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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 8:50am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:


Ok what do you think I can do?

Honestly chief...
You made her and her parents too comfortable to the point where she and her family have become very complacent...
You sponsored her through school and during that time, I'm sure you were also giving her money for upkeep and the likes...
You took upon yourself the role of her father, when youre clearly not, you're not even her husband sef...
And now that she has grown comfortable to seeing you as such, you want to suddenly spring up this?? And you think that there won't be problems??
I'm not saying what you did was bad o, buh I think your timing and the extent to which you did it was way overboard...

As to what you can do....
I can't say, I can only highlight what I would've done in your shoes...

I'd hold on a little on paying for the catering...
I'll tell her to get something to do with the qualifications she currently has, I'll advice her to save up money and pay for her catering schooling herself...
If it's important to her, she should start putting up the effort...
The best I'll do from now on is to support her once once liadat, but the bulk of her financial needs will be on her and her family alone...

And lastly, I'll bear in mind that, she could leave me at any time and I'll be mentally prepared for it...

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 8:55am On Dec 05, 2021
MufasaLion:
Yes, you're wrong by writing "Are My Wrong?" It should be "Am I Wrong?"

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Wahala man...
You don land ba...
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 9:06am On Dec 05, 2021
Elchappo:


Nah ur type dey born prostitutes... I wish u change ur mindset before it's late..
please shut up,but it's Normal to be opening legs for him when he's not yet marred to her but abnormal to spend and feed her abi?you think sex is free?even in marriage its not free.stop encouraging fornication and since he wants to fornicate then he should be ready to cough out some hell of money

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by pussymonger1: 9:11am On Dec 05, 2021
MEDCINE AFTER DEATH
liya11:
This question is irrelevant at this stage mister.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by lolu2019: 9:14am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:


I expected much from you.

But what nairander called you is what you're.
go and help ur family members bro.don't be a simp.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Picker28: 9:17am On Dec 05, 2021
grin grin grin grin grin grin
I laugh in Swahili
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by 989900: 9:18am On Dec 05, 2021
It's not even about the money -- it's about her mentality and her parent's!

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by pussymonger1: 9:19am On Dec 05, 2021
MEH , TOO LATE TO LEAVE THIS GIRL BOSS , YOU HAVE INVESTED ALOT IN HER . MY ONE CENT . IF IM IN YOUR SHOE WHICH I CAN NEVER BE . I WILL IMPREGENATE HER AND ABANDONE HER .IF I HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF MONEY , I WILL TRAVEL OUT OF THE COUNTRY AND LATER COME BACK FOR MY KID WHEN IT'S TIME , IM NOT ADVISING YOU TO DO THAT THOUGH BUT IF THAT IS ME THAT IS WHAT IM GONNA DO .THE CHILD WILL BE MY GAIN , I MEAN GAIN OF ALL I HAVE INVESTED IN HER .YOU CAN SETTLE DOWN WITH THIS KIND OF LADY BRO , YOU WILL REGRET IT IN LIFE BIG TIME , YOU CAN MENTION ME ON DEAD THREAD ,ONE OF MY AREA BRO HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE LONG TIME AGO (2009).

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by maak400: 9:19am On Dec 05, 2021
You should marry her asap, with all your investments on her, if another guy come and marry your babe, your investments don go be dat and you go cry pepper. grin

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by crossbreedwears(m): 9:20am On Dec 05, 2021
I don't think you're alright
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Achibyke: 9:20am On Dec 05, 2021
Go and marry her na, what are you still waiting for?

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 9:20am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves


I hate people that reason like you I swear if you were by my side and said that I for dash you slap, as if women no dey enjoy fvck, as if majority of divorces no be because of men not satisfying their partners sexually.


