Ishilove:
LIES. Did she leave with 5 kids because of allowance? How will she cater for 5 children alone?

Richy4:




I'm through with you... But I must leave u with these
<<< try and do something about your frustrated life.. see a therapist or psychiatrists.. That initial outburst without provocation was not normal... It won't be fair on someone who was genuinely seeking for advice to appear on a forum like this only for you to pour all your venom of frustration on that person..

Have a good day dear.. it's good to know you no matter how unpleasant it was...

Olivertwist1985:
I want to thank you all for your advice and comments.
I want to clear some issues that some people brought fort.

1.The issue of domestic violence does not arise between her and me.I don't beat or fight her.

2. When I was working I established business for her and the business is not doing bad.

3.iam not totally jobless, I have a handwork, that is solar energy installations, CCTV camera and dstv,startime and general satellites installation, I told her that I will be supporting whenever I get jobs but she said ,she need it in bulk as I normally used to give her whenever I received my salary at the end of the months

4.Another issue is that of bearing kids which I cannot take care of them,.Actually my wife didn't support family, when she gave birth to our third Child, i told her that we should embarked on family planning but she turned it down, citing that her mother did not do ,hence she can't do it as well.Even another issue that she complained when she reported the case to my pastor before she finally left,was that we sleeping on the same bed for about two weeks but I am seeing her like a log of wood but for me iam afraid of anything pregnancy because the loads are too much on me.

Thanks you all for your advices,
May God bless.

BarrElChapo:
God please o.. this story is scary just like that cos of one month of missed feeding allowance after 13 years.. its almost unbelievable

Olivertwist1985:
My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

Neddstark:


Triple your hustle. Take care of your three boys. Don't accept that woman back

Pharaoh4rin:


Walai you're a basketmouth

Me? I swear I'm harmless..

Olivertwist1985:
I want to thank you all for your advice and comments.
I want to clear some issues that some people brought fort.

1.The issue of domestic violence does not arise between her and me.I don't beat or fight her.

2. When I was working I established business for her and the business is not doing bad.

3.iam not totally jobless, I have a handwork, that is solar energy installations, CCTV camera and dstv,startime and general satellites installation, I told her that I will be supporting whenever I get jobs but she said ,she need it in bulk as I normally used to give her whenever I received my salary at the end of the months

4.Another issue is that of bearing kids which I cannot take care of them,.Actually my wife didn't support family, when she gave birth to our third Child, i told her that we should embarked on family planning but she turned it down, citing that her mother did not do ,hence she can't do it as well.Even another issue that she complained when she reported the case to my pastor before she finally left,was that we sleeping on the same bed for about two weeks but I am seeing her like a log of wood but for me iam afraid of anything pregnancy because the loads are too much on me.

Thanks you all for your advices,
May God bless.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

chatinent:
Hello,

First, I don't support the way she left. Marriage should not be all honey and darling when the going is good.

You guys didn't have any outstanding issue apart from the money thing? No quarrel ...no beating?

If that's the case, I think you should call her mobile phone.

I think you should try to meet her and discuss issues together.

Crowdfunding for public advice may not be too good sha. Awon redpills are coming to tell you to take in another woman.


Wouldn't another woman leave too if it is unbearable?

You don't need to be a redpill. You need to be an alpha gentleman. You need to know your responsibilities as though they were your body parts.

I must say... I hate it when families know husband and wife are having an issue.

We shouldn't listen to our family sometimes.

Check: they are all concentrating on the woman but none of them is telling you be more responsible. Of course, they'll support you with words. Will words help you take care of your family?

When I mean trying your best, I mean living up to the expectations of being a man; it is your responsibility to take care of your family! You don't bear children more than you can take care of.

You may rightly argue differently that you work hard. Sure, you do. But you aren't working harder enough for the family. You need to man up.

Bring your wife back.

Be the husband you'd want your daughter to have.

Be like the man who was sent to the lions to be eaten but came back leading the pride.

