₦airaland Forum

Ofadaman:
Just say you're an introvert and don't know how to approach women ,nobody will beat you , you have insecurities about your looks and lack of money further exhaberrated the situation.

This is because I know many broke guys who are fvking very rich and pretty women (I for one).

In situation like this, you'd have to do two things,either make money or build your confidence, if you know women they fall for persistent and petty things and before they realize you don't enter the place, if you fvk them wel they'd come back fr it, if you don't, well just like Kpokpogri, just have comfort that you've fvked them,, the more you fvk the better your confidence

Munzy14:
Lol...okwa ya.

EriboEghosa:
C'mon, I think your problem is more than just sex!
2 years is nothing! I have not had sex since 2007 and am 29 now. I would have been proud to be a virgin now, if not that I was sexually abused around that year by an older female relative who stayed with us. Anyway, I've forgotten all that, only have the memories.

Back to the matter.
What you need is to get busy productively. Find a purpose, something you can live for in which you can glorify God through and bless your generation.

Secondly, change your mindset about sex. Anyone can control himself. Self control is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Ask God to help you. It's not as if I don't have the urge to have sex myself, of course I do. The difference is that I'm gaining mastery over my flesh by the help of the holy spirit. Even if you have sex today, assure you the konji would not die, it would only increase and trigger the urge more.

Start looking for more than having sex, pray and work towards getting married now that you have a job.

In addition, renew your mond by the word of God. Scriptures keeps us from sinning. When the Holy Spirit dwells on it, our flesh dies and we become alive unto righteousness. What you need is a renewal of your mind else, even if you get married, like I suggested, you will still have the strong urge to have sex.

Lastly, see a man of God in a Bible Believing church or a maturing Christian for counselling. Believe me brother, there are many people who have crossed this river you're in now and they didn't get drown, God helped them. They can help you too.
There are many brothers and sisters who have been living sexually pure for decades (without any problems with their sexual organs), they have sexual urges both the Holy Spirit is helping them.
Meet them to help you!
Become more committed with the things of God.

This is my counsel for you to bring a lasting solution. It might not be a popular one, but it's from a scriptural point of view. It has been working for me and many others and if only you give it a thought and practice, you will come back testifying again!

It is well with you.

lucky4west:
sex is not a big deal...fix your finances and your life will turn out just fine...but remember God hates fornication, adultery etc....give your life to Jesus Christ fully and let the word and love of God dwell richly in your heart...cheers

Monday60655:
My brother you are not adding any value to your life. Please my brother give your life to God and accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour.
Do you know may be the reason why God never bless you with the money that you cried that you don't have is because God knows that if He made money available for you, you will end up spending it on women and sex.
Please forget about the sin of sex which destroy your destiny, focus on identifying your self. Then when you feel is the right time to get married. You marry.

iLoveYouToo:
The after effects of getting cheated on is usually deeper than most people understand

Damian10:
What i have being able to gather from all that you've said is you are lacking in confidence with the opposite sex right now due to being broke as f**, not feeling physically appealing. Well bro there is a lady for every man regardless of being broke, short, too tall, etc just be you, try to be confident because if you are not, it could be a massive turn off to dem girls, try to be neat and well dress even if you don't have money. Not all girls are bimbo, the reasonable ones will spot your ambition and where you are going to in life that is if you are not lazy. Lastly take some pride in your talent, (if you got one) put it on display it works like magic, Girls love talent.

khiaa:
It's a she*male.

khiaa:
I wasn't talking about me but the one you posted the question to. The creature you described is a hermaphrodite, the person you asked the question is a she.male/transgender*A man who dresses like and identifies as a woman like Bobrisky.

Hopeba:
y are you asking

khiaa:
Don't mind me, I'm bored and being silly, it's 5:am here and I haven't went to bed yet.

MisterKennedy:
because I was wondering if you could hook me up with at least one of your girls. I want to lash. Just one is enough. I've been trying to get a girlfriend but its been an uphill battle. But now I'm more into flings and quickies. If I could lash just one of your girls or have her as my girlfriend, I'll be more than happy.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as i understand your stand, remember that, whether in Nigeria OR Jeruslaem, you need to focus on "better yourself" 1st before thinking of women. if you cant get 3 square meals a day, and/or dont even have a place of your own then your priorities in life is to fix that before going after women.



i do understand that the majority of Nigerian men A) think very little of themselves and B) believe that the only way to get a woman is by having money. these sad men have been brainwashed by these good for nothing women oloshos into believing that to approach a woman, you need to have cold cash to throw at that miserable mentally broken being.
again, you certainly dont need money to attract a good woman in your life, you only need money to attract pay as you go oloshos that value men upon the money they spend on her.
A WOMEN WHO DOESNT VALUE YOU WHEN YOU ARE BROKE HAS NO BUSINESS BEING IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU FINALLY MAKE MONEY!

mariahAngel:
Mba.

O si na ya wu onye Ngor-okpala, but his mum is from our side.

Anuoluwa12345:
Awnn awnn, thanks so much... , am blushing

4ormidable:
It's my pleasure, brother.

But all glory be to God, Almighty.

Munzy14:
Ngor-okpala nwenuru udi olu anyi...


Mama ya awuru nwanne gi...

O rutere ulo na..Ya wuru Owerri ha si ya ba ta ma ulo wuzi nke gi na ya..

mariahAngel:
Mba.

O si na ya wu onye Ngor-okpala, but his mum is from our side.

Hopeba:
where are you at

mariahAngel:
What do you call umere-nne in your own dialect?

MisterKennedy:
MariahAngel I'm really enjoying your chats ooo

You seem to to be a very free spirited, happy, loveable, jovial and fun to to be with woman

MisterKennedy:
MariahAngel I'm really enjoying your chats ooo

You seem to to be a very free spirited, happy, loveable, jovial and fun to to be with woman

Munzy14:
Umune m..

We use our momsy dialect..From Ogbe...In My LGA too.

mariahAngel:
Really? It sounds like umunne m when I try to say it.

mariahAngel:
Thank you.

Hopeba:
guess uv seen it right

Munzy14:
Yes..Amahu kwanu m olu anyi asu, mana mma m kwuo pim, i ga amata ebe oshi bia.


You cannever know where I come from unless I tell you.

One of my customer/neighbour I was with her and her hubby on Sunday she come ask if ma m wu onye Owerri, ma si ya mba, gwa zie ya ebe m si...She was surprised..

They couldn't figure out after transacting business with them for almost 2years now.

mariahAngel:
What dialect do you prefer to speak generally?

Munzy14:
Did he get the description?

mariahAngel:
Thank you.

mariahAngel:
A ma'm.

He's the second person that has told me that today.

MisterKennedy:
Wow bro, this is the best advice that I've read here so far. I've been reading everybody's advice but yours is the best.

I also want to thank you because it was like you were also speaking to me.

I do have issues with low self esteem. And I never speak with confidence. But you've reiterated the importance of being confident and I'll try to work on that.

Even though I'm a stammer and that's the main reason why I don't speak with confidence. But I'll work on it.

Thank you so much for your advice bro. God bless you.