Men stop putting pussy on a pedestal,sex is very cheap,with indomie and egg you can cure konji easy.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by pussymonger1: 9:22am On Dec 05, 2021
OLORIBURUKU NI BABA E , YOU DEY EDIT TICKET TO DECIEVE PEOPLE , NA THUNDER GO FIRE YOUR PAPA , DONT MENTION ME IF U DONT WANT TO DIE YOUNG cool
Francasi45:
Ok

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Deffjam: 9:22am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves
to be honest,you don't have sense!! If I pay 250k for hookup,I go strafff till buhari commot for power.... nonsense comment.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by jayice(m): 9:22am On Dec 05, 2021
Bro u woke up late...you telling everyone that the parents of ur future wife/gf can't afford 3square meal and her basic needs tells alot about ur kind of person...if you wanna help someone,help and shut ur mouth or just don't help.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by chronique(m): 9:23am On Dec 05, 2021
Do you guys understand that some people are naturally good by default? That's how nature wired them and made them to be. They don't complain or shy away from helping people cos they have empathy for humans. You should never call such a person a simp simply because of their good nature. It's totally disrespectful. You don't expect everyone to be tight fisted. It's up to the person being helped and assisted to be responsible and act like someone that has a brain that works. If the person eventually misbehaves, that's their problem and their loss. They are the losers. I won't say I will not help someone simply because other men think it makes one a simp. It's up to whoever I help to act right and if they don't, that's their business. Allow people be who they are and help who they want to. Nothing we have is leaving this world with us and these days, anyone could pass on the next moment. I pray for long life but if God calls me home today, I know there would be people who would still tell the world about the little things and roles I played in their lives no matter how small. The essence of living is not just to amass wealth but to also touch lives.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by tunjilee003: 9:23am On Dec 05, 2021
KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.
nah big prayer ooo

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by parisbookaddict(f): 9:24am On Dec 05, 2021
KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

Looool
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nonexisting: 9:24am On Dec 05, 2021
God forbid this kind of simp in my lineage.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by QueTeddy: 9:25am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves


So sex looks like a payment for what he's doing for her?


Then later same group of people would complain that men don't take them serious, branding men different kind of names.


Sex would always be a two way thing.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Mvena(f): 9:26am On Dec 05, 2021
endsarrrs:
undecided Entitled mentality


BTW This pounded Yam is practising Polygamy
The pounded yam dey confused
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Mvena(f): 9:28am On Dec 05, 2021
All these kin girls go later meet another guy

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by lolu2019: 9:28am On Dec 05, 2021
jayice:
Bro u woke up late...you telling everyone that the parents of ur future wife/gf can't afford 3square meal and her basic needs tells alot about ur kind of person...if you wanna help someone,help and shut ur mouth or just don't help.
word.he shouldn't have said that.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Mvena(f): 9:28am On Dec 05, 2021
Deffjam:
to be honest,you don't have sense!! If I pay 250k for hookup,I go strafff till buhari commot for power.... nonsense comment.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Vixenn(f): 9:29am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.

Don't drag the bible into your folly_ and don't talk like only men enjoy sex...Stop making it look like we can't hustle for ourselves_

Just stop talking please...

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Unipozicoly: 9:29am On Dec 05, 2021
It good to be good bro. Keep the positive thoughts going today or tomorrow is gonna be better. But to your own side try to subject her to some things by my given luxury money for month just give her money for food and necessary things alone.
And two can't the girl think in way that she also can be useful for her self. If the kind of girl is low thinking girl it better you dispose her because it will be a problem in future.
Don't fund her catering programme until she raised 50% of the capita anyways.
Based on her parents check if truly they are extremely poor continue to support them with what you think you can give out as charity.

And also check it the girl is truly loves you and want you to be her husband in life, if yes try all to help in one way or the other .

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Richvibes1997: 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
mumu man aka simp you need to be floged
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by samwash(m): 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021
@ Op, better go marry your girl friend.
All these you have done in dating better go marry her if she's someone that is good to go before all your investment crash.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Crusadee: 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
grin you must finish what you started ooo! Women are always like that, they see you a man like a staircase, any step they climb they don't want to come down, they will like to remain their and take another step of climbing the next... If you don't take precautions you will start feeding her whole family pay their house rent etc. You can imagine a girl like that but always want to maintain standard, wearing same clothes with her friends. This type of girl if you don't provide she will go out and do ashawo just to buy designer clothes. Be careful bro, I pray she doesn't break your heart but you are playing with fire.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by LagbajaTheBEREAN: 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021
This conversation is not for me, Mustapha, toast my bread and add a cup of coffee.


We go relate later.

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves


Hmmmmm...

He doesn't know what he's into....

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