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Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by MrGist: 9:30am On Dec 01, 2018
A Nigerian man who took to Facebook to dish out advice, disclosed that many ladies in their late 30s never saw it coming.

  According to the Nigerian man, ladies who fall in this category had plans of finishing their ‘first degree, masters, a job, a promotion, make money, be independent and settle down by 30, latest 32’.  He further disclosed that only few men would marry a 35-year-old woman who is independent and opinionated when we live in a highly hypergamous (act of marrying someone wealthier than you) society.
He wrote;

Many women who are single and in their mid and late 30s today never saw it coming. They had a plan: finish their first degree, masters, a job, a promotion, make money, be independent and settle down by 30, latest 32. Of course, nature always laughs back at their fantastic attempt to dictate the pace of their lives.

Over the years, they turn down potential husbands, go on a partying spree like they have frozen time, only to arrive at 37 with nothing to show for it other than money in the bank, a car, and sometimes a child from a relationship that never quite worked.

So, now they are stuck in a phase where they will never find a man of their dreams and have to settle for any man who will be gracious enough to even suggest marriage. By now, all those flimsy and shallow standards they used to have are gone, humility is their second name.

I have seen many women in their 20s buy into the misguided, feminist belief that men and marriage are bad for their academic and career advancement. What feminism does not factor in is that the older a woman get, the less a chance she stands of marrying someone desirable. It is a fact of life, not a chauvinistically inspired thought.

Very few men would marry a 35-year-old woman who is independent and opinionated when we live in a highly hypergamous (act of marrying someone wealthier than you) society. There are plenty of young and hot beautiful women ready to settle into a marriage where they play the second fiddle as long as the man provides.

It is good to be ambitious, even better to break the stupid glass ceilings, but at what price? Bottom line, at some point, you will need a man in your life. Granted there are lesbians and some who are not interested in marriage, but my experience with older single women has proven that they mostly live a life full of regrets.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by MrGist: 9:30am On Dec 01, 2018
cool
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Olalan(m): 9:34am On Dec 01, 2018
He's right....forget the fake Talk about not needing a husband to live a fulfilling life as some say just to save face, many of them wish to be happily married.
BTW there seems to be a wide difference in women who are happily married and their unmarried counterparts especially in a working environment. Thus for me a happy marriage makes a woman better.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by DanDeeBoss(m): 9:34am On Dec 01, 2018
Maybe feminists might as well not get married....gringringrin..The guy is right sha ...

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by IamD18: 9:34am On Dec 01, 2018
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.

Spit on them!


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by highqueen(f): 9:37am On Dec 01, 2018
Let the bashing begin, 1, 2,Go!!!!

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by GOFRONT(m): 9:38am On Dec 01, 2018
Na table you wan shake so!!

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by DanDeeBoss(m): 9:42am On Dec 01, 2018
highqueen:
Let the bashing begin, 1, 2,Go!!!!
gringrin
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by PUSSYHOE: 9:43am On Dec 01, 2018
highqueen:
Let the bashing begin, 1, 2,Go!!!!
Will someone please marry this one before she hit 40?

always why is the truth about girls considered insult to them?

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by vingeophysicist(m): 9:43am On Dec 01, 2018
it is normal for ladies to feel pride in their young age because of the attention they attract from men. But learning how to manage it, makes you mature and assist you in meeting a mature husband.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by DanDeeBoss(m): 9:46am On Dec 01, 2018
Rextizzle... Food don done.... Lefulefu follow suit grincheesy
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Evablizin(f): 9:50am On Dec 01, 2018
IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.
Nnaa oo,o gini? Haa....

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by vingeophysicist(m): 9:51am On Dec 01, 2018
IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.

Spit on them!


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.
guy seriously this is unneedful. Ladies are fragile oo, they might end up doing what you wrote

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by SenorFax(m): 9:52am On Dec 01, 2018
O ma seo

Before 30--------After 30

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:53am On Dec 01, 2018
So a woman should settle for anybody because she must marry before 30.She settles for anybody and starts crying in the marriage.
This man should advise his fellow men on how to be responsible and on how to respect women.Maybe then women would agree to marry them.
You can't tell me that the likes of Dambisa moyo,Oprah are unfulfilled because they are unmarried.
This closed minded society of ours should understand that you do not tell people how to run their lives.
A woman should never reduce her standard because she must get married before a certain age.
Love,happiness,companionship etc knows no age.
So this talk is silly and not factual for everybody.
Even evening tabloids would be calling wonderful humans newspaper.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by bigpicture001: 9:56am On Dec 01, 2018
Very true

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Saffi(f): 9:57am On Dec 01, 2018
To all the women who feel pressured to tie the knot, do not purposely make your life a misery, it is not worth it. People will always talk, you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Unfortunately we have unfortunate men and even women that will shame you and ridicule you for not getting married at the “right time”, these people will be the same ones that will laugh at you when you’re running from one place to another, crying about your marriage issues. Be patient, work on yourself spiritually, mentally and emotionally, build your finances, build relationships, work on your craft, and God will compliment you with your equal. My mother got married at 31, my mothers sister also got married at 34 and she’s blessed with 3 children today, and they’re still very happily married. Its not a rare situation, it’s called life. Shiit doesn’t always go according to plan, is your life suddenly over because of this? It’s not a crime to run your own race, quality men attract quality women. Men, see quality before anything. Boys use foolish stereotypes to produce their thoughts. This actually applies to both genders. Heck marriage is not for everyone, if its not for you, jejely stay on your own and live your life in peace. I shall say no more.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:57am On Dec 01, 2018
IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.

