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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:22pm On Oct 27, 2021
Collysmith:
If i insisted for her to be pregnant before marriage I wouldn't be suffering right now. I don't even know what to do whether to marry another wife because adoption is not in my plan.

Why didn't both of you do all necessary checks before getting married if getting pregnant before marriage waant considered? Although I dont subscribe to the latter
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by litaninja(m): 3:24pm On Oct 27, 2021
You met 2 months ago and were already considering getting pregnant? You choko ni?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Youngpo413: 3:27pm On Oct 27, 2021
Truvelisback:
That's not the issue. The issue is that, did he marry the lady? If yes, then, the lady didn't messed up her life. Infact, she is even lucky. Note: some men are scared of delay in child bearing or barreness. My uncle once fell for this trap. The wife he married is yet to bear him a child. Although, the wife manoever him with fake pregancy, so that my uncle would marry her. It was after their marriage that my uncle discovered that she had dated/married several men, because she couldn't bear them children, they broke up with her. Nai my simp uncle go marry so. Now, she is yet to bear him a child.
her ass must be very big then...to remain with your uncle till date.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:27pm On Oct 27, 2021
RightToReject:


Irresponsible - wannabe-woke - people cut across both genders, so don't make it a male issue. In fact, don't blame men who insist on having the non-virgin women in their lives proving the potency of their fertility by getting pregnant before formalizing their relationship - however unpalatable it seems - citing the kind of life most women live.

One is in my house as a guest presently; her fiance, who happens to be the godson of one of my trusted associates, pleaded that I host her in my house and allow her to stay in my guest room because she told them that she's here on an official assignment on behalf of the Nigeria branch of her employer. Her fiance even made me understand beforehand that she's a scrupulous woman, which fortunately or unfortunately she appears to be like in her persona and demeanor, but the reality from what I have observed and seen as her character is that of a typical high-end corporate LovePeddler who is here not just only running high-end hookups, but also fighting a man she's unconsciously told me made her abort severally for him when she was younger. All this is happening without the knowledge of her fiance, who's back home believing that he has the best kind of woman as a fiancee, citing how he boasted to me about her scrupulousness.


Wahala... God I thank you for your grace upon my life
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by IamAsiri: 3:33pm On Oct 27, 2021
Collysmith:
If i insisted for her to be pregnant before marriage I wouldn't be suffering right now. I don't even know what to do whether to marry another wife because adoption is not in my plan.

And you are sure the problem is not from your side either? I get surprised when men talk about their wives' childlessness like only the women are to blame.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Youngpo413: 3:34pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


From his family.
I hope you did not dump your guy because of that rich importer? Because una no dey think straight when una see money...

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by KINGS100(m): 3:35pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

THANK YOUR STAR. WHO KNOWS THE NUMBER OF WOMEN THAT ARE ALREADY PREGNANT FOR HIM. MOVE ON GIRL THERE ARE MANY GOOD MEN OUT THERE FOR YOU.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Youngpo413: 3:36pm On Oct 27, 2021
1Sharon:


And he may be the cause ya know?
The second lady is pregnant already...so how can he be the cause? Men don't have problems.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Maobichek: 3:37pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


Wrong. I appreciate men that gives me peace of mind not rich men.

One of the primary basis for "peace of mind" is the ability to provide your basic needs. You may disagree with me but if you provide for your needs while in a relationship or married to a man, with time you will start feeling bad about the whole thing okay.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:38pm On Oct 27, 2021
advanceDNA:


There are plenty cases of people medically certified fertile and not able to get pregnant..

It’s one thing to test/check for bio-markers of fertility it’s another thing for the mechanism of conception to fully happen....
Some ladies that have done multiple abortions are even fertile and get pregnant before some virgins..no one know exactly why

Science cannot explain it all....that’s why there’s always a part of research with the statement

“ the reason for this is not fully understood”


And that's where God steps in cos with Him ,All things are possible

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by yetunsbay(m): 3:38pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


My brother it’s easier to find true love when you don’t have money.
Not nowadays,I disagree
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Youngpo413: 3:38pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:

Don’t know. Not my business.
You are regretting,it' obvious..
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by seyz91(m): 3:38pm On Oct 27, 2021
cheesy
Nwachi22:


Lol. Make im come chop from my own.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by femi4: 3:38pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:
[s][/s]
Truth is bitter
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:40pm On Oct 27, 2021
Oksman:


Nothing will befall anybody. You are so pained that you are not married yet, and someone else acted irresponsibly faster than yourself. Look if anyone has a share in your wish/curse, it's you and your evil friend who connected you to a "married" man to hook you up. It shows the low regards and the actual worth as a person she has for you because she alone knows you and your kind of lifestyle. "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so stop bleating like a goat in a pen! Your true self is not hidden to those who have discernment even if this forum is faceless. When you said a "friend" linked you up to this man, I hope you know the true def of the above quoted word when next you make an expose of yourself in a public forum.

