danowena:

Tell your friend that she will remain the wife in Nigeria. He has no plans of living permanently with her under same roof. If in doubt, quote me in 20yrs time and tell me if I am wrong. He already has a wife and family in the US. Nothing like orientation here, it is just the way we are wired. Even the whites are wired same. It is very few of them that will agree to a pre-arranged sexual rump or infidelity. Just the way, they have weird people with weird fantasies over there, we also have people here with such like those that want to watch while their wives is being fired by another man, gays, etc. But no normal man will want the woman back after knowing she has been with someone else. You need to understand that women are wired differently from men and takes sex with other people with a different tolerance.

Well, the man isn't married to anyone over there yet. But, i think he suggested it to his wife so that she doesn't embarrass him, in case human nature beckons. Some ladies needs someone to guide them , instead of leaving them without saying anything or giving consideration to their emotions.

They just want you to talk. It doesn't mean they will go and do it. I think what toks2008 said about using gadgets is reasonable and any man's advice should take that angle

valentineuwakwe:
Nothing much so long as the woman keeps sending the money from abroad, we are ok.

The main thing here is trust n both partners being focus n committed. Distance will never be a barrier!

are you married?

OnlyDeCapPlease:
Trust me, these arrangements are made with the best of intentions. However, humans are weak and Nigerians are weakest. The woman usually ends up getting serviced by somebody else. The man will usually have women back in Nigeria. Some couples know this might happen and they even promise themselves that, God forbid if such should happen, condom must be involved and there should be no romantic involvement. Such arrangement is usually easy for a man but a woman, 9 times out of 10 will start developing feelings for anyone nacking her and will end up getting emotionally involved. She might even get pregnant for this person which will lead her to make an emergency trip back to Nigeria for cover up nacking with her husband.

Either from Man or Woman aak your self in a situation like that does marriage exit?

Map1:
Either from Man or Woman aak your self in a situation like that does marriage exit?

Sometimes the financial situation in a marriage is so hopeless that something has to be done. If nothing is done, the marriage might still scatter due to extreme financial tension. Its one thing or another.

OnlyDeCapPlease:


Sometimes the financial situation in a marriage is so hopeless that something has to be done. If nothing is done, the marriage might still scatter due to extreme financial tension. Its one thing or another.

I as a person no matter how the case might be,i can never embark on such a mission and i will never take it from a woman am married to

MufasaLion:


You may be right but no man will ever allow his woman to be fvcked even by a stranger! And once the man agree to it, forget it there won't be love between them both again just lust.

My colleagues husband allowed her. They had a son before he left who is 7 yrs but has come back twice in those years including just the past Christmas. If you see the mad ride he sent her last mth...

He told her just don't make it obvious.It is happening but Alot of Nigerian guys disbelief it reason why paternity fraud is rampant here. Imagine 7 yrs without your partner

LadySarah:


My colleagues husband allowed her. They had a son before he left who is 7 yrs but has come back twice in those years including just the past Christmas. If you see the mad ride he sent her last mth...

He told her just don't make it obvious.It is happening but Alot of Nigerian guys disbelief it reason why paternity fraud is rampant here. Imagine 7 yrs without your partner

That type of man is rare and I think he's dropped his African mentality too because an average African man ain't gonna allow that.

Map1:
I as a person no matter how the case might be,i can never embark on such a mission and i will never take it from a woman am married to

I have personally never been in such situation, but I closely know 2 people that were. Their financial situation was very very bad with children to take care of. They were tired of being charity case and taking insults from all and sundry. The opportunity came up for the woman to relocate and they grabbed it with 4 hands. Just pray that you never find yourself in such a situation.

Wetin concerns me so long as say the woman dey send money come naija she can do as she wish who sex epp, after all if u die she go still have her engine serviced by another man.

Tajbol4splend:
Do they also call it marriage?

