| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Timetravel88: 4:48am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Liballo:
You are not Emotionality, Psychologically and Financially ready for marriage.
Do you think marriage is a child's play ?
And, to the issue of her siblings always demanding is a Red flag....... You can always choose to ignore it. But don't come here to disturb us about how your Wife's siblings are trying to run you dry. Like a thread a man made sometimes ago complaining about how his Wife's relatives eat like gluttons.
Lol, I remember that post so well. I was laughing so hard as I read through it. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by eallstar: 4:49am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Check it this way
What about you have a bad wife and her brothers are good?
Don't dull urself and u owe them nothing even in this life u owe nobody anything,
Never displeases urself to please someone.
Good girl is very scares in nigeria go on and marry her.
Now here is my advice(opinion) if u have connection best u can do is help one or highest two of d brothers get job and let those two help d jobless ones. If they fail to help themselves and expect outsider to do so then u know d rest |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Ikesho: 4:55am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Firstly you sound like someone in a haste to get married to her but you are scared of the future. Can i ask, what you do for a living & are you the only child & what about your dad, cause you were mentioning only your mum here. My advice is this, take time to monitor the brothers, ask questions about them, then take your decision. Las las, na you get the final decision |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Osanoghodua1: 4:56am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Go ahead and marry her. For me, I won't have continuously dated her. I would have stopped dating her and still pay all her bills. I don't want any financial burden in the future. I don't even mind setting her up after her education. Love is contagious, you just need to see both of you are born again before marriage. Their brothers can go sit down. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by AbujaCitiBlog: 5:07am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please Kai, I don tire for all these young boys matter. 1, She is not in love with you, she is just manipulating you. That's why she always cry when you complain. 2, How was she surviving before she met you? Imagine her mentioning prostitution as alternative if you leave her then coyly telling you she will rather kill her self than prostitute. My take, she will gladly do prostitution and dump you when you stop paying her to be your girlfriend, sorry supporting her. 3, Her brothers do not always call her because they know her real lifestyle. They know she sleeps around for money. Don't be decieved. Because ordinarily, being the only girl in the house, they are supposed to carry her like an egg. Something is off. The brothers know and they are not telling you. 4, Focus on your future for now not a leech, sorry girlfriend that you pay to love you. 5, Finally, dump her and watch. And please don't be shocked when you discover that she did not kill herself. It has happened to me several times those days. It is nothing but emotional blackmail. Don't fall for it. Those who will kill themselves do not talk about it. That's the truth. 2 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by wany(f): 5:07am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please A 24yr old boy wrote this  |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by tujays(m): 5:17am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
It's a lie bro....if I add how much I have spent on the brothers you will pity me...the second son as I talk to you is oweing me 250k nd has refused to pay me...keep giving me excuses....she knows about it...
As a man, you can't endure all this, I have seek advice from different individual.. everyone conderms such act.... By the brothers..... anyways you won't know... match I spent 45k to make sure the last BRO was realized after involving in rubbish act...
Anyways..thank you for your advice. I know your type and I understand fully well what you're feeling like coz I been there done that. I really do not comment on here or even on stuffs like this. but I just keep laughing at your ignorance. people like you should be allowed to make all the mistakes in life to learn the hard way. please do what makes you happy. take all the chances at the end you will learn from your mistakes coz no matter any advice people gives you here you will end up doing what you want to do tho. life is a teacher. goodluck! 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by BluntCrazeMan: 5:20am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please It's a family background something. She came from a humble background. So, don't expect money flowing from them. Do your thing and be in your home. Then, guard your home from intrusion. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Goldencheese(m): 5:23am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Skmoda:
Hmmm....lemme read over it again...coming OK |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Goldencheese(m): 5:25am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please All these na shalaye. You love the girl, she loves you. She fills her social media with your pictures. Her family has accepted you. Your family has accepted her. What then is the wahala.
You must spend. Leave the brothers alone. Life will teach them a lesson. Since you got their sister's loyalty, marry her and enjoy your life. Good girls are hard to find, and when you find one, keep her.
You got one right there because the signs are good, the brothers nonetheless.
From a happily married man who has a good girl as wife. 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Kholar211: 5:31am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Liballo:
You are not Emotionality, Psychologically and Financially ready for marriage.
Do you think marriage is a child's play ?
And, to the issue of her siblings always demanding is a Red flag....... You can always choose to ignore it. But don't come here to disturb us about how your Wife's siblings are trying to run you dry. Like a thread a man made sometimes ago complaining about how his Wife's relatives eat like gluttons.