Please don't forget to buzz me when she is back make I come chop nkwobi biko.

You are welcome.

bukatyne:


Prior to this job loss, how was the relationship between the both of you?

If you have lost your job, why does she still expect you to foot the bills like you normally do?

Does she earn? If yes, does she contribute to the family pot?

What have you done to secure another source of income? You have five kids which is a lot in today's economy and everything is freaking expensive in the market right now.

What should you do?

Ignore your family and invite her back home to discuss the your issues.

I believe she told you she was going to her family house during the misunderstanding that's why you immediately knew where she went to with the kids.

I would have said you go to your in-laws house however, if they did not deem it fit to intervene/resolve the issue, then leave them out like your parents. Both in-laws seem to have given up on the marriage which goes back to my first question:

How was the marriage pre- job loss?

During your engagement, also assert that you would not tolerate her leaving home for issues anymore except they are life/death and she is willing to end the marriage.

With hardwork, you will break through.

Amen.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

Omolarablg:
Sir, be strong and courageous.

Examine yourself well, and ask yourself this questions

1) when you were in money,how did you treat your wife?did you treat her nicely by giving her money to buy things for herself and the kids or did you do otherwise to her by maltreating her financially?

2) When you were in money, do you save or whatever you have you spend it the way you like, as if there's no tomorrow?

3) When you were in money, how well do you pay your tithe and how close are you in serving God?

There's a saying that if you want to know the level of humility of a man, you'll definitely know when he's broke but if you want to know the level of arrogant and pride of a man, that's if he's in money and power.

Well, there's a possibility that your wife got married to you because of the money you had then, but not for TRUE LOVE, and now that you are broke financially, instead of her to patiently and prayerfully assist you and the family for a while, she rather left , but I won't really blame her because nobody knows how you treated her when you were in money then.

So for now, you need to get closer to God, ask him for mercy and take you to the land of prosperity.

I don't know how close is your relationship with your male friends, but I believe if you tell them you are searching for a job, I believe if they are good friends,they should be able to assist you, in case there's a vacancy in their place of work.

Pray to God to restore you back, to the land of blessing and prosperity.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

AutoChick4U:
Remember she has a baby, probably went to her parent house so food will reach d other kids

chatinent:
Hello,

First, I don't support the way she left. Marriage should not be all honey and darling when the going is good.

You guys didn't have any outstanding issue apart from the money thing? No quarrel ...no beating?

If that's the case, I think you should call her mobile phone.

I think you should try to meet her and discuss issues together.

Crowdfunding for public advice may not be too good sha. Awon redpills are coming to tell you to take in another woman.


Wouldn't another woman leave too if it is unbearable?

You don't need to be a redpill. You need to be an alpha gentleman. You need to know your responsibilities as though they were your body parts.

I must say... I hate it when families know husband and wife are having an issue.

We shouldn't listen to our family sometimes.

Check: they are all concentrating on the woman but none of them is telling you be more responsible. Of course, they'll support you with words. Will words help you take care of your family?

When I mean trying your best, I mean living up to the expectations of being a man; it is your responsibility to take care of your family! You don't bear children more than you can take care of.

You may rightly argue differently that you work hard. Sure, you do. But you aren't working harder enough for the family. You need to man up.

Bring your wife back.

Be the husband you'd want your daughter to have.

Be like the man who was sent to the lions to be eaten but came back leading the pride.

Please don't forget to buzz me when she is back make I come chop nkwobi biko.

You are welcome.

MadamVanessa:


Very stupiid and useless comment


For one month a man failed to give the wife money due to some financial crisis, which was not deliberate, a woman have the gut to packed out of a man's house without even telling him. Who does that? She was never a wife , she only stick to the guy because all was rosy, it it's also a clear indication that woman didn't love the husband.



To the OP, forget about that kind of woman, she doesn't worth it. I pray you get you fit back on track.


I am a woman, i can never support her.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

AutoChick4U:
You believe its because he missed just a month of allowance?

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!