Long distance marriage

Kuriosmynd:

I only pity the husband

lol , why are you putting the husband ? Do you pity women when their husbands are distributing penys up and down ?

Kuriosmynd:

Lol... exactly....and the babe came from a rich family.. she got relocation through study immediately after the wedding...and my cousin has been stranded here since

You see my point, he us stranded but have hope that one day, he will get there

MufasaLion:


You may be right but no man will ever allow his woman to be fvcked even by a stranger! And once the man agree to it, forget it there won't be love between them both again just lust.

lol but you people be knacking any and everything and still expect love ? Lol , women are now following in your footsteps .

TWLifestyle:
lol but you people be knacking any and everything and still expect love ? Lol , women are now following in your footsteps .

That's called cheating

paulolee:
my guy e no easy oo...
one of my bros for jand bin de send moni Gv e wife for lag n also de send small tips give my big broda to de police him wife codedly based on Wetin him de hear about naija women n him de work on papers make the wife kum join am for jand before covid spoil plans..
my big bro say, d Kain tin wey e de hear n see the wife do with her fellow cartel babes eeh, him no fit open mouth tell big bros for jand based on say d marriage go scatter
but when he notice say d wife Kum de constantly log out with big men, him use anonymous number text her say if she no stop am, her husband go hear all with pictures as proves...
na then d wife reply n start to de beg say she no go like Mk the husband hear based on say the husband de build family ous for her parents for town n the news go follow spoil d marriage...
na so she take stop d Waka Waka o BT streets boys know say na just pretending tiz n she go jus de run d map very codedly, maybe other states bcox a hoe is always a hoe..

it's so funny when you people describe women as hoes - the master hoe gender calling women hoes . Lol

OnlyDeCapPlease:


I have personally never been in such situation, but I closely know 2 people that were. Their financial situation was very very bad with children to take care of. They were tired of being charity case and taking insults from all and sundry. The opportunity came up for the woman to relocate and they grabbed it with 4 hands. Just pray that you never find yourself in such a situation.

hnmmmmm

TWLifestyle:
it's so funny when you people describe women as hoes - the master hoe gender calling women hoes . Lol

lolz

Well I don’t know about the man, but I’ve seen women who keep themselves for years without sex, some are young widows and after their husbands pass on, they won’t remarry or get involved with another man but they will stay for the kids and train them singlehanded, you see women can control their urge better than men, she might masturbate when she’s Hot but might not just cheat. Know this nd know peace

caandi:
Well I don’t know about the man, but I’ve seen women who keep themselves for years without sex, some are young widows and after their husbands pass on, they won’t remarry or get involved with another man but they will stay for the kids and train them singlehanded, you see women can control their urge better than men, she might masturbate when she’s Hot but might not just cheat. Know this nd know peace

It's a lie. U can never know a woman's sexual habit, because if she had a fling or one night stand somewhere, she will never come out to say it, especially when she's trying to protect her image

Divinehealer:


Same way women manage when their husbands travel abroad. Same way his wife is managing in the abroad.
If she is the bread winner, she is allowed to date other men (afterall that is the excuse men use to sleep around) It's her money, if she can comfortably care for husby and side boos, let her enjoy. Abi is that pill too bitter for hypocritical men to swallow? That same pill women ń have been forced to swallow since Adam.

it's always so funny seeing men wail hypocritically about how painful cheating is - something they forced down the throats of women under the misguided notion that they are naturally polygamous - they are just learning now that women too are naturally polygamous - very bitter lesson

danowena:

Tell your friend that she will remain the wife in Nigeria. He has no plans of living permanently with her under same roof. If in doubt, quote me in 20yrs time and tell me if I am wrong. He already has a wife and family in the US. Nothing like orientation here, it is just the way we are wired. Even the whites are wired same. It is very few of them that will agree to a pre-arranged sexual rump or infidelity. Just the way, they have weird people with weird fantasies over there, we also have people here with such like those that want to watch while their wives is being fired by another man, gays, etc. But no normal man will want the woman back after knowing she has been with someone else. You need to understand that women are wired differently from men and takes sex with other people with a different tolerance.

womwn are not wired differently- they were forced to accept your cheating because of the patriarchal nature of our culture . Women are also naturally polygamous - as a lot of.you have started learning . By the time we teach you ppl finish we will either all become monogamous or all become polygamous .

