail if you try to handle it yourself, the rich , the poor, celebrates all fail in marriage.
Have you asked why.

If your marriage must STAND THE TEST OF TIME, IF YOUR MARRIAGE MUST SURVIVE ALL ATTACK, THAT MARRIAGE MUST BE ANCHORED IN JESUS, IF JESUS IS NOT LORD AND MASTER OVER YOUR MARRIAGE, FORGET IT.

Your certificate, your money, how polished and social you are, can not safe your marriage.

Sir, take the challenges facing your home to God, let Him send you help. Commit your wife to God let Him council her.
The heart of kings are in God's hand.
HE is master over all, including your home.

Marriage generally is under siege, no matter how rich or poor it is.

Love your wife as Christ loved the Church AND GAVE HIS LIFE FOR HER. That's how the husband should love his wife.........

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

Your narrative shows you are still a baby.
Is this why you want to send your wife out?
You mishandled it yourself spending more in wedding ignoring setting her up.

chatinent:
Dear oga,

You are your own problem.

1. It isn't a must to do a wedding with ₦1m if you aren't worth it. People should learn to avoid pleasing onlookers by feeding 6000 people. The wedding is supposed to be a day of joy for you both, not for people's stomachs.


2. I noticed you have a thingy with gender roles. You are a man. Your wife is still your responsibility. You refused declaring your salary to her but is quite inquisitive on what she earns. How na baba?

Coming to the part of she sending money to a male friend, I understand you are hurt because it's a male attached.

But have you tried to understand her?

Are you always seeing yourself as right?


What's the big deal if you pay the shop rent, then, you guys build your communication thingy well?


The communication flow is broken.

Marriage is not a football match you play for halftime and retire, or you get a small injury and decide to walk out because you feel you are the chief captain.


It's a forever course...and the moment you realize this, the better for you.


I see a good wife you have there trying to stand on her feet without your support!


Treat your wife well so she'll be more opened to you.


When you start keeping secrets, trust don yapa. Some men who don't want to disclose their actual salary still tell their wives sth.

If I have a fiancee I had already paid for her dowry, I wouldn't have minded setting up the shop for her.

Afterall, she is going to be my wife.

You let her family support her when she needed you.

You mah no know say any money you spend for wedding don go? You for small invest for her business na. People wey don chop plenti plenti food that day don shit your money finish.


To think your marriage isn't up to a year is quite disheartening too.

Build your beautiful marriage, bro.

Ignore these frustrated sets tagged as redpillers here trying to project their failed lives to you.


Marriage is a gift from God.

What a gibberish comment. I know of a woman that helped her hubby completed the building of their new house. This particular woman do tell me how she opened her own shop and is the one paying for the rent. Her hubby too is doing fine financially but according to her she don't want to leave all the financial burden for her hubby. She do pay children school fees whenever her man is running out of cash. Op just married a liability, selfish and self centered woman.

Romanoff:
I don't think that's the case. Many have stayed in loveless marriages that worked.

I feel with communication, things can be remedied.

point of correction why stay in a marriage when theres no love whats the point then? it a companypartnership? the woman doesnt love him, disrespects him to be sending money to her lov4ers so whats the point of the marriage

Na women they will never accept responsibility for once...
They will always find a way to blame man for dia problems..very bitter set of people.

eeewise:
Don't mind them. Comprehensionis a problem in Nigeria.
I am a civil servant and can relate to the issue.

The wife is plain wicked and selfish even to her self.

He shdnt have married someone with this mentality.

She does not love him. If you dig deep inside the marriage story you will realise she never loved him.

How can you watch a man you claim to love struggle and demand extra for rent

Ñ

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

@Op, Honestly, I wish we could talk on phone because you caused this right from the start. I'd rather mum because this a public domain with some immature minds

Simp spotted

chatinent:
Dear oga,

You are your own problem.

