debbydams:
do u even read what I typed I said most men are scum, and even if I said all men are scum u can easily read and ignore na..don't stress me pls

okay ma

donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



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What u described are housekeepers and housekeeping acts NOT Homekeepers. U can even pay a stranger or anybody to be a housekeeper. It's a better word for a maid.

A housekeeper is different from a homekeeper. Take note o!

drlateef:




As in Chioma and Davido?

Na wa for you ooo. No be me talk this one ooo

KayCee92:
Which one is give free sex. Una dey mad o. Two persons agree to live and have sex and u make it sound like one person gave more. If u check now na the guy go get food, get house, still dey take care of the gal basics. Which kind wahala be this. Which kind end time mentality be this. I can never ever subscribe to the believe that a gal does me a favour by "giving" sex. For all I care, I did her a favour to by allowing her do it with me. Nonsense

Haha

This is common in universities , married in school but single at home

ogeodi:
We call it abuja marriage. Living like married but officially single. Some say wen I move in with him he'll see the good in me and later fall in love.

Sounds very pathetic.

You don't convince a man to love you.

ABANGWABOI:



Op na Fool..
Those men that Camp them in their homes are feeding them and paying all the girl(s) bills..
Personally, I prefer not cohabiting cos you spend more when you do so and still get same sex you get when you don't..
Op you be Ode..

Don't mind OP.

He talks as if the men don't bear responsibilities of these women.

I personally discoutage this coz it doesnt really add any value to me. Sex, food?? All these can be procured. Cohabiting is Nothing else but a liability.

debbydams:
see the good indeed,men are scum,I can't impress any man sha nd I do whats convenient for me,,nd I can't move in with a guy that has not marry me oo..I v a lot of guys as friends nd I know most things about them, only few of them are God fearing,most of them are scum oo...

I am glad your mentality is different from the rest. May God give you a God fearing man.

Vision101:
@Kalapizim
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.

This arrangement works fine for us




@me
What do you usually do when she comes?

what couples do? And we don't haven't had sex.

Vision101:
@Kalapizim
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.

This arrangement works fine for us




@me
What do you usually do when she comes?

what couples do? And we don't haven't had sex..

WHAT ABOUT THE FREE FOOD, RENT, FREE POCKET MONEY... IT'S JUST PAYBACK!

sammieguze:
sometimes, it is not out of excuse or blind love. it is out of the financial realities on the ground.
sometimes you can see all the telltale signs he loves and cares for you but doesn't have the financial capacity to make it official. i am not making excuses for anybody. just saying the realities are different for different people

If they can survive on a daily basis, they can pay the woman's bride price and get married at the court or in the church with family & witnesses in attendance.

And share drinks for only the officiating ministers while others go home.

debbydams:
see the good indeed,men are scum,I can't impress any man sha nd I do whats convenient for me,,nd I can't move in with a guy that has not marry me oo..I v a lot of guys as friends nd I know most things about them, only few of them are God fearing,most of them are scum oo...

Yes of course, most of 'them' in your village are scums, especially the ones in your family from your father, uncles, brothers and male cousins.

[ Only in Africa,there are so many divorced ,and single moms here...Life is full of ups and downs ,it may not work out in marriage sometimes,but African society makes women feel that they are Useless and failures without a man... Jennifer Lopez just called off an engagement and has had 5 husbands with several boyfriends including Drake...

If it were here in Africa, she would be shamed and driven to madness.I can never teach my daughters they are nothing without a man...They will be beautiful, just like their mom,classy, empowered and successful,a man will feel lucky to be chosen and married to them.Any man who is not ready to vherisj them will get lost and if he messed up,it's NEXT!



quotenapawizzy post=102533559]As long as the society preaches that being married to a man is the ultimate success/achievement in life, women will always do whatever they think will make a man marry them. Everybody wants to be successful and if the society defines marriage as ultimate success what do u expect a lady to do.
Whether cohabiting will make him marry you is a different issue all together, i wont blame anyone for trying that, it has worked for some and if you dont try something how will you know if its gona work for u or not.
BTW what do u mean by 'give men free sex' ? the woman no dey enjoy d sex? abi shes supposed to get paid for sex[/quote]

debbydams:
see the good indeed,men are scum,I can't impress any man sha nd I do whats convenient for me,,nd I can't move in with a guy that has not marry me oo..I v a lot of guys as friends nd I know most things about them, only few of them are God fearing,most of them are scum oo...

What about you? are you God-fearing?

An adult will be having sex consensually and people will be calling it free sex, when will this mindset change?

right you are, young padawan.
But what if he is not yet ready for marriage?

bukatyne:


If they can survive on a daily basis, they can pay the woman's bride price and get married at the court or in the church with family & witnesses in attendance.

