Catholic is one of the true churches.. ..if you want something spiritual go and marry a pastor but last last you go still tire..

PrimeWatermark:
Hehehehehehehe
Is that all?

Don't worry, you'll soon jam a wolf in sheep's clothing. Then you'll know how far.

It's not even as if the man is a traditionalist, atheist or pagan.
Creating a problem where there is none. Let them be decieving you with 'Do not be unequally yoked'.

Religion shaa

Wit wetin one church sister do me ehn, I swear I no go go after any girl for church again especially the once wey people knw well well for church as church worker. Those once nal bitch in marry amaka clothing.
I advice any nigger here to go after any church girl wey no dey participate for any church activities at all . Those once wey u knw well well for church worsed pass miston stone for xvideos.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

Funny you didn't state categorically your issues with him. I can only assume that its because you are born again and he is not.

If thats correct, then you stand at risk of being single for life or end up marrying at 50.

You want to raise born again children or you want to raise christian children? At the end, when they turn 18 they can say to hell with your burn again life style no matter how thoroughly you feed them the born again line.

Even Muslims can train Christian children.

jaxxy:


Yes there are sinners everywhere both Catholic and other denominations sir. Don't play politics here cos ur Catholic

There are Catholics one can't marry just like there are Pentecostals one can't marry. U must agree in views and areas important to both of u or else don't bother.

Unfortunately, I'm not a Catholic.

...but I still couldn't understand the rationale behind your presumptions.

I really wish this is some hogwash kinda story but if not, I'm really vexed right now. The only thing I tell people like you is to fins the nearest highway and keep f v c king off. You are mad!

izubext007:

Wit wetin one church sister do me ehn, I swear I no go go after any girl for church again especially the once wey people knw well well for church as church worker. Those once nal bitch in marry amaka clothing.
I advice any nigger here to go after any church girl wey no dey participate for any church activities at all . Those once wey u knw well well for church worsed pass miston stone for xvideos.

Those church activity sisters dont really understand worshipping God in truth and in spirit.

Pray more about it with fasting , for God's wisdom, understanding and knowledge in the decision you are about to make. The spirit of God will guide you through it if you ask him and depend on him daily .
One short instance I have come to understand , it is Not love, sex or emotions alone that keeps your marriage but constant knowledge , understanding and wisdom.
Proverbs 24:3-4( it is the foundation of understanding relationships) it is the wisdom of God spoken through Solomon regarding how to build a strong marriage, strong home, strong family and strong relationships.... This should be the criteria for both parties to look out for choosing a partner, does this person know me very well and understand my feelings and will this person be able to apply what he knows about me to avert trouble or this person is just ignorantly in love

(1)knowledge (Which is information) in handling marital situations and cohabiting with your partner using biblical principles, and this is why; when it gets bad in a relationship , when issues arise, you may be so angry with the partner but deep down you still love the person. (2) Understanding (Which is comprehension) tells you the needs of your partner per time or what may be lacking or causing the trouble in your home. Thirdly ,(3) wisdom(ability to apply knowledge effectively) this will help you in taking right steps in the right direction to get good experience in your home.
Another example, by Myles munroe: Do you love you car, do you know the needs of your car, when to put fuel and how to know the car needs fuel, you maybe washing it and polishing it and kissing it, but once there isn't fuel in it, it quits on you. It just won't move.

uv bn seeing redflags?in ur dreams or real life?which colour wuld u prefer?white,blue,green?.......hahaha......on a more serious note,are all members of the catholic church not #bornagainxtns?it is better to break now than go through a failed marriage!wish u the best of luck!

Dear Sister,
I understand clearly your point of view. There are clear distinctions between the practices and beliefs of (pentecostal) Christians and Catholics. You aren't the same!
You won't want your children to bow down worshiping before some image, and neither would you want your children go around with some whatever dangling on their necks..

Go back to the drawing board and pray sincerely to God to give u a man of like minds. I understand that 3 years was a long time, but it's better than decades of a miserable marriage to a man whose fundamental beliefs on spiritual matters are different from yours.

Walk away now while u can!

francdec4:
So for you Catholics are not "saved". I really wish this guy who you claim to love and ticked all the boxes of what you desire in marriage will read this your write-up and withdraw cos it's obvious you are not even serious. If you really want to be so serious and your complaint is that he is not supporting or joining you in that lane inside the same catholic church then that it's different but labelling him not serious with his faith simply because he is Catholic is unacceptable. Join charismatic in the Catholic Church or any other pious societies in Catholic church of your choice and enkindle your faith as you desire but please and please just let him be and let him remain a Catholic as he desire...the land looks greener the other end till you get there and realise what you have lost.

