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ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Congratulations idiot.

joshuaidibia:
You be heavy mumu. I no pity you one bit. You deserve what you got. You're getting married to someone and u don't know her age. Ode. You did court wedding without your parents. Let me ask you. How did her brother sign for you when the court registry always gives a form to fill weeks before the court wedding,in that form you will write down the names and details of those that will sign. At least this is what I passed through from Abuja Registry. I don't believe your story though. I don't believe someone as old as you can be this stupid and weakling. I spit on your childishness

that's what happened to me

Or

Should I run away to another country

Drmkast:
bro before its too late,disbantle that shit called marriage with her ,run for your life beside you are not smart enough ,beside am sure shes older than you . wohhhh saaa run for your life

thanks

this your matter pass me o

Me I need the contact of that babalawo that revealed this

ChineduChinedu:
This message is from her yesterday


Baby pls, I love u and u know it. I'm so sorry for all I did to u.

That was why I didn't want to tell u anything that will harm our love or harm you. I don't want to say anything about my past because, I was hurt and deceived. I vowed never to love any man after what happened to me. That man met me at my teenage age. I just finished my secondary school. He promised to send me to the university. I was blind and deceived. He took my virginity. I never knew anything abt love. I got pregnant, He said he was gonna marry me. I said okay. After that, I got pregnant for the second child all in the name of you are gonna be ma wife. Then the 3rd one came. I suffered alot in the hands of that man.

While all this was happening, he never went to ma village to pay anything on ma head. Even his family people kept saying we are just having a relationship. Since he hasnt done anything on ma head.

I asked him when is he going to pay my dowry, he kept saying later. Not until he met this woman he got married to and went straight to marry her. Did court marriage. When people who knew him asked him abt me, he said he has never been married, that It was just a fruitful relationship.

I wept and cried to God. And I said to God, fight ma battle. This battle isn't mine. My life was scattered. I looked like a lost girl. I wanted to end ma life, buh God & my family gave me reasons to stay alive.

I vowed never to love and trust any man again in ma life. Not until I met u. I always call u my Hero ��buh u won't understand. U gave me reason to love again. U gave me reason to laugh sincerely, to live again, u gave me comfort, u gave me strength. �����. Ur coming to.me made me believe God answers prayers. U won't understand. Buh God knows I'm writing this msg with tears dropping from ma eyes�����. U wiped ma hidden tears, u made me feel loved again. Tell me, why will I want to hurt someone who made me see reason to live again by telling him what will make him leave me for real. �����

I'm so sorry, I didn't want to lose you or lose our love. �����. Before now, we have been living like twins, not until this news came up and kept us like this. ��.

Words cannot express how sorry I am. Whatever judgement u pass, just remember I will always love u���. And I won't love anyone with ma whole heart anymore.

Punish me, do whatever u wish to.do, buh pls consider the fact that no one is perfect. I'm carrying ur child. Don't abandon us. Even if u don't want to marry me again, no problem. Just don't abandon us. Grant ur baby and I the access to see u. Grant ur baby boy the access to call u dad. That's all I ask. Grant me the access to call u on the phone and ask u how u are doing. U remain the love of ma life.�������

U know I'm not after money, I always manage ur money, and always tell u to invest and make more money.

It hasn't been easy for me, since that Saturday, I felt like ending ma life����. I asked ma self, what's there to life for, buh people around me held me back. All I Seek and ask is to just call me and speak to me. No Matter how angry u are. It has not been easy for me in this condition ������


My Hero, I beg u, we have been living in peace before this news came, pls I beg of u, have mercy ������ My Heavenly Father Knows I sincerely Love you. I can't do anything to hurt u. Pls my love have mercy ����������������


This message is from her yesterday

If you love yourself, just disregard that message and go and build your life.

You can PM me and let's discuss.

ChineduChinedu:
This message is from her yesterday


Baby pls, I love u and u know it. I'm so sorry for all I did to u.

That was why I didn't want to tell u anything that will harm our love or harm you. I don't want to say anything about my past because, I was hurt and deceived. I vowed never to love any man after what happened to me. That man met me at my teenage age. I just finished my secondary school. He promised to send me to the university. I was blind and deceived. He took my virginity. I never knew anything abt love. I got pregnant, He said he was gonna marry me. I said okay. After that, I got pregnant for the second child all in the name of you are gonna be ma wife. Then the 3rd one came. I suffered alot in the hands of that man.

While all this was happening, he never went to ma village to pay anything on ma head. Even his family people kept saying we are just having a relationship. Since he hasnt done anything on ma head.

I asked him when is he going to pay my dowry, he kept saying later. Not until he met this woman he got married to and went straight to marry her. Did court marriage. When people who knew him asked him abt me, he said he has never been married, that It was just a fruitful relationship.