1. It isn't a must to do a wedding with ₦1m if you aren't worth it. People should learn to avoid pleasing onlookers by feeding 6000 people. The wedding is supposed to be a day of joy for you both, not for people's stomachs.


2. I noticed you have a thingy with gender roles. You are a man. Your wife is still your responsibility. You refused declaring your salary to her but is quite inquisitive on what she earns. How na baba?

Coming to the part of she sending money to a male friend, I understand you are hurt because it's a male attached.

But have you tried to understand her?

Are you always seeing yourself as right?


What's the big deal if you pay the shop rent, then, you guys build your communication thingy well?


The communication flow is broken.

Marriage is not a football match you play for halftime and retire, or you get a small injury and decide to walk out because you feel you are the chief captain.


It's a forever course...and the moment you realize this, the better for you.


I see a good wife you have there trying to stand on her feet without your support!


Treat your wife well so she'll be more opened to you.


When you start keeping secrets, trust don yapa. Some men who don't want to disclose their actual salary still tell their wives sth.

If I have a fiancee I had already paid for her dowry, I wouldn't have minded setting up the shop for her.

Afterall, she is going to be my wife.

You let her family support her when she needed you.

You mah no know say any money you spend for wedding don go? You for small invest for her business na. People wey don chop plenti plenti food that day don shit your money finish.


To think your marriage isn't up to a year is quite disheartening too.

Build your beautiful marriage, bro.

Ignore these frustrated sets tagged as redpillers here trying to project their failed lives to you.


Marriage is a gift from God.

Godada:





This matter has not gotten to the point of sending her away. Do you have a marriage sponsor? It's time to get them involved. Also you need to call a meeting among the elders to iron out house keeping and management. It is usually a male ego thing as well as a societal responsibility forced on men but at this age, it's not out of place for a woman to contribute to the needs of the family.

It's imperative that she contributes to the family welfare or at least she takes care of herself alone this should include her clothing, needs and paying for her shop. If she cant afford to pay for herself it spells she doesn't know what she doing and the shop should be closed.

About her insulting you, she should be warned in the strictest manner possible that a repeat cannot be tolerated.

On a final note, It's obvious you didn't know what you were getting into. Her asking about your salary and demanding for a shop should have raised red flags. But I can guess you got carried away.

It's not wise to spend so lavishly on a wedding when you could have had her choose between wedding and a shop.
Your wife is a selfish woman.

I hope the elders from both family can resolve this matter. Your marriage is too young for such misunderstanding

Dude! Japa before I open my eyes! it's obvious this woman has money and as such will always disrespect you. You claimed you have swallowed the red pill but you have exhibited a lot of simp attitudes here. Asking her for 1k just bruises your status as a red-piller. You know the code- The moment a woman disrespects you, she already has your replacement - Someone on the higher level of the food chain. Very soon you will be washing her panties. Remember she has apprentices and money which represent status and power. With those male pals she is sending money to, it means she no longer needs you. Infact she now sees you as a liability. It's the bitter truth. it's time for you to leave. Redefine yourself, see this as a learning experience and regain your pride man! It is well bro

Maybe God almighty help us men in the hands of women.

Even the one I was about getting married to also said I never done anything for her before.......... I know how much I have helped the girl because she's a student, now see the reward I'm getting. My dear I had to go my separate ways because even in marriage, she's gonna deny me.

Reex12:
point of correction why stay in a marriage when theres no love whats the point then? it a companypartnership? the woman doesnt love him, disrespects him to be sending money to her lov4ers so whats the point of the marriage

It has worked in the past and I've seen it work, though in rare cases. All that matter in this instance is respect for each other, respect for the marriage covenant and communication.