My only advice to you is stop and never bring your problems to social media for solutions. Most people that'll advice you on social media are still taking solitude at their parents house. when there's need to talk to someone look for a mature mind around you that'll not judge you like this people here. What else do you want since your parents got your back? You think nairalanders loves you more and probably going to give you good advice than your parents? Hell no! Whatever your parents says is the final. They'll forever got your back shud anything happen. I'll wish you best of luck |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Idrhas(m): 5:38am On Jul 22, 2021 |
I have no concrete advice for you regarding her brothers. But pls shun all of those shouting you’re too young.
This same people will cheer an American star who marries at a 20. Don’t listen to any of them, whenever you as a man feel you’re ready, then settle! Marriage as no manual and the only entry age for marriage is maturity.
I wish you goodluck, also, pests are best kept at arms length. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by olyrayy(m): 5:41am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Liballo:
You are not Emotionality, Psychologically and Financially ready for marriage.
Like a thread a man made sometimes ago complaining about how his Wife's relatives eat like gluttons.
Abeg, where this thread dey  |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by IAMPEDRO: 5:47am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please Life is all about decisions, Bro you aren't marrying the brothers but the sister. If you love her marry her but don't marry her at of pity, I repeat don't marry her at of pity. For the brothers assist where you can and stop where you can't. If possible whenever they come for money advice them on how to make money because you can't always give them money. May your decisions be right. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by KosiGee(m): 5:48am On Jul 22, 2021 |
@Golden147,
I can understand your predicament but you lied. You might be 24 but definitely not in further education or in your final year. Nothing to be ashamed of bro. You sound like a nice person but you are either naive or your academic limitations are being exploited by some people.
I guess you are an only son. Your mum knows that you support this girl financially and she’s ok with it. If you are a student, what’s your means of sustaining your self and this girl?
One of your girl’s brothers owes you N250k!!
Be honest with yourself. You suffer inferiority complex because of your status. You are into business possibly buying and trading. Am I wrong? You seem to be a hardworking person, reserved, shy and worried.
Your woman’s brothers know what you do for a living and they see how you take care of their sister. They all want slices of the cake that you bake and distribute. You are their Obi Cubana lol.
They know you top up their suster’s phone credit all the time and I’m sure when this girl is home, everyone borrows her phone to make call knowing that she’s well insured by you.
As an only son which I think that you are, your mum is worried. She wants you to get married ASAP and she see your girl as a nice daughter in-law.
You need to man up and make decisions. I’d say...focus on your business. Apologies if I got it wrong.
Focus on whatever business that you are doing. Stop being a Santa Klaus to the brothers. Shine your eyes. The brothers need to pay wherever they are owing you. Don’t be afraid to speak to them. You owe them nothing.
If you are really 24 which I don’t believe that you are, you have years ahead of you to work on your business and on your self.
Btw...you said you were going for ‘Martial’...rite. That word is ‘marital rite’...you can’t be going to your in-laws for martial rite except your woman is a Fulani girl...in that case, be careful of the brothers...I heard that fulanis mercilessly flog the potential bridegroom. 2 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by cescky(m): 5:52am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
It's a lie bro....if I add how much I have spent on the brothers you will pity me...the second son as I talk to you is oweing me 250k nd has refused to pay me...keep giving me excuses....she knows about it...
As a man, you can't endure all this, I have seek advice from different individual.. everyone conderms such act.... By the brothers..... anyways you won't know... match I spent 45k to make sure the last BRO was realized after involving in rubbish act...
Anyways..thank you for your advice. Your not their father you know.. Stop carrying burden that will break your back.. Its not written any where that you must assist them |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Mbomsoniyk: 5:52am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going to her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please Don't start what you cannot finish, if you are ready to marry her, confront his brothers and tell them that you are not comfortable with the way they bug you. Then see how they will try to resist you from marrying their sister and how your wife to be will react to it, you should settle those your concerns before getting married because marriage is a marathon race and not short distanced race. As small as that problem is, it's very significant |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Oracleforce: 5:55am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Lol...I know this advice will eventually surface...but let me ask you. How do you know a man who is ready for marriage, Does age count too or it's because I added my age and her age?? Though I know this is a cooked-up story but for those who might have a similar issue....lemme advise that; When you marry a person, you automatically marry his or her family...this might sound controversial but time will tell... My brother, if there is blessings, progress, peace, etc in your gf family, it will also rob on you...and if there is curse, bondage, failure, unfruitfulness, etc in your gf family, it will rob on you...because the family blood also flows in your wife's body... It is very important to look critically at what is ravaging in that family before you enter...some people here don't have a good home, they would tailor their advice for you to building good homes. 2 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Lamskin: 5:57am On Jul 22, 2021 |
First of bro, age has nothing to do with marriage. Maturity does!
2ndly, experience has taught me that what you cannot finish, it's better you don't start. You have shown her brothers your generosity; stopping now may be really problematic for you. Her brothers have chosen to start behaving irresponsibly even before you guys are legally married and these are "men" who are supposed to be like a father to her in the future. You put that into perspective!