Spit on them!


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.
Donstan go and tell this to oprah winfrey,Stacy Adams,Dambisa moyo etc.The people that respect these women can never respect you.
Your type would not hesitate to marry these women just to get a green card.Is it not your Nigerian or Afrcan brothers that stoop so low to marry them or are these men not responsible?
Be careful how you use your words because you don't sound sarcastic.
*spits on you*

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by DanDeeBoss(m): 9:58am On Dec 01, 2018
IamD18:
In my opinion.

No sensible and reasonable man will stoop so low to marry an expired woman in her 30s.

These set of ladies are condemned and a big disaster to humanity.

Starting from their toxicity to their bad attitude, starting from their sexual expired features to their infertility, starting from their over 700 body counts to their overused pussay looking like an expired liver.

Spit on them!


After reading my comment, a reasonable unmarried lady in her 30s will not hesitate to do as the picture below interprets. They are not needed on earth.
crycry
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by ednut1(m): 10:00am On Dec 01, 2018
Always blaming the ladies. Na everybody wey marry dey happy ni . Some of these ladies were played and scammed by same men blaming them. Der would be many ladies over 30 without husband so what.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by DanDeeBoss(m): 10:05am On Dec 01, 2018
ednut1:
Always blaming the ladies. Na everybody wey marry dey happy ni . Some of these ladies were played and scammed by same men blaming them. Der would be many ladies over 30 without husband so what.
Age doesn't determine happiness.... You have spoken well... cheesycheesy

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by EVILFOREST: 10:47am On Dec 01, 2018
cry cry cry cry
LADIES are finished again
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by VERDA: 11:00am On Dec 01, 2018
Ladyhippolyta88:
So a woman should settle for anybody because she must marry before 30.She settles for anybody and starts crying in the marriage.
This man should advise his fellow men on how to be responsible and on how to respect women.Maybe then women would agree to marry them.
You can't tell me that the likes of Dambisa moyo,Oprah are unfulfilled because they are unmarried.
This closed minded society of ours should understand that you do not tell people how to run their lives.
A woman should never reduce her standard because she must get married before a certain age.
Love,happiness,companionship etc knows no age.
So this talk is silly and not factual for everybody.
Even evening tabloids would be calling wonderful humans newspaper.

First of...I doubt he is advocating women settle for less, a woman need not settle for an irresponsible man because she is desperate to get married.
Any man that does not respect women is not a real man...suffice it to say a lot of women make it hard for themselves to be respected given their attitudes,not generalizing of course.
The problem with the whole reducing standards thing is not that it is bad to have standards but that a lot of ladies at their prime have very unrealistic standards which begin to reduce as they get older,more matured and understand life better.
One cannot find the perfect person but certain things are important :
1) Good character 2) Kind heart 3) Willingness to accept when they are wrong and make corrections 4) Willingness to put in the effort to grow in every aspect of their life....psychological,emotional,financial.
Every other thing will eventually fall into place provided both put in the effort.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by bamidelee: 11:02am On Dec 01, 2018
Evablizin:
Nnaa oo,o gini? Haa....
my dear ow you
Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by bamidelee: 11:03am On Dec 01, 2018
Ladyhippolyta88:
So a woman should settle for anybody because she must marry before 30.She settles for anybody and starts crying in the marriage.
This man should advise his fellow men on how to be responsible and on how to respect women.Maybe then women would agree to marry them.
You can't tell me that the likes of Dambisa moyo,Oprah are unfulfilled because they are unmarried.
This closed minded society of ours should understand that you do not tell people how to run their lives.
A woman should never reduce her standard because she must get married before a certain age.
Love,happiness,companionship etc knows no age.
So this talk is silly and not factual for everybody.
Even evening tabloids would be calling wonderful humans newspaper.
feminist spotted
low IQ

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by bamidelee: 11:05am On Dec 01, 2018
ednut1:
Always blaming the ladies. Na everybody wey marry dey happy ni . Some of these ladies were played and scammed by same men blaming them. Der would be many ladies over 30 without husband so what.
how many ladies have you used and dump be sincere with yourself

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Missbee99: 11:06am On Dec 01, 2018
Not everyone wants to get married and thats okay.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:07am On Dec 01, 2018
VERDA:


First of...I doubt he is advocating women settle for less, a woman need not settle for an irresponsible man because she is desperate to get married.
Any man that does not respect women is not a real man...suffice it to say a lot of women make it hard for themselves to be respected given their attitudes,not generalizing of course.
The problem with the whole reducing standards thing is not that it is bad to have standards but that a lot of ladies at their prime have very unrealistic standards which begin to reduce as they get older,more matured and understand life better.
One cannot find the perfect person but certain things are important :
1) Good character 2) Kind heart 3) Willingness to accept when they are wrong and make corrections 4) Willingness to put in the effort to grow in every aspect of their life....psychological,emotional,financial.
Every other thing will eventually fall into place provided both put in the effort.

You have a point but our standards can never be the same.Even men who are not worth respecting would be shouting for respect because they feel they are men so that your use of attitude as an excuse for women not being respected goes both ways
Anyways nice submissions.

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Re: Many Ladies In The Late 30s Never Saw It Coming – Nigerian Man by ednut1(m): 11:07am On Dec 01, 2018
bamidelee:

how many ladies have you used and dump be sincere with yourself
angry

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