TolaniLuv:
They are some men in Lagos who specialize on knackin people’s wives weh their husband lives abroad and they always proud to say it. I just feel pity For them. Mostly their lives end up miserably, long distance relationships is a scam. It’s takes a man with understanding to keep up, even some men abroad married for paper and their woman know for 9ja I don’t understand

why would their lives end miserably ? Lol . If cheating while married would make your life end miserably probably 90% of Nigerian men should be dying miserably becos they cheat on their wives.

Toks2008:

Your conclusion is twisted...

Guys come back home to marry SO THAT THEY CAN MARRY A WOMAN WHO WILL NOT CONTROL THEM.

Western ladies are mostly control freaks and you go weak when you see the ^AY they call the shots.

it 9s your own conclusion that is twisted - any woman an African man cannot control to him means she is the one controlling him- the only reason they feel oyinbo women control them is becos they cannot control her . Asking for equality from a typical africqn man to him means you want to control him .

MufasaLion:



You're right, but I see no wrong in their mentality because they can still be tamed.

pls - are you running a zoo ? This one that you want to be "taming" humans .

TWLifestyle:
pls - are you running a zoo ? This one that you want to be "taming" humans .

Women zoo

Toks2008:


There is no justification for a lady doking outside her marriage. There are realistic sx toys that will keep the lady sexually active for years without the risk of infections... There are many ladies abroad who have been on intimacy gadgets for many years.

That guy try o to ever give his wife such advise.

but there is justificatuon for men, right ? Lol . You ppl dont know anything - that's why hypocrisy is bad . U ppl are just learning that women too dont like eating same dish all the time. Looooool - we like rice a lot but beans too is good every once in a while .

Toks2008:

Well I will respond realistically...

Yes there is no realistic sx toy for a man anywhere... Argue with your keyboard on that.

And please let me give you a sound advise which you may accept or discard...

Never ever put the sexual chastity of a man n a woman on the same scale.

Only mature and reasonable ladies will relate.

you peoples hypocrisy is your biggest problem and undoing - how long did you think holding women to a certain standard while letting men roam freely would last ? You think distributing penis up and down would not reduce the loyalty your wife has for you ? You think slaying everything in skirt would not cause resentment in any wife ? Let me tell you something - a woman might not go looking to cheat but if it comes her way and she knows her husband cheats - she likely will not say no - especially women of nowadays .

TWLifestyle:
why would their lives end miserably ? Lol . If cheating while married would make your life end miserably probably 90% of Nigerian men should be dying miserably becos they cheat on their wives.

So, you are justifying cheating? And Una claim to be most religious country in the world ?

TolaniLuv:


So, you are justifying cheating? And Una claim to be most religious country in the world ?

cheating can't be ruled out in life

following

TWLifestyle:
womwn are not wired differently- they were forced to accept your cheating because of the patriarchal nature of our culture . Women are also naturally polygamous - as a lot of.you have started learning . By the time we teach you ppl finish we will either all become monogamous or all become polygamous .

na
You will just be left unmarried

TWLifestyle:
you peoples hypocrisy is your biggest problem and undoing - how long did you think holding women to a certain standard while letting men roam freely would last ? You think distributing penis up and down would not reduce the loyalty your wife has for you ? You think slaying everything in skirt would not cause resentment in any wife ? Let me tell you something - a woman might not go looking to cheat but if it comes her way and she knows her husband cheats - she likely will not say no - especially women of nowadays .

men getting multiple �. Women buying dogs and dying alone