Then I think she didn't shield you enough from her brothers. She exposed you unknowingly by revealing to them everything you do for her and now it's becoming a burden to you. For that one, ur babe no try!.
Finally, it is sometimes sweet to have good and understanding in-laws. I don't see that in your prospective brothers-in-law.
Consider these my brother and make your decision. God bless you! |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by smarttm: 6:00am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please You are in school and 24...what is your source of income bro... |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Love55freas(m): 6:01am On Jul 22, 2021 |
if you love her marry her |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by IAMPEDRO: 6:03am On Jul 22, 2021 |
DaddyRochie1642:
It very obvious that you're not ready for marriage, better follow that Wise advice to avoid Weeping and gnashing your teeth in the Future.
When a man is ready for marriage, he will Feel it inside him.
From your story, your girlfriend told you she'll commit suicide if you leave her.
-- Any Individual on this planet Earth that threatens another individual with "Suicide" is a very Dangerous person because such a person has nothing to loose, and the victim of that "Suicide" threat has everything to Loose.
She has already started subtly threatening you with Suicide, Just pray for your Sake that this your relationship doesn't reach that dangerous and dreaded stage of "If I can't have you, nobody will have you".
For her to indirectly threaten you with Suicide, she'll have no problem in taking your Life and taking her Life too if things don't go her way.
It is well with my Soul.... Amen. I see bundle of Sense here an individual that's already talking about herself commiting suicide is indirectly telling you that she can also kill you when things doesn't go as planned. I think this is another thing to talk to this lady about. You can threaten your life and at the long run you also threatening mine too. Bro you need to really ask her what she would do if she doesn't have you or maybe if things goes wrong. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Staphylococcus: 6:04am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please My mum is single. She will be the best for you. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by highchief1: 6:05am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please how much u get why u Dey talk of marriage ?u have a free puci Dey enjoy yourself and keep quiet. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Mbomsoniyk: 6:06am On Jul 22, 2021 |
As little as this issue might look, it's a significant one. Confront his brothers and tell them that you are not comfortable with the way they bug you and see how they will react to it. This will also give u a clue to know if your fiance is genuinely not in support of their shameful act. Since you are already complaining, it means that you are not obicubana that can change their lives so tackle the issue first |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by vickydevoka(m): 6:07am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please Number 1 rule. Never marry a gal out of pity. Bcus she can't marry u out of pity. I was once like u. But las las I gats leave , poor family no be for me abeg |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Joetttimua1811(m): 6:27am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Hmmmmm, don't leave her she's a good girl also pray about it, draw close to God |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Anuoluwagbemiga: 6:29am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Nothing concerns you about her brothers.Are they thugs , nuisance etc if not face your wife and don't give them space in your home. ..if possible distance yourself from them to avoid hatred ... |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Aringon(m): 6:35am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please Bro, go ahead and marry your woman and relocate from that part of the town to somewhere else. However you are going to be their in-law very soon, try and discuss with theml concerning their future plans, besides are they Graduates or ? |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by Mayflowa(m): 6:37am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Mowii:
My guy bro it is better to marry early jare if you found d right woman but you see my guy, after wedding relocate to a very far away place and warn your wife sternly you don't want her siblings to know where una dy or cook up one bad story make believe story give your wife family that you broke and all beg for food from them omo nah Dem go run Las las
They are leaches and so fucking entitled
Nah you go smart because for der mind money dy your hand This is very funny. It is okay if you did that to test the brothers. Of course, they won't help but just to know if they care by showing concern. I doubt they will call anyway because they found it hard to buy credit to call their sister even. But within normal circumstance, one of the reason for marriage is to gain more families. That is why you hear mother-in-law, brother-in-law etc. If you are marrying to hide, that would be really concerning. Do you know one man can strategize and lift a full family up. I would hate to see my brother-in-law suffer. But I won't keep giving them fish. I must find what they can do and strengthen them to do it. @OP I do not have problem with your marrying your girlfriend. But we will start knowing if your girl is good when you are faced with difficult situation. She seems to get all the life comfort from you. Most people will be loyal under that situation. Does she buy gifts for you with the little money she saved from you. Does she stop you from buying stuffs for her? Can you pretend a little that you have lost everything and someone sold your 4-flat. That means she won't have a house to go to after marriage except to stay under your mom's roof with you? Anyway, many other girls will also fail the test of true love. So the story still end between the familiar devil and strange angel. |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by ade4banji: 6:40am On Jul 22, 2021 |
Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please |
| Re: Married Men In The House Please Advice Me by MrFly(m): 6:41am On Jul 22, 2021 |
@24 u think marriage, why not build ur future first |