I wept and cried to God. And I said to God, fight ma battle. This battle isn't mine. My life was scattered. I looked like a lost girl. I wanted to end ma life, buh God & my family gave me reasons to stay alive.

I vowed never to love and trust any man again in ma life. Not until I met u. I always call u my Hero ��buh u won't understand. U gave me reason to love again. U gave me reason to laugh sincerely, to live again, u gave me comfort, u gave me strength. �����. Ur coming to.me made me believe God answers prayers. U won't understand. Buh God knows I'm writing this msg with tears dropping from ma eyes�����. U wiped ma hidden tears, u made me feel loved again. Tell me, why will I want to hurt someone who made me see reason to live again by telling him what will make him leave me for real. �����

I'm so sorry, I didn't want to lose you or lose our love. �����. Before now, we have been living like twins, not until this news came up and kept us like this. ��.

Words cannot express how sorry I am. Whatever judgement u pass, just remember I will always love u���. And I won't love anyone with ma whole heart anymore.

Punish me, do whatever u wish to.do, buh pls consider the fact that no one is perfect. I'm carrying ur child. Don't abandon us. Even if u don't want to marry me again, no problem. Just don't abandon us. Grant ur baby and I the access to see u. Grant ur baby boy the access to call u dad. That's all I ask. Grant me the access to call u on the phone and ask u how u are doing. U remain the love of ma life.�������

U know I'm not after money, I always manage ur money, and always tell u to invest and make more money.

It hasn't been easy for me, since that Saturday, I felt like ending ma life����. I asked ma self, what's there to life for, buh people around me held me back. All I Seek and ask is to just call me and speak to me. No Matter how angry u are. It has not been easy for me in this condition ������


My Hero, I beg u, we have been living in peace before this news came, pls I beg of u, have mercy ������ My Heavenly Father Knows I sincerely Love you. I can't do anything to hurt u. Pls my love have mercy ����������������


...This message is from her yesterday

Anything 'love' in that message, use cleaner to wipe it off and now press control delete on ur phone.... then go to recycle bin to delete it permanently......
Chinedu ....there are many gals out there who can like u same way and more. If u fall for this cheap emotional baggage and manipulation. that's the beginning of ur end in life. Her tears is meaningless. Ur life is more important.
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It's either u make her happy and lose ur own happiness for life, or u run to make urself happy from afar,,,,she will find her way out...
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If u believe one sentence of this story...then you are an irredeemable big fooool. Even if the story is real....are u her savior? Did u come to die for her sin and carry all her life problem? U better wake up....
This woman can charm u for her own selfish end..she can tie u forever, and she will still justifying it.
Run away from a desperate bittch.. a better woman will tell u the truth...a better woman won't maltreat u and turn u to houseboy...u better thank your God that the secret got leaked out.. if not ur life will have been like hell in that marriage cos she will use everything she has to control u, ur family member, and make life miserable for u...run o...run o...
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Don't even reply her messages.. don't...run o, if u like ur life

DukeNija:
Divorce that witch. Mumu man. Go and speak to a lawyer.

Ok I have a lawyer already

ChineduChinedu:
She said she dreamed were I cheated on her and marry someone else that's why she insisted of leaving if I didn't do the court marriage

All their family members hide this secret from me, they intend to tell me after the wedding

You guys may be wondering how I enter this problem
I wasn't into girls at all
I don't anything about girl cuz am a very shy type
For 30 years am a Virgin until I met a surger momy who toast me and took my virginity.
I broke up with my sugar momy immediately I met this girl

I don't know anything about women at all
That's how I landed into this problem
Make una help abeg

U need some redpills, go and read all ubunja thread on Nairaland or if u have money then buy iLegendd books

Woman wen get 3 kids sure you supposed know when she remove cloth for body

Na kpekus you dey enjoy and forget to ask her why her breasts flat

*Spit*

siofra:
All these are LIES

abiyou too get 3 pikin

ChineduChinedu:
am not into women
I lost my virginity at the age of 30

Bro u should hav been into women...u really missd alot

pearlyboo:
It's sad that this is happening if the story is actually true. Tell aunty u no dey do again. That's d height of deceit in a young marriage. Not 1 but 3. If u were privy to this info before u fixed the dates and still accepted to marry her ,that would hv been fair. She shouts at you from all u have said. Give her a divorce. When baby is born ,if u are not convinced, do a DNA. If the child is urs ,u care for the baby n move on with ur life. Next time shine ya eye well well. Sorry for what u have had to go through.

thanks

Gokoyer0:
Mr Man, if you don't flee for your life, she is ready to cut your life short. I repeat, forget the marriage and run. I didn't believe such a man like you still exists. Your family didn't even approve the wedding and you allowed his brother to sign the wedding certificate.