We need to hear the other side of the story. I believe she must have her reasons. Marriage matter dey delicate

This is your side of the story and I know there is another side to this story.
I've been married for a decade and I will be blunt about my take on your side of this story.
1. You should let your partner know your salary. She can't force it out of your account. Knowing how much you earned will guide or restrain her from making unreasonable demand.
2. You only prepared for wedding that would be the talk of the town, you were not ready for marriage. Alas! This has exposed your level of readiness.
3. You have fed your mind with junk of inputs from people on nairaland, who painted the image of a man who does as he pleases against the wife. Be ready to marry again and again. You're not ready to have a successful marriage.
You enjoy your red pill marriage.

Life is hard and complicated

Being a Nigerian is even harder

Cost of consumer goods is on an all time high

No one wants a wife that will stress them further

I am not saying divorce her but pls don't entertain foolsihness

chatinent:
Dear oga,

You are your own problem.

1. It isn't a must to do a wedding with ₦1m if you aren't worth it. People should learn to avoid pleasing onlookers by feeding 6000 people. The wedding is supposed to be a day of joy for you both, not for people's stomachs.


2. I noticed you have a thingy with gender roles. You are a man. Your wife is still your responsibility. You refused declaring your salary to her but is quite inquisitive on what she earns. How na baba?

Coming to the part of she sending money to a male friend, I understand you are hurt because it's a male attached.

But have you tried to understand her?

Are you always seeing yourself as right?


What's the big deal if you pay the shop rent, then, you guys build your communication thingy well?


The communication flow is broken.

Marriage is not a football match you play for halftime and retire, or you get a small injury and decide to walk out because you feel you are the chief captain.


It's a forever course...and the moment you realize this, the better for you.


I see a good wife you have there trying to stand on her feet without your support!


Treat your wife well so she'll be more opened to you.


When you start keeping secrets, trust don yapa. Some men who don't want to disclose their actual salary still tell their wives sth.

If I have a fiancee I had already paid for her dowry, I wouldn't have minded setting up the shop for her.

Afterall, she is going to be my wife.

You let her family support her when she needed you.

You mah no know say any money you spend for wedding don go? You for small invest for her business na. People wey don chop plenti plenti food that day don shit your money finish.


To think your marriage isn't up to a year is quite disheartening too.

Build your beautiful marriage, bro.

Ignore these frustrated sets tagged as redpillers here trying to project their failed lives to you.


Marriage is a gift from God.

You are talking arrant nonsense

I wish I can meet you one on one I swear you would've received the beating of your life from me. The fact that give give her 1k every morningfor transport is enough to pay for that shop, someone that collected 420k for just apprenticeship can't pay her rent ? Mehn I really don't understand I'd some people reason from there anus

chatinent:
Dear oga,

You are your own problem.

1. It isn't a must to do a wedding with ₦1m if you aren't worth it. People should learn to avoid pleasing onlookers by feeding 6000 people. The wedding is supposed to be a day of joy for you both, not for people's stomachs.


2. I noticed you have a thingy with gender roles. You are a man. Your wife is still your responsibility. You refused declaring your salary to her but is quite inquisitive on what she earns. How na baba?

Coming to the part of she sending money to a male friend, I understand you are hurt because it's a male attached.

But have you tried to understand her?

Are you always seeing yourself as right?


What's the big deal if you pay the shop rent, then, you guys build your communication thingy well?


The communication flow is broken.

Marriage is not a football match you play for halftime and retire, or you get a small injury and decide to walk out because you feel you are the chief captain.


It's a forever course...and the moment you realize this, the better for you.


I see a good wife you have there trying to stand on her feet without your support!


Treat your wife well so she'll be more opened to you.


When you start keeping secrets, trust don yapa. Some men who don't want to disclose their actual salary still tell their wives sth.

If I have a fiancee I had already paid for her dowry, I wouldn't have minded setting up the shop for her.

Afterall, she is going to be my wife.

You let her family support her when she needed you.

You mah no know say any money you spend for wedding don go? You for small invest for her business na. People wey don chop plenti plenti food that day don shit your money finish.


To think your marriage isn't up to a year is quite disheartening too.

Build your beautiful marriage, bro.