She's entitled to her opinion and choices. If it gives her a problem, then she is free to make choices that she will live with. She knows what she wants.

After all, Catholics think Pentecostals aren't good Christians. They are discriminatory, so don't act like she is being bad.

The only advice you can give her is to overlook it, as he's still a Christian, unless she knows that they will have fights about it in the future that will destabilize their marriage if he is a Catholic extremist.

OP probably has other things she isn't saying, because his being Catholic isn't that big a deal if he is okay in other regards.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

How do you bring spiritual things that deals with Christ to nairaland? Seriously? You want them to give you spiritual advice?

You are obviously still not praying to God... You are still led by sentiment and emotions, if not, you won't bring such sensitive spiritual matter to this platform.

How many understand what it means to be born again? How many are believers in Christ? How many understand what it means to be led of God and seek his direction?

My friend, go and pray. Spend much time praying in the spirit... God will direct you on what to do and how to do it.

Even though, I think you already know what to do...

It is spiritual laziness to bring spiritual matters to a secular platform unless you are just seeking attention.

Actually when you are being bewitched things like this happens, u said ur younger one is married and you are yet to, u dated a man for 3 years, d different faith wasn't a problem now u have done introduction and you feel the faith is now a problem. What if he was a Muslim or Hindu, my dear don't let Yr enemies use u because before you realise monopause will set in, what u should be after is his character and physical appearance.

Hi @mugnmuffin

Please do not be discouraged by the comments you read attempting to play down your spirituality.

Nairaland would not give you the best response to the answer.

Seek the face of God first. If there is no conviction about him, move on. God is with you.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

Please don’t marry him, he doesn’t need you

In your three years of relationship,have a rethink !!, has all these signs been put into play for a lasting relationship, because this is what you would have been working on while dating and you score yourselves and if certain things have not been well played , approach the partner on that and hear your partners views if it's something you can come to terms with( same beliefs or different ideology) but on the other hand if both of you have different opinions on it and you just can't tolerate it that way , then you can't be compatible with that together except you both agree.

Mumu raised to power 10- you will never get married in life- your hoe will soon start smelling dead fishes, you gave your life to Christ and left catholic church lol. So catholics ain't christians- only the weak in spirit say such like cowards

aanuoluwami14:
Broken relationship is better than broken marriage. Talk to him better. I don't see any joy in not happy in a relationship.

She is not destined to be happy in her life, just as you too seem.

Aunty who amongst these God of men brainwashed you into thinking that a Roman Catholic Isnt a born again?.
1, Adeboye
2,OyedePo
3, TB Joshua

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

My dear, I think u are not ready to marry.....

zed7:
If your only complaint is that he isn't a fanatic then you have no problem.
A well behaved moralist is better off than a religious fanatic without morals.

Thank you so much for this comment......wish every single girl will understand this.....my husband hardly goes to church on Sundays during courtship.....But now I bless God everyday for making me his wife......he is a very good man with conscience and still a Sunday Sunday medicine man.......but for every of his action I see Christ through him

mugnmuffin:


First, I want to apologize for the statement insinuating that Catholic Christians are less Christian compared to Pentecostals. That was not meant to be a generalization. The reason why faith is my principal concern is because, as a Christian, there are certain ethics and codes of conduct a person adopts and practices that guide their actions and decisions. It is the crux of the matter for me.

Many of the comments are asking for elaboration especially with regards to other aspects besides spirituality. Some of the red flags in terms of his attitude and behavior that give me cause for concern are how he relates with ladies; I found that he cheated on me a couple of times. Some of my friends who are married assure me that it is nothing to worry about because “men will always be men”. However, I feel like overlooking that means ‘settling’. Also, he tends to act like we’re competing for career success. I’m a banker and he works with a company and is well paid. From comments he makes when I make attempts to pursue growth, like take courses or attend conferences to network, his response shows that he thinks it’s a waste of time and resources. I don’t always expect him to give me financial support, even if encouragement. But he feels I should be content with my current status. It scares me that he may staunch my progress after marriage.
I’m no saint myself, but I know marriage is a lifetime affair and just because I didn’t look before I leaped into the relationship doesn’t mean I shouldn’t at this point try to make amends.