And share drinks for only the officiating ministers while others go home.

Very true

bukatyne:


Sounds very pathetic.

You don't convince a man to love you.

Sysdatek:
Can you people allow people live their lives?
Humans are not bots
I co habited with my gf .. we still got married later

Make una rest

Hope you or she will be proud to tell this to your/her daughters?

Ladies who do this dont always get married, they get used and dumped and age prematurely because of the bitterness.

Guys stay away from human pit latrines.

Give and take

donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



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Quinex2:
Hope you or she will be proud to tell this to your/her daughters?

Yes. Since you have nothing to discuss with your daughters

HRHQueenPhil:
It's their of this three
1. I love him so much and his place is comfortable
2. Am super broke and he both love each other
3. He keeps fighting me and getting upset when I return home, let me rather stay
4. Am suspecting he cheats and will abandon me, so let me seduce him with food and sex so he won't stray

That's abt it

Your sincerity will make me marry you sef ... direct entry!

I like it when women are direct, without threatening my masculinity.

Stop sounding like sex is one sided and that women are victimized into it ,in the name of love.

debbydams:
see the good indeed,men are scum,I can't impress any man sha nd I do whats convenient for me,,nd I can't move in with a guy that has not marry me oo..I v a lot of guys as friends nd I know most things about them, only few of them are God fearing,most of them are scum oo...

Men are scum, that includes your scum brothers,uncles and father.


Keep dreaming, with this your kind of ignorant and obnoxious manner no man would come near your smelly vagina let alone marry you. i bet you are also ugelee and fat wears fake hair or wig.

debbydams:
lol u are right but nothing can keep a man that want to cheat o

As you said .. no guarantee's in life. She has picked her poison .. now you run along pick yours!

I was outside the house in front of my compound 3 days ago just playing with my phone when my neighbors gf came back in the evening. She's my friend so she came to sit by me while she was on a call with her girlfriend.

I could hear their convo coz she put it on speaker. She asked her friend who seemed to be in Asaba with a new catch, how the bobo is doing? The friend said, oh, he's doing well ooooo. Then she asked again, you go come back so? Her friend said for where, I station with am fully, I die here. My neighbor's gf replied, na so oooooo. No running oooooo, the matter must pure by fire by force. And they both burst into laughter.

Many other annoying things they said, i was just shaking my head.

Now, the friend just met a new guy, who's a Yahoo guy obviously from their convo. And she's willing to die there because? I just don't get their mentality these ladies. E clear say the girls dem no get sense.

So this is actually the mindset they carry, they just look for a guy and move in. In their mind it's marriage. No matter what they go through in the relationship they won't leave because it has to work out by fire by force. Just last week here a girl i Know was macheted by the dude she was cohabiting with. Funny thing is the guy had shown signs of his beastly nature but she refused leaving. She even went as far as fasting and praying that it must work no matter what. I have never seen such manner of foolishness, chaiiiii. Now she's back to her house nursing severe injuries with her father using police to look for the dude everywhere.

Such behaviors are mostly exhibited by this slay queens generation. If you fail to learn by Revelation and wisdom you can never miss learning by experience. Enough said.

pocohantas:


You didn’t answer the question.



Okay. So marriage is no more the greatest achievement for a woman? That means we can all go home and stop insulting single and divorced women. I like how you guys speak from all sides of the mouth.



I appreciate this straightforward answer.

Care to share how much is expensive enough and how you grade it?

beautiful girls who play hard to get are always known to fall on the bed when good money is involved however some girls that get conquered by my being handsome do not require me to spend a dime. Some just give the cunt for free just for being handsome without any stress of proposing dating with them, like I met several girls for the first time n I sex them that first day of knowing each other, some under 2 days of acquaintance I am able to remove their panties but they still sell that same cunt very expensive to others, and you must know that expensive spending on a girl gives leverage to fulfill every sexual fantasy without hindrance. In summary handsome guys don't spend much on the p***y but some real beautiful creamy and descent Nigerian girls are worth spending a fortune for.

Ain't no way in hell i am marrying any woman, i have 3 baby mamas already and some more women are prepared to have more kids for me out of wedlock so what would be the point of getting married? women have become so cheap nowadays they would do anything to hold a man down.

HRHQueenPhil:
It's their of this three
1. I love him so much and his place is comfortable
2. Am super broke and he both love each other
3. He keeps fighting me and getting upset when I return home, let me rather stay
4. Am suspecting he cheats and will abandon me, so let me seduce him with food and sex so he won't stray

That's abt it

all things you mentioned here have worked for several persons cos life is so so intricate, there's no one direct path to happiness