Toks2008:


I don modify that part to avoid erroneous conclusions. So let's focus on something else.

Toks2008:


I undrstand your point but it still does not change the narrative that REAL MEN see no big deal in marrying a single mum. That does not mean men don't have a choice to make.

Toks2008:


See as for ladies being selective, we can't change that cos the heart wants what it wants. Let them just have a baby first so they will calm down to be with the man that pleases them.

Believe it or not,in most cases, single mums get the best men.

Iyaebe:
lol, let fix a date to get mine

Vickyvice:
none of my sons go marry single mum, no way

AfroKnight:


And those who decide they do not want to marry single mothers are not REAL MEN?

It’s about personal principles. And wouldn’t you agree with me that a real man should stick to his principles? Good thing the yardstick for masculinity doesn’t lie in your opinion.

Toks2008:
AT 60 it will take a miracle.

Toks2008:


I undrstand your point but it still does not change the narrative that REAL MEN see no big deal in marrying a single mum. That does not mean men don't have a choice to make.

Iyaebe:
Hmm i know the lady you are talking about,her Monika starts with "V" . I'll need your services and that of panso.phist too since I'm 60+ and still hopeful. Are you in or not?

pansophist:




Why you de make me feel like hot cake naw? I'm I that special?

I like old women sha. Peace with them is guaranteed. If you get money sha and Chinese passport, I no mind reason your matter.

Iyaebe:
Read his post again, he stated it there that she unfortunately passed on before their agreed time

Lollittaa:

Toks2008 talks anyhow. Why is he breaking their personal convo to nairaland? Let the dead rest in peace.

Iyaebe:
Chinese passport? lol there's enough money as long as quality services is guaranteed kikikiki

Lollittaa:

Toks2008 talks anyhow. Why is he breaking their personal convo to nairaland? Let the dead rest in peace.

pansophist:


Person wey dem wan manage de find quality service. This world don spoil finish

Iyaebe:
Chinese passport? lol there's enough money as long as quality services is guaranteed kikikiki

Toks2008:

Are you really a male?

Toks2008:


I undrstand your point but it still does not change the narrative that REAL MEN see no big deal in marrying a single mum. That does not mean men don't have a choice to make.

Toks2008:


Try get small sense sis. There was no specific name mentioned so what is the issue? How is it my problem if people insinuate whatever they like?

Do you know now many Nairalanders pass away without people knowing?

You would have made sense if a name was mentioned so please let's be guided.

Let this matter rest biko.

Truvelisback:
Many of them are single because they are looking for rich men.

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.

It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.

Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.

2. If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
As you get older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.

Truvelisback:
Many of them are single because they are looking for rich men.

Toks2008:
Creating this thread has been on my mind for a long time but for some reasons I kept shelving it but after coming across a thread on front page about a 41 year old single lady asking for advise I think it is about time I drop this.

Now what you are about to read is for ladies who are still single in their late 30s and I will make it as simple and as real as possible...

You will never come across the advise I'm about to give you from pastors or many relationship experts but as many people already know me, I keep it as real as possible.

1. Understand that not everybody will get married:

Marriage is not a do or die thing... Marriage does not define who you are and you must never be bothered by what people say cos most of them are Clueless about the institution of marriage. Those who truly understand will never look down on you because you are single. Your happiness is more important than marriage.

2. Be financially independent: Any single lady in her late 30s should never make it a priority to get married cos the more you worry about it the more pressure you put on yourself and this is bad for your psych.

At this stage of your life, self actualization is what you need and trust me, by the time you make it a priority to get the best out of life, this will inadvertently gravitate men to you.

Before I give this third advise let me share this very touching story...

I remember a certain lady who contacted me about 6years ago and she said she has made up her mind to be a single mum if she turns 36 and she is still unmarried and asking me to be ready to donate sperm for her cos she sees me as a responsible guy... Furthermore, she will not put any pressure on me to be financially responsible for the child as she is well to do but she just want to have a child to avoid a situation where she will reach menopause and still childless.

Unfortunately she left this world before she could make this happen... So What is the point?

3. GET A SPERM DONOR TO BEAT EARLY MENOPAUSE.

The paramount purpose of a lady is not necessarily marriage but to multiply, bring forth new generations and replenish the earth. The good thing is that with the modern medical advancement, any lady can achieve this without getting married.

Believe it or not, it is better to get a sperm donor and be a single mum than getting married under pressure to a jerk who will make life hell for you.

If you are a lady still single in your late 30s please get a man to donate sperm for you. You don't have to sleep with him and he needs not be financially responsible for the child but just for you to point to somebody in future as the child's father. This will let you relax to get a better choice of a husband.

4. A man who will love you will love you.

Some may say once they are single mums, guys will run from them and YES I agree but this will also attract real men who understand that single motherhood is not a taboo but Infact a proof that a lady is fertile, a proof that she is responsible enough to keep a baby even when they had the choice to abort.. No genuine man will reject a lady cos she is a single mum especially if the child(ren) is her first.

5. And lastly as suggested by Pocohantas in the comment below... If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.

According to her, as a lady gets older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.

All I wrote, this is an opinionated advise but any lady in this position could still decide to wait until she finds a husband but she must understand that whilst she is waiting, her time is ticking and menopause will definitely come regardless.

I hope this makes sense.

Toks2008:


Are you really a male?

siofra:

We wey no like children now? This one everyone is saying have children if you're in your late thirties or early forties and you haven't seen a responsible man to marry.

Mercychen:
Something is wrong with you. So because someone decided on her own to make you a sperm donor before she hits menopause, you're now forcing advising everyone to do the same thing. For what?

Why force someones view on others? That's thoughtless of you.

Every one is old enough to think and make decisions for themselves. We don't all have the same choice. It was your friends choice to do that. It may not be for others.

Sperm donor kor. Egg keeper ni.

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.

It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.

Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.

2. If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
As you get older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.