Ignore these frustrated sets tagged as redpillers here trying to project their failed lives to you.


Marriage is a gift from God.

daddytime:
Huh?

Maybe she has swallowed the red pill too.

Redpiller-couple.

Hahaha
.
Abi ooo
Both of them are loving with their brains.

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

It's too early for this naa...7 months, ogini?

Sit down with her, and inquire what the probpem is.....if this doesn't work, do the suggestions below:
Go spiritual and check if the problem has spiritual root

Report her to the eldest male members of both families to arbitrate on the respective issues

Tell her and her parents, that you have decided to take her and her family to customary court,to recover everything you spent on the traditional marriage, and to divorce her.



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Pray about it

Good luck

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

send the farm tool back to her owner bro probably you struggle like an ordinal nija guy to make a fortune, and now praise God all that works for gradually come around and now an ordinal woman you purchase with ur money, re who is not your family member, no DNA related wanna come and give u another stress

Someone who spent a million plus for traditional wedding is crying to his wife to borrow him 1000 naira from a shop he didn't rent for her...

Walihi to slap you dey hungry me

Where una dey see hoodlums as wife? How can one be so selfish as to not even contribute to the same house where you are supposed to be a partner and even disrespect your husband that way? OP don't tell me you didn't see all this red flag in the relationship

Na wa o. But it's still one side of the story.

princewarri1985:
Bro am a guy, you are not matured enough for marriage. If you have 2k at home and your wife have 1 million naira, the total money you have at home is 2k. Secondly you are very wrong for not disclosing how much you earn to your wife, because you might be earning 150k and she will assume you earn 1million monthly, so show her your pay slip open up to her use wisdom and treat her right i promise you she will love you more and open up to you and tell you everything including her account balance, she will empty her account for you when she knows you need it even without you asking. Your wife can be an angel or a jezebel and it all depends on how you treat her

This is absolutely nonsense.. so na only man come suffer for life We should not be encouraging this nonsense..

Your wife has 1m, u have 2k and total money is 2k??

Make una stop encouraging entitlement mentality from these leeches y'all call wives

Taa get away. Tell the truth you dont surport her. At first you refused paying for the shop and claimed you spent million on wedding. You are lying. You that drop 1k to eat at home. Are sure you spent million oga you are are not telling the truth.

Take your mind off her money. The day a man starts focusing on a woman's money this is what happen.

You never supported her business Infact you contributed little or nothing to the business. Tell the truth so you will hear the truth.

Please let her decide what to do with her money. She decided to train people so she can make money now you need money and you go to her from the same shop you didnt pay for.

I am not in support of a Woman not helping her husband when needed but with what you just listed i dont believe anything you just stated

Romanoff:
It has worked in the past and I've seen it work, though in rare cases. All that matter in this instance is respect for each other, respect for the marriage covenant and communication.

lol perhaps you view such situation in third person narrative...now romanoff (natasha lol) you get married to a man that you know doesnt love you,shows signs that he doesnt love nor regard you..also you on the other hand know fully well that you dont love your husband either but live in the same house with him would still want to spend the rest of your life with him pls be honest

ELKHALIFAISIS:
Someone who spent a million plus for traditional wedding is crying for his wife to borrow him 1000 naira from a shop he didn't rent for her...

Walihi to slap you dey hungry me

You don't understand. I am sure he does not need that 1k, everyone has this need to feel loved and cherished and protected. He just wants to know that if he needs something, his wife has got his back.

Even people with plenty money still need someone that is willing to care for them

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

What ever you give to a woman she will multiple it and give you back. You caused it by not disclosing your salary to your own wife. If it were you that didn't know your wife salary how would you feel?
Your non disclosure has given her the impression that you have plenty money are just being stingy, that's why she hustle hard for her own and don't contribute.
Marriage must be honest and open to foster trust.

You are at fault fix it before it's too late!

Is she from the Eastern part of Nigeria?