You should have said the problem was that he has cheated before and doesn’t support your growth. That should have been the reason why you are double minded about the relationship and not because he is a Catholic. If the only reason you don’t want to go ahead with the marriage is because he is catholic, then that is a very flimsy reason.

I just hope there's no pastor linking you to another religious fanatic behind the scene.

zed7:
If your only complaint is that he isn't a fanatic then you have no problem.
A well behaved moralist is better off than a religious fanatic without morals.

Point exactly. I respect this your post.

Are Catholics not Christians?

So are the so called protestants we see everyday any better than the dedicated Catholics? Rubbish post.

The op looks like one of those religious fanatics like our own Righteousness pastor here on nairaland that keeps threatening everyone everyone with Hell fire.

Rubbish.

I think it you that's not right for the guy. Your guy is perfect �. Sometimes some people just look for excuses When they're not ready for marriage. just let the guy go on his way. At this ages, people are still base their marriage � on religion. The path to dom.

I wish am near you, make I give you resounding slap.
You are angry because he doesn't want to join you church. If na me eeeh!! You will even stop that your Pentecostal church and join Catholic before I marry you. I hate religious fanatics.

Please allow that young man to go and find someone who actually deserves him. You don’t deserve such a decent guy.

zed7:
If your only complaint is that he isn't a fanatic then you have no problem.
A well behaved moralist is better off than a religious fanatic without morals.

Oil dey your head,but unfortunately they will not listen because the brainwashing is much.

This is a clear case of creating a problem where there is none. Does been a catholic make one less spiritual?

mugnmuffin:


First, I want to apologize for the statement insinuating that Catholic Christians are less Christian compared to Pentecostals. That was not meant to be a generalization. The reason why faith is my principal concern is because, as a Christian, there are certain ethics and codes of conduct a person adopts and practices that guide their actions and decisions. It is the crux of the matter for me.

Many of the comments are asking for elaboration especially with regards to other aspects besides spirituality. Some of the red flags in terms of his attitude and behavior that give me cause for concern are how he relates with ladies; I found that he cheated on me a couple of times. Some of my friends who are married assure me that it is nothing to worry about because “men will always be men”. However, I feel like overlooking that means ‘settling’. Also, he tends to act like we’re competing for career success. I’m a banker and he works with a company and is well paid. From comments he makes when I make attempts to pursue growth, like take courses or attend conferences to network, his response shows that he thinks it’s a waste of time and resources. I don’t always expect him to give me financial support, even if encouragement. But he feels I should be content with my current status. It scares me that he may staunch my progress after marriage.
I’m no saint myself, but I know marriage is a lifetime affair and just because I didn’t look before I leaped into the relationship doesn’t mean I shouldn’t at this point try to make amends.

If your story is true and not immagination
You will be very difficult type of lady to marry, pls mark my word for future reffrences.

I'm married for years, a penticoster and very very close to altar ( I mean closer to pastors and so many who said they are born again).

The way you sound you need very strong man to tame ur ego and cunning ways, if you don't drop them, uhmmm, except you marry woman rapper, you marriage will be full of controversies


I choose to mention you after I notice you came back to further justify ur self righteousness in which it full of ego underneath

TalkTalkTwins:
Better now than later...
But we're serving the same God right? Oh... I forgot
He's serving the Catholic God, while you're serving the Pentecostal God
What am I even saying?

I'm a Catholic and to be honest, I can't even date someone like you, talk more of meeting your parents. Once they start talking about "being saved when they leave Catholic" leave that promiscuous woman asap.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

my dear sister, God as done you the best, by giving you the man who will love you forever, but you can use your own hand now to throw him away, let me tell you that is spiritual life is low is not an issue, that is why you are there by his side to pray along with him, you can only see few men that their spiritual life is very high, most especially before they get married, but has a wife you'll be able to do that along the line, thank God you are not complaining about his character or he is or he is or that, the only thing you what are complaining about is his spiritual life, so is something both of you can pray about and your character your behaviour along the line will also help him to grow spiritually, knowing fully that you can't change a man, pray to God for God to touch his heart, so you can't just cut off the marriage or maybe there is something you are not telling us like maybe you've seen someone else now,God will bless you and you will have a beautiful home on Earth.