But why taking this so personal? Haabaaa!!!
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:41pm On Oct 27, 2021
adecz:


Any man that tells you to take
in first, you should also ask him to
deposit 2m in your account as security..☺️☺️☺️

Lol... I once did this but requested for N10m and the guy disappeared

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 3:42pm On Oct 27, 2021
yetunsbay:
Not nowadays,I disagree

There are but very rare.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 3:42pm On Oct 27, 2021
Youngpo413:
You are regretting,it' obvious..

Oh really? Lol
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by advanceDNA: 3:42pm On Oct 27, 2021
Evercurious:



And that's where God steps in cos with Him ,All things are possible

God can step into any case....
.the point is some guys want to be sure the lady they want to marry can get pregnant. it doesn't matter whether she's a virgin or a retired prostitute.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:44pm On Oct 27, 2021
Maobichek:


I like your boldness dear, the truth is that she won't send any mail to you. From the thread, she appreciates rich men.

Why such conclusion? I think you migbt be wrong.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 3:44pm On Oct 27, 2021
Evercurious:


But why taking this so personal? Haabaaa!!!

He’s the guy in question, he’s so bitter. Lol..
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by yetunsbay(m): 3:49pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


There are but very rare.
Ma'am, I won't mind linking up as you must be one
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Boss13: 3:50pm On Oct 27, 2021
It was Yes or No request and doesn't need time for you to think. You are slow in thinking. Are you sure you want to be a wife?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:51pm On Oct 27, 2021
Loverboy3333:


Some girls are even looking for such opportunities, Regina Daniels married Ned with many wives and kids.
I bet if this man was to be a billionaire na speed you for open legs to deposit sperm put.


Every lady mustn't act same way... People with their choices

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by FashionCookie(f): 3:53pm On Oct 27, 2021
lilvicky68:
If you had hoped in two months ago you would have been the pregnant one now..

Are you sure you're not regretting your decision? grin
They would have been pregnant at the same time.
Meaning while he was asking her out, he was doing so with another lady. The guy way no pure.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 3:54pm On Oct 27, 2021
advanceDNA:


God can step into any case....
.the point is some guys want to be sure the lady they want to marry can get pregnant. it doesn't matter whether she's a virgin or a retired prostitute.


Every man his choice. Mee I no do cos for me it might lead to complications and I wldnt want such in my life.make him go check next door . Afterall some other ladies are ready to accept such as long as they can handle and cope with it.That's their own choice...
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 3:54pm On Oct 27, 2021
yetunsbay:
Ma'am, I won't mind linking up as you must be one

No Oga. Most of the guys in this forum di egwu.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by airsaylongcome: 3:56pm On Oct 27, 2021
advanceDNA:

It's two months ago like you said..someone already said yes when u said u will go an think about it .....

A guy asking for a baby first obviously wants a baby more...not love.... Everyone has their aim in a relationship..... He's only taking a calculated risk....with several abortions out there from the shédì bálábálá girls ...the guy doesn't want to risk marrying someone that wont bear children....

But it's good you said no....so why are u still lamenting??


What does the bold text mean?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by EndRape2(f): 3:57pm On Oct 27, 2021
Thank God you said no
It is possible he is a married man, but the first wife can not conceive, or in his family lineage , they hardly get pregnant.





uote author=Nwachi22 post=107078015]Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.[/quote]

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by lilvicky68(m): 3:57pm On Oct 27, 2021
FashionCookie:

They would have been pregnant at the same time.
Meaning while he was asking her out, he was doing so with another lady. The guy way no pure.
Na first to carry Belle go win am na..
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by FashionCookie(f): 4:01pm On Oct 27, 2021
lilvicky68:

Na first to carry Belle go win am na..
God forbid.
The ma way no pure. He's even married in Dubai. For tge current have mind Now, she don see better husband.
Tufie!
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by advanceDNA: 4:02pm On Oct 27, 2021
Evercurious:



Every man his choice. Mee I no do cos for me it might lead to complications and I wldnt want such in my life.make him go check next door . Afterall some other ladies are ready to accept such as long as they can handle and cope with it.That's their own choice...

Yes, other girls will gladly accept as its not a big deal... That's exactly what people have been telling the OP.....it even happens to people dating without planning or talking about it .....
but the best is not agree like you said in case he decides to go an marry someone else after getting you pregnant

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