Go to your family, particular your parents and beg them before your storm out of the marriage and flee from her.

thanks

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Go to court and divorce her , they will even charge her sef cos she married you under false pretense.

chival:
For me, the kids aren't really the issue. The deception is. A person capable of such coldly calculated manipulation is capable of every evil under the sun. The young man should run.

Ya

advanceDNA:
This is Nigeria ...nobody takes half of your property and give to a woman....

If your story is true....

Nigga... walk away...
Walk away and never return...

But sounds like a fabricated story shaa

it true bto

Stop killing me here please

chatinent:

Ok o.

We will come back to this later.


Okay?


Okay?


You gotta be kidding me.


On the wedding day, you were sleeping with her?

Okay?


If you cancelled the church wedding which was in 2nd October, it meant you did the court marriage two days ago with her.


I thought as much.

Remember the first day after court wedding was October 1st? And second was the wedding you said you cancelled?


The same day you cancelled the wedding? You are begging her to stay?

Not adding up anymore. Well, let's continue.


Ok?

I pray you are not up to forty yet. I just pray because there is a permanent adage waiting for you.


Okay?


30 + 10 = 40. Okay, e no go tey you reach the adage.


Eight months?
She controls you?
She shouts at you?
If you refuse, tell us the truth, she beats you blue and black.

It's okay, my brother.



Hello,
I will tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. But before then, let me recap what you told her when you met intially:

This is what you told her, and that is what she did for you.

Now back to what I was saying, I will tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. I won't lie, ibu onye iberibe. In anything you are doing in this life, try as much as possible make me and you no jam for road abeg.

DubaiLandLord2:
Who dey raise irritating sons like you guys of now adays sef

Some of you men are just so weak when it comes to women.

I don't pray I have sons like you as my child.

aah is not my fault, the toto sweet die

ChineduChinedu:
thanks man

You are most welcome, she and her family planned it . Just do it quickly, divorcing her will be very easy now that it just happened and if possible you stay away from whatever she cook, stop eating her food or drink for now.

Yahoo boiz see ur client oo

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Greenbottlelady:
Divorce, I have a lawyer who can see you through the process, how are you so sure that you're even the father of the baby she's carrying?

we have been living together till the church wedding we separate

Fiction i guess

ChineduChinedu:
Am frustrated guy
The father of those kids are married to another women with kids too and they did court marriage too

Guy.. that woman hitting that sensitive stuff from the beginning is wrong. Forcing or working on ur brain for u to do court marriage with her is mischievous, having his brother stand for u without any of ur people is crazy.
That woman or should I say ur new is wicked bt the did is done.
1)SEARCH YOUSELF , IF U CAN HANDLE IT AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT IF U CANT, RUN AS FAR AS YOUR LEGS CAN CARRY U BUT DONT FORGET YOUR CHILD.
2) ARE U SURE ITS YOUR CHILD

30yrs old man u r a mumu man to beat u dey hungry me

CsRockefeller:
Men!!! This is a tough one. Now that a child is involved makes everything complicated.

Nothing is complicated...some of you are not even better than the OP...ozuor....cheap tears and manipulation u are already alter saying it's complicated...pvssy ass nigga

Chai, if I am your parents, I will disown you. Go to court as fast as possible now that your evidence is still fresh.

You Dey vex me I swear

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Well i will luv to hear how u lost ur virginity to d sugar mummy.who made first move?Also,i will advise u not to trust someone who cld hide something this important frm u.Its obvious she preyed on ur innocence

File for divorce immediately on the ground of fraudulent misrepresentation, that she deliberately hid material facts, misleading you to enter into the fraudulent marriage. Hiding such information is enough ground to dissolve the fraud you called marriage. But note this that you will lose some of your rights because she is already pregnant for you.

marcoli:
Come on guys, can't you all see this is a writing script. This is just a fake story. Person with 13yrs old son and he's just 30yrs. This news just fairly tale.


If he thinks it's real he should shows pics, location and every possible evidence to proof

please I can't show those this u asked for for security reasons

As for this story is real
Is my store
I met this girl in Lagos
For 30 years I have been a Virgin

If I knew life will be like this to me
I for start wen I was 10 years self

;Dop wan use us catch cruise

Wat a big lie chaiii

leksymaxy:
Bro if you are in lagos, let us meet and talk and I am sure that you Wil laugh at last. You see that devil you called wife will one day poison you and take all the money you are scared of losing. Divorce the bitch now ND have rest of mind. I dey ipaja ayobo side in lagos

I dey lekki